Introduction: Why ABWE of Pennsylvania? Why a Blog?

THE PURPOSE OF THIS BLOG

The purpose of this blog is to bring into the light what has previously been kept in the dark, that is, to publicly identify former ABWE missionary Dr. Donn Ketcham of Allendale, Michigan, as a pedophile and to document ABWE’s coverup of his crimes. It is also to hold ABWE accountable to demonstrate in word and in deed that they have become transparent, trustworthy and have transformed their hearts in regard to abuse victims. 

ABOUT ABWE

In addition to revealing that Dr. Ketcham is a pedophile, this blog documents how the American mission agency he served under, Association of Baptists for World Evangelism (hereby referred to as ABWE and located in Pennsylvania), protected both his private and public reputation for over 20 years, by stating in writing and in private communication with inquiring parties that he was dismissed from the mission as a result of “moral failure” or adultery.

DOCUMENTATION

July 1989: A young MK visiting the States without her parents tells her sending church pastor that missionary Dr. Donn Ketcham has been sexually molesting her on the field since she was 12 years old. This pastor contacts ABWE, and ABWE immediately hands the girl over to counselor Russ Lloyd and Ketcham’s boss Russ Ebersole to journey alone with the two men back to Bangladesh and the parents–who had no idea why their child was coming back. Lloyd’s diary chronicles what happened in those dark days, from his perspective.

 Russ Lloyd’s Diary of 1989 Events: 

1989 Confessions:

ABWE’s 1989 Letters to Churches:

2002: A group of grown MKs tell ABWE leaders attending “The Return” conference that they were also abused by Donn Ketcham as children. The women are promised an investigation, all that is delivered is free counseling (update: counseling not paid until 2010).

2009 SBB Emails ABWE Lawyer:

2011: SBB and the 1989 victim launch this blog to tell their stories and invite truth and transparency to ABWE. ABWE denies wrongdoing until the documents above were released to the public. At which point the board of ABWE acknowledged for the first and only time that the abuser and abuse were mishandled. (Michael Loftis is the only ABWE employee dismissed since this confession, and they deny that his leaving had anything to do with this matter.)

2011 ABWE Announcement:

2012 Update: Despite their initial claims in 2011 that Loftis’ departure had nothing to do with questionable leadership ethics, ABWE made this admission in October 2012. They concede to having also removed Don Davis as council and Russ Ebersole as well. They also concede to dismissing any board members who were around in 1989. 

PLEASE SEE MAIN TEXT AND TIMELINE FOR THE 2013 and 2014 UPDATES.

We hope and pray that this blog will result in a change of heart at ABWE, but we have yet to see a demonstrable change. Since this blog launched, ABWE has shown improving PR skills, a few carefully crafted apologies, and continued acts of self-preservation and secrecy that have been devastating to the victims.

2013 UPDATE: (See 2014 update below.) On Feb. 7, 2013, ABWE summarily dismissed GRACE as the investigative team and hired Pii, a private firm that specializes–according to their own electronic brochure–in confidentiality with their client (read: their job is to protect ABWE). On Feb. 11, 2013, GRACE gave a detailed and thorough response to every allegation slung by ABWE.

The GRACE report was just a few weeks from completion.

Without GRACE, we the victims are no longer guaranteed:

  • That the identity of interviewees (victims and whistle-blowers both) will be protected from ABWE and its current staff
  • That our interviews are not just fodder for ABWE’s lawyers and their potential defense files
  • That there will be FULL public access to the final report* (with victim names protected)
  • That MKs will be granted equal footing on a committee with ABWE employees to determine final outcomes of the report

*NOTE: ABWE does claim that the Pii report will be “public,” however after repeated inquiries, they still refuse to offer us even the smallest detail or guarantee of what that will look like, which means it could look like their Simms Showers report from 2012. That report gave the public, including supporting churches, absolutely no pertinent information regarding the number of pedophiles, names of pedophiles, the countries affected, the number of victims, the employees involved in covering the abuse, etc. That report can be summed up essentially as “we found stuff and we took care of it.”

That is not at all what it means to make report findings public, and yet that was ABWE’s idea of making findings “public” as recently as the fall of 2012. 

2014 UPDATE: Over the past few months ABWE’s private investigative team has finally begun contacting Bangladesh missionaries and MKs for interviews. This firm is called Pii (Professional Investigators International) and is a Mormon-run firm in Spokane, WA, with close ties to Scott Ross who was roundly condemned for mishandling New Tribes abuse cases in GRACE’s New Tribes report. Pii’s only allegiance is to ABWE, their client, with whom they have complete confidentiality. Please refer to this page for things you should consider before agreeing to interview with Pii. (Also, please consult the TIMELINE icon at the top of the page for more details about Pii and ABWE’s ongoing response to MKs, most notably their refusal to answer reasonable questions regarding the investigation.)

When Bob Jones University terminated its agreement with GRACE on February 7, 2014, a year after ABWE did the same, many questions were raised about the legitimacy of ABWE’s claims about GRACE. Hopefully those questions were put to rest when BJU rehired GRACE officially on February 25, 2014, under the exact terms of their original agreement.

We are happy that the BJU survivors have been spared the pain we’ve been through and remain deeply concerned that ABWE has had A FULL YEAR to demonstrate a transformed heart, trustworthiness and transparency to the MK victims, but has failed miserably on all counts.

NOTE: PLEASE REFER TO THE TIMELINE ICON AT THE TOP OF THE PAGE FOR MORE DOCUMENTS AND EXPLANATIONS OF THIS LONG AND DIFFICULT JOURNEY WE HAVE EMBARKED ON TO BRING TRUTH AND INTEGRITY BACK TO ABWE’s MINISTRIES. TIMELINE INCLUDES CURRENT EVENTS AS OF 2014.

About isaiah 618

We are a group of former missionary kids (MKs) who all lived in Bangladesh at some point while Dr. Ketcham was a doctor there. Our parents served with a mission agency called Association of Baptists for World Evangelism (ABWE).
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1,626 Responses to Introduction: Why ABWE of Pennsylvania? Why a Blog?

  1. Nathan Barrick says:

    Negative responses are probably very important, especially if there’s actually no “revelation” in the initial post, only “unsubstantiated accusation”. I lived in Bangladesh as an MK from 1981 to 1984. When the Ketchams were there (which they were for a good portion of that time) and one of the most frequent residences that I stayed in was with the Ketcham family. I have many, many fond memories of times spent with the Ketcham family and never did anything even remotely questionable occur between Dr. Ketcham and myself. I am also absolutely unaware of any incident that would even be remotely questionable that occurred to anyone else with regard to Dr. Ketcham. In my experience there, I can recall that it was not very often that the Doctors were alone with kids (just due to the nature of life and their demands at the hospital) and for the most part the kids all roamed in packs, segregated by age group. Obviously, I was not there all the time, but I venture to say that in the time that I was there, I probably spent more time actually physically in and around Dr. Ketcham’s presence and home than most other kids there at the same time period (1981-1984). And I spent more nights in the Ketchams house than in any other house. I highly doubt there will be responses here that detail any abuse by Dr. Ketcham. I certainly hope that the initiator of this blog has the moral courage to leave up the responses like mine, which I’m guessing will be the vast majority of responses (as one would naturally hope). And I hope and pray for the initiator of this blog that they have sought professional counseling for what they experienced and that their identification of Dr. Ketcham as the perpetrator of such heinous offenses is based on a solid memory of an actual crime and not some tragic misunderstanding. I am dubious that there is factual truth to this accusation (note very carefully that that is not the same thing as denying that Isaiah6:18 had a traumatic experience!). I am sensitive enough to human trials that I hope Isaiah6:18′s perception about what happened to them gets very closely examined and that the responsible party for that perception/reality gets properly confronted by the proper authorities and not pilloried without justification in a public forum such as this.
    ((Recommendation to Isaiah6:18 — put up your story or take down this site. From a psychological viewpoint — and proceeding from the assumption that something must have happened to you or you wouldn’t be taking this action — you might be more likely to have someone step forward to say that happened to them too, instead of, as it would be currently, that they would be the first to describe such.))

    • isaiah618 says:

      Nathan,
      I’m thankful that you weren’t molested by Dr. Ketcham. I , however, was ,as were several other girls. You must not be aware that Dr. K was dismissed from the mission because of having a sexual relationship with 14 year old girl, who was 12 when the molestation started. Even the mission does not deny that. As for “unsubstantiated accusations”, we will be putting documentation on the website that does substantiate the accusations we are making. I hope that you will listen and read with an open mind while women tell their stories. I am confident that the truth will prevail.

  2. Nathan Barrick says:

    Susannah, thank you for your generously kind response to me! When I challenged my family about this immediately after posting, I’ve since learned much more that I should have been told long ago. I wish you all the success in your endeavor for justice. I applaud your courage in posting my ignorant (in the purest sense of the word) comment and I hope that it may provoke those with the stories, that must most unfortunately be heard and, to provide their very different experiences they had, refuting my experience. For me, this news is only moments fresh and I’m pretty angry, and I pray that I can find even a fraction of the courage you have demonstrated to reach a Christian way of dealing with my feelings.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Nathan,
      Thank you so much for your quick reply. It really encouraged me. I will do my best to keep this blog impartial and pray that the truth will come out.

    • Annonymous says:

      I too have found the song “Blessings” to provide comfort during the difficult days I’m going through. A beautiful song.

  3. Diana Durrill says:

    Nathan,
    I was first of all so taken back by your comments in your first letter. My initial reaction was irritation and anger that you would try to blow a smokescreen at the onset of this blog, casting doubt in the minds of the average, uneducated reader with Bangladesh ties. You can imagine my relief when I saw your second post admitting that you are just learning the truth of the wickedness committed against a child…a child who could just as easily have been YOUR little sister. It is truly amazing to me that you are just now learning of the crime that has affected me and my family for decades…something I go rarely a day without thinking about. (That is not a very big exaggeration….it is something that I frequently think about even in the rearing of my own children. Imagine my response EVERY TIME my child is invited to a play date or overnight at someone’s house. Imagine my response EVERY TIME someone at church shows a little extra attention to any one of my children. I have to battle mistrust and doubt of people (most often, men) on a regular basis!) However, I must admit that I cannot be totally surprised that this is new information to you because when the abuse became public, it was handled incorrectly (illegally had it been in the USA) and VERY quietly. Improper, indeed harmful, counsel was given to the family on how to handle it and there have been years – decades – of trouble and consequences in the lives of many as a result. The poor, ungodly way that ABWE handled the sin of Donn Ketcham has had a ripple effect that reach our families even today (families who, as alluded to earlier, at that time existed only in the mind of God).

    You know, recently, I saw the letters that both ABWE and Donn Ketcham sent out to supporting churches as a result of his “dismissal” from the field. It was appalling. Twenty plus years after the crime became public in Bangladesh, we are just learning how they covered it up in vague enough terms that any reader would come to the sad conclusion that Donn Ketcham had been unfaithful in some way to his wife and children. (Which was true.) It was SO vague that you could not even come to a conclusion as to how…an affair? Pornography? Simply inappropriate behavior? It left the reader believing the best. That, my friends, is shameful. Donn Ketchum is a known pedophile and he was permitted to return to the USA and continue practicing medicine for the past 25 years! In my opinion – and admittedly it is a very unprofessional, biased, and motherly opinion – the way it was handled leaves a great many people legally responsible for not reporting a crime. (I don’t really care if it happened on US soil or not…there is a universal law of morality to follow!)

    I pray, oh do I pray, that women of every age come forward and share their story with the world here. ABWE and Donn Ketcham need to be reminded of their stories and take responsibility the way God would have them to.

    God does work all things together for our good and His glory. I believe that with all my heart. But the women who are suffering as a result of these crimes (and there are more than one) have a hard time believing this truth. They have lived lives of the “guilty”. They and their families have been “blacklisted” from the ABWE circle. Meanwhile, Donn Ketcham continues to be lifted up as one of “the great” – both missionary and doctor. If only people knew the truth.

    God’s Word is going forth round the world…presented by godly men and women who are unknowingly serving under a board who would cover up such a terrible crime. I worry for their children! I worry for those mothers who have no idea that if this were to happen to them and their precious child, they would receive little to no love and support from the home office, let alone justice. It is shameful, but true. And for the furtherance of the gospel alone have people like me (and your family, Nathan) kept quiet through the years. No one wants to see ABWE or their harvest laborers hit with a blow of this magnitude. And yet it is the right thing to do…it is right to “come clean” with the stories of these beautiful women. God has often comforted my heart with the reminder that justice is His and His alone. Any “justice” I could manufacture would fall terribly short of God’s. I have longed for this day when the victims would cry out and share their stories. I have longed even more for the day when ABWE would take responsibility for the crimes they covered. And I have longed for the day when Donn Ketcham would confess his sin of pedophilia, resign from the medical field, take whatever punishment would come his way, and then prepare to stand before the Lord as a forgiven man by both Jesus Christ and his victims.

    Friends and fellow MK’s who have a hard time with this being drudged up again (or who might be learning of this for the first time), be wary of your initial response. We all know and admit how we all fell in love with “Uncle Donn” and his charming ways. We know that he was indeed a great doctor and missionary. However, stop to consider your own children. How would you feel if your child was molested over a two year period and improper and incomplete action was taken? Think of your jr. high aged daughters, nieces, sisters….if this had happened to them and then was swept under the carpet…would you not be broken hearted as well? Would you not rejoice in the truth as it is finally revealed…for you know the truth will finally set people free? Before responding in anger and defense to this blog – put yourself and your child in these shoes and then walk a mile or two. God will grant you new compassion. I’m sure of it.

    I love you all – I pray for you! The road ahead will not be easy but I know God will be glorified and I eagerly await that day when we will stand forgiven and rejoicing, side-by-side before Jesus. Yes, even beside those who hurt us most.

    To God alone be the glory.

    • Susannah Baker says:

      Diana,
      All I can say in response is a great big “thank you”. Your eloquently written post touched me deeply and helped give me courage to persevere. It is so encouraging to be believed .

  4. Nathan Barrick says:

    Diana, you are very right. I hope you understand that a VERY large part of my feelings right now are because you and your sisters have a special place in my heart. I have so much more to say…but this probably isn’t the appropriate place…

    Isaiah618 — A more humble suggestion — is there a way for people to commit to helping or supporting who are not victims with stories? You have my email, please contact me; I would very much like to help in any way I can.

  5. isaiah61:8 says:

    Nathan,
    Thank you so much for your offer of support. That means so much right now. For now the main thing we need is your prayers but I will definately contact you via email if I think of any other ways you can assist us.

  6. Diana Durrill says:

    Nathan – thank you! You hold a big spot in my heart, too! Your entire family does…I am indebted to your parents and, most of all, your sister (the best of best friends in the world), for their loving support of me and my family through the ups and downs of this.

  7. Anne Smith says:

    Wow! Nathan, I myself would have to say that reading your first comment was very hard. I did take into consideration that you possibly did not know. That is very possible with many of those who will post. The mission board asked us to not talk about it at all. We were not even able to talk about it in our own home. Can you imagine what that did to us as a family? Over the years we have learned to keep giving it back over to the Lord because vengence is not ours (though there were many times we could have handled it just fine!) I was glad to see you post another comment letting us know that you did not know. The feelings you felt when you found out…..multiply that 1000′s of times. But when we were told, and not by our own parents, we didn’t believe it ourselves. Knowing Don Ketchum, as you did, we never thought he would be that way. But when our parents told us what happened it made us very angry, upset, wanted to really hurt him…but love his wife. So many feelings that we went through in a few days and then for many years to follow. Had we not been the family we have been and had the parents we have had I seriously do not think we could have made it. Then not mentioning all our wonderful friends who have stood behind each one of us and prayed for us and our sister. I, unfortunately, was the one who went through all the “counseling” period that they supposedly were giving her. I remember how we had such a good sister/best friend relationship before all this happened to her. It would have stayed that way if ABWE had stepped up to the plate and did what was right. But when it all came out in the open and because we could not talk about it our relationship was no more. A very casual relationship. As if we were not even family. Not only that but then watching your parents hearts be so torn and could not discuss it with their own daughter (s). How many nights I laid in bed crying and asking God to take the pain away! And once again we could not discuss it with ANYONE!
    I want to let Susannah and my sister know that I am very proud of you both. As I recall talking to my sister one day on the phone she told me “I just want the other ladies to be able to get past this”. I want to help them. Not thinking of herself, though I know this will help her as well. I pray that the other girls (ladies) who were molested would be able like my sister and Susannah make your voice heard. It is your time. Let the healing begin. Like Diana said….She fears and wonders about her children as a mother. I too have a hard time trusting people and I give my children back to God every morning before their day begins. They are not mine, they are God’s to do as He sees fit. But I feel it will be easier to accept what He has knowing I did that every day!
    This past week God gave me a new song by Laura Story called “Blessing”. He has a way of doing that for me. I always wonder why certain songs come up at certain times. I know why this one has come up now. For those who have been hurt whether the victims or family members or friends listen to it. This is truly God’s blessing in disguise! I know my heart and the heart of my family is that ABWE and Don Ketchum would just come forward and do the right thing. We want God to be glorified in all of this. I want to let all those who are or have been victims of Don Ketchum that I am praying for you and for your families, and have been. Susannah, like Nate, I am ready to do whatever you need to help you and those who have been hurt. Contact me!

  8. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    This is a very big and long overdue endeavor to bring justice for these precious girls, now women.

    I’m so thankful the victims of Donn Ketcham finally feel brave and supported enough to step up. As Diana said, it is so difficult, as we look at our own children, to imagine this. These women are being so brave right now, and their families as well.

    It is truly time to make this public and let God sort out the pieces. Chips will fall, and I pray they will fall on those who must make amends and be held accountable for their actions.

    Wanting to protect someone’s spouse, wanting to protect a reputation of a mission board is not acceptable any longer. God’s work will be done with or without ABWE and maybe even in spite of them. It is just TIME for truth and disclosure and for justice.

    We are a generation of missionary kids blessed enough because of the times that we live in (sad as they are) to know more about these things and the long-term damage and trauma than our parents’ generation knew at our age, for many reasons. (Maybe we have Oprah and the Catholic Church to thank.)

    Mostly because in past generations people assumed it was best to move on and not talk about it, and when people you trust tell you this is what is best, you do it.

    But we are a generation of missionary kids blessed enough to know that people who do this do not just do it once, but tend to continue in their sin and crime. Blessed to know it is not the victim’s fault, no matter how much undeserved shame it gives them. Blessed to know that justice is possible, not impossible, no matter how much time has passed. Blessed to be wary and just paranoid enough (we hope) to somehow protect our own children, though we know the parents of these victims were/are just like us and never wanted this for their children. I cannot imagine their pain.

    So, I believe that we are blessed to have each other, despite the pain and trauma, and I believe that by supporting the victims, our childhood playmates in a far off jungle, in love and prayers and any other possible ways, we can do something good and right and godly.

    You have my full support and love and prayers.

    • Annonymous says:

      Very wise and well said. It was encouraging to read your post. Here is someone living out the faith.

      I believe the reason we as Christians hide our sins is because there are so many in the church who would shame us rather than love us as a fellow broken vessel. It is so easy to see ourselves better than others. We live in a fallen world and are all hiding secret sins. Could you imagine the revival that would take place if we didn’t feel like we had to pretend we have it all together?

      • isaiah 618 says:

        Anonymous, I find it so ironic that you are the same Anonymous who goes on to say that this blog is not godly because we are sharing these things with the world.

        Did I miss something? Did you read something you didn’t like between this post and that one, a bit further down which caused you to (essentially) retract what you are saying above and say that all of this should be private and that what we’re doing is just vengeance? I am confused about your stand. Are you for living transparently or not? Are you for hiding sin or not? Where is your line?

        - Tamara

  9. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    PS to Susannah. Though we never met, I wore your hand-me-downs in Bangladesh. So we are bonded by Jesus, polyester, and Partridge Family-style dresses. I hope that brings a smile to your face. May God bless you.

  10. anonymous says:

    I’m so, so thankful that you are bringing this to light. You have a tremendous amount of courage and I would like to help. I’m also a Bangladesh MK whose family was on the field with Dr. K. , and though we were not personally abused, our friends were and we are deeply concerned that things are made right — as right as possible in this life, anyway. Could you email me please?

  11. Rachel says:

    I am so, so glad this is finally coming out in the open. My heart breaks every person who was abused by Donn Ketcham. While I don’t know the whole story, I have talked a lot about it with another Bangladesh MK, at least what we know. I arrived just after he was discovered abusing an MK and the Ketchams had just left the country. I have never met him.

    But the ramifications of how ABWE handled the situation had far-reaching effects. It’s my opinion that by shoving it under the carpet, not prosecuting Donn, and telling everyone to not talk about created a toxic environment of silence. When myself and other girls were abused/assaulted by Bengali men in the streets, no one ever brought it up or asked us if anything was happening. Basically, I think the way the Ketcham situation was hushed up started a precedent of NOT talking about the risk of others to be abused. It’s sick, it’s sad, and it’s unfortunately a common thing to happen in missions groups. But secrecy only hurts victims, and it protects the perpetrator.

    And there were so many opportunities to talk to us about it! I remember for weeks and weeks we prayed for one victim to “come back to the Lord” – this was in the mid-90s. But my parents never told us WHY she was struggling. EVER. I remember asking again and again, but they just told me that they couldn’t say. I finally found out when I was in college. I think all the missionaries were instructed by ABWE to not talk about what had happened. I had an inkling that it had something to do with something bad that happened to her in Bangladesh. At the same time that we were praying for her, (I was 13/14) I was being harrassed/assaulted by random men on the streets. If the missionaries had talked about what had happened, and what we should do if we are ever abused in that way….I mean, it would have saved years and years of heartache, confusion, and spiritual crisis. (Counseling helped hugely in my healing, but it’s not like the scars every go away.)

    I think things are starting to change. There’s a new focus on child safety; plus, missionaries are screened better than they were years ago. But still, Donn Ketcham remains an honored member of the extended ABWE family. That’s a problem. It’s not fair, it’s not right, and it’s an insult to survivors.

  12. Becky Hep says:

    I pray that this blog will bring healing and the light of truth to everyone that needs it.

    This seems a good time to let everyone know that ABWE started a child protection program last fall to help prevent abuse like Dr. Ketcham’s and to investigate reports of abuse. The current child protection officer is Nancy Hepworth, who was a missionary in Bangladesh after the Ketchams left, but I believe that Dr. Ketcham’s abuse in Bangladesh is a primary reason why Mom is so passionate about it.

    The last tweaks on the official wording on the child safety program was finalized just yesterday by the board, and under that wording ABWE can investigate (or have investigated by a third party, as is possible for a case that was mishandled like this) and take steps on abuse cases that are “historical,” i.e., those that happened in the past and for which the victims are over 18 years old. ABWE does need a written report on the abuse before they can investigate or hire an investigator.

    That’s about all the information I have right now about it. If you would like Nancy Hepworth’s email address, just let me know.

    • Erin says:

      Becky,

      I am an MK, and I have a story too… I won’t go into details here, but I would like Nancy Hepworth’s e-mail address please!

  13. Diana Durrill says:

    ABWE does have written reports on file. The Bangladesh Field Council has written reports on file. Never before has that influenced ABWE to do what was right. Why now? My belief is that ABWE knows the writing is on the wall and they are now scrambling. I’m sure they are well aware of the New Tribes bust (if you will) and now realize that they can no longer mess around. WE are not messing around. We are serious. The world is serious (shameful that it takes the world to make Christians respond biblically, isn’t it?). It is time for sincere action on their part. If they are just trying to cover their backs we will see through it. If they are truly going to own up to their wrongdoing, then I expect we will hear from them and it will be like nothing we’ve ever heard before. (And believe me…we have heard A LOT.)

    I have to say that I get it that people didn’t know how to handle these kind of things back then. I GET IT. But man up and say that you are sorry. You blew it. You didn’t mean to then, but you’ve since realized that you really screwed up. And make it right to the best of your ability. This “program” should’ve been put in place YEARS ago…way before my sister was abused. Donn Ketcham should’ve been arrested before my sister ever arrived on the field. His behavior had been questioned enough times that just the shadow of doubt that hung over him should’ve been enough to send him home. But no! The smooth talking, good looking, and charismatic Donn Ketcham prevailed over any doubts that others had. In fact…people had to pretend it wasn’t there or go home. Period. The name “Donn Ketcham” trumped everything. Shameful. Embarrassing. I must admit, ABWE, that if I were you I, too, would be ashamed if I had to admit that I had played favorites. But its about time you admit it and do what is right.

  14. Diana Durrill says:

    Please, PLEASE – let’s not be afraid to talk about it anymore. Join hands with us and share your story on this blog. Whether you are the victim or a parent or sibling to a victim – PLEASE tell us about it and let us assure you of our love and support.

  15. Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

    First, I have to apologize to my brother for not telling him. It’s hard to talk about, so we just don’t. And I know I was in denial. I didn’t ask a lot of questions when I found out. I buried myself in my own life. We are talking about it now, believe me.
    I meet regularly with a group of Christian women going through the 12 Steps, some of whom suffered sexual abuse in their childhood. These women are in their 40′s and 50′s are just now finding courage to tell a small group of women a tiny fraction of what they’ve suffered. The damage it has done to their lives is extensive and deep.
    I say this because if anyone doubts these stories because it has been so many years & why wouldn’t they have told long ago, it’s because that’s part of the heinous nature of abuse. And why I believe God reserves a special “millstone” for those who abuse children — because that’s what abuse becomes for the victim, a millstone that weighs down their life.
    Dear friends who have lived with nightmarish secrets, I’m praying for you to find the strength and courage to tell your story so that we can grieve with you over the childhood and innocence he took away from you.
    My heart is also broken for parents who were at a loss as to what to do for their beloved daughters as the leadership they looked to for care and guidance did damage control.
    Christians HAVE to talk about these things. And we HAVE to “do justice.” There is so much evil in the world. We perpetuate it by silence. It is painful to have secrets pulled out into the light. But once they are, that’s where real healing can begin.
    I’m praying that everyone who has lived with the burden of guilt about keeping silent on these things will come forward now and support these beloved women. I’m praying for ABWE to admit their wrongs and make restitution that is long overdue, and I’m praying that Donn Ketcham confesses his sins so that he can be healed, and I’m praying that God will miraculously sustain his family.
    I love you, my MK sisters.

    • Marie says:

      Donn Ketcham DID confess his sins a long time ago. Christ has forgiven him, so it’s time the rest of you did likewise! If there was forgiveness this blog would not be necessary. Mark 11:25-26 states that if we do not forgive then neither will our Heavenly Father forgive US. Forgiveness is not a feeling it is choice, and act of the will. This verse does not state “first you must seek full justice of the law, make him that has sinned against you grovel in repentance, then, forgive him.”

      • Shannon says:

        Marie, Are you referring to a letter of apology or something like that? Or did Dr. Ketcham personally apologize to these women? This was a personal sin against them! Before forgiveness and reconcilliation can take place between two parties, there must be repentance. Has Donn come to these women individually, repenting of his sin against them? None of them have mentioned such an encounter on this blog (I haven’t read all the comments yet). If not, I’m sure that they long for this sort of encounter. Unless that happens, true reconciliation, and true costly forgiveness cannot take place.

      • Cheryl P says:

        Marie, I can’t respond to whether or not Donn confessed his sins. I’m sure he probably did to the extent of what people were led to believe at that time. I’m not here to judge or have any input on that subject. What I do want to say is this. It is hard for me to believe that you have ever truly been betrayed. That word can be tossed about lightly, but if you have ever EVER been truly betrayed you would then know that forgiveness does not come overnight. I agree with you that a person does not have to repent NOR grovel in order to be forgiven. In fact, we are taught to forgive even if the other party does not repent. Forgivness is an act by the victim regardless of the action(s) by the perpetrator. Even if ABWE or Donn never give them a personal apology, (and I do hope they are Christ-like enough to do that), it will be important for each one to forgive. It is our duty, (as I see it) to stand by them and help them heal and get to a point where they can forgive. Again I say…we cannot nor should we demand/expect that of them until they have worked through the “process”. It’s easy for people to say “forgive” if they’ve never been betrayed or gone through such a horrendous situation. Obviously the victims have not been approached or apologized to or we probably wouldn’t be having this discussion. Remember….these memories have been “stuffed” for YEARS. They are JUST NOW able to give voice to what happened. We must be patient and support them. They should be able to say how they feel and what they feel. This is not original with me but “feelings are neither right nor wrong.” I truly believe that in time these women will be able to forgive. I for one am not going to tell them “you have to do it NOW”. When they do, it will be because God has led them through the paths to be able to forgive. That’s my story and I’m stick’n to it.

      • Diana Durrill says:

        Marie –
        What Donn Ketcham did was CRIMINAL. In the truest sense of the word. It is not enough to take an apology and plea for forgiveness after someone has behaved criminally. There should be consequences for his action. There is a price to pay. Donn Ketcham was protected by the mission board. The girl was shamed by the mission board. Both ABWE and DK have committed crimes and they should be held accountable.

      • Jim & Pam Leffew says:

        It is a crime not to report the sexual abuse of a child. They should step down and they should be fired. It sickened me to see the rioting after the news of Coach Paterno being fired. He has done much for the school but the story is not about football. It is about young boys who were molested. The parallel to ABWE is amazing. ABWE should take note and there should be many resignations. Where are the churches? Where are the current missionaries in this? I believe the churches hold the key. No money coming in will cause them to take notice.

        We continue to follow the site and continue to stand with you in prayer. You are not alone..

  16. Diana Durrill says:

    Beautifully said, Deb. Love you! Thank you.

  17. Anne Smith says:

    Thanks Deb, We need more people, Mks, and their families to come out and say what is on their heart. Its time to take a stand for those we love forgetting what the cost might be. We need to stand for the truth! The stories need to be told. The secrets need to be revealed. Whether you are a parent, victim or sibling now is the time. Parents and relatives of the victims stand up for your daughters/sisters. They need our support in this matter. Lets make our voices heard! Lets help them to come forward with the truth. They have been paralyzed as so many of us have for so long in getting the truth out lets stand behind them and take a stand on God’s word and what He says about sin. I pray that you can and will tell us your story. And in the end give God the praise and glory for all things! Thank you!

    • Sunny says:

      Kudos to you ladies who are stepping up and coming forward to reveal the unspeakable actions of a man who was in a position of spiritual leader. You were young, trusting, and most likely, as Christian young women, taught to be respectful to adults. He was older, savvy, and as sly as they come. And he betrayed your trust. And your voices went unheard for so many years! My heart breaks for you all. May this experience, as painful as it is, be a catalyst for other women as well as men who suffered abuse as children to speak up and seek healing that only the Lord can give. I was relating your experience to a close friend of mine, and she opened up and revealed to me the abuse she suffered as a girl at the hands of a close family member. There I was, walking through K-Mart listening to her horrible story on my cell phone while shopping for light bulbs! She told me that she had never told anyone about this, EVEN HER OWN SISTERS” because of the profound shame and embarrasement that she felt. May this be the beginning of openness and healing for her as well as many others. Christian brothers and sisters, it is time to say STOP, E protecting pedophiles, even those hiding behind the mask of Christianity. May God bless each of you with the courage and fortitude to keep going on what will very likely be a tough road ahead of you.

  18. Tami Joy says:

    Hello my old friends. I know each of you so well and it breaks my heart to hear all this. I remember the day us MKs were “told” about Uncle (sorry, old habits die hard) Donn and his “affair”. I was with her the rest of that day and the day after as the Ketchams prepared to leave the country. I remember her confusion and pain. I remember my confusion and pain as I watched her struggle. We were never given the full story but we were told to love her, which I did and have. It broke my heart to think of Aunt Kitty and her heartache. It boggles my mind to think that this was more. It breaks my heart and makes me want to cry out in frustration.
    It is so frustrating that we as Christians so often want to hide our imperfections and sins. WHY!!??? The Bible was written for ugly people!!! Christ dove into the most horrible places reaching for those lost. Paul speaks of how he was the worst of sinners. It is only through confessing to Christ and each other that we can be free! We should be the FIRST to own up to a crime and take our punishment. Do we think that God is not powerful enough to still work and bring others to himself even when we fail? What prideful thinking. I hope that the new administration at ABWE does take this seriously and openly. So much has changed there in the past few years as the old generation has moved on. I love these people so much, let’s please be praying the they will submit to GOD’s leading on how to handle this. Not their own fears and preconceived notions.
    Please know that I will be praying for the whole situation with all my heart. My prayer is that God will break hearts that need to be broken. That justice will be served worthily, not out of vengeance. That hearts that need to heal WILL heal, not because of results, but because of the grace of God, the only thing that can heal anyone.
    I am so thankful for your openness and honesty about this situation. It rips open so many wounds and breaks the hearts of anyone who was even remotely involved. But it is a ripping that needs to be done. Please pray for our parents that were on the field at the time. I have spoken to mine and their hearts are broken to hear that more girls may have been abused, but are thankful that if this is true, the light is finally being shed. My dad has always been so careful with his girls and I thank him for his honesty. My folks were always open with us about what they knew, so it surprises me that so many did not know! Nate, how heartbreaking for you to learn this now.
    Let’s pray for each other as well. We know that we serve a God of love and compassion and forgiveness. Justice needs to be served, but forgiveness must be served as well. Without forgiveness we are only eaten alive by our own bitterness. Only Christ can give us true forgiveness. He has ALREADY forgiven us even before we ask! We need only to confess and receive it! Please do not make this place a place of bitterness but support and love for each other. For the others who were abused, YOU ARE LOVED!!!! Thank you to my dear friends who have been brave enough to step forward. My heart is with you as it has always been!

    Tami

    • Cheryl P says:

      Tami, what you said about being open and honest is so so true. I get very angry (a righteous anger of course :-) about “family secrets”. ABWE being the “parent” telling their “children” to basically lie and withhold truth in order to protect an “image”….be it a person or an organization. Sounds like my life growing up. I can totally relate.

  19. Anne Smith says:

    Thank you Tami for sharing your heart and support! Prayer is our biggest tool right now! Love and miss you!

  20. isaiah618 says:

    Tami,
    Thank you for your comments. I also do not want the site to become a place of bitterness, but I do want people to feel free to express whatever emotions they are feeling , and some of those feelings may be bitterness or anger. I also think there is such a thing as “righteous anger”, those things that anger God and should anger us, at the top of the list being child abuse. Maybe we would pay more attention to it if we were truly angry about it. I think of Jesus knocking over the moneychanging tables in the temple.
    He was angry! Especially at sin committed in His house in His Name. Personally, I think God is angry right now and that somehow comforts me.
    Susannah Baker

    • Mary Borrello says:

      Just to let you all know that this kind of behavior was not limited to Donn Ketchem, and the cover-up not limited to ABWE. A very popular MD in a town close by molested his patients and no one dared to raise a fuss. Finally, one brave young lady told on him, and was mercilessly persecuted for her “lies”. I am an older woman and have witnessed through the years how pastor’s cover for one another, hiding the sins of their “brothers”. Just let them take a little time off and then on to another church where they repeat the behavior. I used to feel so “safe” in our denomination, thinking that our pastors were right up there next to God. Now I have to fight being cynical every time I go to church, try not to think.. “I wonder what HE”S up to”…. God bless you dear young women. My heart just goes out to each of you and I pray that God’s comfort will sustain you and yo go through life.
      Love, InChrist.. Mary Jayne Borrello

  21. Nathan Barrick says:

    I am so proud of all my sisters — the ones I share blood with AND the ones I share a common bond of experience in Bangladesh with. You are an inspiration — and I am so thankful that it seems our wounded sisters have never really been truly alone (and not just because of God). I have learned there has been quiet support and terrible struggles waged in private. And I feel very deeply that there were moments you FELT alone.
    I have been contacted by one of my friends who knows many of you and has been one who has been involved in ministering to at least one of OUR wounded sisters. Her heart is breaking as well with the revelations here that this is a much larger problem than anyone realized. But it also shows on the positive side that there is much more support out there than you may realize too. She has expressed that she wants to respect the intent of the blog — she is one of the allies (and I’m hoping there are many others out there as well). But she is watching as well and is in support.
    I forgive my sisters their silence — they know “righteous anger” is much more my style! But I would encourage you all — as has already been repeated here — there’s no further call for silence.
    I am so PROUD of all of you for many reasons…I am in awe of your strength and courage. The ripples of what happened to you have spread further than you know and I hope you hear more here of how you are not alone, and the power of your stand will thunder even further!
    I am in complete shock as to how many times and how often I have been so near this and so CLOSE to people involved and NOT KNOWN A THING!! Whatever your feelings — do not think for a second that there are just so many people who don’t care! IT IS JUST NOT TRUE!! You have the opportunity here to bond together many who have shared the pain and shared the suffering in support beside you — and, I pray to God, to unite also the rest of us who would stand beside you no matter what!
    I don’t have the right to post any more of my thoughts here…but if others approach me and need me to speak on their behalf to this group, I will post for them. I just wanted you to know that there are those in support who don’t feel it is their place to post here but are watching and praying nonetheless!

  22. Diana Durrill says:

    Tami, I am sorry to have to confirm that it is true that there have been more than one victim. I am also sorry to have this drudged up again and again for Aunt Kit’s sake. No one contests the fact that she was terribly hurt by the sin of her husband. No one argues that we desire to protect her from pain. Unfortunately, Aunt Kit is not the only one who has had to feel the consequences of Donn Ketcham’s wicked choices. She is a victim. So am I. So are my parents and sisters. Not in the same sense of these women who were literally sexually abused but in the sense that the personal hurt runs deep, the consequences are far reaching (into the next generation), and the offense has been life altering for us.

    “If we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Forgiveness is a two-fold process. I can hold forgiveness in my heart toward an offender but it cannot be fully appropriated until repentance has taken place.

    This is where the problem lies. These women and their parents strictly followed the counsel of ABWE through the years (dating back to before my sister’s story), which erred heavily on the grace of God but was not balanced with the justice of God. You cannot separate the two. If God’s justice was not satisfied by Christ’s atonement for my sin I could not be forgiven.

    Until you have lived the life of a victim of sexual abuse…or lived a life in close proximity to a victim of sexual abuse…you cannot begin to understand the need for both grace and justice in the process of forgiveness. And we are wrong to insist on tipping the scale toward grace alone.

    What the average reader of this blog does not know but they MUST learn and understand is that many (if not all) of these women have realized the importance of this truth over time and have quietly sought for help and answers from both the old and new administration at ABWE. They have been met with rejection time and time again. I can testify of this personally and have held in my hands the black-and-white, dated documentation of another victim’s attempts and the replies from the home office. The stories vary from one to the other, but in the end they are all the same. There has been no help from the home office to bring this to a biblical and God-honoring close once and for all. On the other hand, Donn Ketcham, the perpetrator, has continued to “lead the life of a retired missionary who at one point made a moral mistake (an affair?) but praise God for grace and forgiveness because we can still hold him up before our young people as a great man of God.” This is out of balance with God’s grace and justice. A truly great man of God grieves over his sin, makes it right to the best of his ability, and understands that there are consequences that must be endured.

    King David made a moral mistake that resulted in great consequences that affected many people for generations to come and his story is recorded in God’s Word for all the world to learn from! In the end, God brings beauty out of ashes (the line of Christ) but only when there is confession and repentance (i.e., Psalm 51).

    This blog needs to be a safe place – where people (both victims and otherwise) can feel the freedom to share their stories and not be afraid of more judgment and condemnation about their lack of forgiveness. If justice had been served 20+ years ago, many of these women, whose childhood and innocence were heinously robbed of them, may have been able to extend forgiveness and experience closure that would’ve surely brought joy and stability back into their lives.

    It’s simple math: Grace + Justice = Forgiveness. And God provides all three.

  23. Parents of one victim says:

    Where do we start? First we want to thank each and everyone of you who have written and shared your hearts. We have the greatest MK’s of any field. We love you all very much. We also want to thank those of you who were with our daughter at the time it was revealed on the field. We were truly amazed at how you loved and encouraged her when we were all told what was happening. It is so
    encouraging NOW to see how much you still love and want to support ALL of those who were abused. You MK’s are loved and are so special. The Bangladesh team has been a close family and that will never change .
    Nathan we are so sorry that you had to find out this way. Our hearts go out to you.
    As has been previously said in many of the comments we were instructed not to tell anyone and NOT to talk about it even on the field. We even asked if we should go home but was instructed to stay and was told our support system was on the field. Our field never had a time to grieve as since we are family it was like a death to all of us.
    We as parents were struggling with what we had found out and how to help our daughter and were in a state of shock. We took our administrations advice as we never had to face something like this before. We trusted and did what we were told believing it was the right thing to do. If we could do anything over again we would have came home and gotten counseling right away. We kept it from the Nationals which was hard as well as our families at home and our churches. We didn’t have e mails and phones so communication was hard. I want to thank the missionaries that were on the field at that time how they loved our daughter and tried to help.
    We have been through years of seeing how it has destroyed our daughter and still is. We are praying that as people come forth with the truth this will free her.
    This almost destroyed our family but through God’s grace we have grown closer with each other. Hearing the hurts in our daughters comments, some we did not know how they felt, know that it is by God’s grace that we have survived. We want to thank our daughters for their comments and are so proud of them as this is opening the wounds again and we see their walk with God. This is the goal of any parent that their children grow in the Lord and we are so proud of each one of them. We love our daughter so much and are praying that this will heal the many hurts, anger and frustrations that you have had all these years. I hope you see how much you are loved.
    We know there are many more of you women out there that have been hurt and our prayers are with each one of you as you read this. We are praying that you will take the next step and put your feelings on this blog so you can heal.
    We understand what each one of your parents have gone through and still are. It is the most painful experience you can go through to see your child hurt and you keep asking yourself what did I miss.
    I am angry in the fact that a few years later we found out that the home office had made serveral trips to the field to check on problems that was told about Donn but went home satisfied and Donn stayed on the field. We felt many times that if it was us or anyone else we would have been told to pack up and go home. In fact one of the missionaries said in my kitchen on the field if he would have fought a little harder our daughter might have been spared. We cried and prayed together.

    Susanah we love you and are so proud of you for bringing this in the open in a Godly manner. Let us know how we can help.

    Thanks for listening.
    One Victim’s Parents

  24. George King says:

    Hi everyone,
    My gang and I were on furlough when we heard what Donn Ketcham had done, and we were absolutely horrified. I was gratified and impressed to be told that the Far East regional administrator immediately flew from the States to confront him, have him confess his sin to the assembled group of missionaries, and vacate him swiftly from the field and from service with ABWE. From my admittedly limited vantage point it seemed to me that the mission dealt with the matter appropriately. I am upset to now hear there were other victims. The sin is heinous and the fallout is heart-breaking. May God bless this effort and use it to bring about satisfaction, healing and closure for all concerned.
    George King

    • isaiah618 says:

      I am sorry to have to say that the mission leaders at that time(differant leaders than now, I might add) did NOT deal with the matter appropriately! To put it bluntly, they covered up a crime of child sexual abuse. In addition to covering up the crime, by treating it as if it were an affair(which he already had had plenty of) they required a minor, a crime victim, to sign a written “confession” of her sins.
      Susannah Baker

  25. Saddned and Frustrated says:

    Okay everyone…this is blog is horrible! and its emotional rape for the Ketchum family. Do we really need to put Aunt Kit, Becky, and Dave through anymore!? Aunt Kit may be the only person on the planet to know and feel what Grace looks like. We should take a lesson.

    Clearly, years ago, this issue was not handled appropriately and I think it is highly unlikely Uncle Don will ever be asked publicly face what has been done. We do not know what has gone on behind closed doors and it is very possible Uncle Don has repented of his sin and asked for forgiveness for his crimes on a personal level. Ideally, he should have done this on public level as well, but really? Would you have forgiven him? It is just as possible that he is pathological and will never “fess up” to any of it. Uncle Don is old, feeble and pathetic. Unless your planning on lynching him are you ready to take the legal action now? I dare say, not. We do injustice to ourselves by hiding behind religion and not venturing out into the secular world when justice is required.

    I understand there are women hurting and I understand that more than you know! But, this blog does not feeling like a place of healing but of venting, gossip and God thrown in for justification.

    I am a Licensed Mental Health Professional and work work with trauma patients everday to help them make sense of out of thier pain. This is done through extensive, unbiased therapy, all the stages of grief and finally coming to a place of making sense of chaos by understanding thier perpetrator was a broken, pathetic person who was unable to make good choices. There is empowerment in this process. I have seen it.

    We are adults and all of this happened forever ago. I know if trauma is not given the chance to heal it will always feel like “yesterday” but without any disrespect for his, “victims” this is not healthy and will only allow for unmanaged pain to fester.

    This blog does not bode well for ABWE and the good they have done. Our parents sacrificed their lives and our lives for a greater vision. If it was worth the sacrifice remains to be seen as this crime like these are often the concequence when parents that are incongnito and emotionally unavailable to thier children. However, one bad seed should not mean for a whole tree to be cut down and negate good that has been done. The mission did not handle this well because they were not proffessionals and come from an archaic, religious view that dictates nothing be talked about accept God. The girls and their families had every ability to go against the grain and put legal ramificiations in place. THAT is where the strength in numbers should have been.

    What really needs to be done is execerise Grace in the way God talks about and approach Uncle Don. Tell him what you think and see if he asks your forgiveness. Has anyone done this? If so, what was response? Every sin is equal in the eyes of God and whether we like to accept it or not. We live in a broken, sinful world and if Uncle Don never ownes up for this crime than we make sense out of the chaos by holding on to that fact, in the name of God and Salvation.

    I am a mother with children and am relieved by each year that passes that hey have not been violated in some way. Mission Fields are infamous for this type of thing its sad. God has been distorted beyond reason for sinful purposes and Satan is getting the last laugh. Maybe even here!

    • isaiah618 says:

      Dear Saddened and Frustrated,
      Believe me, we are not hiding behind religion. Beyond that, I don’t trust myself to make any more comments right now about your post except to say it is a perfect example of why women are afraid to come out and tell the truth. I have been informed that the leaders at ABWE are aware of this blog now and I would very much like one of them to respond to this post. That would be a step in the right direction.
      Broken Hearted Again
      Susannah Baker

    • Aunt Lynn says:

      Dear Saddened and Frustrated,

      What is there about truth, that when people don’t like it, they call it gossip? This is not gossip. This should have been talked about 20+ years ago. It would have been had we not been told to “not talk about it”. Which at the time did not settle well with me. Now we face the reality that you can not cover up the truth forever, it must come out for those who have been hurt….so they can heal.

      I hear over and over of this whole “forgiveness”. Like those who were so badly hurt have not forgiven. To be forgiven there is usually an admittance to wrong doing. I never heard an apology from Donn. I waited for it….never heard it. Then forgiving is always possible with God’s help….what about the forgetting. How does one forget the pain even when they have forgiven? I think that is the bigger issue here. I work with Emotionally Impaired kids who have been abused. They are so quick to forgive…..but, still suffer greatly from the abuse. So, don’t be so quick to call this gossip…..it is truth!

  26. Anne Smith says:

    “Uncle” George,
    Thank you for your comments. As you stated you did not know that there were more victims then the one you know of. But that is what ABWE has tried to hide all these years. As you now know. As far as dealing with the matter…They sent Dr. Ketchum home to the states, let him continue his practice in Allendale, Michigan and my sister as you know was left there to get counseling. That counseling did not do any good b/c it was not a professional that did the counseling. We should have been told as a family to pack up and return home. But b/c of the “popularity” that Dr. Ketchum had and b/c he was such an “asset” to the mission board, they tried to save his backside from being pushed into the ground. My sister has carried this guilt on her shoulders for all these years and for long enough! SHE IS NOT THE GUILTY PARTY! And neither are any of the other ladies that have had to carry this weight! What an injustice ABWE has allowed for these ladies to deal with. I know that when there is sin in a camp God cannot do the work He intends to do. ABWE could’ve and could be more than what it is for the Lord if they had done what was right in the beginning and do what is right now! We are praying for the truth and justice to prevail. I know that the leaders that are in office now are different from those in the past, but they have known about it. We as a family know they have known about it and b/c they did not try to help when they found out they are just as guilty! And they deny the fact that there are no files on record for them to refer to….that is a lie! There are records/files!
    Anyway, thanks for your comment. And we covet your prayers!

  27. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    Dear Saddened and Frustrated.

    I’m sorry you see this blog as something that brings pain to Donn’s family. I’m sure it’s true. However, I don’t think their pain can compare to the pain of being molested and raped by a man for years on end in a setting where everyone saw him as the hands and feet of Jesus. I am not speaking of myself, but of those who were his victims. They should not be guilted into silence because the truth is hard for Donn’s family. If the truth is hard, they have no one, truly no one, but their own father/husband to blame for the hurt and pain they must feel today.

    Is he “old” and “pathetic”? I wouldn’t know. But it doesn’t make him any less guilty and it doesn’t make ABWE any less responsible for enabling him to continue his sin time after time. Will he ever be held accountable in a court of law? I don’t know. That remains to be seen, and ABWE can either get on the side of justice and truth or continue to hide behind a person they thought was pretty great back then and invoke words like “grace” and “mercy” as if they preclude earthly consequences of sin and the tremendous need to save others from harm.

    As for calling this site a place of venting and gossip, that is your opinion. I do not consider discussion of truth that is important for everyone involved and even for total strangers to know–in order to protect themselves–to be gossip at all. I think this site is important for the residents of Allendale, Michigan.

    I wrote this the other day, but was not going to post it. I’ve been asked by someone involved in this site to speak my mind on this, and so I will. Here is what I wrote in response to the news that ABWE has a “new” program in response to abuse:

    ******
    I appreciate that ABWE is now (as of the last board meetings) trying to catch up with what the rest of the world has already been doing for several decades in regard to child abuse. However, attempting to begin a fresh and better system of handling pedophilia without ever going back and fixing what I can only hope is their “historical” worst case is mind boggling.

    And what do I mean by fixing? I mean calling what Donn Ketcham did a crime. Out loud. Confessing to the Michigan board of medicine that they (the leaders then at ABWE, alive or dead) knowingly allowed a pedophile to go back there and practice family medicine and be involved in churches that were unaware of how deep Ketcham’s sin went. Apologizing to the victims and their families and all families who were exposed to Donn Ketcham, because ABWE played favorites with a deeply sinful man.

    The current leadership at ABWE needs to own what they did as an organization back then, and accept the consequences, just as we try to teach our own children that when they do something wrong, they must confess and accept consequences whether it happened a month ago or two minutes ago. There is no statute of limitations on morality.

    I recently hoped to plant strawberries in my garden–stay with me on this–only to discover that if you’ve ever had tomatoes growing in your garden, experts do not advise planting strawberries until you can establish that this certain and specific bug (which is drawn to tomatoes and is deadly to strawberries) is no longer around.

    Steps have to be taken and time must pass to be sure the bug is not present before you can ever hope to plant strawberries that will grow and thrive in that soil.

    Do pedophiles ever stop abusing? Rarely. We have the Catholic Church to thank for a huge case study in that tragic fact. Abusers dig deep into the soil of their sins and continue their destructive ways: choosing a victim carefully and then using them until they move on, get caught, or another victim comes along.

    And so in the interest of not being “gossipy” I write this open letter to ABWE: You did not make protecting the families of the Bangladesh ABWE missionaries your priority when it mattered. If you have not made protecting the families of Allendale, Michigan from Donn Ketcham your top priority in your NEW child abuse endeavor, then it is doomed to fail, because you have not rid your soil of the bugs that inhabit it.
    *******

    • Laura Hoekstra-Bettig says:

      Thank you for your articulate and important letter to ABWE and the people of Allendale, Michigan. I live in Kent County and am the mother of a 13 year old daughter. Believe me, I would want to know if a medical doctor had been a perpetrator. How could he continue to practice family medicine?

      I do not regularly read the Press but was directed to this blog by someone that believed it was important to read. It is chilling to consider the number of potential victims that one man, in a position of such authority and proximity, may be responsible for. Please continue your work to expose and bring to justice. It is hugely important for this to be brought into full scrutiny.

  28. Aunt Barb B. says:

    Just want you courageous women to know that I have contacted Boz at GRACE to tell him that I have a couple of memories to share. I’m not sure if this is the place on this blog or directly to him, no doubt he will tell me. It is kind of amazing that we were never asked by the mission if we had any knowledge or observations about Donn’s behavior or any incidents to report. My heart goes out to those who still suffer from wounds from a childhood that should have been care free. I send a hug to you today, as I hugged and comforted one of you on what I think might have been a very sad day long ago. Naive. God forgive me. A lot of us were naive and ignorant. If memory serves me, at our oasis in the jungle there was a system and practice of warning if there were dangerous snakes on the compound. Sadly, there was a two legged snake and we were not warned, had we been, at least one victim might have been spared and many lives may have been different. I’m praying for all of you. And I’m sorry for being naive. You mothers are informed. Sad that you have to be, but that is good. God is still good, a refuge in times of trouble.

  29. Just Another MK says:

    Does anyone know if Donn is still practicing medicine? If my memory serves me correctly, he is a family practitioner, which means he treated people of all ages. If he is still practicing, has anyone gone to the Michigan Department of Community Health to file a complaint? And does anyone know if he is volunteering with any childrens’ activities at his church or in the community?

    While we unfortunately can’t erase the tragedy of years gone by, perhaps we can make a difference for potential future victims.

    • to just another mk - you are more important than "just another" says:

      This is one of the objectives of this blog. We desire to see Donn Ketcham reported to the state and his license revoked. We believe there is a high likelihood that many innocent little wolverines have been violated as well. We hope we are wrong, but statistics show that our hunch is more likely dead on.

      As far as his involement in church or the community (besides his medical practice), I do not know, but I am confident that there are people who are reading this blog that do indeed know. It is not understood why they have chosen to remain silent. I do know that he has been permitted,even encouraged, to represent the Lord Jesus from the pulpit. I find that despicable and I beieve God does, too. I know of one victim who was a house guest of members of the current ABWE administration on a Sunday. As they prepared to go to church, another Bangladesh missionary-turned-administration-member called to say, “Don’t bring her to church today! Donn Ketcham will be in the pulpit!” This was as recent as 6-7 years ago.

      • Just Another MK says:

        But has anyone gone to the authorities — whether it be the police, the medical board, or Ketchams’ church leaders — to let their concerns be known? I guess my question is what is actively being done to stop this from happening again and again and again…and again…?

  30. Tami J says:

    Sorry guys, I am out. I will pray, but I can’t read this blog without getting angry. Susannah, you have talked about this being a safe place, but every time someone responds with something contrary to your own beliefs even when supported by Biblical principles it gets blasted by certain people. So, I will be praying for all parties involved and will look instead to my own family and children.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Dear Tami,
      I am truly sorry that I have offended you. Please accept my apologies. I admit, this is an emotional topic for me and sometimes I don’t get it right. I will try to be more objective in my responses or possibly not respond at all and let the blog speak for itself. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.
      Susannah

  31. No Apology Necessary says:

    Susannah –
    You have done nothing wrong and the frustration has been misdirected. I think what Tami J meant to say that “every time someone responds with something contrary to another’s own beliefs…it gets blasted by certain people.” She wasn’t saying that you were the one to offend her. It took me a few minutes to figure that out because I also thought she was saying that you had offended her. But rereading your posts I can find nothing offensive in them. I believe she is offended by the posts of others.

    That being said – it is contrary to what she herself claims in her first post:
    “I am so thankful for your openness and honesty about this situation. It rips open so many wounds and breaks the hearts of anyone who was even remotely involved. But it is a ripping that needs to be done.”

    We knew this would happen. People are going to get upset again. People are not going to understand or see things clearly and they will try to sweep it under the rug and walk away again. Just like all those years ago, it is too painful and uncomfortable to talk about and so let’s just not. We cannot let one, two, three, or three hundred people discourage us. Isn’t that what the ABWE administration has done for the past couple of decades? We will not be bullied into keeping our voices silenced this time! We will speak out!

    If this is painful for those who were not abused, nor did they have an abused family member – how much more for those who were? Let them walk away. It’s not about them and they have no idea. It is our story to tell, let’s tell it for the benefit of future generations and healing for ourselves and our families.

  32. Diana Durrill says:

    Tami J’s post puts blame (perhaps inadvertently?) on Susannah Baker. Anger is once again directed toward a victim who is undeserving of it. Susannah, you responded as a typical victim in this case always has….you take the blame, apologize profusely, and commit to retreat. It makes my stomach ache and my heart hurt.

    Friends, it is understood that when you contribute to a blog you will run into people that you disagree with and who disagree with you. Take it up with the person you are really frustrated with not one of the victims. Even though Susannah is the moderator of this blog she should not be expected to post only the comments you might agree with. How would she ever determine that? For if you agree with it, I might not and vice versa. It’s perfectly acceptable to not participate in the blog but don’t throw the blame on others. You are entitled to your opinion about our “lack of forgiveness” and the biblically principled posts you write, but we are also entitled to disagree and defend our viewpoint. If anyone had worn the shoes I’ve worn for the past 20+ years, their viewpoint would most definitely be different.

    Personal stories would give people who have been out of the loop more understanding. I believe those stories will come to this blog in time, but these women need to know that they can share without criticism or judgment. It is a curious and shameful thing to me that the criticism right now is not being directed toward the perpetrator and those who covered up his crimes, but is being directed toward the thoughts and feelings of the victims and those closest to them.

  33. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    Sexual abuse is not pretty. It is complex. It is a hideous burden for the families that have to attempt to hold up under the weight of its memory. While words like grace, mercy and forgiveness apply, if we have not experienced such a crime against us or one of our family members, we should not dole them out lightly.

    We should not expect people to grab hold of Jesus and move on without any anger or bitterness when they have seen no justice. As has already been pointed out, Jesus became angry on several occasions and who was his anger usually directed at? Pious spiritual leaders. Jesus was sinless. Yet he was angry. He called people names. He called religious leaders terrible names. Called them snakes, white washed tombs. Religious leaders who were hypocrites of the worst kind.

    Is that not EXACTLY the sort of person we are discussing on this blog? Someone who dared to preach the gospel and the faith to his colleagues and small children from his high pulpit at Spiritual Life Conferences when his sin went so deep it was actually criminal?

    And what about our beloved “uncles”–and they were beloved by us–back at the home office who forgave him again and again, because they loved him and his family, without considering the need to protect others from him? Are we not right in being angry that they did not put concern for you and I, Tami–and the missionary children of several generations–above the need to protect the good Ketcham name?

    So let’s not silence people with righteous anger, who have never NEVER seen justice in this life for the crimes done against them and their families.

    I pray that each of them will finally (finally) be able to hear the voices of those around them, more of the grownups they adored in their childhoods, more of our parents, say: “It’s okay to name names. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT.”

    I am so glad Uncle George King weighed in with his honest memories and thoughts. I am so glad “Aunt Barb B.” was brave enough to contact GRACE and say so here.

    I have asked this question privately in my family and now I ask it publicly here: Do we value our small and IMAGINED ABILITY to protect the reputation of God and his people and the spread of the gospel above our RESPONSIBILITY to do what is right in this life so we might stand before God one day with a clear conscience?

  34. anonymous says:

    I’m curious what we would say if a former missionary was discovered to have murdered someone on the field. And not only once, but several times. Even 20 years later, would we stand in their defense and say his good qualities outweighed the bad? That grace and mercy should prevail over condemnation? Would we say the mission was probably wrong not to report his crimes to authorities but that we should forgive and just try and move on?

    This was a crime. Just like murder. But even if it was treated like a sin and not a crime, Biblical principles were misapplied. Even the Matthew 18 process of confronting a brother or sister in sin ends, if the sinner is unrepentant, with the command to treat that person like a pagan. And 1 Corinthians 5 goes into more specifics on how to handle exactly what happened in Bangladesh:
    It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that even pagans do not tolerate . . . Shouldn’t you rather have gone into mourning and have put out of your fellowship the man who has been doing this? 5 hand this man over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved on the day of the Lord. c12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13 God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked person from among you.”
    And as for what if he was repentant? Then he should have come forward and faced the punishment for crimes. Mathew 18: 6 and 7 says “If you cause one of these little ones who trust in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to have a large millstone tied around your neck and be drowned in the depths of the sea.” And the rest of that passage basically says “WOE” to the person who has caused them to sin.

    But here’s the kicker for me. Not only was the sinner not handled correctly. But possibly even worse, at least one of the victims was treated as though they also had done something sinful. ABWE failed to stand up in defense of the children who were abused. And, by some accounts, tried to prove that they were liars. Wasn’t this one of the reasons God destroyed the nation of Israel? What does the Lord require? To do justice? Love mercy? The victims received neither.

    I do not think people really understand the ripple effect that this injustice has had on generations of missionaries and missionary kids and the children of MKs – especially those who had even minimal knowledge of the crimes. Many of you were in the dark for years and years. Now that it has come to light, rather than attacking these people who were hurt so badly, let’s examine what scripture really teaches about standing up for those who could not stand up for themselves. These women and their families need us to stand up for them now as should have been done years ago. That is biblical and right and Isaiah 58 promises that if we repent of the past and do what is right and “help those in trouble, then your light will shine out from the darkness and ….you will be known as a restorer of homes.” God will be glorified. He is vastly stronger than the failures of a man or a Mission Board. And if we do what is right, He wins every time.

  35. Fact Seeker says:

    shame you can’t post what I wrote. Post the facts with evidence that you claim to posess and prove your case. Without evidence of wrongdoing on the part of the accused, it is pure slander and gossip.

    • isaiah618 says:

      The reason I can’t post what you wrote is because it was verbally and emotionally abusive towards the victims. I will consider starting to post the documents that I have, but it won’t be pretty for ABWE or Dr. Ketcham.. I would ask ABWE to post Dr. Ketcham’s detailed confession(the one with the names in it and specific acts)on their website, with the victims names blotted out, and if not, I will post it. Also, I need all of you out there who know the truth to comment. I don’t care if you post as Mickey Mouse or Cinderella or Winnie the Pooh. But I do need your support and help. Thanks so much in advance.
      Susannah

      • Cheryl P says:

        Susannah, please help me understand. I posted 2 or 3 blogs and was totally 100% supportive of you all. I certainly am not aware that I was verbally or emotionally abusive toward you. I really don’t understand why my posts haven’t been posted. I personally know 98% of the people posting and they will vouche for me that I have your best interests at heart. Perhaps it is because you don’t remember me, but I remember you and the others. Evidently you are the one screening the posts, so if you wouldn’t mind responding to my email Perrinerc@sbcglobal.net and letting me know what offended you, I would like to be given the opportunity to apologize for anything that may have been construed as anything other than justice for what you have suffered. I’m very sorry if I said anything that didn’t reveal how my heart was feeling. I’m just so sickened by it.

      • isaiah618 says:

        Dear Aunt Cheryl,
        Of course I remember you! I thought I did post all your posts so I will have to go back and see why they aren’t showing up. The responses are coming in at such an overwhemling rate that I can hardly keep up with posting them. I will have more help as of tomorrow and will try to get your posts up. Thanks so much for your support and writing in!
        Susannah

  36. Fact Seeker says:

    If you have evidence that is prosecutable, take it to a court of law. I can guarentee that if you continue with these slanderous accusations, you will end up in a court of law for posting slander and spreading unsubstantiated rumors.

    If you have evidence, by all means, post. Protecting victims is of paramount importance.

    Don’t set yourself up as prosecutor, judge and jury.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Dear Fact Finder,
      We are fully prepared to take this to a court of law. We have the truth on our side. Your threatening statements will not keep me from speaking the truth.
      Susannah

  37. Fact Seeker says:

    Then take it to the court of law, not the court of common opinion.

  38. Facts Are Already Proven says:

    Fact Checker: Already on this blog at least one adult named George King, a member of the Bangladesh Field Council, has attested to the fact that he was made aware by the home office that Donn Ketcham confessed to a particular wrongdoing before he was sent home. Don’t miss this part: Donn Ketcham confessed that what he was accused of doing was true.

    What he was accused of doing was having a sexually abusive “relationship” with a girl beginning when she was 12 and ending when she was 14.

    There is a name for this — also true fact — it’s called pedophilia. Attraction to children 13 and under.

    We are talking about ABWE allowing the admitted criminal and pedophile to return to practice medicine in America as a family physician.

    If this happened today, the leaders who did this at ABWE would probably be sent to jail along with the criminal. I can base this on a) laws in place today, b) criminology and terms for child abuse, c) the admission of guilt by the guilty party.

    Facts? Checked.

  39. Fact Seeker says:

    Take it to a court of law. If you have this proof, he will be held responsible. We know from precident that this is true.

    • Here are the facts... says:

      Any guesses as to how difficult it would be for the US legal system to have jurisdiction over something that happened in a foreign country like Bangladesh, let alone for a crime committed that long ago?

      • isaiah618 says:

        I will try to respond to your question and “Just AnotherMK’s” question tomorrow. My best advice right now for both of those questions is to go to the fandaeagles.com site and read the GRACE report and what the result of that investigation was.
        Susannah

  40. Anonymous says:

    Your proof remains an opinion.

    You will not recieve the retribution you are looking for in this way.

    No one else will come out because there IS no one else. There is only one family who feels like they got screwed. History dictates they have a way sucking people into their dysfunction vortex with the ability to leave out highly important personal details. Its good thing this is not a trial based on character wittness. It would be a FAIL.

    God is not in this. Don’t pretend he is.

    Peace OUT!!

    • Jeny Martin says:

      Dear Anonymous,

      Even if it was only one little girl, wouldn’t she be worthy of justice?
      What if she was your little girl? Wouldn’t you move heaven and earth for her?

      • Anonymous says:

        I stand corrected and apologize. It was unecessary and short-sighted of me to allow my personal opinion of the family to overshadow the suffering of the girls involved.

        Protecting the innocence of children is the primary responsibility of all those invoved in this situation.

    • Cheryl P says:

      Anonymous…..your post doesn’t even warrant my time to reply. As it was once said, “ignorance is bliss”.

  41. Phil Walsh says:

    The Evil One wants more than anything for this to be kept quiet. Be strong and of good courage and continue to speak the truth. After returning from the field to blow the whistle on other horrible crimes we discovered, the leader of the mission told me then that when he investigates he “drills all the way to the bottom.” However, he and others then began to do everything in their powers to keep any investigation from going forward. This will all finally be brought to light because that is the loving thing to do. It isn’t love to try to keep things hidden. Those who oppose any investigation are almost always ones who have something to hide themselves.

  42. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    Thank God for Phil Walsh! (Seriously.) Phil, I’m so happy to see that a fellow MK outside my family and one or two others will actually state his name and be counted among those who want truth to be fully revealed. How I wish that more of us would be brave enough to give our real names and say out loud to the rest of the world “I know what he did” and that it STILL MATTERS that these girls get justice. At the risk of hijacking the purpose of the blog, I challenge all my MK childhood friends who support this effort to find out the WHOLE truth and DO something about it to state your name here, please, and be counted among those who did not stand silent. You don’t have to agree with everything that has been said, but be counted among those who will not let the sins of a past generation go unnoticed. Let’s see this thing through because it breaks the heart of God that we, as children of dedicated missionaries, were not considered valuable enough by the home office to PROTECT.

  43. Aunt Barb B. says:

    [Was going to wait until tomorrow to post this, but maybe I'll just go ahead now.]

    Malumghat was, in my mind at least, one big happy family where people felt free and safe. Especially the children, including the girls, especially compared with the city where we normally lived. The busy adults, particularly the “hospital” people, so involved in ministering to the local people, were “Aunt” or “Uncle” to all the children regardless of whose they were. Everyone looked out for each other, a family. There was trust, I felt, from the time we arrived in 1981. It was a happy place for everyone, wasn’t it?

    It was a nice day at Malumghat, on the morning that I remember. I’m not even sure what year. I remember a few things, most of it I don’t remember. I was staying in house 10, sleeping in the absent parents’ bedroom at night (can’t remember if my husband was with me or just came for the weekend as sometimes happened), watching out for the girls (as closely as early teens needed watched there) while their parents were gone, I don’t remember where the parents had gone. I almost want to say they were in America for an emergency, but I don’t remember. Maybe they were only in Dhaka, but in my memory, they were far away and not returning for a few more days. I was supposed to be looking out for the girls in the absence of their parents.

    The youngest one, I think, anyway one of those being spoken of on this blog, was sick in bed on the morning I remember. Maybe a fever? Sick enough that I felt the need to call the doctor about it. Not sick enough that I couldn’t leave her for a few minutes for something. What, I don’t remember. Maybe I was also doing temporary Guest House duty so had run up there in the car. Not sure. I remember pulling back up to the house to go in the back door to the bedroom area. That is pretty clear in my mind. I’m not sure if I met the doctor there outside, but for some reason the outside back door that morning is quite clear in my mind. Maybe we stood and spoke of the patient’s diagnosis. Not sure. I think I entered the house from that direction, at any rate I went directly to the small bedroom on the left inside the back door to see how my ill charge was doing. I’d left with her sick in bed . The doctor had just left. She was crying. She was sobbing. Somewhat puzzled, I sat down on the side of the bed to try to comfort her to see what was wrong. She cried and cried. Trying to figure out what was wrong with this normally bubbly, happy girl, who was now having a meltdown, I concluded that perhaps because she’s sick she suddenly misses her parents very much. Though she hadn’t exhibited that sort of “homesickness” before, I assumed that, and proceeded to try to comfort her on that basis since she wouldn’t tell me anything else. I hugged her and prayed with her and stayed with her, sitting on her bed, until she calmed down. End of memory.

    Facts: The girl’s parents were away. I had responsibility for her. The girl was sick that day. I went out for a time. The doctor came and examined her with no other person present in the room or in the back half of the house. The doctor left. I returned. The girl was distraught immediately after the doctor left. She cried for some time, being difficult to calm down.

    Later, how much later I’m not certain, but when the issue blew up I remembered and had to think, “Did something bad go on that day when she’d been sick in bed and he came and examined her, alone, in her bedroom? If something bad had happened, was it the first time? Is it my fault that this happened? If it wasn’t the first time, did he purposely come while I wasn’t there?” I don’t know. I don’t know what happened. I wasn’t there. Only she, a young perhaps teen (?), and the 50- ish year old doctor were alone in that bedroom. That much I know for a fact.

    And I’m so sorry that I was so naive. End of my brief memory.

    But…. (to be continued)

  44. Tami Joy says:

    Diana, I wanted to ask your forgiveness. I wasn’t going to come back on here, but the Lord has been doing a work on my heart. While I don’t agree with everything you have said, I feel I left in anger and it was because of you. I am sorry for this. You are only speaking your mind. God has been working on my heart this last day. He has shown me so much grace and shown me my weakness that I had to come back and publicly apologize to you. You are my sister in Christ. Regardless of whether or not I agree with you, it is not my right to criticize. Please forgive me. I say this in front of my other brothers and sisters publicly because I wrongly addressed my anger publicly and I want you to know I am sorry.

    Susannah, my husband told me this morning I needed to hear your reply to me. I was just so broken hearted because I could see friendships that had lasted years being torn apart in this place. That was not the purpose of this blog. I know this. Blogs can be difficult things and it was very brave of you even to post a public forum. I had been in the Word this morning and had been asking the Lord to help release me from my frustration and fears. My dearest husband got on here to check it out and he said, “Babe you need to hear this.” He read your reply. What grace you exhibited to me in my sin of anger! I laughed and cried all at the same time. Thank you for that. Still praying, still learning.

  45. Tim Barrick says:

    Wow. This has definitely been a shocker. I had no clue all these years. I have always viewed my experiences in Bangladesh–and Malumghat in particular–as one of the greatest times in my life. A great childhood adventure in the jungle. And, I have viewed all those who were there as missionaries with me (adults and children) as one great, loving, extended family. Heaven on earth. Oh, how sadly mistaken I have been. Little did I know that there was a wolf in sheep’s clothing prowling in our midst. And, worse, that some of my fellow MKs were victims in his snare. I am saddened that others’ memories of their time there is a nightmare instead of the happy time that it should have been. My view of this utopia has now been shattered.

    But, I am thankful to now know the truth and to be able to grow in wisdom and understanding by realizing just how dangerous and unsuspecting the wolf in sheep’s clothing can be. I, for one, am supportive of this site and its intent. In time, all things will come to light and will no longer be hidden. Whether now or in heaven, we will all know the full truth—however awful it may be.

    First, for all my sisters in Christ who were victims, my heart goes out to you and I pray that you will be comforted and healed. Know that you are loved and supported. And, I pray that any shame or guilt that you may feel will be washed away–it is unfounded. You were the victim of a predator who was on the hunt. It is not your fault. I pray that God will give you wisdom in knowing how to proceed. Be strong and courageous, for God is with you and will strengthen you.

    Second, for ABWE, I also pray that you will be guided by God in how to rightly respond to this tragic episode in the mission’s history. It is clear from this blog that the actions taken both against Dr. Ketcham and in support of his victims were insufficient. Speaking as one who is also responsible for administering justice, I can appreciate the complexity of this case and its challenges. Shedding light on the truth to expose the evil that was done in secret is both just and inevitable. It is my hope that you will find a way to set things right. Enabling Dr. Ketcham to transition out of the mission board without punitive actions against him for his crime was wrong. In my profession, we have sent people to prison for extensive multi-year sentences for child pornography alone. A single case as described here could easily result in 10+ years in prison, loss of entitlements and a dishonorable discharge. I know that ABWE does not have that kind of authority. But, the board should have recognized it for what it was and taken legal action against him–upholding an even higher standard than the world. Just because we are advancing the cause of the Gospel does not mean that we are above the law—nor does Christian compassion, mercy and forgiveness remit a requirement to prosecute in order to administer justice and impose consequences. Rather than silencing the victims, the mission board should have been acting on their behalf to ensure that justice was served and others were protected. I can appreciate why there was a desire to keep such an explosive scandal under wraps for the sake of protecting the mission’s reputation with the people and government in Bangladesh and with churches in the United States. But, the secret is now in the open. The mission board’s reputation, as well as Dr. Ketcham’s, is going to be tarnished both because of his crime and the way in which it was handled. The emphasis on secrecy clearly had long term ramifications for the victims and their families. Furthermore, it enabled Dr. Ketcham to move on “peacefully”—and, based on the allegations presented in this blog—potentially to have committed further crimes against other victims. For that, I agree that ABWE should take deliberate action to rectify this situation. I pray that those who are now at the helm of ABWE will be granted wisdom to know what to do.

    As for substantiating any actual wrong doing by Dr. Ketcham, I do not have anything to offer which would contribute to a case against him. While I initially did not think I would make a post because of that, I decided instead to offer my thoughts above. One, to express my shock, sadness, sympathy and support to those who have been hurt by this. And, two, to express my concern over the mission board’s handling of this over the years, and to encourage them to set things right.

  46. Kristen (Martin) Nelson says:

    My heart is breaking over this news. Some of you I remember, but you may not remember me, and some I never had the chance to meet. My family came to Bangladesh on a short-term mission trip right when Ketchams were leaving. My mom helped Aunt Kit pack. I cannot imagine the pain of carrying the truth around for so many years and being told not to say anything. I am so angry at the cover-up and deceit of ABWE and how this has impacted so many people. I am so sorry.

    I am praying for healing and peace for all of you. I pray that more people will have the courage to share their story, and that you will know that you are not alone, and you have the love and support of so many people. I pray that you will believe and accept that what happened to you is not your fault. I pray for wisdom for those closest to you, that they will know when to speak, what to say, and when to be silent and just be there.

    I pray that ABWE will deal with this appropriately, though I’m not exactly sure what this looks like. What I do know is that true repentance involves admission of the entire truth, and then willingness to do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust that has been shattered and to prove that their repentance is real.

    Psalm 62:5-8 has been a wonderful reminder for me of where my hope should lie. He knows your pain, and He alone can heal. We can rest in His arms, pouring out our hearts to Him. “For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be shaken. On God rests my salvation and my glory; my mighty rock, my refuge is God. Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us.”

    Thank you for your courage.

    Kristen

  47. patricia says:

    * Russell E. Ebersole Jr. D.D.
    In reading your letter dated September 18, 1989, it is clear that you knew the “sin” of Dr Ketcham and still you brazenly asked for prayer and monetary support for Dr. Ketcham and his family! No request of prayers or monetary support for the victim and her family were expressed.
    The buck stops with you, pal! Obviously, Dr. Ketcham’s problem was presented to you! You had a chance to help your friend, Dr. Ketcham. This was your opportunity to make a strong difference in a man’s life and in the mission world. You were given a chance to help heal little girls, with Godly response. The victims (because you know there is more than one victim) needed you, as did Dr. Ketcham. You failed, Mr. Russel E. Ebersole Jr. Doctor of Divinity!
    There will always be “problems”, “sins” and “upsets”. God showed us that it is the response to those “problems”, “sins” and “upsets” where the integrity of man will be revealed.
    I will sincerely pray that the glory (core, character and essence) of God find a solution for all.

  48. Cindy Adolph Smith says:

    My precious friends and victims, I am so tired of lies and cover ups. There has been an unseen wedge in many relationships because of silence. I am so sad to hear how much was going on around me! I just want you to know I believe you and am behind you. Malumghat was/is home to me. I have many precious friends and memories, but it also holds some hurts and fears for me. I pray that the truth will help heal and that this will continue to help others that have been suffering silently. So sad that we put God in a box and didn’t trust HIM to take care of HIS ministries and faithful servants. God IS TRUTH so how can we serve HIM with lies. My mind and heart is overwhelmed, so I won’t continue right now. I just wanted you to see another name on here, even though I have contacted some of you individually. Don’t fear the freedom that comes from truth, fear the power and destruction of satan’s lies. I pray that we would all be bathed in prayer, that God would put a hedge of protection around us as we seek truth and justice. “I lift up mine eyes to the hills from whence cometh my help, my help comes from the Lord..”

  49. Jeny Martin says:

    I’m not an MK and I’ve been hesitant to write since I’m not directly affected. However, I am a close friend, Stateside who witnessed the aftermath of this man’s crime.
    Growing up, my best friend and her family were missionaries to Bangladesh. My dear friend’s sister is one of the doctor’s victims, though at the time we didn’t know it. We were just told that something horrible had happened and we weren’t to talk about it. My family did what little we could to help but there was so much we didn’t know; so many dark, poisonous secrets were unwillingly kept. Bit by bit we watched as this precious girl’s life fell apart . . . knowing something was horribly wrong . . . witnessing the pain and stress that tore at her family . . . praying for deliverance . . . not really knowing fully the depths of the wound. It wasn’t until later that my friend revealed to me what had happened to her sister, and over the years I slowly learned of the questionable action and lack thereof on the part of ABWE.

    I truly believe that the positive steps that are being taken now are not unbiblical. Though action comes at long last, it is in God’s perfect timing. The victims and families are not lashing out emotionally, but are rather being professionally and lovingly guided by the folks at G.R.A.C.E.
    Had this been handled correctly from the beginning, these women may very well have been able to heal and put this part of their lives behind them. But it wasn’t and they deserve to be heard – no matter how much time has gone by, no matter how much forgiveness they’ve been able to extend. They deserve to be able to tell their story, and they deserve an apology from their abuser for the actual crimes. Will they get that? I don’t know, but I sincerely hope so.

    Sweet beautiful girl, perfect and pure and most beloved of God, did you hear me?
    You deserve to tell your story and be heard, no matter what people think. This crime against you was not your fault. Whether you receive justice in this life or the next, your Heavenly Father will give you justice. He does not take lightly the injury of His child.
    Isaiah 61:8 “ For I, the LORD, love justice;
    I hate robbery for burnt offering;
    I will direct their work in truth,
    And will make with them an everlasting covenant.

    Even now, you are that little girl – in many ways unable to move beyond, frozen in time, aged 12 – your childhood was stolen from you. It matters. It matters to me and to everyone who has posted. It matters to your family and it matters to God.
    I’m sure this is very difficult, to write your story. It opens old wounds. But in order for a wound to heal, God must take you back to that very wound. Give it to Him and let Him make beauty for ashes. Tell your story so that one more girl might be saved.

    You are beautiful. You are so very brave.
    Thank you Susannah for opening the door of discussion so the poison of the secrets kept may be finally purged.

    • Jeny Martin says:

      I’d like to offer one more thing. I’ve just read the two letters Susannah posted from the doctor himself and from Dr. Ebersole. The confession of the sin is so vague, one inevitably assumes that it must have been an affair – between consenting adults.
      Infidelity is not a crime and so therefore if consenting adults are caught in it, are repentant and “submit to the authority of the home church as regards any discipline they see appropriate and start counseling immediately so there must not be an recurrence of this sin,” it would be sufficient to be handled by the church – even biblical.
      However, we are not talking about infidelity. This was not an affair between consenting adults. This was an adult abusing a minor, several minors. Molestation. Pedophilia. Rape. This is a crime and is therefore beyond the bounds of the church. Christians have no right to expect protection from the church for criminal behavior and lawful consequences. Christians have no right to extend this kind of protection. In this instance and cases like it,”submitting to the authority of the home church as regards any discipline they see appropriate” should have most definitely begun with “full disclosure to the appropriate persons,” a truthful and complete confession and apology and completed by turning oneself in to the proper authorities to accept the consequences and inevitable prosecution.

      It is shameful that abusers are protected within the church under the guise of “church discipline” and allowed to give fake or less than truthful confessions, keep their status and . . . possibly – probably- continue abusing.
      How many more little girls were abused since the doctor’s return to family practice in Michigan? I shutter to think.

  50. perplexed says:

    First I want to thank Susannah for being so brave and reaching out to other victims and their families during this heartbreaking time. I have a family member that was a victim of Donn K. and have had to watch her whole life self destruct in front of my eyes. If you have not had to go through something like this…praise God! It has put our family through hell and I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

    Personally I too deal with recurring nightmares that come weekly and have been for decades. I wake up in a panic and fortunately have a husband who is understanding. I don’t remember personally having been abused by him but do know that while on the mission field I knew NEVER to be alone with him in a room.(noone told me…I just felt it.) I feared him and was terrified to the point of being sick when we had to go for physicals. This is all I remember and my heart goes out to all of those hurting right now.

    • Victim no. ? says:

      To “anonymous” who said that no one else will come out because there are no more…HERE I AM! You are wrong! AND, I personally know a number of others girls with EXACTLY the same story as me! It’s time to open your eyes and realize what happened many years ago has affected MANY of us for the rest of our lives…some more than others! I often wondered why the children of my generation who grew up at Malumghat were so “sexually aware” at such a young age! I have children of my own, and I have NEVER seen or heard then act out or talk about things that we did as young children! Where did we learn this from? We had no TV, no radio, no magazines, no books, very little outside influence, yet alot of us were very sexually aware WAY before we should have been. Reading the comments, there seems to be a recurring theme. Nightmares, hazy memories, DK doing our physicals (alone alot of the time) being terrified of him and not knowing exactly why. I could go on and on, describe what happened to me etc…but I wont. Suffice it to say, I have raised daughters, taken them for many a physical, seen how physicals are “supposed” to be performed, and it slowly started to sink in that what happened to me as a child was nothing short of child molestation. It is what it is! Having said all that, I have personally reached a point in my life where I have forgiven the perpetrator….he will, someday, face the Ultimate Judge, and that is good enough for me. My prayer is that we can ALL heal through this, give God the glory, and live out the rest of our lives for Him!

  51. Ray Sanford says:

    I have been following this blog with great interest for a week now and it is always interesting to see what kind of people come out of the woodwork during this kind of crisis – both good and bad. Although there have been a few comments that have made my blood boil, it really does warm my heart to see how much support and love has been shown during these dark times.

    I have been going back and forth as to whether I even have a right to post anything as I am not an ABWE MK, I have never set foot in Bangladesh, I have never even met Dr. Ketcham (and I hope I never do), but after much consideration I feel there are a couple of reasons why I should write, if nothing more than to give my support.

    The first reason I am writing is that while I may not be an ABWE MK, I am an MK and it breaks my heart to hear about these kinds of atrocities being committed by a “man” of God. The mission field is scary enough for kids without them having to face the horrors of rape and abandonment. Someone previously had the audacity to post a comment about this blog being the angry rants of a single family that got screwed – perhaps that isn’t far from the truth. Our MK family has been screwed! A pedophile has been allowed to continue living a consequence-free life of comfort, free to continue molesting children; a mission board has tried as best they could to sweep this “unpleasant matter” under the rug; and countless people and families are left trying to piece back the shattered remains of their broken lives! All of us MK’s may not be blood-related, but we have a unique bond that goes beyond blood. This IS my family that has been torn apart and yes, I do feel like we have been screwed! I just want everyone to know that support for what you are doing goes far beyond the ABWE family – we stand behind you and will support you in any way that we can.

    The second reason I am writing is that this situation has affected me personally and has been for many years now. People that I know and love have been hurt and torn down as a direct result of a) Dr. Ketcham’s child abuse, and b) by ABWE’s culture of silence. My family has had to bear much pain as a direct result of a) Dr. Ketcham’s child abuse, and b) by ABWE’s culture of silence. My marriage has been negatively affected as a direct result of a) Dr. Ketcham’s child abuse, and b) by ABWE’s culture of silence. The ripples that have made their way into my life may be small in comparison to those who have had the courage to post their stories on this blog (and those who have yet to come forward), but I am none the less tired of dealing with the repercussions of events that should have been dealt with and where justice should have been served many, many years ago.

    To ABWE I would like to say that there is no shame in owning up to ones mistakes and it is never too late to right a past wrong. I can understand how important it is to keep an unblemished image when your whole existence depends on charitable donations, but my understanding is in no way an approval for the way this was handled. What was done is wrong. Is God not big enough to overcome a tarnished image? How many more children’s lives need to be destroyed before you take action? – this is not a rhetorical question: I am literally wondering what that number is. To the members of the board: is this how you would handle things if your daughter was raped? Would you slap the perpetrator on the wrist and then send him on his way with your blessing and monetary support?! It is time for a new era for ABWE. It is great that the mission has started a child protection program, but how can any faith be put in this program when there is such a history of muffling out the voices of victims that are crying out? The program is a good first step, but it can’t be a substitute for righting these past wrongs.

    You all have my prayers and support. God is bigger than all of this and in one way or another, his justice and glory will prevail.

  52. Typhoid Mary says:

    I have a question for my fellow MKs. A disturbing enough number of us have the same memory of “illness”:

    1. Staying in the Ketcham home while our parents were in another part of the country.
    2. Becoming suddenly ill and barely conscious–which was diagnosed immediately by Donn as typhoid.
    3. Remaining in a half-conscious state for several days, being cared for only by Donn and Kitty.

    As for myself, I magically got better when my mother showed up. As for another, she was actually placed into Donn’s bed beside him and told to rest there.

    Are these things coincidences because Aunt Kitty welcomed guests with open arms and Donn was a physician and we were surrounded by germs?

    Or are they eerie indications that we were drugged with something like rohypnol, which causes gastrointestinal distress, feelings of extreme hot and cold (like a fever), dizziness (again, just like the flu or another bug), and–of course–severe memory lapses in addition to very little consciousness.

    I find these fact about this drug and others like it chilling.

    Please, if you also mysteriously fell ill while staying in their home or in close proximity to them (as a third friend did), say so here or let GRACE know your story.

  53. Don't Put the Victims or Their Families on Trial says:

    I’m sick of a very special and God-fearing family being put on trial on this blog–some posts were deleted, others left in an effort to let both “sides” speak.

    But let’s talk about some things as a “mission family”, folks, because most of us on this blog know each family being discussed quite well, either how they were 20 years ago or how they are today.

    1. Every family on that mission field had flaws, because all of us have flaws. We are not perfect parents and neither were our parents. Plus, we all sin.

    2. Any and all accusations made about a particular victim are events that happened AFTER the abuse and subsequent mishandling, cover-up and what I would term “spiritual abuse” took place: i.e., don’t talk about it, forgive and forget, move on or the gospel will suffer.

    3. Victims of sexual abuse frequently become targets of other abusers. For some, being a victim of abuse is like putting a stamp on your forehead for others sickos who like young girls, and that stamp says: “Look at me. I’m afraid to speak up and easily manipulated. Give me a try.” It’s sad.

    4. Victims of sexual abuse frequently become either sexually frigid or sexually promiscuous because the abuse affects the way they see themselves and the way they view sex. That’s just the way it is. The sinful perversion pushed onto them distorts their way of approaching what God meant to be a beautiful thing. Without healing in this area (which almost always involves proper handling and counseling) we can’t expect much more from victims than one of these responses. Have some women overcome despite the odds? Yes. But let’s not bash too harshly on the ones who don’t.

    5. Victims of sexual abuse often blame themselves, especially if they are shamed (i.e., “hushed” about the event). This leads to depression and anxiety and harming of their own bodies and even suicide attempts. Imagine what this is like to live with. What this is like for their families.

    6. Just Google these things or interact with a family who has dealt with this. They will all tell you the same story, Christian or not. I’m not making this up on the spot.

    7. What do you think it’s like to be a sibling of someone going through everything I’ve listed above? You are going to feel anxiety. You are going to feel pain. You are going to be the target of anger that can’t go anywhere else. You are going to try to do what’s right, but it’s going to be tough.

    8. Add to all of these things the fact that spiritual abuse took place: A family in pain was given awful advice and council in regard to dealing with this. The advice from their trusted spiritual advisors and people who held their paychecks and the key to them being able to live out their dream of serving God in Bangladesh was: “Don’t talk about it. Don’t talk about it. Don’t talk about it. Forgive and forget.”

    9. This is one of the most loving families I’ve ever known in my life. They have always prayed and done what they thought was best and always loved and trusted others to love them in return. If they are guilty of anything it is loving and respecting too much. I’m sure along the way there were mistakes and there were also things done right. But people picking away at their family is one of the biggest reasons families stay silent on these issues.

    10. Picking away at families is easy. Wanna pick away at mine? If I told you my name, you’d have a hey day. But no one in my family has ever been caught molesting a child. That’s the difference between my family, this family and the Ketcham family.

    11. Anyone who dares attack the behavior and character of the known victims on this board for things that they did after being abused sexually and spiritually and emotionally, needs to check their own heart and see if they have lost all compassion and mercy for those in terrible pain.

    12. What would your little junior high daughter or grand daughter be like if she was made to do the things these victims did and was manipulated in such a way? (BTW Answers of “never my kid” or “she would forgive and move on” are just wishful thinking. Ask ANY family who has been through it and survived and they will tell you that forgiveness is hard enough without the added agony of no justice and no ability to talk and process what happened in a healthy way.)

    Stop putting the victims and their families on trial here.

    • Rhonda Archibald says:

      I humbly thank “Don’t put the victims or their families on trial” for posting these points.

      You ladies are very courageous and we weep for you and pray for what justice can be done at this late date.

  54. Carepear says:

    this is all so wrong. god says we should forgive endlessly. that is what we need to do. donn ketcham wrote that letter with a heart of repentance…and he said what he did. he was forgiven by the blood of jesus…this is satans tools to ruin what he has done to fix all his sin and restore who he and his wife are. i happen to know them well and i know what happened. this is all lies. satan is winning and you will be judged for this. this is wrong. may god be glorified through the life of a man who lived for god…not pefectly…for neither did david…but he was a man after god’s own heart.

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      This is actually not all lies, Carepear. You’ll notice that no one who defends Ketcham has gone by their real name, even you. And yet those of us who accuse him are not ashamed to add our name, because we know what we’re talking about.

      As for defending his confession and repentance, it was incomplete. For his confession: He left off names. For his repentance: You should know he had confessed and repented before of other things, and it didn’t stop him from sinning again. Anyone from Bangladesh field council over the period that Ketchams were there will tell you that.

      You should also know the Ketchams have always appeared to have an amazing marriage to a lot of people. So it’s not impossible that you are deceived. However, if he is restored and his marriage is restored now that’s great. But I ask you …

      Why would a restored alcoholic get a job in a bar? Family medicine? Really? That’s what a restored pedophile goes back to? That’s what true repentance and confession of sins and avoidance of evil looks like in a God-fearing man? It’s just not, and there is no way around that, Carepear. There are others ways he could have supported his family and not exposed himself to temptation, even other ways within his field. But family medicine?

      You can talk forgiveness all you want, but what you don’t understand, Carepear, is how the handling of this and the TOTAL ABSENCE of earthly justice has affected lives, especially the victims. And God cares as much about justice as mercy.

    • DB says:

      I would agree wholeheartedly with you if he had confessed to an affair with an adult. The comparison to David would be exactly right.
      But she was a child. And if you believe that the confession (which is not detailed) was enough to cover that, which apparently a great number of people involved in the incident did, that is truly the problem. Because what he did was commit statutory rape. And what everyone involved did was cover up a crime.
      I believe that misguided application of scripture and accepting and forgiving the faults of those closest to us actually blinds us to real sin. We want to believe they are sorry when they ask for forgiveness. We believe the best of them because we love them. And eventually, without realizing it, we have begun to excuse great evil in the name of Jesus.
      This is exactly why an outside entity like GRACE is critical in a case like this. They can see what we cannot. When I have told a few necessary people this week what happened they are stunned, blown away by the very confession you are defending. Shocked that this has been allowed to be covered up. Devastated that wonderful missionaries were guided into thinking this was the right thing to do.
      But I also want to add that when sin is not dealt with correctly, it not only hurts those who have been sinned against, but it hurts the sinner as well. Not only was this wrongly handled for the victims but also for the one who committed the crime and his family. We do people no favors to forgive in the name of Jesus something that wouldn’t even be tolerated by the vilest of sinners. Confessing in full, asking directly for forgiveness of those he violated and facing the consequences — this is what should have been done. And I really, really hope it is what our churches are teaching today regarding sexual abuse. But I know it isn’t.
      I’m so thankful for GRACE. Every pastor, every Christian ministry leader, needs to be taught how to deal with this biblically and justly and take off the mask of denial. I’m praying for healing for everyone involved. But I’m also praying that there is a massive awakening in Christendom to the need for dragging this stuff into the light.
      The Church is finally catching up to what has been going on in the world for a long time. It used to be that to find help for things no one in church talked about, you had to go outside the church. Ministries like Celebrate Recovery and GRACE offer real help to hurting believers today. We no longer have to bear these terrible burdens alone.
      Yes, forgive. But also, don’t let it happen again. Don’t perpetuate a culture of denial. Deal with sin head on. Or the consequences are devastating for generations.

    • michele says:

      Forgiveness does not negate consequences. If this were so, Christ would never have had to die – God could have just “forgiven” us. God knows Don Ketcham’s heart – whether his repentance was genuine or not; but sincere or not, justice required a consequence. And the victims who have suffered in silence for years, not even sure what had happened to them, alone in their doubts and fears, need to finally have the support of fellow victims – to know they are not alone, they are not crazy, they are loved! I care for and cry for all of you!

  55. I was once blind and oblivious like you... says:

    Carepear –
    I am sorry you have been so blinded by his charisma and charm. When the whole truth of this story comes out and you heart is truly broken and you wonder if you can ever trust again, be comforted in the fact that you are one among many who have been deceived. You are not alone. We’ll be here for you then.
    Love,
    Someone who was like you at one time, but has had my eyes opened to the truth of this matter again…..and again….and again….and again….and again……………………………………

  56. Is Carepear is Nickname for you? says:

    I hope Carepear is not his affectionate little nickname for you…because he gave one to each of us.

  57. Linda (Walsh) Zylstra says:

    I am writing in, not as one of the abuse victims, but as the sister to two of them. This is something our family has been dealing with for years! We have done everything we can think of to bring justice to our sisters who have suffered beyond imagination with what has happened to them. We confronted the abuser who denied everything (he’s only admitted to what he was caught doing). We looked into the legal system to see if we could have him convicted of this crime (very difficult with it being done in a foreign land, many years ago, with no evidence except for the memories). We went to the mission lawyer to see what was being done to make sure that this would not happen again (and were reassured that they were doing everything within their power to keep this from happening again). My sisters are getting help, thanks to the mission, and we’ve gotten to the point where we have had to put it in God’s hands with the confidence that He will someday right all wrongs, comfort and bring healing to those who’ve been hurt, and bring justice to those who have been unjust… Trust me, I’ve thought often about bringing this to the media and blowing the whole thing out of the water, but our family is in a very difficult spot with our families now joined in marriage (my sweet cousin to his son, who is like a brother to us) and several family members actively serving God with the mission (two other sisters and their husbands). We don’t want it to be about their family members (we love his kids and wife and our hearts go out to them because of what he has done) or about the mission (who has done more than most of you realize) but about him and what he has done to his victims. I would like this blog to help other victims realize that they are not alone and to help them be able to share their stories and deal with their pain but it seems to have taken a turn in another direction…

    Here are some other thoughts that we (other family members) have had that I’m posting on their behalf:
    We believe each victim …no matter how small or hazy the memory. We stand with you and love you, even if we don’t know you all personally.

    We believe that the 14-year-old victim was the last Bangladesh MK to be molested but the first to tell the story of her abuse and we applaud her bravery! We honestly believe that the document she signed was not for admitting HER guilt but was providing concrete proof of HIS guilt in this instance. She IS NOT nor ever HAS BEEN the guilty party in her abuse.

    As best we can tell from the MK’s we know were abused, the other abuses occurred in the 2 or 2 1/2 decades PRIOR to the 14-year-old MK coming forward with her story in 1989 and it has taken about a decade from 1989 for us to start hearing from others who thought they might have been abused. These victim stories are continuing to arise up to the present date. The 14 year old did us a great service by starting to let light into a place shrouded in darkness.

    NO ONE (families of victims, field personnel, or ABWE) knew of these earlier abuses until YEARS later when, as is typical with abuse victims, their memories, nightmares, or fragments of memories begin to return. Each victim’s family only knew that somewhere in the child’s past, their life had taken a dark turn. NO ONE at that time suspected a trusted “uncle”. In that day and age, it was unheard of and it was never even a passing thought in anyone’s mind. Even the man’s own wife did not see it! Like Aunt Barb B posted, we were naive and ignorant. Many have dealt with such guilt over not having suspected ANYTHING. Hindsight is 20/20. Still…we beat ourselves up over the past. To Diana Durrill: No victim’s family has been “blacklisted” from the ABWE circle, especially your family! Call anyone from within “the circle” and you’ll find only love, compassion, tears, and hugs. To “Don’t put the victims or their families on trial”…WELL SAID! We agree.

    Those that were in ABWE leadership in 1989 have either passed away or have long-since retired. The new ABWE president and new administration “inherited” an issue that was 11 years in the past at that time and supposedly dealt with. Being an MK and with a deep love and concern for MK’s, at the 2002 Missionary Enrichment conference Dr. Loftis held a welcome home to all ABWE MK’s to re-engage them with the mission. It was at this conference, a bunch of Bangladesh MK’s gathered together and talked. These MK’s began to question why so many MK’s from one field (Bangladesh) were “messed up”. The name of DK came up. Alarmed at what he was hearing, Dr. Loftis jumped into action and set ABWE’s legal counsel on the case to investigate. He also provided a conduit for MK’s to contact ABWE and offered counseling to those present that wanted it. We know of at least two who took them up on their offer.

    We personally sat with ABWE’s legal counsel to hear from his own mouth what ABWE was doing to delve into the Donn K 1989 issue. This is what he reported: Every pertinent state was contacted to check on their laws regarding child abuse, pressing charges, etc. Not one state (including PA, MI, CA, GA, VA, and IN) could prosecute due to the offense occurring out of the USA. No lawyer would take such case. The state laws also require a victim to file their charges within 3 years of the abuse or of remembering concrete facts regarding the abuse. Each state also has a definition of rape as male organ penetration. Anything else is considered “sexual assault” and doesn’t carry the legal weight that rape would. To accuse DK of rape, it would have to fit the state’s definition. This makes it difficult (if not impossible) for victims with less-than-concrete evidence. ABWE has no intention of protecting or helping DK. He was not “allowed” to return home to work…he was forced to. He was reported to the Michigan medical board and his employer. The Michigan Medical Board told ABWE’s legal counsel that the safeguards and procedures now in place at the workplace would not allow for the abuse problem to occur. When DK applied for membership at a church, the pastor called and the mission informed him of DK’s abuse of children and recommended to the church that they institute all the child protective safe guards available to them. Should DK move to a different church, the mission intends to follow up with additional phone calls. He will not “fall off” the radar screen as far as ABWE is concerned. DK has confessed to the transgressions he was caught in and has supposedly asked for forgiveness; however, he DENIES all other accusations. The termination from ABWE meant that DK had to give up all the rights and privileges associated with being a missionary with the organization. ABWE, however, could not legally prevent other churches or organizations from allowing DK to speak in their pulpits or serve on their boards, much as they tried. To Rachel: ABWE has no control over who forgave DK, who disbelieved the mission, and who chose to hire DK even after knowing what he confessed to. He is NOT an honored member of the extended ABWE family, yet some ABWE family members have chosen to remain his friend. Also, DK cannot be added to the nation’s sex offender list because it was only instituted in 2006 and the offender must have been CONVICTED of a sexual crime.

    One final thought… using the term “ABWE” as the negligent, incompetent, unGodly bad guy is painting with too broad of a stroke. The ax should not be taken to the “tree” (ABWE) but rather, the pruning scissors to a limb or two. If you understand the operation of the organization, 99% of ABWE (the secretaries, gift entry people, finance folks, missionaries in over 70 countries, maintenance people, IT people, etc. etc.) have NO idea about this issue, have never spoken of this issue, and just do their jobs as unto the Lord. When an issue occurs on a field, typically only a handful of people from the Home Office know about it. This would include the regional administrator, the president, the field leader, the sending church pastor/s and possibly one or two others (counselor, lawyer). Due to confidentiality laws, these things are not bandied about in the hallways and information is not given to anyone who is not part of the problem or solution. The 1% who were involved in handling the Donn Ketcham matters are the ones who need to respond on behalf of themselves.

    We hope these thoughts will help in understanding more about the whole situation… Our thoughts and prayers go out to all those involved in this…

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Linda, thank you for coming forward with your story. I do understand that it is very personal for you because of your ties to victims and the Ketcham family.

      However, I must disagree that ABWE has done what is right, and I actually doubt they ever did the legal checking about prosecution that they claimed they did. Just yesterday Tony Beckett sent churches a denial letter of any wrongdoing that is unbelievable and repeated the lie that DK was handled correctly. If Michael Loftis was doing what was right when he heard from those of you who were there on that day you shared with us, don’t you think a letter would have gone to every Bangladesh family, every Bangladesh MK they could find, saying, “There were more victims than I realized and I understand that this was mishandled by the former administration. Please talk to your children and find out if they too were victims of this man. Were you a victim of this man?”

      We never got a letter like that. No one did. Because all ABWE–administration leaders now, administration leaders then–has EVER cared about is damage control.

      Please don’t buy into the lie that covering for a man sins is saving the work of the gospel, as time has proven in this case it is only hurting it. Things will be much worse now, much more public, much more ugly, and it is only because human beings thought it was their job to protect God’s reputation by shushing those who would step forward and say that another Christian had committed a crime.

      • Sick-at-heart says:

        I’m sick at what I’m reading and learning here. My heart is breaking for these women and their families and for being forced into silence.

        I’m not aware of the e-mail that you mentioned that was sent to churches yesterday by Tony Beckett. If you have a copy, could you please post it?

        I did read an e-mail sent by Tony yesterday, but I did not perceive it as a denial of wrongdoing. I’m guessing you are speaking of another letter.

    • Dave DeCook says:

      Linda Walsh Zylstra, thanks for providing a bit more of the history with ABWE. It is easy to condemn inaction when one doesn’t know the good actions that were taken. Your comments raised my respect for the ABWE leadership. The ABWE website at http://www.abwe.org/news/article/abwe-responds-to-mks-blog/ seems to take an open, listening approach. I hope they believe more can be done.

    • Katie says:

      I appreciate the well thought out comments. It called that which was sin, sin. Gave grace to those who knew nothing. Displayed no bitterness, but weeps with those who weep.

  58. On Forgiveness says:

    So if I understand Carepear correctly, then Christian forgiveness is supposed to absolve all consequences of committing sin? Is that what you think? If someone commits murder or rape and we forgive them then that person should not get any punishment for their crimes? Really?

    There is a distinct difference between individually forgiving someone and that person also being held accountable for their actions. This is not a hard concept to understand. We do it in parenting all the time. Our kids can tell us their sorry and we forgive them but there are still consequences imposed as punishment for their actions. If there are never any consequences for breaking the law, imagine the world we would live in.

    This is not an issue of forgiveness. It is a matter of being held accountable. Same with ABWE. The hypocrisy of ABWE in how they handled this case is appalling–even by the world’s standards. It is for the organization’s own good that they rectify this situation. If they do not do it on their own, they will find that once this fully breaks and gets national media attention, there crediblity as an organization will be completely tarnished. If they have not figured that out yet, then they are truly blind.

  59. Brian Smith says:

    Carepear and ALL of those who are ‘Blinded to the TRUTH’:

    I was not going to post due to the fact that it was not my daughter, sister, or even wife that was a victim in this horrible crime and sin that has been committed. However, the more I read and the more I see how many people are blinded by the ‘good’ that someone does, I cannot keep silent any longer

    For those who know Donn and his post mission field life, I have no doubt you might think that he is a wonderful and even godly man. However, just confessing that he had disqualified himself from service as a missionary to his supporting churches, is not asking forgiveness from his victims and his victims’ families. If he was truly repentant and searched for forgiveness, he would have started with the victims. For those who think that the victims and their families need to forgive whether or not Donn has asked for it or not, need to read and understand what the Bible says about forgiveness. Yes, if we repent and ask for forgiveness than Christ will forgive. If we never repent and ask for forgiveness, there will be no forgiveness given. If God will not forgive without someone asking, why would He require it of us? Are we greater than Him? I think not. If Donn is truley repentent and will contact all of his victims and their families and ask for forgiveness, I will be the first to offer that forgiveness to him, but we have not seen that yet. I agree that as Christians we should be the first to offer forgiveness to those who have fallen, but only if the fallen have truly repented. We are never to close our eyes to sin in order to offer forgiveness.

    Another disturbing fact, is that Donn is still practicing as a family physician! If he is such a great man and has godly character, why does he still have a practice? I am pretty sure that child sex offenders are not allowed to have a position where they deal with children. I know that if a teacher molests a child, they are no longer qualified to work with children. If he has the character, as stated in some of the earlier posts, he should resign from his practice. Not only did he disqualify himself from ministry (as per the letter stated) but he also disqualified himself from the medical field. It does not make sense to allow a man to continue in the same occupation that allowed him to take advantage of his victims (ABWE you are responsible for allowing him to continue in medicine and not reporting it). I know that if a person is a recovering alcoholic, he doesn’t spend every night in a bar. I am concerned that there have been more victims since the last victim in Bangladesh.

    As for ABWE, I have no respect for your organization or the leaders that have not properly dealt with this situation. I don’t want to hear from anyone else, that “all this coming out is going to ‘hinder’ the great work that ABWE has accomplish”. Just for the record, any damage that comes from this was done over 20 years ago when all this was not taken care of. It is not the victims and their families that are causing this damage. This is the consequences of your sins that are finally catching up to you. It is up to the leaders now to take a stand and make this right. I hope and pray that you will do what is right for the victims, their families, and your organization.

    As for current ABWE missionaries and supporting churches, with this information now out in the open, I ask that if the mission board does not act responsible and correct all of their errors in handling this, that you would have integrity to separate yourself from this organization. I understand that this would not be an easy decision to make, but rarely are the right decisions easy. Character is doing what is right even when it cost you everything.

    To the victims and their families, I pray that God will keep you strong and close to each other. I know that every day is a battle within itself, but remember God is faithful and greater than we can ever imagine.

  60. Confused says:

    Carepear:
    It seems like everyone is focusing on one MK. Did Donn apologize for the other MK’s that have told their story on this blog? If I am reading this right the other MK’s were before the last MK. What about these women who have been betrayed, having problems in their lives and had the strength to put their story on the blog for all to see? My heart bleeds for all those abused and troubled women that have shared their story. Lets be fair and look at the whole picture not just one frame.

  61. Objective Reader says:

    As an objective (by objective I mean that I do not know any of the MK’s or missionaries being referenced) reader of this blog I would like to note several things. First and foremost, the courage it takes to speak out about these things is tremendous so I would like to thank those of you who have been brave enough to step out. You will be in the thoughts and prayers of myself and my family. And as a man and a father I can say that nothing makes me more angry than the fact that these innocent girls were abused. As the facts come to light I am hopeful that the guilty get what they deserve and are unable to do this to anyone else in the future.

    Sometimes we get so angry that we allow those feelings to control us and we start placing blame in area’s where, perhaps, it does not belong. As missionaries we sometimes forget that a “Mission Agency” is not a Biblical establishment but an organazation to assist with the missionary’s goals through experience and credidation. I am shocked that as far as I could tell no one is “bashing” his sending church who is the real authority in this situation. The Book of Acts tells us that the missionary is to submit to the headship of the church and does not establish a precedent for the mission board. Don’t get me wrong, ABWE handled the situation incorrectly if it becomes known that they tried to keep the victims quiet. But as far as him still practicing medicine today, that responsibility falls on his sending church and their leadership. The Bible does teach us that we should try to restore those who are lost in sin, however, that does not mean that we should not protect others who may become his victims.

    I guess all I am trying to say is that we need to keep focus on where the blame falls for the different problems presented on this sight. Dr. Ketchem’s fault/sin is obvious, ABWE should have been more worried about the victims and their families, and Dr. Ketchem’s sending church should have done the right thing and at a minimum reported his crimes to the health department so that no one else could be abused.

    If I have offended anyone in this response I am truly sorry. I appreciate many of the comments on this sight specifically those who stick with Biblical truth. Also, please forgive any spelling errors as I typed this quickly and late at night. Thank you for your time.

    Respectfully Submitted,

    O.R.

    • How It Really Works says:

      You are right, O.R., that in a biblical model the “sending church” would have authority. But that’s not how it works in reality.

      The missionaries do what the mission board tells them to. And at that point in time the bosses were Russ Ebersole over all of the Asian missionaries and then Wendell Kempton over him and the entire organization.

      I assure you, no missionary would go “above” the heads of these two men by saying anything to a sending church, let alone another missionary’s sending church at the risk of going around “the proper channels at ABWE.”

      The churches send the money, the mission controls the money. If you want your paycheck, you answer to your bosses at ABWE, and do what they say.

      Right or wrong, that’s the reality. It was the reality for the missionaries then and it’s the reality for missionaries now, which is why so many are quiet here–they are still ABWE missionaries!

      Also I think you’ll find that every church who supported DK believed they were “a sending church” and how could they do any “church discipline” when Russ Ebersole hardly gave them the truth? Read the letters.

      • The other side... says:

        Are you an ABWE missionary? Is that how you “may” know these things?

      • Objective Reader says:

        How it Really Works,

        I have heard that mission boards do take on more than what they should and the they convince missionaries that they are the “bosses” and not the missions committee at their sending church. I appreciate your real world view on how things were then and may still be now. Knowledge of the past keeps us from repeating it.

        I did read the letters and you can plainly see things were handled incorrectly. It seems that Mr Ebersole was more worried about the financial support and damage to the mission than the victims. Could I ask your opinion (because you seem to be in the know)? What if the head pastor of his sending church were brought in on the meeting when he confessed. Then ABWE cut ties with him and handed him over to his sending church so that they could focus on the victims? I am just wondering if this is the biblical way to handle this situation. Thank you for any input that people can bring to this topic.

        As far as the other comment is concerned I said I “do not” know any of the MK’s or Missionaries. I have never met or talked to or heard of any of the parties involved but heard about the blog from a missionary friend.

  62. Because I was ministering in Russia when this blog began to take off, I had not read all of it and I did not respond. However, now that I am home and have read through the entire blog, I would like to add my “two cents worth.”
    First and foremost, I grieve for the victims of Donn Ketcham. All four of our children have posted on this blog already. I am extremely proud of their support for the victims. The crimes were committed against them. They commit no crime in seeking an open apology from ABWE.
    Second, to any who might still think this is just a bunch of people blowing off steam, these abuses and victims are real.
    Third, forgiveness consists of my refusing my right to hurt the one who hurt me. For nearly 20 years, this is the forgiveness that the victims have shown–they gave up their rights. They trusted others to handle the situation correctly and biblically. They were let down–until now.
    Fourth, forgiveness does not nullify justice. We tell men and women everyday, “You are forgiven, but your sin was a crime, so you need to give yourself up to the legal authorities and take the punishment the law says you deserve. And, if you do not give yourself up, by law we will need to notify the authorities ourselves.” This simple and basic reality of Christian counseling was not followed by ABWE.
    Fifth, there are precedents for dealing with these matters that ABWE has yet to follow. The New Tribes Mission recently began to deal with their own horrific mess with serial child abuse. Evangelical Baptist Mission dealt with a case years ago and the man went to prison. The failure of the Roman Catholic church to deal with pedophiles certainly should be something to go to school on. How can we expect more of them than of our own mission?
    The facts are facts and they are stubborn ones. A serial womanizer engaged in serial immoral affairs became active in serial sexual abuse of minor girls. ABWE knew of the former, but allowed him to remain on the field. When the tip of the iceberg showed on the latter situation, they finally removed him, but failed to follow expulsion with a thorough investigation to see if there were other abuses. They also failed to advise him to report himself to the legal authorities and did not report him themselves. As in the Roman Catholic church cases, the mission can still report him and reveal what they knew.
    Do the doubters still need Scripture? Read Ephesians 5:11-12. And what about Paul’s instruction in 1 Corinthians 5:9-13?
    We demand more of our churches in the execution of church discipline than what was carried out in the Ketcham case. I have faith in our pastors and churches who exercise church discipline and practice sound Christian counseling when they learn of these matters. They will demand that ABWE reflect the churches’ ways in dealing with these matters: (1) Apologize to the victims for the overdue delay and for past mishandling. (2) Discipline the offender publicly–announce clearly the nature of his crimes. (3) Turn the offender and the records of his crimes to the legal authorities, so that they can do a full legal investigation to determine accurately the number of victims and nature of their abuse.
    True Christian love must show itself in unambiguous action, not equivocation and careful wording to protect the mission. In both the Old Testament and the New Testament, God measures true godliness by caring for orphans, widows, and oppressed resident aliens. Likewise, true godliness must act on behalf of these abused MKs. Avoiding the action says two things: (1) We do not love these MKs and (2) we do not trust God to handle the fall out for doing what we know He clearly demands of us.
    How many churches, pastors, supporters, and missionaries are going to still want to be associated with a mission that proclaims those two things by their actions?
    If your church acted like ABWE in such matters, what would you do? If you truly love ABWE, as we have loved ABWE, you must help them see the light and do the right thing. I have written two letters to the mission about this. I will not cease to apply the pressure I can apply through every channel, until they do what is right. May God give them the wisdom, the grace, the love, and the godliness to do what is right with the greatest speed.

    In Christ’s service,
    “Uncle” Bill Barrick

    • Megan Long Powell says:

      As an ABWE Bangladeshi MK, it grieves me to read this blog. I have sat and wept for the names that have been slowly coming forward to speak of this injustice. Names that I have grown up knowing. Names that were “the big girls” that I looked up to, or the girls I wanted to follow in their footsteps. I am deeply saddened at the way this has been handled. Aunt Barb said we were naive & ignorant, and I have been as well. And regardless of how many of you I have never met or only seen your picture or only met your parents–we are still family. This blog, these people, this pain & hurt–this is my family heritage. And I support you, I pray for you, and I commend your bravery.

      Uncle Bill, I am thankful and strengthened by your response (on facebook & this blog). I am thankful that you represent the Godly “uncles” and “aunts” that I have spent my entire life looking up to, those that I wanted to model parts of my life after. I know that we make mistakes. I know that we are fallen. However, there is grace enough. And I’m thankful to you, Uncle Bill, and the other aunts and uncles that have come forward and supported our [extended] family during this time. I am thankful that my admiration is not in vain. For making the mistake is not the problem, it’s how we deal with that mistake, that sin–whether we repent, whether we allow light to reveal what is there, whether we ask others for the help we need. And I feel that, Uncle Bill, your stand is needed, appreciated, and hopefully will give other aunts & uncles the strength they need to live in the light and truth. Thank you for representing the other aunts and uncles so well.

      At the same time, ABWE has been my family too. And regardless of what is true or not true, or what should have been done, or what wasn’t taken care of, it is still hard hear other names that I love and have grown up respecting (Russ Ebersole) torn down so violently.

      I don’t have the answer.

      So.

      I am praying for wisdom of all parties involved–the victims, the families, the leaders of ABWE. There is so much pain involved in this it seems insurmountable, but I am so thankful I have a God that I can cry out to that is bigger than all of this.

      To those who have been abused, to those who have been affected by the abused, to their families, I plead for God’s justice on your behalf. I ask for patience as you wait on God’s good plan. I know He is good. I trust His future and his goodness.

      Thank you to those that have spoken out.

      The truth always wins.

      • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

        Megan, I remember you so well and your sweet smile when you were little. You bring up Russ. Yes, he’s been torn down here, but he knew so much, Megan. And he did so little to protect us. Though I adored him as a child, I have ceased to call him uncle, and this is something I must try to work through and forgive. It gives me a tiny glimpse into the betrayal felt by the courageous women who began this blog.

    • An ABWE MK says:

      You said:
      I have faith in our pastors and churches who exercise church discipline and practice sound Christian counseling when they learn of these matters.

      Do you mean WHO exercise, or TO exercise?

      If you mean TO, I wouldn’t count on it happening. On the Fanda blog I read that there are some home churches of the New Tribes pedophiles that were given the Grace report containing the extensively investigated and validated proof of those missionaries crimes and refuse to believe that this “godly” man did such a thing.

  63. Tim Barrick says:

    There has been a disturbing trend in a few of the above posts which try to absolve Dr. Ketcham of any consequences for his actions based on his purported repentance and a Christian obligation to forgive. Furthermore, the people making these posts then accuse these abused women writing in this blog of being used as pawns of satan because they are finally speaking out.

    To the writers of these posts, I say, “How dare you.”

    It is this exact attitude which led to ABWE imposing a code of silence on the families and their victims. It is this attitude which has shushed these women and their families over the years into silence. Making them suffer knowing that Dr. Ketcham got to go on with his life without any consequences except a peaceful separation from ABWE. In the meantime, they have to live with the emotional wounds his crimes caused. Whenever they have sought justice, they get spiritually abused by people like you who continually tell them they should just forgive and forget. But is that really the Christian thing to do?

    Being forgiven for sin does not mean that we escape sin’s consequences. Nor by forgiving someone do we abdicate our moral responsibilities when we are in positions of authority. Was it really the loving or Christian thing to do to let Dr. Ketcham continue to be given opportunities to commit more sexual crimes by letting him transition from the mission field to a medical practice? Would you want him as your daughter’s doctor knowing what he has done? Is it truly loving to perpetuate the suffering of his victims by shushing them every time they try to speak about this? What if YOU were his victim and YOU were being shushed and YOU were then told that YOU were a pawn of satan for not simply forgiving?

    You are yet again trying to shush these women into silence and using the title of Christian forgiveness as your banner. What you are missing is that maintaining silence on this subject is absolutely not the loving thing to do, nor the right thing to do, nor the just thing to do, nor the Christian thing to do. God is not only a God of love, but He is also a just and holy God. And He can be filled with a righteous anger for harm caused to His little ones. And He imposed consequences for sin all throughout Scripture.

    While it is my hope that all of Dr. Ketcham’s victims will eventually forgive him–for their own healing process–any forgiveness he receives does not absolve him of the consequences for his crimes. Nor should ABWE as a mission organization abdicate their rightful role as an authority–which they did–to ensure that justice was served, church and civil discipline properly applied, victims properly supported and potential future victims protected. Isn’t that what God established authorities for? While individuals within ABWE may forgive Dr. Ketcham, they have a moral responsibility by virtue of the office that they hold to ensure that righteousness–and our own laws–are upheld. The churches supporting ABWE would expect nothing less.

    Don’t deprive these women of this opportunity to cry out. To share with each other the suffering and pain they have endured. To help each other understand what happened to them and why. To address their grievances against how their situation was mis-handled by ABWE.

    The loving thing to do is to let these women speak and tell their story. They finally have an opportunity for their voice to be heard. Don’t shush them because you, once again, want to protect Dr. Ketcham and ABWE instead of helping the victims. Instead, they deserve an opportunity to connect, to share and to heal. And, ABWE needs to listen to them, acknowledge that they dropped the ball in handling this case from the beginning, and acknowledge that if they had rightly handled this case, then many of the victims could have been spared.

    Furthermore, it is not only the cause of these girls that is at stake. It is also for the sake of future victims of sexual abuse, which may unfortunately occur within ABWE, that the organization must figure out how to rightly handle these situations. If they do not, then in the next unfortunate sexual abuse crime that they face, they may once again let the perpetrator peacefully transition and once again shush the victims into silence. Let’s not let that happen again. Getting this right is the Christian thing to do.

  64. Tony Beckett says:

    We sincerely want to acknowledge the stories and women in this blog, especially those who have asked for a response to so many of their questions.

    To honor the purpose of this blog (to provide a safe place for MKs), we will not be dialoguing here. However, we have addressed the subject on our public website and invite you to view our response there. http://www.abwe.org/news/article/abwe-responds-to-mks-blog/

    Tony Beckett
    Vice President
    ABWE

    • Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

      I am very, very thankful that ABWE has responded to this in a humble posting on their website. Truly, it is more than I expected.

      However, there is a real deal breaker for me in this. And I am very upset that what is being divulged as “news” has been known to them for a decade. And there is no apology, not even a mention, of the loathsome, horrific letter that the final victim on the mission field was forced to sign as a confession of guilt.

      If you can read ABWE’s confession on their website and read the letters above that ABWE has had in their possession for 20 years and not be OUTRAGED that it took victims dragging this into the public square to get a response from ABWE, you are indeed deluded.

      Please, please. Now that you see what ABWE themselves are admitting to, ask ABWE to submit to a third party investigation.

  65. The other side... says:

    I would like to know if ABWE was every contacted before beginning this blog? To receive their FULL side of the story

    It would seem that creating this blog without taking the appropriate Biblical measures only serves the purpose in judging, turning brother and sister against brother and sister, and unforgiveness.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Yes, ABWE was contacted 9 years ago the first time and then one and one half years ago this past time. I did receive what was their full side of the story.

      • The other side... says:

        Can I ask why ABWE seems to be the one attacked and put on the pedestal in this horrific incident that has happened and not the man himself?

  66. Diana Durrill says:

    You have not read the blog if you do not understand why ABWE is on trial.
    Go back and reread.

    Note the letter posted by former ABWE missionary:
    William D. Barrick
    Professor of Old Testament OT Editor, Evangelical Exegetical Commentary
    Director of ThD Studies
    The Master’s Seminary
    13248 Roscoe Blvd.
    Sun Valley, CA 91352

  67. Dave DeCook says:

    I might stand to lose some friends (which is miniscule compared to what others have lost), but it is time to stand up and be counted. Most of my life I have been a Donn Kethcam fan and ABWE fan, but this blog destroys all that and there is too much at stake for the victims for me to stand quietly on the sidelines.

    I pretty much had the idyllic BD MK experience with my family there (1969-1979) similar to Tim Barrick’s March 20, 2011 at 9:33 am post. I have sometimes wondered why a high percentage of my fellow MKs have struggled or have had their lives completely shattered. We were close and precious to each other. Has the “Aha” moment finally arrived? Can we change the “Just pray for them–poor saps” approach into something more like “fight for the intrinsic dignity of their lives that was stolen from them through the barbaric acts of a man who was put over them by all their parental and spiritual authority figures”? If so, COUNT ME IN!!

    Dear CAREPEAR, have you ever felt like not forgiving because the apology was so lame? These victims have had their intrinsic dignity ripped out of the deepest part of them at a most tender age and then as they beg and plead on the side of the road for the return of just a scrap of their self-worth, they are laughed at, ignored, or told to get over it, “just forgive” by the likes of us who have never experienced such a thing.

    Sure, it is the victim’s job to forgive (and far be it from me to set a timetable on that process–it took me over six years of trying to forgive in one case). But it is the perpetrator’s job to restore that stolen dignity, and that clearly has not been done here. II Corinthians 7:10-11 says, “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. 11 See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter. ” The truly repentant one seeks DESPERATELY to make things right with the one wronged (not with his supporters using minimizing statements, coverup, etc).

    If the perpetrator fails to satisfy the victim, then it is the community’s responsibility to extract a price from the perpetrator commensurate with the crime. Ever wonder why hell is so horrible? It is because God’s dignity is so great. Hell is the only punishment commensurate with the crime of mocking God and rejecting His Messiah. This principle can be found in the church discipline case of II Cor. 2:6 which says, “The punishment inflicted on him by the majority is sufficient for him.” From this verse and its context we can understand there is punishment that is insufficient, sufficient and too much. The punishment must reach the level of “sufficient” before the perpetrator is welcomed back into fellowship. (We also need to be careful not to stray into the “too much” level because Satan can make hay with that error as well.)

    Now I am not the one to say what would constitute a “sufficient punishment”–although pastors are sometimes called on to render such judgments–but from both of the Corinthian passages it seems to me that the victims of the crimes have a say.

    It’s pretty clear this hasn’t happened yet. And whose responsibility is it at this point? I can see all the cowards ducking their heads, some totally running for the hills. Come on, people! It’s OUR responsibility. This is not some sort of bravado. If Jesus said “I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat,” what will he say about ignoring our own sisters?

    Uncle Donn, if you are reading this, I BEG of you to submit to the Scriptures and to the community of believers. Of the three men used by God to call me into the ministry at 14 years of age (1977-ish) you were the most influential. I wanted to know the Scriptures and make them come alive in preaching like you did. I treasure to this day the manuscript of your sermon on Bibliology which you personally typed up for me because it powerfully crystallized my convictions on inspiration and application of the Bible. What a thrill that at any time I wanted, I could skip next door to your house and ask a question about the Bible. Sometimes I would even get a lesson on how to find the Greek word in the concordance. I have followed you and your ministry with great affection over the years. It’s true that I heard of “some improprieties” that you committed over the years. I wanted to minimize them or overlook them. I did not want anything to get in the way of our relationship. If there is any way in which I have contributed to the culture of silence and kept the victims locked in their isolation cells of shame, I sincerely apologize!

    Uncle Donn, perhaps you and the victims and their families and the leaders of ABWE, Russ Ebersole, Pastors Eleveld and Floyd did not understand pedophilia very well back in 1989 when you were dismissed from ABWE as noted by the official ABWE document posted at http://bangladeshmksspeak.files.wordpress.com/2011/03/ebersole-ltr-09-1989.pdf. However, there can be no doubt today that the resolution that was agreed upon at that time was a totally botched operation. The patient struggles for dear life on the gurney with several scalpels sutured deep inside, but all the talk is about restoring the good doctor. Not one word about the victims, who were CHILDREN! It sounds like you and your wife are the victims that need healing. NOT ONE WORD ABOUT THE CHILDREN! How about a confession? Try, “I left several scalpels inside and they will do a lot of damage if the patient tries to live and move. I will pay for the operation and their lifelong care for the wounds I caused.”

    Uncle Donn, I have pastored for over 20 years now. I have dealt with criminals who only confess what they think that you know. They can do it with alligator tears. We only know we are getting somewhere when we start getting new information. Loads of it. Now I have no interest in this information and neither should the vast public who has access to this blog. But the victims, all the victims, have a right to hear you confess to whatever level of detail would satisfy them. It might even make it possible for them to forgive you.

    If I know these dear souls at all, the truth is really all they need for satisfaction.
    The world achieves this satisfaction through generous transfers of money, sometimes called “hush-money,” at other times called “punitive damages.” ABWE evidently achieves it by extracting a signed confession of a 14 year old in exchange for boatloads of false guilt. The Bible calls for “truth in love.”

    Uncle Donn, this is my truth-in-love for you. Come clean! Let’s set up a clearing house for all of your victims and grant them their due. And it can’t be ABWE in charge. They need to start lining up in the confession/repentance line. G.R.A.C.E. looks to be a superior vehicle for this.

    Uncle Donn, I really didn’t want to say this paragraph in public, because you whispered it in my ear. But I need to say it now, here. If you feel it breaks a confidence, I am sorry. At my ordination in October of 1990, I was so pleased to have you attend. It was like you had planted a seed and were on hand to see the plant break through the crusty soil. As you shook my hand, you leaned forward and whispered in my ear, “Finish well!” I had some inkling of what was behind that, and it has been a stimulus to me to be above reproach, especially in regard to sex. You put $50 in the gift basket to help me build my pastor’s library, which I think was the largest gift. I sent you a thank-you note in which I believe I referred to myself as something of a “Timothy, your true son in the faith.”

    Now, as a young man I lean forward and whisper into a father’s ear, your ear, “You, too, can finish well. Do not be held back by friends or family who for their own reasons need to maintain the facade or the silence. I would rather love the real Donn Ketcham than the fake one anyway, wouldn’t you? You can finish well by opening the windows and letting the light of truth fall on your past to drive the disease and demons out. You can finish well by truly caring for your victims and their healing and by ceasing to abuse them through your continued denials or silence. You can finish well by helping an outstanding mission organization to affirm that one man’s name is never worth more than a little girl’s life. You can finish well by finding out what it was that was missing in your heart that made molesting young girls so satisfying and by finally letting Jesus fill that place. You can finish well by destroying a stronghold of Satan in your heart that has propagated into many other hearts. You can finish well by stopping the cycle of sexual abuse. You can finish well by doing the greatest thing you have ever done in your life. It’s not over, Uncle Donn. You can still finish well.

    With love and prayers for my whole ABWE family,
    Dave DeCook

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Dave, thank you for your amazing words and THANK YOU for being counted among those of us willing to give our names because we know too much and we WILL NOT be silenced again or made to fear that exposing sin hurts God’s work. Exposing sin honors God. Justice honors God.

    • Daniel DeCook says:

      I began reading this blog late last nite when it was forwarded to me, with increasing shock, but a faint glimmering sense of hope that this may begin the resolution of a deeply buried series of sins and crimes.

      Susannah, I am grateful for your coming forward. I was with you at that 2002 MK reunion, and I had no idea the terrible burden you were carrying, and perhaps supressing. I pray that God works as only He can to heal you.

      To my two classmates of the Largest Class Ever at Malumghat Christian School (five 6th graders!), I hope that the bright light of day shining on this filthy, sordid affair will give you release and freedom, and that God will heal your hearts as well.

      And to my brother Dave, who addressed this so eloquently and so well, I am so proud of your words, your prophetic voice, your unequivocal call to do the Right Thing, as God would see it.

      In a few short weeks, we will be celebrating the death and resurrection of Jesus, when many miracles besides the resurrection occurred. Perhaps the cracking, tearing, thundering sound we can hear in these many voices above is indeed the earth opening up, tombs broken open, allowing the “bodies of many holy people who had died (to be) raised to life.”

      To those who have spoken out, anonymously often, and felt accused and blamed, let me offer the words of Job in his 13th chapter:

      “My eyes have seen all this,…
      “What you know, I also know…
      “But I desire to speak to the Almighty, and to argue my case with God.
      “You, however, smear me with lies; you are worthless physicians, all of you!
      “Hear now my argument, listen to the plea of my lips.
      “Will you speak wickedly on God’s behalf?
      Will you speak deceitfully for him?…
      “Would it turn out well if He examined YOU?
      Could you deceive Him as you might deceive men?
      “He would surely rebuke you….
      “Would not His splendor terrify you?
      Would not the dread of him fall on you?
      “Keep silent and let me speak;
      then let come to me what may.
      “Why do I put myself in jeopardy?
      and take my life in my hands?
      “Though He slay me, yet will I hope in Him;
      I will surely defend my ways to His face.
      “Indeed, this will turn out for my deliverance,
      for no godless man would dare come before Him.”

      Thank you for not keeping silent. Thank you for speaking. May God vindicate you.

      • isaiah618 says:

        In reply to Dan Decook: I think I should just save a post that says, “Your post made me cry”. I just got time this morning to read your whole post, and when I read the verses from Job, I broke down. I needed that. I pray it will comfort and encourage other victims as well. Thank you so much for your support.
        Susannah

      • Lynda says:

        You have come so far in your eloquence since the days of making a mistake in a piano recital and being stuck with only the word “fat”. Seriously though, I bawled. Thank you for being such a terrific brother.

    • An ABWE MK says:

      I read this and cry. They are good tears. They are healing tears. Thank-you.

  68. Diana Durrill says:

    Dave DeCook –
    That is all we ask of both Donn Ketcham and ABWE. That is all and it is enough. Jesus paid the rest. The accusations on this blog by loyalists have hurt deeply for they see only bitterness. We have spent 20+ years working HARD at forgiveness. You have written words so wise, so perfect. We thank you for seeing it clearly.

    I am deeply, profoundly sad with the letter ABWE sent out to missionaries (but to none of us). My husband questioned why it hurt so much…didn’t we expect such a sugar-coated response in the first place? My answer to him was this: “I was holding out hope that they would do right. That they would listen to the Holy Spirit enough to do what is right before God. It breaks my heart that they responded this way.” It grieves me and other loved ones (mk’s) courageous enough to post here.

    Does that sound like the heart of a bitter person who is unwilling to forgive? I say NO! We long to extend forgiveness. We need it.

    • An ABWE MK says:

      Yes, I am wondering about this. What is on the website only says that a letter was sent because of this blog. What was in the letter? Did only active missionaries get this letter? If so, why not all past missionaries also? Why haven’t all adult ABWE MKs received some sort of contact?

      When the 2002 information came in on Ketchum, did ABWE contact all the Bangladesh MKs extending desire to care for any past hurts? I wasn’t at the 2002 conference. What about all those who weren’t? What about those who have purposely fallen off the grid because of their hurts? Has effort been made to reach out to them?

      Perhaps some of these things did happen. I don’t know. They certainly should have. Seems to me that if we really are a family we wouldn’t be forgotten just because we don’t attend the family meetings anymore.

      • isaiah618 says:

        In short, fellow MK. No. Not a single effort was made to find out if there were more victims among those who cannot afford or chose not to go to the reunions. You make an excellent point, and I thank you for making it. – Tam

      • Diana Durrill says:

        In response to those who have said my family has not been “blacklisted” I answer this: Why then do I receive no news from ABWE? Why was I not extended an offer to “talk” about the hurt in my life? Surely, if others need assurances of love and support as well as an offer for “counseling”, it would be me and my other sisters who are THE sisters of the 14 year old. The shame we have had to bear for being the family “that SOMETHING happened all those years ago and we think it involved DK” has been hard! We have been lonely. No such offer was extended to us. Ever. (Till now, but it comes late in the day, for sure.) Who would not feel blacklisted when you get phone calls that say, “We would invite you to the wedding, but DK will be there and well, that would just be awkward.” You think? Or this one: “We would have you come to the shower but there will be people there who might be uncomfortable if they have to talk to you.” Ya’ think?

        What did we ever do wrong?

  69. How It Really Works says:

    To “The Other Side” … regarding whether or not I am an ABWE missionary, no I am not, but I am a child of one. I am an insider. I grew up with these bonds of both love and oppression that were placed upon us by ABWE. I say love and oppression because we loved dearly people like Russ Ebersole who oversaw our field from the home office. We called him uncle. And he let a lion loose among us by not acting swiftly and biblically sooner. He insisted that Donn be granted forgiveness instead of justice again and again. That is why ABWE is being blamed and not just the pedophile. We trusted ABWE to do what was right and to know what was right and they did not and have not.

  70. Mike Durrill (brother in law of victim) says:

    Tony Beckett’s official response for ABWE is a step toward justice and forgiveness. However, it is unfortunate that the response was made because ABWE is so completely boxed into a corner with no way out that they had no other option. There has even been a vast change from the response they sent out to their missionaries and the letter they put on their website today! Is this because of the new information made available to the public between now and then? I would say so. I wonder how different their response will be the next time more information is placed before public eyes?

    ABWE, it is high time to clean out the closet. It is not enough to state the obvious.

    You and Donn are going to have to go “over the top” in your admission of guilt and accept the consequences that are dealt, whatever they may be. If your faith is in JEHOVAH, you have to stop worrying about your own “reputation” and His, and let Him take care of it Himself. JEHOVAH is big enough to do this.

    Your “efforts” to help the victims and their families that you refer to in your letter can be compared to giving a cancer patient a band-aid…insufficient and inappropriate for the complex disease that is eating away at life. We ask you to prove the sincerity of your apology and your desire to make this as right as possible by publicly taking full and complete responsibility and going over the top to provide help and healing.

    • Jane says:

      I am part of the ABWE family, what letter are you referring to that was sent to the missionaries? I have not read anything that led me to believe ABWE was trying to cover up, or make light of this situation, or that they are trying to defend this Dr.

    • Dave DeCook says:

      ABWE invites people to talk directly to them about this issue with a link on their web site. I think we should be cautious to not mindlessly bash the organization amongst ourselves (the evil “them” and “they”), with endless lists of “should have” and “shouldn’t have.” Here’s a couple concerns I just passed on to Tony Beckett (tony@abwe.org).

      Dear ABWE

      I’m sure you are scrambling up there on Miracle Mountain, but you still aren’t getting this right. I’ll just point out two things that are obvious to me.

      First of all, your new statement that was posted on the ABWE website a couple of days ago refers to the host of the blog as a “self-described ABWE MK.” That is cold. That is offensive. That is demeaning. Do you doubt that she is an MK, one of those “ABWE MKs that we love oh-so-much”? How do you think she feels, being described thusly on your website? I’m not getting any warm fuzzies over here! Maybe ABWE operates with a blacklist. Not a literal paper with names on it, but with a mindset that there are some people against us and some people for us. If so, it shows right here.

      You say that you became aware of the blog on March 15. Let’s see, that’s about a week and a half ago. Has anyone at headquarters picked up the phone and talked to the host of the blog? Yesterday I managed to pull it off in about 15 minutes and I have way fewer secretaries than you do. I ended up with a conversation with a dear friend who has the same voice and same sense of humor I remember from over 30 years before. I can assure you she is the real deal and she has a tremendous Christian spirit about this whole thing.

      If you need help contacting her, I’ll be glad to help.

      Secondly, you need to immediately turn this over to an independent investigation by a group like G.R.A.C.E. Not because you are not smart or not holy. Not because I, or someone else thinks you are not smart or not holy. Simply because your credibility rides on this. Others have mentioned this already. I just want to say that if you wait until a reporter asks whether the investigation is internal or independent, you just lost the game. You look no better than Donn Ketcham, who has to be forced into making a confession, and, like it or not, you get more closely associated with his deeds.

      The longer you huddle with lawyers behind closed doors (or whatever you are doing, even praying) up there on the mountain, the more people will think you have something to hide. Do yourself a favor and step out into the light.

      I have a biting tone in this letter with no intent to insult you, but to wake you up and let you know: you’re doing it again!

      Still a fan of ABWE, but fading fast…
      Dave DeCook

      • isaiah618 says:

        In Reply to Dave,
        Thank you so much for your kind comments. You are quite right. I was hurt by the description of me as a “self described mk”. By the time the ABWE letter came out, they knew exactly who the author of the blog was. In fairness to ABWE, I must add that they have tried to make personal contact with me by phone, and I’m just hurting to much at this point to talk directly to them. I have asked them to communicate with me through GRACE. Once again, your post deeply touched me. Thank you.
        Susannah

      • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

        Dave I couldn’t agree with you more about ABWE’s slighting of the dear host of this blog in that announcement.

        Believe me, ABWE got a letter from me about it. We all know she is not a “self-described” MK, and we all know what that sort of language does. It casts a shadow of doubt. Our dear host IS a Bangladesh ABWE MK. The fact is undisputed. And the dismissive language was careless at best, ruthless at its worst.

        I also found the ABWE prayer request of the day (thank God for MKs who see themselves as part of their parents’ ministry–or some such thing) on that VERY important day to be spiritual abuse and manipulation of the worst kind. And, yes, I told ABWE this myself.

        For me, those two acts, which showed so clearly their lack of compassion and understanding for sexually abused MKs who are truly taking a measure that is their last resort, clouded the victory of that day, which was that ABWE finally admitted to the world that DK is a pedophile.

        As a friend of mine said … that letter was a start and not an end.

      • Our Transparent God says:

        Totally totally agree. All the letters n replies (from ABWE HQ) sound so ‘Mechanical’ and close to ‘plastic’ sympathy. PLEASE someone speak the true language of Love so we can ‘feel’ it. I’m getting really disappointed and not at all impressed ~~~Where is Jesus’ Bleeding heart where he leaves the ‘safe’ haven n goes out looking for the one lonely sheep?

      • An ABWE MK says:

        Is there something on the ABWE site other than the March 23 ABWE responds and the March 26 Answers posts?

        I don’t see the words “self-described MK” Did they change them? Hmm…, if that is the case, hmm… I’m certain they’ve been watching New Tribes. Even with all New Tribes is doing poorly in dealing with their situation at least when they were called on something they publicly acknowledged it.

      • isaiah618 says:

        ABWE has said nothing publicly other than what you see there. Some churches have received other documents which we have posted here. One letter, at least. Maybe not two. But two responses on the ABWE website like you found.

        And, yes, there was a huge outcry of indignation among the MKs when ABWE chose the words “self-described MK” to refer to Susannah. Rather than inserting a correction or apology for any unintentional hurt it might have caused, they simply took it out. They fixed it … but in a way they didn’t, because they never acknowledged how dismissive the language was to begin with. Kinda like removing DK from the field and never dealing with the real problem: lack of concern for individuals. – Tam

      • To: An ABWE Mk says:

        I printed their first response before they changed it. I have a copy I am willing to share if necessary. It was a cold, hard thing to say about Susannah. Abusive, really.

  71. David Beddoe says:

    I am married to a Bangladesh MK from this time. The bloggers and victims are her dear childhood friends.

    The post by ABWE is a small step but not enough. I hope they are willing to become a huge example to the Christian community, and the world at large, by diving in with both feet and with abandon for truth, transparency, repentance and amends.

    Public amends equal to the years of private and secret pain. I absolutely believe that healing and trust can only be approached and achieved by an independent, 3rd party investigation.

    ABWE, please help identify and reach out to other victims and expose potential for creating more and stop those practices.

    ABWE, go beyond a reasonable attempt to root out other predators.

    ABWE, do not wait for the victims to come begging to you any longer.

    ABWE, do not direct them to a “complaints desk” where their cries may fall on deaf ears… again.

    ABWE, do not minimize the sin and the failure by hoping it will be forgotten as an unpleasant episode as soon as possible.

    ABWE, tell more than is forced out, in order to allow light into dark corners.

    ABWE, aggressively and unrelentingly seek out other failures of the past, even those that no one else knows about yet and are well hidden, and confess and acknowledge them.

    All this can only be achieved with help from the outside to overcome the temptation for self-preservation. Please, ABWE, ask G.R.A.C.E. to investigate you without restriction and without caveat. ABWE, don’t make that step be forced; embrace it and I and others will begin to truly believe there is a desire for healing and repentance.

    • Pamela E. Bennett says:

      I have been following this sordid saga and didn’t feel I had any right to participate but after reading this comment decided to speak up. My husband, David and I, were with ABWE from 1975 to 1993 in Australia. We had come to the conclusion we could no longer serve with them as we did not believe they were following their own principles and practices laid down in their pamphlet and we did not agree with their rank and file corruption. We wrote a letter of resignation to ABWE thinking all was well. ABWE told us not to write our churches of our resignation so we returned to the states to report to our churches as well as have a meeting with ABWE and my husband left that meeting thinking he had simply resigned. Little did we know ABWE had written our churches and told them we were terminated for insubordination. So obviously we were insubordinate for wanting to resign. To this day they have never written to us personally saying we were terminated and to the reasons why. Several months after my husband and others continued to request a letter stating we were terminated and to the reason they sent us a letter that they had sent to the churches but we never got a personal letter telling us directly. So this is one of the reasons I am not surprised how ABWE handled this sin in the camp. When we were gong through this some told us they handled us far worse than they handled Dr. Donn Ketcham ( we did know about Dr. Donn Ketcham having to leave the field but we assumed it was adultery and I guess that is what ABWE wanted us to think) and all we wanted to do was go quietly away, well we didn’t end up going quietly as we had some who were willing to check this all out. In fact one pastor asked if we did anything wrong on the field because if we did he would expose it, we assured him he could check all he wanted as all we wanted to do was to leave ABWE. What I am surprised about is the loyalty that is felt toward ABWE from our fellow missionaries when we wanted simply to resign. The field counsel treated us very pompous and arrogant, the then president, John Koster, harassed my husband by phone many times, it was like we were monsters. In saying this they gave us a plaque with a verse telling us they hoped we would find peace. Well I can tell them we are now local church missionaries still in Australia and we have never looked back. By the way none of the missionaries we served with our here now. I do wish this wasn’t so missjointed and I don’t want to give the impression our situation was anything like the molestation of these young girls and in fact most of the time it isn’t even thought about and only usually when we get confronted about ABWE in some way. I have written to ABWE and requested they use GRACE as a 3rd party as their corruption has got to stop. I truly believe ABWE is a pragmatic orginization that has so much self interest that they can’t see beyond themselves. God’s Word has an answer to ever problem we face but from what I know about ABWE they seem to think they are even beyond His Precious Word. They have become a monster orginazation that is self regulatory.

  72. concerned says:

    Another person seems to be scrutinized on this blog…the sending pastor. Has anyone asked him what he was told? What he knew and when he knew it?
    I DID talk to him and he was adamant, as was the Chairman of the Board, that they were not told it was a minor, only an extramarital affair.
    Re-read the letters. It seems EVERYONE outside of ABWE was made to believe it was adultery.

    • Mike Durrill (brother in law of victim) says:

      You are right. It has come to our attention in the last 24 hours that the sending pastor was not informed of the sin/crime of pedophilia. They were told that he dismissed for an affair with a consenting adult (which did happen, as stated in his confession) but had taken place more than a few years prior to the 14 year old girl’s disclosure of the crime committed against her. They were not told of the affair when it happened, and in their own words, would’ve exercised their authority and removed him from the field at that time. In which case – my sister would’ve never been violated and she would be a different person today.

  73. SLW says:

    According to the Michigan Department of Community Health, no formal complaints nor disciplinary action has been filed against DK.

    You can see his license here http://www7.dleg.state.mi.us/free/publicinfo.asp?rb_name=&rb_facility=&l_person_id=77162&l_profession_id=43&l_license_id=77423&Last_Name=KETCHAM&First_Name=DONN&License_number=&Facility_Name=&DBA_Name=&profession=43&offset=0

  74. Phil Walsh says:

    Amos 5:24 – But let justice roll on like a river, righteousness like a never-failing stream! (NIV)

    Unfortunately, from everything I’ve experienced—and I’ve experienced a lot—ABWE has built a dam to stop this river from flowing. The letters from “Tony” stung. It was like so many other letters I’ve received from ABWE, like some carefully crafted legalese. Instead of the word becoming flesh, it’s the flesh becoming words. An organization that purports to preach the TRUTH around the globe continues to demonstrate that it isn’t interested in the truth in so many other matters. Am I being harsh? Really?!

    My family and I returned from the field in distress in 2003 because of more horrible crimes of rape, plus sexual abuse, spiritual abuse, etc., that had been perpetrated by national “pastors” of ABWE, men who are PAID directly or indirectly by ABWE to this day. These men are still in “ministry” in Bangladesh, protected by the very mission that is trying to wash its hands of the Ketcham matter. After returning in February of 2003, it took 3 months to get a meeting with ABWE. We suffered in silence in Grand Rapids waiting for anyone to call, to care. Deafening silence. It took the prodding of our smallest supporting church ($25/month) to embarrass ABWE enough to finally allow a meeting in May.

    I drove 22 hours round trip with my pastor to this meeting. I was told I would be given 90 minutes to state why I was there, but only actually was given 45 minutes because Dr. Loftis showed up late and then spent precious minutes regaling my pastor with stories about things in his office, including (ironically) a story of “the buck stops here” he inherited from the previous president. I won’t go into all that transpired that day because that’s for another day, another forum. However, I will say that what I experienced that day in the “miracle on the mountain” devastated me. I wondered where God was, because I didn’t find Him there. Driving through the mountains of Pennsylvania with my pastor sleeping in the passenger seat, I remember looking over at him and thinking that if he weren’t riding with me nothing would keep me from driving off a cliff. I died inside that day and entered a period of 7 years of the deepest depression imaginable that ended only two years ago, by God’s grace.

    My point in sharing the above is not to take the story away from the girls who have suffered so horribly for years, because what I went through doesn’t even begin to compare with their stories. I simply want to point out to those who say “Leave them alone; this is the new ABWE” that the same spirit remains to this day. It is a systemic (demonic) problem that persists. They can scramble all they want and try to cover theirs rears by trotting out new and improved policies, but the fact remains that they have never come completely clean about Donn Ketcham and other much more recent matters. There are precious brown-skinned girls AS WELL who have suffered in silence for years because the field and home leadership protects certain national leaders, ensuring that they are virtually untouchable. The same culture of fear that was fostered here is still alive and well in Bangladesh.

    So many questions! So much to say!

    Do you all realize that ABWE never informed the Ketcham’s sending church about his adultery with a “consenting nurse” and apparently other women? They had NO CLUE, until two days ago, that he was allowed to remain in exile in Chittagong for a year before returning to the scene of past and future endeavors. And, when he was sent home for being a pedophile his home church was told that it was because of “having an affair with an unmarried consenting nurse”. Apparently, the local church is insignificant, only an entity to glean money from and a doorstep to dump their unwanted children on. What would make them usurp the authority of the local church in this matter? I have reason to believe that the sending church would have pulled them off the field upon receiving news of the first transgression. If the biblical model had been following, would all these girls have been spared?

    I am reminded of a book that a friend sent me when we resigned from the field. The title? God Can Do It Without You. A humbling gift? Yes. But a great reminder that God doesn’t need me to accomplish anything for Him in this world. He can have a stone share the Good News if He so desires. Oh what love and grace He displays in allowing us to be (weak) vessels in His service—as long as we remain broken and contrite before Him. God doesn’t need ABWE to reach the world. He will accomplish all of His purposes without them. However, He can and will use them as long as they are broken and contrite before Him. When we come clean before our Lord he rains down His blessings on us!

    Isaiah 1:16 (NIV)
    16 Wash and make yourselves clean.
    Take your evil deeds out of my sight;
    stop doing wrong.
    17 Learn to do right; seek justice.
    Defend the oppressed.
    Take up the cause of the fatherless;
    plead the case of the widow.

  75. The other side... says:

    So that ABWE has SOME kind of voice in this whole thing, since the majority of you are not letting them have one… here is what ABWE has made public and this is only the beginning…

    On Tuesday, March 15, 2011, ABWE was notified of a blog created by a self-described ABWE MK (missionary kid) as a forum to discuss numerous disturbing sexual abuse allegations involving former ABWE missionary, Dr. Donn Ketcham. The blog stated its second purpose was to “document how the mission agency [ABWE] he served under has protected both his private and public reputation by leaving the impression that he was dismissed from the mission as a result of an affair, not pedophilia.”

    We are deeply grieved by the stories being shared on this blog and desire to respond to comments and questions posed there with integrity and compassion. It is our hope to bring healing to the families victimized by these events by communicating clearly, truthfully, and openly as we work to confirm information regarding these allegations.

    In 1989 we received a report of sexual abuse of a female minor by Dr. Donn Ketcham, while he was serving as an ABWE missionary in Bangladesh. ABWE immediately investigated and confirmed that incident, and as a result, Dr. Ketcham was removed from the field and terminated from service.
    In 2002 we received additional reports from several now-adult MKs (missionary kids) who expressed their suspicion that Dr. Ketcham might have also sexually abused them as children.

    While we have not been able to confirm these stories through our own investigations, the substantial commonalities lead us to believe they are credible.

    ABWE wants to publically express both our love and concern for the MKs who are courageously sharing their stories on the blog. We also want to express our sincere regret for any failure on our part to discover their abuse earlier or to take further actions to prevent the injustice of these women’s silent pain, which coexisted with public praise of Dr. Ketcham’s missionary service. Further, we acknowledge that it was wrong to withhold naming his crime, pedophilia. Not naming that crime enabled further injustice to the victims and also may have put other children at risk.

    When Dr. Ketcham’s termination was reported in a letter to supporting churches and donors, the letter referred to “immoral conduct,” not pedophilia, as the reason for his termination. This enabled him to represent himself as a former medical missionary in his community without having to acknowledge his crime.

    Donn Ketcham is not a retired missionary; he was terminated from service. He receives a pension from ABWE because he is entitled to it by law. We have not promoted him as an ABWE speaker; and on at least one occasion, we refused to permit him to serve on the board of an ABWE subsidiary. If Dr. Ketcham visited ABWE ministry locations, it was at the invitation of friends and family, not in any official capacity. ABWE has never denied or withheld information about his crime when asked.

    Additionally, when we were informed Dr. Ketcham had moved membership from one church to another, ABWE personnel alerted the receiving pastor of the reason for Dr. Ketcham’s termination, so the church leadership could take appropriate action under their policies to protect children.

    Despite these sincere efforts, we acknowledge that we could have done more to counter the injustice experienced by the women who were victimized by Dr. Ketcham. We hope this public response will be a step in the direction of healing the hurt we have caused.

    We express deep regret for those who were harmed by Dr. Ketcham’s actions.

    We regret the way in which the public response of ABWE to Dr. Ketcham’s crimes left an impression that we tolerate abuse or seek to defend the reputation of offenders. We seek forgiveness for those feelings of abandonment or injustice which have been caused by the inadequacy of our past response.

    When requested by victims in the past, we have offered help by providing counseling fees and other services. That stands true today. It is always our heart to give MKs a safe place to voice their pain and tragic experiences, and we welcome any opportunity to participate in their healing.

    We are glad to report that the ABWE Board has adopted a strong child protection policy designed to provide safety for all our MKs and other children in our ministries worldwide. ABWE has always had a zero-tolerance policy toward sexual abuse of children, as described in our Board-approved Child Protection Policy; however, the new policy offers training and strategies for response to better equip our leadership to deal with the perpetrators and victims of these horrible crimes.

    Additionally, ABWE has been involved with the Child Safety and Protection Network since its first meeting in 2006, and we are among the first applicants for their newly initiated membership approval process, which is intended to assure best practices in implementing child protection standards.

    If you have knowledge or concern about any child who was abused by Dr. Ketcham or other ABWE personnel, please contact our Child Safety and Protection Officer, Nancy Hepworth, at nhepworth@abwe.org.

    For questions and concerns regarding the blog or ABWE’s response, please contact Tony Beckett, Vice President of Church Relations, at Tony@abwe.org.

  76. Tracy McLarson says:

    20 years ago something happened, maybe.

    Seems to me if this was legit it would have been dealt with in the courts. I know, I know…but people were scared and it was covered up. Allegedly.

    To me, unless this is proven in the court of law it is just a crude form of gossip. If the claims are true then it was incredibly miss-handled by the parents and the organization.

    This entire website reminds me of some kind of circus, and you are nothing more than a ring leader. To what purposes you are attempting to work toward I’m sure not even you know.

    Do your best not to rip this post down, you put it up in public to voice your side, don’t rip mine down because I think your position is both unfounded and an incorrect attempt at vigilantism.

    I can’t help but think Jesus would not be impressed with your actions.

    • Cheryl P says:

      Tracy, with all due respect, 20-30 years ago something DID happen.And in 1989 something happened. And throughout years BEFORE that “things” happened. Read the letters. All of them. Read the response from the ABWE board….lacking in some areas as it was. Dealt with in the courts?? Just as a point of information, you do realize that these events took place out in the middle of a jungle in southeast Asia, right? That’s like 12,000 miles away from the good ole USA. Most Americans don’t have a clue about the rest of the world. We had no computer. Thus no email. No phones. No TV and it took 3 hours to drive 60 miles to get to a phone. Then the call had to be “pre-arranged”. Sometimes the call got through…sometimes it didn’t. Also families were out of the USA for 4 years at a time. I understand the statute of limitations is 3 years in most states. As lame as it may sound, the families were told to “keep silent”. Have you ever suffered a severe trauma to your body/soul and know how the mind can block it out for years? I do. Unless you have access to all the facts…..and you won’t get them all here I doubt…..I would be very cautious if I were you to take sides without knowing the entire truth. Do NOT continue to threaten the one who manages this site by daring her to “not” post your remarks. This site is primarily for the MK’s and those close to them to be able to work through this horrible situation. As far as I’m concerned, she has my permission to ignore you. These girls, now women, do not need to listen to your snide remarks and I quite frankly don’t care if you have to slink off with your tail between your legs fuming as you go. I hate it when people think they know everything when they really don’t have a clue. And don’t talk about Jesus not being “impressed with her actions”. She is not the guilty party here. And one other thing. I take offense with you—oops…I’m not supposed to take up an offense on behalf of another person. I am biting my tongue and choose to say no more to you. However, I will ask Dave, Dan, Joe, Bill, Deb, etc etc what they think about having to put up with your degrading remarks. My own personal opinion is that if it doesn’t help these girls then it hinders them.

  77. outraged says:

    I live in Allendale, Michigan and heard on the news about Dr. Ketchum. He is (or was until this evening) still practicing medicine. In fact, many of my family members were patients of his. My heart goes out to those he victimized. I find it unfathomable that everyone had to hide this heinous behavior for so many years. I am also outraged that because ABWE chose to go this route, so many people were at risk for potential harm. How is any of this following any kind of Christian principles? How can protecting a pedophile at the risk of others be part of Christian teaching? How can people practice the wholesale acceptance of abuse against innocent children and the protection of the abuser? I hope his victims can find peace and I applaud you for your courage in speaking out. Your bravery is supported by countless people. Good luck.

  78. Christian & Nicole Pilet says:

    My wife and I are ABWE missionaries currently serving in the U.S. I have sent the following comments in a regular update to those on our mailing list, and I wanted to post it here because I wanted you to know that we stand with you and want the truth revealed. Here’s what I sent:

    “The sermon focused on the sovereignty of God. Using Romans 8:28 as the core of his message, the speaker demonstrated the goodness of God’s sovereignty with stories from his extensive missionary service. His dignified demeanor underscored his personal confidence in God, and his artfully crafted rhetoric manifested a professionalism worthy of one of ‘God’s choice servants.’ I was mesmerized. Of all the speakers I had heard as a student at Cedarville College, I was convinced he was one of the best. And he was an ABWE missionary.

    “Several years later, I applied to become an ABWE missionary myself. During the extensive interview and training process, I asked about this man and learned that he had ‘left’ his field of service. I was quite curious, as I was surprised that someone who had spoken so convincingly of his love for missions and his chosen field of service (Bangladesh) would just ‘leave.’ I pressed for more information, and I was told that he had left the field due to ‘a moral failure,’ and I was led to believe the issue was adultery. I dropped the issue, as it did not seem my business to ask more.

    “Today I learned that this man, Dr. Donn Ketcham, was forced to leave Bangladesh because he was a pedophile who committed crimes against minors. This information became public a couple of weeks ago as victims banded together through an internet blog to address this injustice, and we received an e-mail from ABWE this morning acknowledging the facts of the case.

    “I also learned that ABWE did not make this information public at the time of its discovery, but, seemingly, acted to prevent that information from becoming public. One of his victims, a 14-year-old girl, was actually compelled to write a letter confessing her sins with him (which began when she was only 12-years-old), as if she were an equal partner in this sin.

    “Nicole and I are devastated by these revelations. We are shocked and appalled at this man’s actions and the failure of ABWE’s administration to deal with these events appropriately. We are distressed that so many of our dear friends have been caught up in this man’s perversions and have been directly and indirectly affected. We are deeply disturbed by the administration’s handling of this.

    “We believe this is a time for repentance on the part of ABWE and its missionaries. Though Nicole and I have not participated directly in this man’s wrongs, we accept that we, as part of ABWE, must bear the burden of shame. We cannot distance ourselves from the policies and attitudes of ABWE. We have ascribed to them and endorsed them. But we, and I dare say our colleagues, must stop now and reevaluate. Any administrative philosophy that would create or endorse such dealings with sin is fundamentally flawed. The time has come for corporate repentance.

    “As I consider this matter, I remember this man’s sermon, and I realize he inadvertently became another proof of the truth he preached. Through His perfect sovereignty, God has made this hidden sin known and has called His people to repentance. If we ABWE missionaries are truly ‘God’s choice servants,’ we will humble ourselves beneath His merciful and loving hand.

    “Please pray for the victims. And pray for a godly response from ABWE.”

    • Fellow ABWE Missionary says:

      I also have read every comment on this site and am disgusted with what was done by this man, but I am not so sure about the wisdom behind what you sent out to your mailing list. Who is on your mailing list? Are they all Christians with a heart for truth, justice, reconciliation, forgiveness, etc. We don’t want this to become a matter of common gossip and ABWE bashing. Just keep in mind that once something is said, it can never be unsaid. I think that we should all be careful what we allow to come out of our mouth or computer.

      • isaiah618 says:

        To “Fellow ABWE Missionary” I have no “mailing list”, and if I did , though I am a Christian myself, I certainly wouldn’t limit it to just Christians. Christians are not the only ones who care about truth, justice, reconciliation, and forgiveness. In fact, I would venture to say that some people reject Christianity because they see us displaying such a poor example of the above virtues. I pray that all of us would be humble before God through this and that the complete truth would be revealed.
        Susannah

      • Jane says:

        I would have to agree with “Fellow ABWE Missionary” about mailing out this stated letter. To the Pilet’s, I would see no reason for the mission board to give you any details about why another missionary was let go from service. Think about it, an employeer is not legally allowed to give such information, there could be similar restraints on the board. Or it could just be that it is not their place to tell someone else’s “moral failures” to anyone who asks. As for what someone is led to believe, sometimes I think that is based on our interpretation. Background can play a big part there, I typically come to different assumptions than my husband when general statements such as “moral failure” are made because we grew up in very different worlds. I would seriously pray over sending out this correspondence and seek to speak with those at ABWE to get their full answers before you do. I haven’t seen anything so far that has led me to believe this current administration is trying to hide things. I think all of us are broken hearted about what took place on this field. I’m sure if you speak to anyone at the home office they will not be totally supportive of what action took place 22 years ago, but I don’t think they are responsible for those actions. It sounds from the personal account of another on here that as the current administration has learned information they have taken steps to act on it. Wouldn’t filing a formal complaint against someone, or a legal suit require the action of those abused? I know a young lady who was sexually abused as a child, it was reported but it was not taken to court. There is no record attached to this man who abused her either. I have encouraged her to check into legal proceedings against the man, especially since he has young children, but it is a very difficult process with little hope of anything happening and this happened on US soil, approx.12 yrs ago, and was reported initially to authorities here. I do pray for wisdom for all those at the home office as they are attempting to do what is right and attempt to do what they are able. Unfortunately, the Dr. well no one can make him confess to more than what he chooses to confess to, we are all sinners with a free will, I pray he chooses to confess his wrongs to those he has hurt, but only the Holy Spirit can do that. I pray for the ladies involved in all this that they will have peace and healing in their lives.

      • Fellow ABWE Missionary says:

        Susannah,

        My reply was not directed to you or anything that you have written. In my opinion, you are speaking from first hand knowledge and know exactly what you are talking about. My comment was in response to the above comments from the Pilets and the letter that they sent out to their mailing list.

      • isaiah618 says:

        Reply to fellow ABWE Missionary”: Thank you for your clarification. I do not know the Pilets or anything about the letter they sent out to their mailing list.

      • isaiah618 says:

        One more comment to “ABWE Fellow Missionary” I just found the post from the Pilets and now it all makes sense. I really appreciated their post and apologize if I offended you with my initial response to you.
        Susannah

  79. My heart broke as I read through this and the comments that have been posted. I grew up next door to the Ketcham family. My family left Bangladesh when I was 12 due to medical illness of my mom. Several years ago my mom asked me if Uncle Donn had ever done anything “inappropriate” to me. I was told a little at that time about the accusations of what had happened but not the full story as is now being revealed. I was not one of his victims. I applaud the bravery of Susannah for standing up and speaking out. I cannot imagine the pain and heartache that you and other victims have had to face in your life. My memories of growing up in Bangladesh are precious. It breaks my heart that others did not have this rich experience of growing up on the mission field. How one who professes to love God can do such heinous acts is beyond my capacity to understand or fathom. I just wanted to thank you for your willingness to speak up and know that you have an entire MK family behind you to support you during this time. May God strengthen you and comfort you and all those who are affected by this.

  80. Linda (Walsh) Zylstra says:

    Suzannah – Thank you for your courage in helping to bring this into the open. I’m praying for you and everyone involved!

    Dave DeCook – Thank you for your message addressed directly to DK. I pray he will heed your advice.

    To Tamara Barrack Rice – I’m sorry if I gave the impression that I think ABWE is doing everything right. It’s obvious that this situation was NOT handled correctly back in 1989 when his abuse was first discovered. I just wanted to share what I was told when I personally met with the mission’s lawyer that gave me some hope that something had been and was being done. Before meeting with him, I had written him an extensive letter sharing our family’s stories (because the mission had asked for them and I knew my sister’s would not be able to do so at that time, so I did so on their behalf). Here are some excerpts from that letter (dated Nov. 18, 2009):

    “I’ve been meaning to write to you for some time now. The sexual abuse, which occurred on the mission field by Dr. Donn Ketcham to my sisters and many other MK’s who were on the mission field while he was there, has weighed heavily on my heart for a long time… It is frustrating knowing Dr. K. is living his life as “a respected member of the community” while so many of the young girls he molested are living messed up lives and in so much pain because of what he has done to them. My fear is that he is continuing on with this abuse and ruining more lives because no one knows what he has done and he’s never been brought to justice. He is a pedophile and pedophiles usually do not just stop this kind of behavior. Has ABWE confronted him about this? Have they notified all the churches that he’s involved with that he was removed from the mission field, not only for his inappropriate behavior with woman and having sexual affairs with both missionary woman and Bengali woman, but also for molesting young girls? If not, why not? If he truly has repented and changed his ways since then (and I don’t know whether he has or not), then he should, at the very least, confess what he has done and ask forgiveness from all of his victims. I know nothing is going to change what has already happened, but it might help the victims in some small way to know that he has confessed to this and is remorseful.”

    I then went on to give as many specific details as I could about my sister’s abuse. I ended the letter with this:

    “I think that Dr. K. abused his position and knew how to “pick” his victims (the vulnerable ones). I don’t think he was violent or mean, but, instead, “wooed” his victims – gave them attention and made them feel special before taking advantage of them. Sadly, I’m sure there are others who we aren’t even aware of. I know of at least 6 victims… Every child who was on the mission field at the same time as he was should be questioned about this. Some may not even know that there were others that were abused and may think that they were the only one and have been keeping it in all this time…
    What can be done? I realize that there is no “hard” evidence now and that it’s the victim’s words against his and that many years have passed since the abused occurred… Honestly, I have been tempted at times to call the “press” – anyone who will listen & investigate – to blow this whole situation out of the water (it’s been done before!), but haven’t done that yet because of my family members who are associated with ABWE & don’t want to hurt or bring embarrassment to them. ABWE should not be held responsible for what Dr. K. did, but they do need to step up and do more than what was initially done (retiring him from the mission field), especially now that they know about this abuse. If they don’t, the victim’s will feel like an “ugly family secret” is being kept quiet or brushed under the rug. They need to feel heard and be believed!! Most of the victim’s have not been in touch with each other. How could so many of them be lying?? Why would any of them make this kind of stuff up?? Most of them don’t even want to talk about it – they are ashamed and embarrassed, but it’s not their fault – IT’S HIS – and something needs to be done about him!!!

    Please, please help these girls (women now)! They need to know that the mission behind the man who did this to them, has done everything they can to stop him and make his evil deeds public. They need to know that they are not alone. They need to feel validated – that they are heard and believed. They need help, but some don’t know how to get help for themselves or have the finances to do so. They need someone to represent them and bring about justice. I hope that person is you. Thank you for your time and consideration of this most difficult matter.”

    So, after writing that letter, my sister and I met personally with the lawyer (Dec. 2009) and that’s when we were told some of the information we mentioned in my original response – i.e. that the Michigan Medical Board, his place of employment, & his church(es) had all been warned about his sexual abuse of children. We were given the impression, based on the research he had done, that we probably didn’t have a chance at a legal recourse. We also left there with the impression that the mission was actively trying to figure out what their responsibility was and what they could do to help those who were affected by DK.

    I will say that I am thankful that, after that meeting, my sisters found a Christian counselor (who had helped and was recommended by another one of DK’s victims) who is helping them and that the mission is paying for their sessions.

    (P.S. I also just want to say that I am NOT “buying into the lie that covering for a man sins is saving the work of the gospel”. DK needs to confess his sins, ask forgiveness, and then suffer the consequences of his actions. The gospel will continue to go out because God is in control, not us.)

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Linda, thank you for clarifying where you stand. What a painful letter that must have been for you to write and I applaud you for writing it. I’m just sorry that more was not done for those in your family who have been so hurt. Free counseling is great … but justice may be just as healing. Saying a prayer for your family tonight.

      • Hurting says:

        As has been mentioned many, many times already, it is not possible to file any kind of suit against him. Exactly what kind of justice are you looking for now? I was a victim of this same kind of situation 23 years ago, however, I still do not understand the need for constantly bashing those who made mistakes, and have admitted them publicly on the website. I hurt for the victims but it also breaks my heart to read constant tearing down of fallible people (and I’m not speaking of Dr. K). Absolutely things should have been handled differently and ABWE has apologized and attempted to make things right. I still sense a spirit of bitterness and that needs to be dealt with as well. I agree that God is a God of justice as well as forgiveness but since there is no legal way to pursue justice, what would make all of you feel that justice has been done and end this blog?

      • To Hurting --the commenter below says:

        Although there is an attempt to make things right via the notes on ABWE’s website, there is what someone else called it, a systemic problem with the way the mission does business. There needs to be a complete overhaul, perhaps even a cleaning of personnel in the house, a start over. The problem is broader than even this sexual abuse case. It has been mentioned that there was a coverup of a physical abuse situation on a different field. There are other coverups, of which some sending pastors have become aware. This administration will not be trusted because they do not have the skills or moral understanding to make this right. The ABWE Board needs to take over this situation, it cannot be solved in house.

  81. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    Joyce and I want to commend your courage and your reasons for opeing up the blog. And for all your entries, which have been so exemplary of real Christian character, maturity, and grace. You have encouraged those who need encouragement, and been very gentle and humble to those who were harsh. It is obvious that your desire is that those who have suffered abuse, resulting many times in devastated lives, can find some measure of healing and recovery by finally being able to be heard and understood as the innocent victims of a moral crime against both them and against God. And, it gives the perpetrator of this evil behavior toward young women a chance to specifically confess and ask each one (both the victims and their parents) for forgiveness,–which could help them gain meaningful restoration in their lives (which is the desire of all of us, and of our Lord) . We are praying for you all.

  82. Our Transparant God says:

    I am a Missionary. I was molested when I was 16 by a Neiborhood ‘Uncle’ – trusted family friend – sounds familiar doesn’t it? He was a non-believer. It took me 3 decades to gain victory over the shadow of haunting memories and flashbacks that abuse brings upon its victims. I work as a Counselor now. Most of you will know that the number of abuse that go on is Staggering.
    Words of Hope and Comfort:
    Along with the Victims’ (hearts) God’s Heart is BLEEDING. “But whoever shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea” . MAtthew 18:6 (AKJV). These are His Babies – He made them, He gave His LIFE For them.
    DK’S SINS ARE FIRST AND FOREMOST AGAINST GOD:
    Psalm 51:4:Against You, You only, I have sinned, And done what is evil in Your sight…”
    A COMFORT AND WARNING AT THE SAME TIME:
    “You have sinned against the Lord; and be sure your sin will find you out.” Numbers 32:23. Dk’s Sins are catching up with him.

    God of the Bible is ALL About TRANSPARANCY. David, the ‘Man after his own Heart’ wasn’t spared, Abraham ‘the Father of Nations’ Either (And so many of God’s people) – Their spicy story of Adultery and Murder (Dave) and Lies (Aby) laid Bare for the World to See AND God’s Justice in Punishing Sin Fills most of the Bible. God is LOVE – But don’t forget to Look at the other side of the coin: It Reads ‘JUSTICE’. God’s very Character Requires both.

    I am praying for All involved. We cannot forget that God loves DK as much as he does anyone of us. It is his Sins that God hates. But for the grace of God…I could be another DK. Btw, until DK comes out ‘ALL CLEAN’ about his sins, confesses, asks forgiveness, repents and actively seeks justice to take place he will continue to live in ‘hell on earth’ because ‘Darkness and Light’ cannot live together. Pray he does that sooner than later…and Nothing is Impossible with God (Lk 1:37).

    @ Phil Walsh: I praise God for bringing you out of the pit, bro. I have suffered from deep depression and God brought me out too – so worn those shoes.
    @ Everyone hurting: Keep receiving God’s LOVE.
    @ ABWE : Individual letters to all Missionary Family’s who served in BD as suggested with appropriate content will be a good START…then continue to ask: ‘WWJD’ and do that.

    I pray for those who are hurting Comfort and strength from our Lord Jesus. May His Pure and Eternal love shower Healing Rain and Restore you to New Heights of Beauty and Glory for Him, for yourself to Enjoy Life as God intended and to bless others. Love and Hugs.

  83. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    I meant to specifically address my note (above) to Susannah. We really respect you for this effort at healing! Uncle Joe

  84. Eric Tower says:

    Many of you have said much more eloquently than I could the very things that I would express in regards to this situation, but I wanted to weigh in as a “short-term” MK at Malumghat and express my support for the victims and their families.

    I believe that God has built in to us all a thirst for justice, an understanding that He is grieved by sin and victimization, and a thirst for His will to be done on earth as it is in heaven. I applaud the current leadership of ABWE for admitting the complicity of their former leaders in not letting the light of God’s truth shine into this darkness. I’m sure that the victims and their families are also pleased at this first step.

    I am also that after more than 20 years of silence and pain, more will need to move toward healing. I pray that ABWE will continue to work in that direction, and that doing so may finally bring the victims and their families a measure of the peace that Jesus came to bring a hurting world, a peace that they have too long been denied. And I pray that after all these years Donn Ketchum will better understand the pain and suffering he caused and seek the forgiveness of those he sinned against.

    And finally, all of my love, support, and prayers are with the victims of abuse and their families, both those I know personally and those I don’t. You shouldn’t have to suffer in silence any longer. Jesus would not want you to.

  85. Phil Walsh says:

    Saw this on the WOOD TV 8 site:

    Mary Heckle 7:10 pm
    I was not his victim but I am a victim. You have no idea what people do to stop you from talking, from hiding the “secret”. When you realize that you can’t live with yourself because others could be hiding the pain, you try to block the memories but it hurts so bad you don’t even want to live, because they are still alive others could be getting hurt still, and not letting anyone in because of walls NOT EVEN GOD! I just got saved tonight, because I let my walls down and showed my frailty and God showed me I can be healed! I have been fighting these memories and nightmares, not dealing with it because of fear and rejection. Well there are consequences for sin… There is healing for the afflicted and yes there is God’s Grace for all of them. If you haven’t walked the victim’s shoes please don’t judge. It took these ladies great COURAGE to come forward, this website gave me courage to open up and as a result I have a Heavenly Father that calls me his child, I too can have healing! Thank you ladies for making such an impact and giving me the courage to seek it! God is in Control and I will be praying.

    • Sharon Miller Chambers says:

      Amen….God can turn something bad into something good…ok wonderful.

    • Annonymous says:

      True forgiveness can take place without the repentance of the offender. Forgiveness does not depend on both parties. Reconciliation does however require repentance. In some situations reconciliation is not possible and is not healthy, i.e. sexual abuse.

  86. Rebecca says:

    As someone with a tangential connection to the Ketchum family and the family of one of the survivors of his abuse, I want to applaud you all for your courage and your grace in 1-bringing your stories to the light for the healing of others and 2-being an outstanding example of what it means to “speak the truth in love.” As someone who suffered abuse at the hands of someone close to me, I can only stand back in awe of your courage. I pledge you all my prayers as God continues to shepherd you through this.

  87. Sharon Miller Chambers says:

    I know the Walsh’s and DeCook’s. I hate to use the word Mr or Dr. in front of Ketchums name. These were missionaries our church/family supported. I became very close to one of girls involved. I helped encourage her to go to a Christian Counselor and attended some sessions with her. There is no doubt in my mind that it was real. If any of you were to have seen what she went through “recalling” what had happened to her at the hands of someone that was like a father to her, you would not doubt either. Abuse leaves its stamp on a persons life. You can’t just erase it. I am so thankful for the Christain Counselor who didn’t care about what he got paid or if he got paid. I lost some respect for ABWE for not believing when they were first told of others that Ketchum had hurt. I wish Ketchum would ask each one for forgiveness before he stands face to face with God. I am sorry for his family but these are the sins of their father. I am praying for healing and a peace that only God can give the childen (now adults) that were innocent in all of this and bare no responsiblity for the actions of a sinful man.

  88. Bobby Midkiff says:

    I am not an MK, but all of these comments have left me grieving for those hurt in all of this. I am close, and personal friends, really family to Mike and Dianna Durrill. I also happen to be the cousin of the president of ABWE. The things that Mr Keachim did were beyond wrong. It is obvious that ABWE mishandled the situation. It was, many years before Mike Loftis was president. I have read this whole blog, and have been to, and read ABWE’s website. I believe they are beginning the process make things right. They have expressed that, and support this avenue of communication. Mike and. Dianna Durrill are one of the godliest couples I know, and so is my cousin, Mike Loftis. My prayer is that all of your voices, and concerns will be heard, and handled for all parties involved that God would be glorified. But can we please not pass judgment on the current ABWE administration, who didn’t make that.

    • An ABWE MK says:

      2 things

      Black and White thinking causes erroneous interpretations and applications – 100% good people don’t exist. Even good and wonderful people can do really bad things.

      Judgment – There are two kinds of judgment, one that belongs only to God and one we do. How can we discern right from wrong, evil from good if we don’t judge? How can we refrain from association with the immoral Christian if we can’t judge who is the immoral Christian? (see I Cor. 5) for that one. WE are called to do justice. How can we do that without judging?

  89. Bobby Midkiff says:

    decision, but allow them now to try to r reader to solve this? He has a family with children as well, and seeks to please God like all of us do. Thank-you for this blog and allowing an unimportant reader to contribute. IN HIS GRIP

  90. Deborah Jane Anderson says:

    I’ve never been an MK, but I seriously considering going a short-term mission trip to Bangladesh years ago — in the mid-1980s, no less. I went to college in Grand Rapids with many MKS from Bangladesh. I don’t know the exact years that this doctor was committing his crimes, but I do recognize family names of folks that I knew in college.

    I read about this when a link to the WOOD-TV article was posted on Facebook by a friend of mine from back in my college days. I’ve lived on the east coast since 1981, but recently became reacquainted with friends from back then, after I joined Facebook. I wanted to write to this blog so that I could share what I just wrote in response to my friend’s post. But, before I do so, let me offer these additional comments.

    My heart just grieves for the victims of these heinous crimes — crimes which could have been avoided had the proper steps been taken in the first place. I sincerely pray that the present leadership of ABWE will do the right thing by these victims and do everything possible to ensure that Dr. Ketcham never be allowed access to another victim. The very least that should have done — and still should do — is to report the abuse to medical licensing authorities in the State of Michigan (my home state) and put it on record…and NOW. It is just unfathomable tome that this man still has a valid medical license, with an unblemished record for that license, and that he is still practicing medicine — FAMILY medicine…that means including treating CHILDREN! OMG!

    Further, I believe that ABWE could still go much farther. The seriously need to leave no rock unturned, and trudge full steam ahead toward relentlessly pursuing each and every legal avenues available to revoke Dr. Ketcham’s retirement pay from the mission. Of course, better yet would be that Dr. Ketcham would “man-up” and step forward to do the right thing himself, by refusing any further payments from ABWE and by turning himself in to the medical and legal authorities, but I think a person of his ilk isn’t likely to do that. Why? Well, call me a skeptic, but I don’t think pedophiles can ever be “rehabilitated.”

    I surely hope ABWE still will pursue a way not to pay Dr. Ketcham any retirement, or at the very least that there would be a way they could arrange to pay any retirement money due him into a trust for which his wife (who also served on the mission field) is the sole beneficiary. From what I’ve read (and admittedly I don’t know what legal recourse ABWE has pursued to this point), I urge ABWE still to relentlessly seek to find a legal loophole available to them by which they can circumvent any requirement that they continue to pay Dr. Ketcham himself. Maybe if all the churches who supported him during his tenure with ABWE threatened to take action to remove their support from ABWE — across the board — that would serve as motivation enough for ABWE to pursue this matter ever further.

    But, now on to my sharing of what I wrote in response to my friend’s Facebook posting. I hope it helps to show my empathy for and solidarity with the victims and their families. Here’s what I wrote:

    “Wow! This is really SICK — and I’m referring to both the Dr’s reprehensible acts AND the equally reprehensible failure on the part of the leadership of ABWE at that time to take proper action and report this. I mean, think about it — co.uld there be even more victims in Bangladesh or here in the U.S. that haven’t ever been discovered? It just infuriates and sickens me to no end that this wretched man was allowed to continue to practice medicine — for YEARS afterward, and with a “clean” medical license — and all due to the cover-up by ABWE leaders at that time (most, if not all, I presume are now long-since deceased). I know I’ve written a lot already, but really I feel left quite speechless about this matter, because I simply can’t write what I’d really like to say about it. But, suffice it to say that I think Dr. Ketcham should rot in jail in Bangladesh for the rest of his natural life!”

  91. Brown Skinned Girl says:

    Phil Walsh-

    I am a brown skinned girl like the ones you speak of. I was not protected from at age 2-11. No one knows, I could not tell.

    In Jesus name i have forgiven my offenders. Why is there is there so much hate here? Is it hard for people to forgive this man? What will happnen?

    • Phil Walsh says:

      Dear Brown Skinned Girl,

      I’m happy that you have forgiven the ones who offended you. The same Jesus, in whose name you forgave, confronted evil men with very harsh comments. Did He hate them? Not at all. He confronted them because He loved them. What you see as “hate” on this blog is actually a beautiful, God-given desire in His children to confront sin in order to bring evildoers into a right relationship with God. To not confront them would be to hate them. And part of the justice we seek is in order to keep evildoers from perpetrating the same crimes on others. That is loving others. So while you think you did the loving thing by staying silent, perhaps you are inadvertently allowing other girls to undergo the same abuse you suffered. That, you see, is not a loving thing to do.

      • Diana Durrill says:

        Well said, brother. Brown-skinned girl…find someone you can trust to be strong and courageous: tell them your story and ask them for help to do what is right. God loves you and never meant for you to be treated the way you were. Phil is right…God wants evil confronted! Don’t be afraid…there is an army of men and women out there willing to stand by your side. You will be amazed what healing will come into your life just because you opened up. Be brave, sister, be brave! We love you!

    • Dave DeCook says:

      Dear precious brown-skinned Sister,

      The seven short sentences you posted have been on my mind for the last week.

      When you say “No one knows, I could not tell,” I assume that is because the one who abused you is powerful. Maybe he is physically large and could hurt your body or destroy your property if you told. Maybe he has a powerful position or powerful friends and could cause your family members to lose their jobs. I assume you could not tell because of fear of further loss.

      It is good if you have forgiven your offenders in Jesus’ name. We as Christians know that the only true satisfaction for the enormity of our sins is the death of Jesus on the Cross. Every kind of sin will be forgiven on that basis. However, do not confuse forgiveness with accepting bad treatment because you have a lower station in life and cannot expect better treatment. You are just as worthy of your own personal dignity as the white-skinned sisters spoken of here on this blog. The crime against you was just as foul as the crime against them. This is where the Gospel radically transforms cultures.

      In Matthew 18:5 says we are to welcome a little child in His name. This means that the least among us is a child of the King and to be welcomed as royalty. This is the opposite of the world. The world honors the powerful, not the weak. We call this trading favors. In America the saying goes, “I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine.” In Matthew 20:26 Jesus said, “Not so with you.” We must be different from the world. He said in Luke 14:12 that we should invite to dinner those who cannot repay us.

      In God’s eyes there are no Dalits–the untouchables in the Hindu caste system. All are equal. Every person in the family of God should have power to confront a fellow Christian, no matter how different their stations in life. The rules for this are in Matthew 18:15-20. Those who see the weak being abused have a duty to help them, according to Proverbs 24:11.

      Why is there so much hate here? This is not hatred. This is righteous indignation. Just as Jesus showed intense anger when he cleansed the temple with a whip, so we show anger that the Temple of the Holy Spirit, the bodies of young girls, was violated and abused. We rightly show that anger toward the one who did it.

      Is it hard for people to forgive this man? Yes, it is. And denying what he did, covering up what he did, confusing or minimizing what he did makes it even harder.

      Your final question: What will happen? Only God knows, of course, but there are a number of outcomes that most of us are hoping for, listed in various posts on this blog. In particular for you and my Bangladeshi brothers and sisters I hope that you see a good example through the missionaries. An example of honesty, and accountability, including the removal of leaders who have done wrong (I Tim. 5:19-25). I hope the Christian community in Bangladesh can reject the pattern of the world and follow the pattern Jesus taught us and never again will a brown-skinned sister have to say “No one knows, I could not tell.”

      In the name of the Good Shepherd, Jesus,
      Pastor Dave DeCook

      • Dave DeCook says:

        Tragically illustrating how Christianity must be different from its surrounding culture is the case of Hena Akhter of Shariatpur, Bangladesh, who died and was buried at 14 years of age on January 31, 2011. Akhter, also called Hena Begum, died after receiving 70 lashes of a 101 lash sentence handed down in a fatwa by the local imam. Her crime? Being raped by her cousin, a grown and married man who had set a lustful eye on her and had taken to harrassing her.

        I hesitate to ask this, but it must be answered by those serious about the spread of the truth of the Gospel and its implications in the Christian community in Bangladesh: Is the main difference between Hena and the 14 year old victim featured in this blog the color of their skin?

        Can you stay silent in the face of the testimony of “the brown-skinned girl”?

        [This story can still be followed on CNN and BBC
        http://www.cnn.com/2011/WORLD/asiapcf/03/29/bangladesh.lashing.death/index.html
        http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-south-asia-12404358%5D

    • An ABWE MK says:

      Dear brown-skinned girl,

      I was seriously wounded by a Christian leader. I believe I long ago forgave him. I have no animosity toward him or desire for personal vengeance. I don’t have imaginations of God wreaking vengeance. His is my brother in Christ and I continue to love him.

      Even so, my wounds are still raw and painful. My desire that he is called into account for what he did to me (and to many others) has nothing to do with not forgiving. It is not hate that desires this. It is because I love him as my brother.

      I will believe that he has repented when he comes to me in sorrow for how he sinned against me. His is also a serial sin that has hurt many. Although it is not sexual sin it needs to stop before even more are hurt. There is nothing I can do now, but if the time ever comes, I will speak.

      Even more so for these ones who have been violated sexually. They haven’t been able to speak before now. Perhaps the pain was too intense. It takes a long time to even admit something like sexual abuse happened to you. Or perhaps they had no one to stand with them. These women (perhaps there were also boys on K’s list?) have now found others and perhaps together they will get the response that is long overdue. Perhaps through their combined voices, things will change and others will be spared because of their courage to speak.

      You don’t need hate to desire justice. Justice is not revenge.

      I pray that you will learn the magnitude of the sin done to you. We can only forgive when we see the offense. That is why I don’t think people can immediately forgive everything. It takes time to grasp the width and depth of the offense. It is likely that for the rest of life new things emerge. For example, fear for their children, nightmares in the night, sexual difficulties with their husbands and many many other things.

      I pray that you find others who will listen to you, that you will not be alone in your pain and sorrow.

  92. Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

    This blog has shown me very clearly what women and children face when they confront the issue of abuse. Even in the face of ABWE’s admission of guilt that they let a pedophile go back to a church and back to praciticing medicine!! Still these women are attacked, put on trial, told they are liars, that they are gossips, that they are not following biblical paths of confrontation, that they are unforgiving and malicious and that they are basically tools in the hands of Satan.

    So, who’s next? Who wants to bring out the terrible thing that no one will listen to?

    This blog was a last resort. Do you see where ABWE says they’ve done an investigation? Should an investigation include others who might have been victims or may have information that could be useful? ABWE admits they were approached in 1989, 2002 and 2007. I was a teen on the field and DK was my doctor. My sister’s doctor. Neither of us, nor our parents have ever been asked anything by ABWE. Ever.

    Do not blindly believe everything you read. Ask questions from the people who have the answers! LISTEN to these people. Stop telling them who to call. WE ALREADY KNOW and HAVE.

    I’m grateful for the number of people who ABWE might actually listen to who have voiced support to the victims. Pastors and leadership of supporting churches. People in positions of authority with young girls who are APPALLED at this. People who are grateful someone finally had the guts to not care how badly they are shredded by Christians who claim to love Jesus!!

    ABWE’s admission of knowledge of a crime that happened 20 YEARS AGO is now undisputed. But it has only come out because two victims were strong enough to take all this stuff that has been thrown at them.

    God has always believed these girls. He saw what happened to them. He is a righteous judge and has come to their rescue.

    And now, it doesn’t matter anymore if you don’t believe them. Plenty of other people do. Enough to finally make a difference.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Thank you. Your post made me cry.
      Susannah

    • isaiah618 says:

      In reply to Deborah Barrick Beddoe,
      Thank you. Your post made me cry.
      Susannah

    • onyoursidebutletsnotgetcrazy says:

      Deborah,

      Could you please provide specific details as to where any of the victims have been called liars, gossips, been put on trial, and that they a malicious tools of Satan? It helps noone involved to emotionally state something that most likely is not true. If you have evidence of those statements please present it. As to allowing the pedophile to go back to a church….ABWE has no more control over the life of Dr. Ketcham than it has over you or me. They cannot tell me where to go or what do. They cannot tell me if I can attend a church or not. If the pedophile goes to a church what do you want ABWE to do about it? Do they need to hire an employee that does nothing but follow this man around his entire life yelling “Unclean”? Obviously, they can’t do this. Asking the impossible is also not the best way to help the victims. Regarding asking for an investigation. He admittted it, he was fired…why would ABWE investigate?…there is no investigation needed. It is obvious to all parties involved and noone is disputing anything that I can see. Do you have evidence that something else needs to be investigated? Besides that, ABWE is a mission sending agency.. they are not detectives nor do they have a detective on staff. I think they believe the victims and feel extremely horrible about what happened… why beat the dead horse of an investigation that doesn’t need to be done? Regarding legal action… I still don’t understand why the victims aren’t pursuing legal action. Any power at all to prosecute any crime at all would would have to be initiated by the victims. If the victims have substantial evidence and their families want justice I don’t understand why they don’t just go to the police. I think this blog is turning into a lot of emotional gossip and slamming of what I believe to be a very good mission board (Obviously…NOT PERFECT, and obviously with a major problem they need to take care of due to some very bad decision making.) But, can’t the families pursue legal action against the man? I am also foggy about the demands. Are there any? What are they? Do you want someone fired? Who? Do you want monetary damages? Please just make some simple demands of ABWE…. make them specific and let’s see what they do. Assault of character through a website where anyone can say anything without any proof whatsoever is actually, I believe, more insulting to the victims themselves. It just makes their case look weak. Regardless of what many people think, I believe that ABWE is sickened by the whole thing…that they would love to go back and fix it all…that they are Godly people who made some bad decisions along the way (ie: having a young girl write a confession), and that they want to make it right. Let’s not get crazy and so over-emotionized that we start saying things that simply just aren’t true. Doing that will not help anyone nor will it put anyone on the path to reconciliation. Personally, I am sad for the victims and I hope they get the justice they deserve. I stand behind them and for them. I am also sad for ABWE because they will need to take drastic measures to make this right. A good start might be the immediate firing of Ebersole who made a horrible decision to make the girl confess when she had nothing to confess for except that she was taken advantage of by a sick man. I stand with ABWE as well because I know they love God and want to make this right and they are impacting the world in a great way. Let’s make it right all the way around and move on.

      • Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

        I’m truly sorry if I offended you with the way I write. Please see the comments left by Marie, Saddened and Frustrated, Fact Seeker, Anonymous on 3/20, Carepear, The Other side and Tracy McLarson. There is also another part of the blog under Susie’s Story where there are more comments that attacked Susie and “Thankful”. These are the comments to which I was referring. (Believe me, for victims, these comments are excruciating.)
        But I definitely did not mean to offend people who have believed these things that are being shared by the victims and their families. I probably should have posted this note on the other part of the blog or in direct response to Tracy McLarson where it would have made more sense to you in context. But I wasn’t trying to attack any one person’s comments, just summarize.

        I’m sorry if my expressions of grief and heartbreak seem crazy to you. For some of us, this has been a long time coming and it is very emotional. But I’m curious, with so many others expressing the same feelings, why are you asking me in particular? (Was was just the use of double exclamation points and all caps?)

        I cannot answer your questions about demands. But as for me, it isn’t about demands but about reforming a “culture of silence” (as it has been referred to by another writer here in the blog) that valued the reputation of a man and a mission over justice for children. And that is exactly what many of us feel.

        I really don’t think I said anything that was false. But it seems like your statement about “saying things that simply just aren’t true” indicates that I did that. Is there something specific I said that was untrue? I would actually, genuinely like to know because there is no need for me to do that.

        thank you
        Deb

      • concerned says:

        While Doc can go to church, it is ABWE’s responsibility to tell sending church that he is a pedophile and not purposely mislead them into thinking it was just an affair….and THEN cast dispersions on this church by insisting otherwise.
        Also you ask why the the victims don’t prosecute. Read the blog. They can’t.

      • YouMustNotActuallyBeOnHerSide says:

        OnYourSideButLet’sNotGoCrazy:
        Your post is puzzling to me for a lot of reasons. I’m curious as to why you are asking Deb the questions you are asking her, because most do not pertain to her or her post. Why would you go after one specific person when there are dozens on here saying basically the same things?

        Also most of your statements or complaints (if you will) could easily be refuted by a careful reading of this blog (i.e., your questions about why an investigation is necessary).

        You asked her to point out the people who had called the victims liars and gossips, etc., and she very graciously did. Now I am asking you respectfully to point out the statements you refer to when you say that she is saying things that aren’t true. What was said in her post that was not true?

        As for emotions … if the sexual assault of young girls and subsequent cover up by an organization that was trusted to handle things in a godly way does not make you emotional, what does?

      • I'm Just Sayin' says:

        “onyoursidebutletsnotgetcrazy,” you did have a couple of the same observations and thoughts as I did, and you asked a couple of the same questions that had occurred to me- as I have been reading through the posts on this blog, following ABWE’s website, and talking to some of the individuals involved. You had some valid points there. Let me say this with the spirit of caring that I am feeling for my fellow MKs and fellow missionaries: Regardless of how emotionally charged an issue is, and regardless of how emotionally involved we are personally, (and believe me, I am personally being impacted on so many levels), if we want to make our case the strongest one possible, it is imperative that we use objective arguments, arguments that are free of logical fallacies, arguments that can be substantiated, arguments that are made from a Biblical perspective, and arguments that are clear as to what their ultimate intended purpose is. I’m praying that we will all seek to know how God would have us respond in such a way that would glorify Him and would love and serve others.

        MK for Life

      • Cheryl P says:

        Very well said, Deb. To the one who questioned your remarks wanting specifics….I suggest they read all the posts from start to finish. The remarks will be found….I read them as well.

      • An ABWE MK says:

        To Deb – I’m not sure this response WAS to just you. There are so many posts here and difficulty putting things right where you want them. I know I am confused! There needs to be a way to break this down into different threads.

        You suggested he do a careful reading. Yikes! There are so many posts, I’ve spent hours reading them today and that is after spending hours less than 2 days ago!

        I don’t know, but things might be meant as support that feel like bashing, or at the least, not meant as bashing. Like I said, I’m confused. I’m probably not the only one.

        To Onyourside – Yes, I said that above about possible misinterpretation of words. However, I too have seen the attacks on their characters. My memory isn’t good enough to remember if “gossips, tools of Satan, etc.” are the exact words used. I know those things were at least implied by what was said.

        Also to Onyourside, One thing I expect and think is good is the emotions. Of course they are running high! Expecting perfectly logical arguments of proof is not only unrealistic, it limits the ability for a person to just talk, to truly feel and try to express the magnitude. These are verbal tears that you are reading. They are verbal sobs of pain finally being shared with comrades in pain. Considering that, they’ve been fairly restrained.

  93. Esther Rapa says:

    @ Bill Barrick, I am so very proud of your kids, and wife. They are doing an amazing job of standing up on behalf of the abused. And thank you also for your strong statement for justice. And whoever mentioned the mission “shushing” its missionaries hit the nail on the head. That is modus operandi in more situations than this one. Thank you Phil for your heartbreaking revelation of your attempts to “get then to hear” you. We understand that struggle, although on a different level. Praying for all involved in this battle for truth and justice.

  94. robyn bloem says:

    I am a victim– not of dr ketchum, but of the death of our daughter and grand daughter at the hands of a drug addict. I get so tired of people asking me how the killer is doing! The only recourse we have in this life is to battle crime and criminals in the criminal justice system. We cannot go after people by ourselves. The woman who says she is a therapist/counselor should focus on the victims, not the mental health of the predator. he is a grown man with a horrible sin problem; these victims were children. Focus on them, prosecute ketchum and trust God to put lives back together, but don’t belittle the pain in the name of goodness on your part…tolerance… toward this poor struggling pedophile. He needs his comeuppance–prison where he can really put his Christianity into practice.

  95. Actions speak loudest says:

    I grew up in a local baptist church which was and probably still is a strong supporter of ABWE. ketcham was a very familiar name and the “dr.” was looked at with the utmost sense of respect and honor. As I read the blog which I stumbled upon accidentally, I am filled with disgust and not a little bit of anger. I spent the greater part of my life being indoctrinated with what it means to be a christian, went to a christian school, sat under some of the “godliest” men, etc… etc… I was a very involved and dedicated member. Yet, I left the church as I saw the hypocrisy of it all. Like any big corporation, it’s all about image covered in a cloak of “godliness”. That’s my opinion, my perspective and I’ve seen very little to change my view. This revelation only strengthens it. So what’s my point?

    1st of all, my heart goes out to all the victims that were abused and betrayed by this monster. To do what he did to children under his care reaches a depth of depravity that goes deeper than most of us can know. There is no justice short of his death that is suitable enough.

    2nd, if you think this is an isolated incident, you’re sadly mistaken. For all of you who blindly put in your trust in your church or any organization to do the right thing, you do so at your peril. The fact that abwe deliberately buried the real details of what happened and made the victim write a confession letter???? How insane is that? But you know what? It’s typical of how things are handled by those “godly” men in authority. Goes right back to image.

    3rd, the damage caused by what has happened is more far reaching than anyone can know. This should shake the “christian” church to it’s core. Baptists in particular are so pious and sanctimonious about how enlightened and knowledgeable in the truth they are as opposed to any other denomination. It’s just unthinkable that anything so horrible could be going on in their little world. Time to wake up people. You’re no better or more immune to this crap than anyone else. I recall the information given about his “affair” and there was absolutely nothing that would indicate how much more there was to it. To call this an affair is a outright lie and undermines everything abwe claimed it stood for.

    I sincerely hope that the victims can find some sense of peace and move on with their lives. Don’t expect any justice for what has happened. Obviously to this point, there hasn’t been any. Whatever abwe could have done, it’s too little, too late now. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to fix what has happened. You can’t. Get counseling, learn how to deal with the aftermath and move on. abwe will only say and reveal what they absolutely have to in order to do damage control. Otherwise it’s business as usual.

    To any who still don’t fully realize the depth of this monster’s atrocities, it’s estimated that on average a pedophile will abuse 69 children before he is ever caught. He was caught and then turned loose on an unknowing general public for the last 20 years. How godly are those abwe leaders looking now?

  96. Aunt Jan says:

    To the brave and beloved MKs of BD –
    For so many years I have watched the agony of your families as they have tried so hard to work through this situation in a godly manner. It has been heart-breaking to see and experience the lack of true justice on your behalf. It is so sad that this medium is what you had to resort to in order to obtain that justice for your loved ones and yourselves.

    I want to applaud you for your bravery and compliment you on your “tone” as you have expressed yourselves in a firm but kind manner – whether telling your own stories or responding to the postings of others. I feel that God must be pleased with how you have handled yourselves.

    Whether a direct victim or a victim of the fallout, you need to know (and I hope you do!) that you are loved and supported by so many.

    I have been, and will continue to be, much in prayer for all of you, your families, the home office, and also the Ketcham family. I’m sure they are currently going through some heart-wrenching times as this is finally being dealt with. In a way, they too can be considered “victims” in all of this.

    However this all plays out, my main prayer is for God to somehow receive glory and for his kingdom to be advanced.

    Love you all

    • Aunt Jan says:

      On my way home from a meeting this morning, I was re-thinking my post and decided to reword one part. Words are so powerful aren’t they? Just don’t want any misunderstanding. Instead of using the word “they (4th paragraph, last sentance), I should have said “some of them”. Thanks

      • Annonymous says:

        I agree with Saddened and Frustrated. This blog would be a safe place if it was a private blog (only readable by those involved). Gossip can be truth. Being part of a large family that has experienced multiple sexual abuse situations from outsiders and a wife that has been involved in multiple affairs, I feel for all the victims. They must feel their pain, they must grieve, they should feel anger, but this is not how it should be done. The “truth” should not be made known to the whole world. That is vengeance, trading pain for pain. I’ve wanted to post billboards near homes of the men who touched my wife, would that be justice? No. Have they repented directly and asked for my forgiveness? No. But I must forgive. The bitterness will eat me alive. How do we say we prayed about something and then go in a direction contrary to God’s Word?

      • isaiah 618 says:

        Okay, Anonymous … so you say “The ‘truth’ should not be made known to the whole world. That is vengeance, trading pain for pain.” Ummm … I’m sorry, did you completely miss the fact that we are talking about a sexual predator who molests young girls? You must have, or I cannot imagine that you would have us keep this truth quiet, thereby allowing this pedophile (say the words with me, Anonymous) to be free and unaccountable to be trusted with other young girls and to touch them as well. THAT’s what you want? You believe that’s more godly? Let other girls get molested, as long as the “whole world” doesn’t have to hear about how a few Christians really screwed up some lives. People like you make me want to GIVE UP on people like you. Contrary to God’s Word? Is trying to protect other children contrary to God’s Word? Is pushing for justice (and it DID take this blog to get ANY form of it) contrary to God’s Word? And please don’t give us that sorry line about Donn Ketcham (let’s also use his name) being too old to molest any more. The man was STILL practicing medicine part time. He was still a doctor! How is that “feeble and pathetic” as one MK tried to call him, telling us we were wrong in bringing his name to the public.

        Anonymous, we must serve different Gods, because my God is not happy with the covering of sin and He is not pleased by those who value reputation and a blind clinging to holy ordinances over the care of lives, especially children. Do you remember that He healed on the Sabbath? Do you remember what kind of flack Jesus got for doing so? So a few posts have maybe gone too far. So a few users have needed to ask forgiveness. It does not corrupt the end result which is the protection of children and justice for wounded children, now adults. I live my faith transparently before the world. I’m sorry you do not believe that lives should be lived in this way and that non-believers actually respect us MORE when we live this way. They would RATHER see the church involved in getting justice and protection for abused children. That is a church they can get on board with. Not one that would have us sweep things under the rug to make them think we have it all together until our lies unravel at the seams and it is made clear for all to see that WE DO NOT.

        Also, you stated 30 minutes prior to writing what you wrote above that: “We live in a fallen world and are all hiding secret sins. Could you imagine the revival that would take place if we didn’t feel like we had to pretend we have it all together?” Can you not see your own hypocrisy? By wishing for us to protect Donn Ketcham, by wishing for us to protect ABWE, you are perpetuating the very mindset that you claimed 30 minutes previous you don’t have. Donn Ketcham is a pedophile. ABWE has screwed up. They have both been pretending to have it all together for 20 plus years, including LYING, what’s more ABWE’s leadership did these things despite being confronted with the right things to do. We are unearthing the secrets and God is moving. I’m sorry you can’t see it that way.

        And I’m so curious about what caused you to change your tune about what godliness is within 30 minutes. So I do hope you will come back and explain yourself.

        – Tamara

  97. Diana Durrill says:

    Friends -
    I want to encourage you that there is NO DOUBT in my mind that God is in this. There has been more healing taking place in the last week than there has been in 20+ years. I cannot share details, but know that God is working. We may not see any results like we had hoped just yet, but He is not through. What He has done already has helped my heart tremendously and I KNOW it would yours. God be praised!

  98. Diana Durrill says:

    I want to correct my above post. We HAVE had seen some of the results that we wanted. When rereading my post after it posted, I realized that I chose my words poorly because we have indeed seen some of the results we hoped for…

    1. We have seen mk’s come together in brotherly/sisterly love and defense of one another….something most of haven’t experienced for over 20 years.
    2. We have had other mk victims share their stories, too.
    3. We have been pleasantly and overwhelmingly surprised by the support of our truly beloved “aunts and uncles”.
    4. Our voices have finally been heard by a larger audience than just the ABWE administration.
    5. ABWE has made a very small step in the right direction and we pray it continues to move in the right direction.
    6. We have been surrounded by an army of supportive pastors and churches who are making their voices heard.

    Let’s focus on these things and praise God together!

    And then we must pray:
    1. For the victims, namely and urgently for the ones who started this blog.
    2. For the ABWE administration to do the right thing. Fully and completely.
    3. For Donn Ketcham to do the right thing, painful as it may be for himself and all those close to him.
    4. For the missionaries around the world who are no doubt hurting from this, too.

  99. From The Outside says:

    I’ve stumbled across this blog because I’m missions minded and live and breath missions every day. I also know Dr. Ketcham and the family. I have a few questions for the victims:

    1. What do you want Dr. Ketcham to do to help you all heal? (Please give details)
    2. What do you want ABWE to do? (Please give details)
    3. Can’t you make parts of this blog private so you can help each other heal privately? While my heart goes out to you (victims) for your pain, I’m also concerned for the innocent Ketcham family members (also victims). Unfortunately, they don’t have a choice about this exposure.
    4. If you see #1 and #2 completed to your satisfaction, what will you do then?

    Please do not take this as antagonistic. I’m just trying to figure out the purpose of this blog.

    • Speaking As an MK, But Not the Blog's Creator says:

      I am not the creator of this blog, however, I am a Bangladesh MK, and I know what I PERSONALLY feel about your question number three, so here it is.

      Let’s talk about Phillip Garrido. Surely you know who he is. If a blog was started by his victims, would you honestly go to them and ask them to make it private for the sake of his family? Seriously? You’d have the gall to do that?

      Check yourself, whoever you are, because you are giving compassion to the wrong family. If this blog is painful, they can blame their father, and if they don’t like reading it, they can stop.

      • Cheryl P says:

        From the Outside. I believe if you thoroughly read each and every post from the beginning and follow it closely, your questions will be answered. This shouldn’t be a quiz nor should it sound like a job interview, and I accept your comment that you don’t want to sound antagonistic….but it does. They want to be heard. They want to be validated. They want an apology. They want justice done to the extent it can be done. They want repentance shown by Dr K for his own benefit. They want ABWE to confess and be genuinely remorseful for what happened to them and to state it unabashedly and without reservation. They want to heal and get on with their lives which will be greatly facilitated if the above things happen. As for the innocent members of his family I can only say that they can’t be held responsible and as was already stated, they may choose not to read this. It is what it is.

    • patricia says:

      To: From the Outside: “stumbled across this blog”? You must have fallen off your chair when you read the name, Dr Ketcham!
      Perhaps:
      1. Give up his license to practice medicine because he is a pedophile. Serve jail time because pedophiles belong in jail but they are separated from general population because they usually end up murdered. Even hard core criminals know and understand the ugliness of grown men on little girls. (Details)
      2. Prove beyond a shadow of doubt that a plan is in place and in action with responsible people to protect child from being molested. To form a strong board of people who possess true biblical understanding and 21 century practices of protection. Pay for all damages that have resulted in the criminal cover-up.
      3. NO (There will be no more silence. Passive-aggressive won’t work anymore.)
      4. Take what is left of a broken life and finally rest or in some cases finally get out of bed and live!
      *the word pedophile and molester are polite titles*
      FOR ONE MOMENT AND ONLY ONE, because it can get quite ugly, PICTURE WHAT THAT LOOKS LIKE! Now times that by 21 Years; it’s a real-life horror show.
      Antagonistic? No, passive-aggressive, the first sentence of the blog states the purpose.
      Just think – if #2 doesn’t happen then you too, with your mission mind, could experience the true horror of your child being molested, by the hands of a “good” man. You might even hug him good-bye.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      I take offense at your comment “Unfortunately, they don’t have a choice about this exposure.” That is a strong statement in the faces of girls who had little to no choice about exposure themselves. Girls who have had their teenage and adult lives haunted by the shameful “exposure” they were subjected to. And if they so choose to go public with their story (which they are doing)…then the exposure that is being placed on anyone has got to be most painful of all for them, the victims. The Light that shines on sin is the only thing that is beautiful about this. Jesus Christ is that Light. He hates sin and He wants it exposed.

    • An ABWE MK says:

      Regarding #3 – posting privately –

      There is another reason that might be a good idea to set something like that up. There are probably people that don’t want to post publicly even under a pseudonym but need to talk. Perhaps someone knows an individual and feels safe talking to them, but not putting things out here where there are both wolves and sheep. Or something an individual said is something that is better addressed in an individual discussion.

  100. Nan W. says:

    To my hurting sisters in Christ, and the entire family of ABWE Bangladesh, past and present:

    I serve the Lord in Chittagong, Bangladesh. I am not here to say anything official. But I can say that those of us on the field in Chittagong weep as we pray for every member of our extended family who is hurting today. I don’t want to share my opinions, or my feelings. I just want to pray with all of you.

    Dear Heavenly Father, the family of ABWE Bangladesh is hurting. We are torn apart by the effects of sin. We are wounded. What happened to our sisters has broken our hearts. We are weeping for them.

    God, you have promised that you will turn our weeping into joy, our mourning into dancing. You have said that you will bring beauty from ashes. You will restore the years that the locust has eaten. You are a God of restoration and resurrection. And you do immeasurably more than we can ask, hope or even imagine. God, we need you to do all those things right now.

    Father, please pour your healing grace on the victims. May their roots go down deep into the soil of your marvelous love. My they know the depth and height and breadth of that love, and may it be their strength. We ask for truth and justice for them. May they know that they are loved by your people. May they eventually be able to forgive, not to free the abuser, but to find freedom for themselves. And may they find peace and wholeness.

    Father, show your love and compassion to their families and friends. Comfort them in the pain of watching loved ones struggle. Help them continue to be a source of strength for the survivors. Thank you for using them to comfort and support.

    Lord, guide and direct the leaders of ABWE, churches and families involved. Help them to bravely choose to expose truth, confess sin and seek restoration and restitution.

    Lord, our adversary is at work. He would destroy your servants’ lives, tear your community apart, and destroy everything your people have done here in Bangladesh. Yet all of us have sacrificed our lives so that this place would know about your great love. Our enemy will sow discord, strife and anger. He will cause miscommunication. He loves hidden things. We stand firm, praying against his work. God, do not allow him to have a single victory in this battle.

    Lord, the world is watching us. Help us to show that your people are not perfect, but that your Spirit among us can do amazing things. Pour out your Spirit so that we will see healing, forgiveness and restoration. Help us comfort each other with the comfort we have received. May this family be brought to unity and wholeness. May you be glorified in each of us. Amen.

    I am praying without ceasing for your healing.
    Aunt Nan W.

    • To Nan Walters says:

      Nan, much of your prayer is good and right, and so I trust that your heart is in the right place. However, I must tell you that the following words you chose to use on this blog heap guilt on parties who have already felt enough pain:

      You said: “Lord, our adversary is at work. He would destroy your servants’ lives, tear your community apart, and destroy everything your people have done here in Bangladesh. Yet all of us have sacrificed our lives so that this place would know about your great love. Our enemy will sow discord, strife and anger. He will cause miscommunication. He loves hidden things. We stand firm, praying against his work. God, do not allow him to have a single victory in this battle.”

      What you said in that paragraph should not have been said here. These girls, these victims have been silent for decades for love of Bangladesh missionaries, Bengalis themselves, and for a desire to have this be a private matter that does not hurt the spread of the gospel or the ministry of their own parents in Bangladesh.

      What this blog has done is to bring sin and lies out of darkness and into the light, and ask for God’s hand of justice to come into our midst and restore integrity to the ABWE organization.

      And you imply here (disguised in prayer and spiritual lingo/Christianese) that these girls seeking truth and justice are hurting the work of God-fearing missionaries in Bangladesh.

      Perhaps unintentionally, you have heaped guilt on those who should feel no guilt. These girls tried to get reconciliation and justice privately. Any and all feelings of frustration that this matter is hurting missions work should be directed at ABWE, namely their president Michael Loftis who has had many years to keep this public airing of dirty laundry from happening but chose repeatedly to hide behind a lawyer, lies, spiritual lingo like yours, and spiritual abuse that says: if you speak up about this, you’ll hurt the mission.

      Nan, if you care for these hurting girls as you say you do, you owe them an apology for unintentionally adding to their pain. They’ve suffered enough, don’t you think?

      • Nan W. says:

        My sincerest apology to anyone who read those words and felt they were a condemnation of the victims for speaking out. That was truly not my intention. I agree with those who applaud the courageous way you have brought things to light. If anything, my comments about the enemy were a result of seeing how much anger some people have had in reaction to your honesty. Criticizing the victims was the very farthest thing from my mind. I only wanted to communicate that those of us on the field are praying for you as well.

    • Nathan Barrick says:

      I said I wouldn’t post again, but I had to reply to Aunt Nan W. The strongest, most vivid touchstone for my continued faith in God despite all the world’s (and Satan’s) attempts to deny him through science is my personal experience observing my parents and the other assembled missionaries in Chittagong gathered to pray “specifically” and witnessing miracles. I personally have a very real sense of the power of your post’s truth and I thank you.

  101. Our Transparent God says:

    To ‘From the Outsider’.

    I appreciate your genuine Q’s. Mine is not an answers to them rather a few observations from the Bible concerning your Q 3. The perpretator and his family:
    1. When God exposed the Sins of His Children in the Bible did he do it privately? I leave it for you to answer
    2. While we continue to pray for DK and his family we can rejoice in Christ that finally they also (the family members) have an opportunity like never before to help him do what God has been waiting patiently for him to do for past 20+ (?) years?
    3. ‘Guilt’ is the heaviest thing to carry around. If DK says he has no feeling of guilt anymore (confession letter) I won’t be too off the mark if I had major question about his relation with Jesus Christ at the first place: ‘By their fruits you will know them’.

  102. George & Deb Collins says:

    To our dear Bangladesh MK family:

    Deb and I want to let you know how proud we are of you. We believe in you, hurt for you and stand with you in your quest for the truth. It is our sincere prayer and fervent hope that you will find the answers you need so that the healing process can begin. Though we can’t be physically present with you, please know that you are never far from our thoughts these days. Though we have been surprised by some information we have learned from this blog, we do believe that the leadership at ABWE has a huge heart for you and a strong desire to be a part of the healing process.

    On a personal note – many of you know that our extended family has been seriously impacted by these things (as already mentioned in other posts) which has caused stress and strain in many ways. We are so grateful to report that our healing as a family has taken a great leap forward in large part due to your courage to share your stories here. Our prayer is that this may become a reality for many others of you as well.

    As saddened as we are for all that has taken place, we are filled with hope that our great God will win the day and that openness, forgiveness and grace will be extended liberally to all of us who stand in need.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      George and Deb -
      You have NO IDEA how good it is to hear from you….we have missed you terribly over the years. I rejoice with tears how God is working in your personal family’s lives. God does bring beauty from ashes. I chose to believe yesterday that you were sincere, but your post proves it. Please know that we hope the administration does have a heart for us, but it will take a lot of action on their part to prove their sincerity. It has been an extremely hurtful process that has taken its toll over the years. Just as the healing in your own family will not be instantaneously fixed…it takes time for trust to be rebuilt…the healing we CAN have with ABWE administration will take time, for trust has been violated repeatedly. We hope and pray the Holy Spirit is actively urging them to do the right thing and soon. And also know that just as the belief you had in ABWE to handle the difficulties in your family’s story was revealed to be insufficient…know that the same thing has happened to my own family. Many will have new understanding into the depth of our pain once the truth comes out and they will ache that they didn’t know sooner.

      I love you dearly….you are old and precious friends and it has meant the world to hear your voice – BY NAME – today! Can’t wait to hug you both in person.

      Diana

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      George and Deb, thank you for standing with us and adding your names among those who will be counted as Bangladesh missionaries and MKs who stood up for truth and justice, with a heart of compassion for those who have been wounded by the sins of others. George, I truly pray that your influence at ABWE will bring about the start of reconciliation and a restoring of the organization’s integrity.

  103. Sharon Miller Chambers says:

    Thanks to the brave ones who lived on the mission field with these girls giving your support. You have known both Ketcham and the girls. You know more details than any of us know or need to know. One of the first steps for restoration is for these girls/women to be believed.
    If something happens in a church with a child being abused, wouldn’t they send out a letter contacting anyone who might have been exposed to that person. So shouldn’t that same thing occur for children who were exposed on a mission field?

  104. Anne Smith says:

    To George and Deb,
    Thank you for your comment. We are encouraged to see another family standing with us in all of this. I hurt for your family and many others. I have laid awake many nights lately wondering how certain families are and how they are taking all of this. I am so sorry that in order for healing to have had to start that this blog had to be set in place. How many years have been wasted b/c of one man’s sin and b/c an organization failed to take a stand and do what was right in the very beginning. That breaks my heart. I know that the day is coming when ‘open forgiveness and grace WILL be extended to all who stand in need’. And when that day comes and we (our family, your family, the victims and all who have been hurt) are ask to forgive (DK and ABWE) I know that I will be ready. I for one have to say that before this blog I would not have been able to forgive or maybe even be forgiven myself if need be. A lot has been revealed here on this blog and many eyes have been open to the truth. My heart goes out to the missionaries that are with ABWE that had no idea that this had/has been going on for 20+ years. What are they feeling and thinking now. I understand how hard it is to trust people sometimes. And here is another area that I see trust has been broken. I guess if ABWE has a huge heart for us (MK’s) like you say they do then 1.) this would never had happened, 2) then its time they show us their heart. It is going to take a lot from them now to show us we really meant/mean anything to them and that our siblings, the victims, mean anything to them at all. Try explaining all that to those who have bee hurt! I am not attacking you two. I know you are hurting and I also know that you understand what I am trying to say. We love you both very much and thank you for standing with us. Praying that full healing comes to your family!

    Anne

  105. perplexed says:

    It was so good to hear from Debbie and George. We know your family has gone through so much and are thankful to hear about the healing taking place with your family members and also with so many other victims families. God will be glorified!

    Everybody has been focusing on ABWE and their lack of response and misrepresentation over these 21 years.(which they should be) but I find it very ironic that noone has mentioned the fact that he is on the board of another mission agency called CDM(Closed Door Ministries). This mission is mostly run by their family members who know his back ground very well. The worst part is that he has always put women at risk and one of their main outreaches is helping women at risk. It seems to me that someone should be checking into this.

    Our prayer continues to go out to the victims and their families for healing.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      Good point and one that is not new to us. We find it a problem, too.

    • Joel Shaffer says:

      As I read this blog, my heart goes out to the victims…..My family is praying for you……

      The only question I have is, how do we know that the DK is on the board of Closed Door Ministries? I checked their 990′s that was filed in 2010 and these were the names of the board members:
      Phillip McDonald-President
      Kenneth Floyd-Trustee
      George Coon-Trustee
      Mike Shane-Trustee
      Michael Goad-Trustee

      • isaiah618 says:

        It has been reported that he is not on the board at Closed Door Ministries. I don’t know if he ever was in the past or not.

        Susannah Beals Baker

      • ABWE Board Members? says:

        Joel, can you get the names of the ABWE Board Members? Will you post them for us?

      • Julie says:

        I am appalled to discover that the names of ABWE board members are so difficult to find. Yet another indication of the culture of secrecy. I did however find a website that lists “related people.” They may or may not be board members, but it is a place to start.

        http://www.corporationwiki.com/Pennsylvania/Lewisberry/michael-g-loftis-P2780236.aspx

        My thoughts and prayers are with you. May God bless you for your courage and grant you peace.

      • Joel Shaffer says:

        I tried to check their 990′s for board information through the website guidestar.org, (that’s where I got the info on Closed Door Ministries) but realized that for some reason, ABWE does not have to file a 990 with the IRS. http://www.abwe.org/give/faqs-about-giving/

        I am trying to figure out why because the organization in which I am the executive director, Urban Transformation Ministries, is required to disclose all our (financial, board, and activities) info to the IRS through our 990′s every year.

      • Anonymous says:

        ABWE may not have to file 990s with the IRS, but to maintain their tax exempt status with the United States government and the state where they do business, they MUST have their board of directors listed SOMEWHERE, like on incorporation papers, or something. If someone has the time/ability do this, check their corporate documents and/or non-profit incorporation papers. Those probably would be on file in Pennsylvania and/or New Jersey, where they were first located.

    • concerned says:

      Has Donn Ketcham traveled or been on the field with CDM or War International in recent years? Has he had contact with orphans or the women at risk they work with? Going forward, it will be essential to know he is not on the mission field visiting or traveling with these ministries.

  106. MI PK says:

    My heart is so heavy as I read through this and try to digest all of this information today. I have not read all of the posts but wondered if anyone has addressed the issue of the homes he stayed in when in the U.S. on furlough? Did he speak/stay at any summer camps? My thoughts and prayers with all the victims.

  107. Linda (Walsh) Zylstra says:

    Marie – How do you know DK has confessed all of his sins to God? As far as we know, he only confessed to the sins (to mission authorities) that he was caught doing. How do you know that the victims haven’t forgiven him? Are you saying that forgiving him should be the end of it – that he should be allowed to commit multiple crimes and not have to pay for them? The Bible also says that we need to obey the law (which states it’s a crime to have sex with or sexually molest children). Please help me to understand what you are trying to say with this statement! The victims of DK were young, innocent, trusting CHILDREN who were drugged and sexually assaulted (repeated) for years. If this were done to one of your children, would you just forgive that person and let it go? Are you saying that you wouldn’t report him to keep him from doing it to other children? Please clarify!

  108. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    I am so glad to see others join in this fight BY NAME and I say fight, because it is a fight. It is a fight against lies, a fight against hidden sins, a fight for justice, and a fight for healing that cannot happen as long as the lies continue without a single spec of justice. It is also a fight to restore the integrity of the ABWE ministry by cleaning up a mess that has been allowed to grow and fester for decades.

    Truth honors God.
    Justice honors God. (And should not be sacrificed for mercy/forgiveness, but balanced WITH them.)
    Protecting the “least of these” honors God.

    Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

  109. MK Lawyer says:

    There have been several questions by people about why the victims have not sought legal action. As an already-cynical young lawyer, I can tell you that justice and healing and peace are not found in court. If you think that the atmosphere on the blog is hostile, you have no idea what litigation is like.

    At a practical level, one problem with going to court here is that criminal prosecution is impossible because of how long ago this happened and that it happened overseas. There are also issues with a civil suit. You’re always dealing with a statute of limitations, which likely expired long ago. I haven’t done the research, so I’m not sure that a civil suit would be impossible, but the procedural barriers would be formidable.

    And as one who’s walked with clients through litigation, I can tell you that it rarely brings personal healing or restored relationships. As painful and difficult as this blog is for everyone involved, at least it has the potential for both of those things. It is clear that the blog authors and other victims really do long for justice, healing, and restored relationships.

    To the victims: I don’t know if you’re interested, and I don’t know what GRACE offers, but there is something called victim-offender mediation that might provide a forum for a conversation with DK, should he be willing to dialogue with you. There are also a lot of skilled mediators who work with Peacemaker Ministries and may provide services that would be useful to you. If you have questions about either, I’d be happy to give you more information.

    On a personal note, though I’m not a BD MK, I am an MK whose parents served with ABWE for a time, and I can empathize with the hurt and frustration that’s been caused by the institution’s posture of self-protectionism and secrecy. I am sorry that you have suffered for so long because of it. I am personally horrified by what happened. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am thankful and so proud of you that you’re bringing things out into the light and I pray that your longing for justice and healing and restored community relationships will be answered.

    • Shocked at Your Suggestion says:

      MK Lawyer:
      It’s actually NOT for you to decide what will or will not bring these victims healing.

      And as for mediation with their abuser, that is a ludicrous suggestion. You would actually suggest that they sit at a table with Donn Ketcham and try to restore a relationship with him? You would suggest that they dialogue with a man who repeatedly drugged and molested them? Perhaps you mean well, but your suggestions are outrageous. Would you suggest to Elizabeth Smart that she sit at a table with the man who kidnapped and raped her and try to restore a relationship “should he be willing to dialogue” with her? What kind of person suggests such things to the victims of sexual assault? Do you have any idea of the mental, emotional, manipulative hold that abusers tend to have on those they have repeatedly abused? And yet you would suggest that they even be in the same room with him?

      You admit you haven’t done the research on civil litigation for this sort of thing. Then please, do the victims and those who love them a favor and do not come on here offering your opinion “as a lawyer” when (by your own admission) you do not know about this specific area of the law and have not researched it.

      • MK Lawyer says:

        So sorry to have offended anyone by my post. Truly my heart was simply to defend the choice to create this blog because of how difficult and how unsatisfying I believe litigation ultimately is. And I also wanted to explain to those who are not familiar with the law why litigation may not even be likely to succeed in this situation. I didn’t think the victims should have to defend their choice to detractors.

        But while I have never seen litigation lead to any type of healing, I have the sense that the community forming here has the potential to create room for that.

        And you are absolutely right that it’s not my place to say what people should do – I would never want to give advice without all the facts. That was not my intention in posting. I did desire to mention possible resources, however. I don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes, and where perpetrators are truly repentant and can meaningfully apologize, mediation can be very healing for victims.

      • Truth seeker says:

        Though many on this blog continue to accuse Dr. K of drugging and molesting them, only one girl/woman on here has any clear recollection of this happening to her. No one (with one exception) has said they remember even his face. They have hazy memories and dreams/nightmares. I feel deeply sorrowful for those who suffer. However, if you have no proof or even memory of Dr. K molesting you, don’t post as if you do. If you had a sense of something being wrong at some point, but have no evidence to support your feelings, don’t act as if something did happen. Don’t tell people Donn continued/continues to molest when you have no evidence or proof.

        I have a daughter who is approximately the age of the victim who has proven on this blog that Donn molested her. I understand the deep and righteous anger the parents and family must feel for this violation. I think you should do all in your power to gain justice for this. But do not grieve the heart of God by fabricating falsehood/false memories for the sake of justice. God is not glorified when justice is gained falsely.

      • Dear Truth Seeker says:

        There may be hazy memories, but there are also declarations of abuse in the examining room, and documentation on the charts. Parents, children, doctors, nurses confirm that the procedures followed by DK equaled abuse. There is declaration that the treatment toward nurses, missionaries and nationals, singles and married, was not what it should be. He is not “off the hook” just because there are hazy memories, and no face in the nightmares. etc. These other declarations seem to indicate that a drug was used to distort the memories of the abused.

      • An ABWE MK says:

        To truth-seeker, it sounds like you are challenging their memories as true. The report on the ABWE site says that there is credible proof of others.

        It sounds like you are saying their memories aren’t good enough to count. Memories of such kinds of trauma can be hazy even without drug involvement.

        Skilled investigation by a group like GRACE I believe will no doubt gather sufficient evidence to support the credibility of these memories and likely those of others who will begin to talk when they feel safe doing so.

  110. Pam Koole says:

    I am not an MK but I do have some thoughts I would like to share outside of the missionary circle. I attended the sending church from the time I was born until maybe 13 years ago. I knew Dr Ketchum and his family my whole life. Even to this day he was my husbands family Dr. I was hurt and shocked to hear that all of this was going on. I feel for his family and all of those concerned that are destroyed within because of his sin. I also notice that I am the only one from his sending church that has commented on this blog or on Facebook. It kind of make me nervous to step forward and post my thoughts. I am not here to hurt or judge anyone. I just have concerns.
    My first thought I had when hearing about this was the number of times he gave all of us who attended summer camp physicals in the church basement. I am not accusing him of anything I am just scared. I do not remember anything happening to me but what about all my friends who attended camp with me? It scares me.
    Next, I can remember when the church held a meeting on a Wednesday night and I was helping in AWANAS I believe and many of the leaders went to that meeting. When it was all said and done the news was out that Dr. Ketchum had an affair. That is what the church was told. I know many were shocked and being that I was still quite young I know now that I did not see how the adults were handling the situation and I often wonder who really knew more?
    I encourage those who have been victums of this abuse to not allow Dr Ketchum to steal both your childhood and adulthood. I am hoping now that this has come out in the open that it can help with that healing process and allow you to feel a cleansing by the airing of your feelings and memories and then the healing balm that can come from the encouragement and prayers of your fellow Christians.
    I pray that the hurting of both the Ketchums and the victums can come to a head and that the purpose in all of this can come to light so that even though this is tragic, God may be glorified. When things seem out of control as they do, I can know that God IS ultimately in control. My best wishes and prayers go out to all of those who are trying to make sence of this.

    • Diane Eleveld says:

      Pam, thank you for writing. It scares me to think of the potential danger the beloved children of Newhall faced due to our ignorance of what really happened in BD. I want you and all the families to know that the Pastoral staff and Deacons would never have allowed that to happen had we known. We loved Donn and Kit and trusted ABWE in their disclosure and recommendations. Our own daughters and the children of board members were also put at risk.

      Even tho all of you grown, we love you as if you were still those sweet little kids running around the church basement, upsetting all the old folks! We would never knowingly put you at risk.

  111. Kathy says:

    Hi everyone,

    With all due Biblical respect as a woman who was raised Baptist, forgiveness is a victim’s noble journey that frees the victim, period. Forgiveness does not let pedophiles off the hook, neither does a slap on the wrist. This is not about Ketcham’s feelings…it’s about his core beliefs. And his personal belief system (not God’s) is deeply chauvinistic and dictates that women and children are beneath him and are to be used at his discretion for social standing, for reproduction, and for sexual purposes.

    Men like him are typically nice to everyone else except his victims. So those of you who aren’t his victims are shocked or in denial that someone so seemingly charming, wonderful and self sacrificing could also be such a cold, creepy, sexually exploitative man. I lovingly caution all of you who come down on his victims or accusers that these little girls were already victimized by Ketcham. Your demanding more proof than their ashamed words only further victimizes them over and over.

    Forgiveness does NOT stop a systematic, calculating, cunning sexual predator such as Doc Ketcham who uses his high position in the community as a “front” to cover his ulterior motives. As a doctor, he swore to “do no harm.” But as a doctor and a man of God, Ketcham had the ultimate “pulpit” from which to prey on young girls and make no mistake, he knew exactly what he was doing. There are no “oops” when it comes to men who sexually abuse children.

    A sexual predator is a bully, and bullies do not stop because their heart aches for their victims. Sexual bullies/predators only stop when we MAKE them stop by sanctions, social pressure, judicial consequences, and literally barring access to former victims and new ones. Pedophiles cry real tears (for themselves) and seem so repentant and ashamed when they are caught, mainly because they got caught. Any feelings they may have had for their victims or loved ones is stuffed down because the “perks” of molesting children far outweigh giving it up. Never forget, it’s all about the perks and not wanting to change so they pretend and wait for it all to blow over.

    Unconditional love means we love ourselves first and we have the right to seek protection, distance and justice from abusers. Forgiveness is the process of grieving through what happened and healing so that one day we can be free from reliving the pain over and over. It allows us to be free and move on–but in no way should that be mistaken to mean that sexual abusers of children (regardless of how good they are at their job or memorized the Bible) should be free to move on if they continue to abuse because they are rarely rehabilitated.

    At the Lincoln Lake Baptist Youth Camp some 40 years ago, we also had an “uncle.” Uncle Ray. He got a little overboard with some of the girls regarding their wardrobes, plus a few other sexually charged incidences, and one day he was removed and we never heard about him again. A few years ago I read a news article that named him as a pedophile. We and our parents should have been informed but it was swept under the rug and Uncle Ray went on to molest countless children.

    For all of Ketcham’s former victims, stand up and open your arms and let the Lord’s courage flow through you because this as your time to finally have a voice. Evil men like Ketcham had their day…and now his true day of reckoning is here. You do not have to feel empathy for him. Leave that for his non-victims.

    Love to all of you.

  112. Julie Eaton Zentz says:

    I come to this blog as a Bangladesh MK, a dear childhood friend to the initiator of this blog, and also the victim of a victim of a pedophile. I bear the scars of the destruction of a family in the fall-out of a shattered life! I’ve lived, first-hand—not theorized, or imagined—what it is to hear the nightmares and terrors, the desperate cries for help, and then lost everything in the wake of another’s surrender to self-destruction. I’ve sat and cringed as more and more details unfolded that brought shame and horror and disbelief that I had lived such a similar story…and still had not known and could not stop it! I’ve sobbed over the necessity of resigning as an ABWE missionary, myself, as the result of another’s choices.

    But this is not a forum about my story. I wanted desperately to remain a silent observer…to watch, but not speak, since I was not one of the abused of Donn Ketcham. Obviously, that was no longer possible. I have wept and wept, writhed in frustration, and even cheered when an important point was especially poignantly made. But I have not been able to escape this horrible gripping sense that voices that HAD to speak had somehow been silenced…that many voices that somehow cannot speak are still being silenced. Silenced in shame and disgrace…silenced through cultural or social standing….or fear of the loss of those.

    Only sorrow and pain so deep as to propel a warrior’s cry would give these girls—no, women—the courage to fight through the horror of these last years and tell their story before the world! I was there! I know the environment that allowed closed examination rooms, empty homes, and trusting servants and coworkers who wouldn’t dare to question the activities of such a dedicated doctor. I know the “aura” that was present, the flirtation and inappropriate actions that were visible to me as an 8-17 year old girl. And I will loudly defend the courageous voice of my dear friend, “Shushie!”

    No one should have to beg to be heard that they were violated! We should be leaning in, hushed, poised to hear the faintest plea that another precious girl remembers losing her wonder and innocence about life!

    I can’t believe that I was skipping and collecting frogs, planning picnics, and riding bikes, and thinking of dating, and giggling around the pool with girls who wanted desperately to live the carefree life I was living! I can’t believe that we secured that little compound with guards and barbed-wire fencing and thought we were keeping the dangers outside….when all along the lion was trapped in our midst! He was roaming freely…devouring, destroying, stealing innocence and childhood…forever!
    But I am horrified that the possibility exists that out of carelessness, or naivety, or fear, countless other little girls and their extended families may just now be learning that the lion has roared and devoured a graveyard of victims in the past 30 years. My experience tells me I am likely not overstating the case.

    My life story also pulls at my heart at the thought of the wife and remaining children of the perpetrator…those who never asked to be drawn into such a personal nightmare! Never asked to bear the name, or have to defend the actions of one they grew up believing they should honor and respect until all that was shattered! And my heart cries out to a just God who has seen everything and says, “Oh compassionate, just, holy God….do what only YOU can know is right! Don’t let me usurp Your rightful place.”

    I wish there were answers. For now, there are still more questions than answers. I am linked with the memories of that place and all those precious people through wartime, monsoons, rabid dogs, and “Jungle Jingles.” We are family! And part of that family has been, and still is, through many other people that I love equally, ABWE. I do not defend the obvious mistakes, or oversights, or even negligence on their part. But I MUST say that I also cannot bash an agency that has so lovingly stood by me in my pain and some of the men who, to this day, love me like their own daughter.
    I feel like I’m being ripped apart at the joints. Only a work of satan could be so master-minded as to rip a family by its limbs. Molestation is like that! It only destroys and destroys and destroys! But, I have come to an amazing discovery in my life. After the wound has been exposed….after it has been completely opened and searingly laid bare….it CAN be healed through forgiveness. I have learned that forgiveness IS possible…even when repentance is not offered. That is not my theory…and it is certainly not something I would try to force on anyone else…it is my journey. I love you, my dear, dear family!

  113. Dan Golin says:

    To Susie–We haven’t seen each other for decades, but I could never forget you; I remember a quiet courage in you then, and see it in your actions and words now.

    To all my hurting MK cousins and your families–Find comfort in this dialogue and in the love that so many people have for you. It is never too late or too costly to speak out in a way that can protect future generations of children from your pain.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Great to hear from you, Dan! Thank you for all your encouraging words. I will never forget you either and I hope one outcome of this blog is that a lot of the Bangladesh mk’s will get reconnected.
      From Susie(Part of the great class of 3-Dan Golin , Dave Decook, and Susie Beals)

  114. Diana Durrill says:

    Dear “From the Outside”:
    While I believe you that you are not trying to sound antagonistic, you certainly sound like you are. I will answer your questions…note that these answers are from ME only. They cannot and do not represent every victim. My response includes, but is most definitely not limited to the following:

    1. Donn Ketcham must identify himself to both the victims and their families, but most importantly to the local authorities as a pedophile. He needs to acknowledge his sin and name it for what it is: a crime. He must realize his need for forgiveness from others beyond the Lord Jesus Christ. He needs it. The victims and their families need it. ABWE needs it. The world needs it.

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    2. ABWE must come clean with the details of how they covered this crime up over and over again:

    2a. The sending church was not notified of pedophilia. They were notified of an immoral conduct, which was still not clearly identified as an affair. ABWE is not telling the truth and we want them to own up to it.

    2b. They must acknowledge that IT IS NOT ENOUGH, in a case of child sexual abuse, to just tell “when asked” – as they state on their own webpage. I am sure there are many people out there outraged at this defense. A high profile missionary who brings in much support for the home office? No way! Many, many churches should have been notified of his specific sin and I’m sure they’re even now disappointed in ABWE for not telling them. There is also testimony on this blog of an individual who says he DID ask and was not told. ABWE’s story on their website does not hold even with “one of their own”.

    2c. The current ABWE administration should admit that they have tried to quietly and unethically clean up this mess before today…as recent as 2002-05.

    2d. ABWE owes the state of Michigan a public apology for not shouting from the rooftops that that THIS DOCTOR IS A PROVEN AND SELF-CONFESSED PEDOPHILE. They must admit that they did not contact the proper authorities in the USA to notify them that Donn Kecham was a proven pedophile. If they did, then why then is his record squeaky clean??? I believe that if Michigan had received a phone call or letter of this nature it would show up on their files and on Donn’s record. Why? Because Michigan didn’t have anything to lose….but ABWE did. But then again, ABWE is probably still waiting for Michigan to ASK them before they tell.

    2e. ABWE should also admit that their motives were impure…wanting to protect their own reputation and the reputation of one of their own “great” who also happens to be the son of a GARB “great”. They did not trust God to uphold them in their integrity. Now their integrity is in question and all the world is watching.

    2f. ABWE has acknowledged that they enabled Donn Ketcham to reenter his community with the elite title of “former medical missionary”. They say so on their website. This would place responsibility on them for any children molested between the years 1989-present. That is a loooonnnnng time. ABWE should make every effort to investigate if there have been more victims.

    2g. ABWE needs to acknowledge that they sent home a beloved “aunt” wearing a scarlet letter because she was courageous enough to admit that they had an affair…while reposting Donn Ketcham to the city of Chittagong and asking him to get “counseling”. WOW. Enough said. Have they contacted her and made every effort to make it right to the best of their ability? She is the only one can say how they can do that. (BTW – beloved aunt of mine…I love you and I always have. I have forgiven you and am proud of the life you have lived – as much as I know of it. I have longed to hug you and tell you that you are still special to me because you chose to do what was right, hard as it was.)

    2h. ABWE needs to acknowledge that their “own investigations” were insufficient and incomplete. There are many, many mk’s who crossed paths with Donn Ketcham and we have NEVER received a letter, email, or phone calling asking for an interview. Myself included. It is high time they willingly submit to a third party investigation.

    2i. ABWE needs to publicly apologize for forcing a confession from a 14 year old girl and for NOT telling our family about it. The posting of the signed confession on this blog was the first time any of us have seen or heard of it. We are deeply wounded and offended. No doubt if we had known, the story of our lives would be very different. We need to hear a public apology and admittance of wrong-doing for making our beloved sister sign that confession. I don’t know…I can’t speak for the whole family on this…but I find it nearly unforgivable.

    2j. ABWE must confess both on the blog and on their site that their expression of love and concern for those of us who are courageously sharing our stories has thus far been insincere. WE have not heard from you yet. If you are truly sincere, then contact us. The media has already found our cell phone numbers…we know you could, too.

    2k. I would like a better explanation of Mary Lou Brownell’s book and how you truly don’t believe that her book is allowing Donn Ketcham to represent ABWE for the next unknown number of years, until the Lord’s return (read Don Davis’ emails posted with the other documents). I would also like a better explanation for why you would attend a church that chooses to bring Donn in as a preacher. In. The. Pulpit. There is no justifiable reason! When he was scheduled to be in the pulpit that day, you already had in your possession a signed confession from the perpetrator himself AND you had already started hearing from the other victims. Indefensible.

    2l. You must acknowledge that you not only left an impression of tolerating abuse (as worded in your official response) but that you DID tolerate abuse. The people of Michigan deserve at least that. We deserve that.

    2m. ABWE must admit that it was insufficient to wait for a request to help with counseling and other expenses. An offer should have been extended when you did your investigation. Your investigation was most definitely insufficient and incomplete.

    2n. The safe place you speak of is not safe. There is an army of MK’s who will testify with me of this. It has not been safe under either of the Kempton and Loftis administrations. You need to submit to a suitable and trustworthy third party for investigate. We have a suggestion for you….use G.R.A.C.E. They have already earned our trust.

    2o. Admit that your new policies are reactionary, not preventative. The world expects your honesty.

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    3. I imagine the moderator could make part of this blog private but we cannot silence the voices who want to be heard publicly. It has been admitted early on in this blog by victims that the Ketcham family are also victims in this story. You are right! All of us grieve for them. But there has also been love and support expressed for them by many. I take offense at your comment “Unfortunately, they don’t have a choice about this exposure.” WOW. That is a strong statement in the faces of girls who had little to no choice about exposure themselves. Girls who have had lives haunted by the shameful “exposure” they were subjected to. And if they so choose to go public with their story (which they are doing)…then the exposure that is being placed on anyone has got to be most painful of all for them, the victims. The Light that shines on sin is the only thing that is beautiful about this. Jesus Christ is that Light. He hates sin and He wants it exposed.

    I might add, AGAIN, that if things had been handled properly and all the proper people had taken responsibility to tell ALL, there would never have been this level of exposure. The longer you cover sin, the more it is added to and the worse it looks when it is finally brought into the light.

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    5. If we see #1 & #2 completed satisfactorily…I know that I, for one, will feel a huge burden lifted. I will rejoice that Donn Ketcham has not only been granted forgiveness by those he offended, but that he is not longer able to access children. I will be comforted that there is still a righteous man or two standing at ABWE. I imagine that other victims will feel similarly. I can only speak for myself.

    That, in not so short terms, is my answer.

  115. Rachel Lewis says:

    I just want to support those of you who had the courage to create this blog and post your stories. I am not affiliated with ABWE, have never been an MK or an abuse victim . . .

    However, my prayer is that ABWE does submit to a 3rd party investigation, that DK will have his medical license revoked, and that there will be support and healing for the victims. I also hope that more effort will be made to identify victims, and to make sure no current abuse is going on.

    As a mom, I am horrified that DK is allowed to operate a family practice. It is so scary to think of how many more people will be and have already been hurt in unimaginable ways.

    As others have already posted — but I feel it’s worth repeating — forgiveness does not negate consequences. Both DK and ABWE need to stand for their crimes of commission and ommission.

    No matter what, I’m grateful we all serve a just God.

    Thank you, again, for your courage.

  116. Rick Archibald says:

    Susanah, thank you for having the courage to speak up!

    For years, I’ve wanted to offer comfort to the 14-year old girl I knew so long ago in Bangladesh, but never knew how to go about it. To that 14-year old girl: Years ago, my heart was broken when I heard the innocence of your youth had been taken from you. I hurt with you when I found out, and I hurt with you now. It was an egregious betrayal, especially from such a trusted member of our family.

    To my MK sisters that were so tragically victimized in their youth, I’m praying that you remain confident in God’s justice and in His precious thoughts towards each of you – even in the midst of opening up these painful wounds again. I pray that you are abundantly filled with the fruit of the Spirit – love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control – regardless of whether justice or reconciliation is reached in the near future. I appreciate and respect you for addressing the past wrongs, but I pray that your identity and relationship with God and others isn’t entangled or dependent on the outcome of this confrontation (much easier said than done). Each of you is much too precious to God and us!

    I know my words are feeble and few, but I wanted to be one of your brothers that stood up and say that I hear you, that I believe you, that my heart is broken by what happened, that you didn’t deserve it, and that I’m praying for God’s best in your life.

  117. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    Every time another MK speaks up on this blog, I feel it is becoming more and more a movement of love on behalf of these girls, and a public cry to God for justice. So to Julie, to Dan, to Rick I give you cyber hugs for coming on here by name and speaking your personal feelings in love and grace. If this comforts me, you have to know that it comforts all of the unnamed victims on this blog as well.

  118. Susannah Goddard Weldy says:

    We were little girls splashing in the warm ocean, enjoying the hot sun on our backs as we giggled and ran after each other. Never more than one step apart, we were having the time of our lives. Without warning, a HUGE wave crashed upon us. The undertow pulled us under. I scrambled on my hands and kneees for the beach…. gasping for air. I called for my friend, I looked out over the water. I could see her being pulled into the deep dark water. I saw her raise her hands for help.
    OUR FRIENDS STOOD BY AND WATCHED IN SILENCE!
    I lost my best friend that day. I miss her.

    • Shocked at Your Suggestion says:

      Susannah, it is good to hear your voice here. Well, said, old friend. Well said.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      Susannah –
      You words break my heart. I have not had time to respond to your personal email because it will take time to pour my heart out to you. What you have experienced as her best friend is not an easy fix, but God CAN do it. We felt the same way about losing our sister and it has taken YEARS of hard work to keep our family close. By God’s grace we ARE close and we are drawing closer every day as we find healing in this process. Thank you for your words here and adding your name to the growing number of mk’s speaking out and validating the truth. We will help you in any way, but I would suggest that opening the door of conversation, hard as it is, is the first step that brings healing. I will message you our phone numbers.
      I love you, little sister! =)
      Diana

    • Anne Smith says:

      Susannah,
      Thank you for your comment. Your description of what happened was well put! Yes, you lost your friend and I lost my sister. I am so sorry this happened. Not only do you feel this way but my friend at home felt the same way too. I clammed up. I held it in. I knew no one was suppose to know. Her parents sent us home that summer and paid for the whole trip! And when I got back that was it! I know your pain and my friend (who has posted on here) knows your pain. But the healing is beginning. Thank you for commenting by name and not anonymously! That shows true friendship and support. I love you.

  119. Kim Spink says:

    I am an ABWE missionary with my husband and 7 children in Chile. I am so sorry to hear of all those that were hurt by the actions of this man. My husband, older children and I are praying for all of you ladies and others affected. Sin is awful and his actions against innocent children who trusted him is particularly offensive. We hurt with you and are sorry that you have had to suffer in silence for so many years. That was wrong. You are the victims. The least that should have been done is to acknowledge that and find out others that may have been hurt. I am sorry that it has taken this long for action to be taken. Know that we hurt for you and are praying for God to be glorified and each of you to experience closure, hopefully by this man finally coming clean with the whole truth, admitting how many lives he has marked for life, not that restitution is possible, but at least, truth!

    • Diana Durrill says:

      Thank you. We are sorry for your hurt in this, too. You of all people understand how the ABWE family is family so we are all affected. Thank you for your voice.

  120. Maryann Sullivan says:

    I am a former member of GARB churches that read the book DAKTAR and other books about the hospital in Bangladesh. Those books were exciting and inspiring. They helped me grow as a Christian and gave me a heart for missions. It’s ironic that I was reading those books at the same time all of this was happening. Hero worship is always wrong. Our only Savior is Jesus Christ.

    Not long after we left a GARB church where our family remained there was a scandal involving a pedophile. Not much was handled right in that situation either. I wonder if ABWE had handled the situation in Bangladesh correctly if other leadership in the Baptist community could have learned as well. ABWE missed an opportunity to provide leadership. However, just when I least expected it, I heard of reconciliation with the leadership of that church.

    I have friends who were molested. I volunteer at a center dedicated to preventing abuse of children.

    This blog is incredibly well done. It is very important. It had to be public. I hope that you accomplish all of your goals.

    Ladies, don’t give up hope. God is sovereign.

  121. The Pain in Our BDesh MK Hearts says:

    Though I have said plenty on here as myself (by name, which I feel is so important for those from Bangladesh to do), I choose to do this in a more anonymous way. I wanted to share a few things … for those who understand and those who do not, because they have not lived our lives.

    As MKs, we lived in what is now called a THIRD CULTURE. Not a third world–though Bangladesh was/is a third world country–but we lived in what sociologists call a third culture, in that while we lived among the people of Bangladesh as Americans, we were not fully embracing either the American or the Bengali culture at the time. We had a unique mixture of the two, called a third culture. It is the same for immigrants who come to America and live here with a blend of their own heritage and the American culture around them. Third culture. That is the word. And what did our third culture include:

    –A trust and love of the adults around us that was sometimes born of a true sense of family and sometimes forced upon us–the way we had to call complete strangers (short termers who showed up for just a few weeks at a time) “uncle” or “aunt.” The terms imply a trust a need for tremendous respect that I now only ask my own children to call their real aunts and uncles or our very best friends. I am quite careful in how I throw those terms around now. I know they were used for good reasons. But they did lead sometimes to a feeling that ALL adults around us demanded from us a respect and a tie that we could not control. (And don’t give me sermons about respecting adults … I’m talking about much more than that.) So while I cherish the “aunties” and “uncles” from BDesh who were truly, truly like family to me, it is now a very painful thing to hear those names attached to those who were and are unworthy of the title.

    –A deep love and respect for the home office. They allowed our parents to do what they felt God called them to do. They showed up when they were needed (most of the time, anyway), they sent the paychecks (with money from our churches), and they were our extended family.

    –A lack of full commitment to the Bengali culture. In other words, to those who have read this and said to me and to others, “Why didn’t you contact the Bangladesh authorities?” I must laugh a little to myself. Because they’ve obviously never been to Bangladesh, where–if the crime was even prosecutable at the time–a generous “donation” to the judge would have set a man free. I’m not saying we shouldn’t try that now or that any precious “brown skinned girl” should not try that to seek her own justice. I’m just saying, Bangladesh is not known for it’s reliable legal system, and it’s laughable that we would have relied on it for anything.

    –There was an implied sense of trust that when DK went home the home office would do what needed to be done. For those of us in the know on this matter, there was an expectation–though perhaps unspoken–that they would deal with it quietly, but justly. The news that this had not happened came slowly back then to those of us not living in Grand Rapids. It was over the course of years. First news that he was practicing medicine again … then news that he seemed to be walking around without any consequences for what he’d done, being invited to Bangladesh missionary events here in America–even where victims themselves might be present (the families were actually told, “You show up at this time, Donn and Kitty will show up at this time”). As if that is even remotely close to love.

    –I personally, realizing that there was a silent condoning of his behavior by those who allowed their love of his wife and kids to overshadow their common sense and their sympathy for those Donn hurt, pulled away from my Bangladesh family. I pulled out from all but one or two relationships. Many times when an auntie or uncle or former jungle playmate contacted me on facebook I clicked ignore. Why? Because I have wanted to pull myself away from people who would allow such things to happen and be silent, be loyal to the party line, value a grown man and his sin more than a child who had been wounded. You say you love his wife. Fine. You should have invited HER and asked that DK not attend. She probably would have received MORE grace, more love, more support without DK by her side at these events. I am still trying to reconcile all of this in my heart.

    –This silence, this pulling away, this childhood that was (to outsiders) so unique and strange has caused me to feel over the past few weeks like my heart is being torn out by the seams. In some ways it is good. I am reminded how much my Bangladesh family really means to me and that is good. There were plenty of aunts and uncles who were deserving of the title and are almost as good as blood. But being freed from the oppressive culture of spiritual abuse (forgive because Jesus forgave, do what the board says is right) and silence (do not expose this sin for the world to see, it would hamper the gospel) has been a twenty year process for me.

    This week it is finally and truly happening: Truth is coming out of darkness. I am seeing the grown ups that I thought loved a man more than justice speak out on behalf of those in pain. Our little third culture is dropping, slowly but surely, its blind trust in an organization to do what is right, as they’ve proven they cannot YET (yet) be trusted again. Our little third culture is dropping the bond of oppression that says, you cannot speak your mind or you put the gospel at risk. Our little third culture is embracing once again what mattered more then and now: our love for each other and love for God and His truth.

    • Pamela E. Bennett says:

      I am still perplexed about this business of calling non family members “aunty and uncle.” ABWE missionaries did try that here in Australia many years ago but it didn’t work as the Aussies hold that term very very dear.

      • An ABWE MK says:

        I called some people Aunt and Uncle but not all. I called those Aunt and Uncle that I knew at least in a small way. There was more than just a neighbor or we both go to the same church kind of closeness. They were family-stand-ins when I was away from family.

        I’ve heard some say that their missionary Aunt and Uncles felt more like Aunt and Uncles to them than biological Aunt and Uncles. Why? Because they had spent time with their missionary Aunt and Uncles and barely knew the biological ones.

        It’s true that missionaries aren’t a family in the normal sense of the way people think of family. But then, many mission field situations aren’t normal life.

        Think of the extended family system in many Asian countries. Another example – It is common in African American families for a good friend to be called Aunt or Uncle, to go to parent/teacher meetings at school, or to the hospital, or discipline a child. Perhaps missionary Aunt and Uncles simply reflect their unique culture. People tend to draw together into homogeneous groups. Perhaps in Australia, Mks can more easily find a place to fit/belong outside the missionary circle.

        (I won’t get into the subject of colonialism and its repercussions)

      • Pamela E. Bennett says:

        I think what I am trying to get my head and heart around is maybe this familiarity contributed to this secrecy, I don’t know.

      • isaiah618 says:

        You may be right to a point. I can acknowledge that. It doesn’t help children to understand boundaries with adults when they are forced to call even strangers “uncle” or “aunt” immediately just because they are white Christians.

        However, it is very true that most of these families were closer to us than our own extended blood families back home in America, and that a familial love for most of us was very real and true. The majority do not deserve to be lumped into the same category as DK. This was a complex situation with pressures and secrets and it is difficult to judge these missionaries around him once you know the whole story. The ones who did have the whole story? The highest people at ABWE then and now. They are the ones with no excuse.

        And you will notice that now that most of our “aunties and uncles” DO have the truth, even just a small glimpse of it here (and what is here is small, believe it or not), they have sided with the children who were molested. Very few have remained silent and loyal to the party line. Their silence is deafening, but it does not drag us away from our search for truth and for justice.

        So while aunt and uncle can seem like creepy terms to some, they are not when people help raise you, as people in Bangladesh helped raise me. We were much more isolated, much more reliant on each other than missionaries like yourself who were not in third world countries.

        – Tamara

      • Debbie Stevenson says:

        Pamela E. Bennett says:
        –I think what I am trying to get my head and heart around is maybe this familiarity contributed to this secrecy, I don’t know.–

        In a way, it probably did. Especially if you change the words to trust and denial. Consider these statistics:

        “Most often, sexual abusers know the child they abuse but are not family. About 60% of abusers fall into that group. For example, the abuser might be a friend of the family, babysitter, or neighbor. About 30% of those who sexually abuse children are family members of the child. This includes fathers, uncles, or cousins. The abuser is a stranger in only about 10% of child sexual abuse cases.”

        Family members and close friends of the family (90% of the abusers) receive more trust from both the child and others. Denial is probably the first response for anyone, even if only fleeting. Sometimes family members never get past denial. Denial fights away the loss. Many things are lost. Some of them are loss of assumptions, of specific beliefs, of a broader world-view of the way the world works, our view of God…

        Admitting the abuse means the relationship with that family member or friend is forever changed. When the person was pedestaled, our false god is revealed as false. Our spiritual giant idol has crumbled. We learn that our godly leader is equally sinful. It’s hard to lose our god. (notice, small g). It challenges our understanding of God. Is this His will? The storm is huge on many fronts. It is easier to try to deny. It didn’t really happen. It wasn’t really that bad.

        Yes, being family can contribute to the secrecy in many ways, for many reasons, not just protecting the organization.

        All equally sinful.

        But you knew that.

  122. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    Dear Perplexed, and all,
    I am fully in accord with what this blog is trying to do–expose moral evil, which it has begun to do, and aid in the restoration of the victims of this moral evil, to the degree possible, by letting them be heard and believed, which it has also begun to do. Praise God for this.

    One thing the blog does NOT want to do is hurt the innocent or broadcast error. To that end, let me say: This morning I talked to a close friend who is a member of Closed Door Ministry inner team, and not a Ketcham family member. He assured me that Dr. Donn Ketcham is not, and has never been a board member of CDM, nor it’s associated ministry, Women at Risk. Neither has he ever been a formal speaker for either ministry. He did, in the past, accompany the director of CDM (at his own expense) on a trip to the far east as a part of their survey team, not as a speaker.. In addition he has never been asked to speak or minister to Woman at Risk. That is first hand information from a very reliable non-family source. So it is unfortunate that Perplexed posted some of this as fact. It is not fair that CDM/WAR get caught in the crossfire.

    Having said that, I encourage the sharing of relevant, accurate, and helpful material on this site. The women who are victims, and their families, deserve to be heard in order to bring about whatever healing and restoration is possible. Even from ashes God can make beauty, from mourning, He can make gladness, from despair (depression) he can make praise, so you will display His splendor (Is 61:3). You ARE beautiful. let it grow! Uncle Dr. Joe DeCook

  123. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    Thank you, Susannah, for adding your name to the list of those who will not be silent.

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      And Diane too. You are right, your mom has been a quiet champion for truth in this for a longer than most of us know.

  124. Diana Durrill says:

    I personally find fault with ABWE’s “initial reponse” in the following ways:

    1. They sending church was not notified of pedophilia. They were notified of an immoral conduct, which was still not clearly identified as an affair.

    2. IT IS NOT ENOUGH, in a case of child sexual abuse, to just tell “when asked”. I am sure there are many people out there who are outraged at this defense. There is also testimony on this blog from an individual who says he DID ask and was not told. ABWE’s story on their website does not hold even with “one of their own”.

    Question: Are you still waiting for the state of Michigan to ASK you about it?

    3. ABWE’s acknowledgement that they enabled Donn Ketcham to reenter his community with the elite title of “former medical missionary”. They say so on their website. This is a problem for me and it requires more explanation.

    4. ABWE’s “own investigations” were insufficient and incomplete. So that the general public knows, as stated more than once in other posts, there are many, many mk’s who lived in close contact with Donn Ketcham who have never received a letter, email, or phone calling asking for an interview. Myself included.

    5. ABWE did not explain their reasoning behind forcing a confession from a 14 year old girl and and no confession of their own as to why they did NOT tell her family about it. The posting of the signed confession on this blog was the first time they had seen or heard of it. Shocked is the only word remotely suitable (but completely insufficient) to describe their reaction to seeing that “confession”. The grief they are experiencing as a result is seemingly insurmountable at this point. Imagine being the 14 year old who for 20+ years has believed her parents allowed them to make her sign that confession when in reality they knew nothing about it.

    6. ABWE’s expression of love and concern for those of us who are courageously sharing our stories has thus far been insincere. WE have not heard from you directly yet. If you are truly sincere, then contact us. The media has already found our cell phone numbers…we know you could, too. Of course, we may not talk to you directly because we are waiting for you to agree to a third party investigation by someone we can agree on. We will talk to them. Your statement would mean more if you were trying, though.

    7. In regard to your comment that “We have not promoted him as an ABWE speaker”, can you explain to me how you are not promoting him as a speaker when many of you attend a church that chooses to bring Donn in as a preacher. In. The. Pulpit. There is no justifiable reason. When he was scheduled to be in the pulpit that day, you already had in your possession a signed confession from the perpetrator himself AND you had already started hearing from the other victims. I also would like an explanation of how you believe Mary Lou Brownell’s book about MK’s isn’t allowing Donn Ketcham to represent ABWE for the next unknown number of years, until the Lord’s return (read Don Davis’ emails posted with the other documents). I find Don Davis’ defense of the book very, very weak. If you feel it is important to include him because he is part of your history then you must include ALL of the history. (The Bible and the world include the good, bad, and the oh-so-ugly in their historical accounts.)

    8. You say that you have never tolerated child abuse and yet you are guilty of child abuse in making a 14 year old sign a confession. How is that zero tolerance?

    9. It is inappropriate to wait for a request to help with counseling and other expenses. An offer should have been extended when you did your investigation. Your investigation was obviously incomplete and insufficient.

    10. The “safe place” you speak of is not safe. There is an army of MK’s who will testify with me of this. It has not been safe under either of the Kempton and Loftis administrations. You need to submit to a suitable and trustworthy third party for investigation. We have a suggestion for you….use G.R.A.C.E. They have already earned our trust.

    11. Your new policies are reactionary, not preventative.

  125. Sharon says:

    I am a MK from another country. I grew up with wonderful, fond memories of extended family. As you stated in your letter the “family” atmosphere was a given and expected attitude. Most adults had the freedom to interact and discipline the children. We as children did not question it. I can recall indiscretions (and I choose that word with tongue in cheek) on our mission field that were quietly taken care of. I do know of sexual abuse that happened between the older boys towards younger girls on the mission field that I grew up on. I do not know the extent of it or who may have known internally, but I do know that it occurred on more than one occasion and was quietly swept up and taken care of. The loud, blatant result however was lives that were altered and affected profoundly. This is so evident while I read these blogs. This blog has brought a dirty secret to light. One such “indiscretion” that was whispered about and yet never really confirmed during my youth was the DK “indiscretion”. Due to the missionary connection, my parents were friends with Donn and Kitty Ketcham. I can say that his “indiscretion” was truly a secret in that there was never a mention of his crime and as a young person I can even remember a sympathetic attitude that such a great man was sent home. Looking back at this time it almost felt like a “boys will be boys” type attitude. Let me make it clear here that I never heard anyone say those words but I did hear that attitude in my young interpretation. I can remember the deep compassion expressed by so many during the tragic events of their personal family life. I remember the sentiments of “how could such horrible things happen to such a great servant”. Theirs is indeed a tragic life. The loss to that family goes far beyond the loss of life. I am physically sick as I think about his wife and children and grandchildren. It is so ironic that his daughter is so deeply involved in helping victims of the very crimes her own father committed. My heart goes out to the many whose lives were changed so greatly when DK decided he was god. These lives are not just the abused women but the men that love them the families that love them and the people that they love back. I am proud of you for stepping into the unfair line of fire. I am also deeply and profoundly and humbly grateful for the whole, healthy complete love of Jesus. His mercies are new every morning and for just today we claim them to face this day alone. It is evident in these blogs that each day brings a little more pain but also a little more healing. Press on my dear, sweet sisters.

  126. Diana Durrill says:

    My personal testimony:
    I have loved my ABWE family and Bangladesh missionaries for all of my adult life, even though this story has been made to be part my story for 20+ years. From the depths of my heart and soul, I assure you all that the offender and the ABWE administration (the old regime) have been people I abhor and love at the same time. The only way you can fully appreciate that statement is if you yourself are a victim of a loved one’s sins/crimes against you. Children of incest both hate and love their parent. Statistics show that victims of pedophilia (when it is committed over a long period of time by a loved one) feel the paradoxical emotions about the perpetrator. It is a paradox not understood by those who have not experienced it. The love we have for ABWE is sustained by the glimmer of hope we have that they’ll someday do what is right before the victims, their families, the world, and most importantly, our God. I cannot fully embrace the new administration because the only contact I have had with them is related to this case. We have believed they were helping, we have felt their betrayal, and we have yet to see or feel any sincere love sent our way. I speak from first hand experience and conversations with them. I do NOT feel the paradoxical relationship with them at all. I feel neither of those emotions…I simply do not have any respect for them.

    I am not bitter. I am hurt. I am hurt on the behalf of my sister who was not only made to sign a confession of guilt when she was a minor, but who has been victimized by the ABWE administration for the past two decades. I am hurt on behalf of my parents who were not handled with respect and who have been told on more than one occasion involving more than one offense to keep quiet. I am hurt on behalf of my other two sisters and their families who have their own pain…the loss of a best friend/sister, the loss a cute and happy baby sister, the lost of innocent and peaceful relationships, and the loss of freedom from fear. I hurt for myself. For all of the above and more. I hurt for my fellow mk’s who have borne this in silence with us as we prayed and waited patiently for the administrations, both old and new, to do what was right and restore our faith in them.

    I am not bitter. I am angry. I am angry that this man did this to my little sister. I am angry that he hurt our family to depths you cannot imagine. I am angry that I was not more in tune or aware of the dangers around her and could therefore not help her. I am angry that other precious little girls were violated. I am angry that their families were silenced and hurt, too. I am angry about the division this has caused in our large Bangladesh family…at one time a very special and precious family. I am angry that ABWE mishandled it from the beginning and continues to do so today. I am angry that they continued to mishandle it through the years of questions and pleas for help.

    I can remember feeling jealous, yes, JEALOUS that the child was so favored by Donn Ketcham. I remember resenting that she was favored by members of the home office when they came out (who shall remain unnamed for now). They always asked for hugs from ——…but not from us. I remember wondering what was so special about her that she received preferential treatment. Little did I know that she was crying out to God and asking Him, “Why me? Why me? Why not someone else?” I cry tears of deep sorrow at those memories today.

    I can remember breast exams that were awkward and went on and on. I can remember being placed in his bed with him when I was sick while staying at his house. I can remember stirring during that sickness and having his face, yes…his specific face, looming over me. He would ask how I was feeling. I have no recollection of abuse nor do I have nightmares. I call that a gift from God. My memories which include his face, his voice, and his touch, are confirmation enough for those who don’t remember a face that their stories are indeed true. I remember going to the hospital to “help” and not being allowed to because my sister was his little helper. None of us were given that opportunity. I thank the Lord for that now, but I am angry that I was not more alert or aware of the dangers for my little sister.

    I applaud all of you have chosen to stand with us. I applaud your courage to share your memories. I thank you for being brave and kind. I am trusting God in all of this. I know He is working wonderful, wonderful things behind the scenes. I know that for me personally, once this is resolved by ABWE and DK being honest and taking full and complete responsibility and the proper authorities are informed, I will feel a huge burden lifted. I will rejoice that Donn Ketcham has not only been granted forgiveness by those he offended, but that he is no longer able to access children. I will be comforted that there is still a righteous man or two standing at ABWE. I imagine that other victims will feel similarly but I can only speak for myself.

    I trust God. He has always been and still is on His throne.

  127. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    Diane Walsh Ford’s comments are very disturbing “I remember the “physicals” that we had and they usually required us to remove our underwear.” As a practicing gynecologist for 37 years, I never asked a teen to remove her underwear unless it was a premarital exam or disease related. Same for breast exam, not necessary unless symptom related. Pediatricians, please weigh in: agree or disagree?

    Diane, and others who had physicals: Was there a nurse in the room? Or parent? In the US, we would not think of even touching a patient, let alone examine one, without a nurse or parent in the room. Teen Patients: what was your experience at Malumghat. With the chronic shortage of personnel at Malumghat, I could have examined one of you without a nurse present (but would never do a pelvic or breast exam without a nurse or parent present!)

    Missionary nurses: what was your experience with the MK physicals. We need to get some light of day in here. What do you remember? What was the standard: nurse present, or not? Parent present, or not? Underwear off, or not? Breast exams, or not? What was the routine?

    I ask the questions for clarity. I simply don’t remember the nursing protocols.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Dear Dr. DeCook,
      I know I am not one of the nurses answering but my understanding from talking to other girls is that Dr. Ketcham simply didn’t follow protocol at all times with physicals. He somehow got girls in the examining room by themselves for a short period of time, whether a nurse or their parent was suppose to be there or not.
      Susannah

      • Diane (Walsh) Ford says:

        Uncle Joe, I ask myself this all the time. I asked my mom and she doesn’t remember. I don’t remember details at all except for bits and pieces. I honestly think that even if a nurse was present that they wouldn’t think anything was wrong because if the Dr. was doing it…it must be right and okay. I don’t have any answers for you on this one. Several others recall the same thing though.

    • Diane Eleveld RN says:

      I have been an office nurse for 2 pediatricians, 2 OB/Gyn’s and 1 family Dr. None of the Drs have ever examined a minor without a nurse and/or parent in the room. No physicals were ever done on children that required removal of underwear.

      • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

        When I was 14 or 15 I caught Cat Scratch Fever (I know, right? A real thing. Thanks, cat.) and the lymph node under my left arm was swollen to the point I felt like a baseball had been shoved into it. Also, my fever was over 104.

        What I do remember was that DK came to our home to examine me. He asked that I remove ALL of my clothing (underwear included) so that he might check each and all lymph nodes. He instructed my mother to lay a sheet over me as I lay naked on the bed. Though the memory is a bit buzzy, as I was so sick, I seem to remember that he asked my mom to leave so I’d be less embarrassed. But I cannot confirm that, as neither of us fully remember.

        What I DO remember is that while he did not do anything I can specifically point to as sexual in nature, it was the most thorough examining of my lymph nodes (all of them) I’ve ever had, and it was very, very humiliating to endure as a young teenage girl.

        Why do I bring this up? Wasn’t he just a doctor doing his job?

        Well, I’ve had cancer. It just so happens my lymph nodes get checked by my oncologist at EVERY single visit. Lymph nodes are pretty important in this whole cancer thing, you know. And they get checked at EVERY SINGLE VISIT. And never once, not one time, has this oncologist ever asked me to fully undress. I might unbutton my jeans for him now and then. Or lift my shirt a little higher. But get naked? No. And he’s usually done in a matter of seconds.

        This is not a “tragic misunderstanding,” neither is it a clear cut case of molestation, I know, because he was a physician and I was sick, but it IS further proof of a pattern of getting young girls to be naked and get his hands on them when it was absolutely NOT necessary to do so.

      • Daniel DeCook says:

        Cat Scratch Fever is not a systemic disease requiring all lymph node fields to be examined, regardless of the state of dress or undress of the patient. It is invariably the upper extremity, and directly related to a scratch or bite (saliva born); and would only affect a lymph node field draining that extremity. Its pretty easy to check an armpit without removing ANY clothing.

        Kids are pretty uncomfortable removing any clothing, for any exam. I think mine sleep with, like three layers of clothing on. So compelling a young woman/girl to undress and lie under a sheet WAITING must have been like a prison torture sequence (and completely inappropriate to the medical needs of the exam.)

        And while I’m on it, it’s rarely necessary to do a rectal or vaginal exam on anybody from age 2 to 17 or 18 (or whenever that first pelvic exam gets scheduled). Outside of trauma (fractured pelvis, the like) these cavity exams are restricted to sexual abuse exams, and are in a highly charged environment already. It certainly yields almost no useful information in the evaluation of appendicitis, gastroenteritis, and absolutely no useful information in a “routine” annual exam at that age. It is so stressful for the patient, and of so little use, I no longer do them for those routine disease evaluations.

      • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

        Daniel, thank you for weighing in. I am very grateful to you and to your father (further down the blog) for your opinions that come from a medical standpoint on what was and was not appropriate/necessary for Cat Scratch Fever. And you are correct. The scratch was an open and infected wound on my arm, same arm with the swollen nodes in my armpit. It was an incredibly humiliating exam, which is why I remember it, despite being so sick. Even after learning DK was not all he seemed, I always wanted to believe it was necessary that day and I’m sure my mother did as well or she would not have allowed it … and it’s sad it has taken more than 20 years to realize it wasn’t.

  128. anonymous says:

    Donn Ketcham may not have been on the CDM board, but as of Oct. 21, 2009 according to this article, he was a board member at this church. http://www.mlive.com/news/grand-rapids/index.ssf/2009/10/alpha_womens_center_again_is_d.html

  129. Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

    Please don’t miss that this is a blog about the abuse of children of Christian leaders, by another Christian leader and the failure of the leaders over them all to deal with it right.

    If leaders are persuaded that their personal failure will tarnish the work of God, they deal with it privately and quietly and move on. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen that belief in action. I myself used to believe this. And I’m guessing many of you who have been a part of this have told yourselves this for decades. And that is why this has taken so long to come to light.

    Who would confess their sins if they believed it would tarnish God? Who would tell of sins committed against them if they believed it would undermine the work of God? Not people who love God and want to see His work flourish. But we bought or have bought into a lie.

    The truth is that God has no need of a man or a mission board. If we believe the work of God can be destroyed by a call to integrity and openness, then we believe it is man’s work and not God’s. God does not delight in lies, cover-ups, secrecy.

    A pastor friend sent me these verses this week — 1 Timothy 5:19-21. And he said, “It starts with a warning about accusing a church leader: ‘Do not entertain an accusation against an elder unless it is brought by two or three witnesses.’ But it finishes with this sobering command: ‘But those elders who are sinning you are to reprove before everyone, so that the others may take warning. I charge you, in the sight of God and Christ Jesus and the elect angels, to keep these instructions without partiality, and to do nothing out of favoritism.’”

    If we refuse to deal with the sins of leaders rightly and thoroughly, God makes it public eventually because He calls leaders to a higher standard. And when leaders’ failures – including the failure to deal appropriately with the sins of others — are totally exposed to the Truth and the things hidden come to light and we think we are going to die from humiliation . . . then we get to see who our God really is. He is bigger than our failure. Bigger than our shame. (I am speaking of this from personal experience, but it is not for this blog.)

    It is shortsightedness to think this blog — and its contents and the very public exposure — will hurt the ministry when the reality is that it will bring (and has brought) healing to so many. God is not limited by our failures.

    ABWE needs to look beyond these MKs, the ABWE family and supporting churches to a much larger world-wide audience that is watching and waiting to see what they are going to do. Will they set a new standard – actually an old, Biblical one — of transparency and openness by going outside their sphere of influence to get REAL accountability? Will they let light into the hidden places? Or will they choose to go with an entity that has ties to the home office already? One that has not actively pursued this issue though they’ve been tied together for 5 YEARS? Asking your friends to find your flaws and be tough about it isn’t the right way to get accountability. They just can’t be objective.

    The statistics of sexual abuse within the Church (in the universal sense) are staggering. It HAS to be dealt with! No more cover-ups. No more “collusion.” ABWE has the opportunity to be an example for evangelical nonprofits everywhere. The question is, will they be a good one or a bad one?

  130. Missy Golin says:

    I have been watching this blog for weeks and haven’t said anything because my opinion feels so small in the scope of this. All I can say is, I am so sorry for all of the hurt I am seeing. I got to the field days after this whole came out in BD in 1989 and continued to see the aftermath for years after, as I lived with one of the families for years, back in the states. Alot of the reason I became a Proffessional Counselor was to help people work through the same type of pain I saw.

    I share the prayer of Nan and Ricks words specifically, (let me quote,thanks Rick:)) “I pray that your identity and relationship with God and others isn’t entangled or dependent on the outcome of this confrontation.” I have so much respect for so many of the opinions posted here and am in awe of the support.

    It is my greatest hope that healing is found here in the way it was intended. I hope if Dr. Ketcham never breathes a word of apology, some kind of Peace will be found in this process. I pray as well, for the hurt his family is facing as it could appear that lines are being drawn and sides chosen. His family members are good, Godly people who need to know we are not against them and we will embrace them and not hold them accountable for, “the sins of the father.”

    Bangladesh was my childhood and so I use the name of my childhood to greet old friends and stand with them.

  131. James Also Said ... says:

    James 2:17-18
    In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead.
    But someone will say, “You have faith, I have deeds.” Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by what I do.

    • And He Said About Favoritism ... says:

      James 2:8-9
      If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing right. But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as law breakers.

  132. Diane (Walsh) Ford says:

    I am an ABWE missionary in Thailand and also was an MK from Bangladesh. I have read through the blog for the last week and a half with so many emotions running through my mind. I applaud Susannah for having the courage to start this blog and get healing for the victims. I also want to give high praise to my mom who has believed not only her kids but the other victims, and has prayed and cried over this for many years. I love you mom…you are a true hero.

    My heart goes out to my cousin and her husband (Donn’s son), their kids, and Donn Ketcham’s wife who must be going through so much right now. This is so hard because we love them and work in the same country.

    I don’t remember any specific abuse to myself by him except the fact that I have recurring nightmares that have been going on for decades. We all saw the flirtatious way he was with women and the rides on the back of his motorcycle. I remember the “physicals” that we had and they usually required us to remove our underwear . I have 6 kids and have never gone to a pediatrician where the kids had to remove their underwear, have an interal exam or breast exam when they were under the age of 13. Alot of this is documented in the hospital charts which were written by himself.

    I really do want everyone to know that we are one big family who loves you, believes you and wants healing. Please ABWE don’t let us down…do the right thing. I, like David DeCook, don’t want to lose faith in you. We know ABWE missionaries are doing amazing things all over the world but the lack of response by the administration right now is causing more harm than good. We don’t want any more silence.

  133. AMM says:

    My heart aches for every person who has been hurt and all I can say is I pray for every victim and anyone who has been touched by this pain. I myself can’t imagine it. I just feel for all of the girls. I do know God loves each and every one of them. I know he weeps more than we can imagine when this happens. Each victim is a wonderful precious child of God and is loved and will be prayed for.

  134. cousin of victim says:

    I am so glad you started this blog!! I am a cousin of one of the victims. I have seen her struggle in a lot of ways over the years. I hope and pray that she and all the other victims can heal and get some closure. I am praying for everyone (victims and their familys). You all have been so brave.

  135. ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS THAT HAVE BEEN ASKED

    1. Was Donn Ketcham’s abuse reported by ABWE? Can anything be reported now?

    We regret that ABWE failed to report the child molestation incident to the Michigan Bureau of Health Professions or to prosecutorial authorities in 1989. Although neither report was legally required at the time, we realize that our handling of this situation was wrong because additional children may have been at risk.

    Following our discovery in 2002 that other MKs had suffered abuse, we investigated filing a report with the Michigan Bureau of Health Professions. We learned through a medical official at the hospital system in Grand Rapids (where Donn Ketcham worked) that since the abuse occurred outside the jurisdiction of the State of Michigan or the USA that nothing would be done with the report. Therefore a report was not filed at that time.

    Subsequent to 1989, two churches which Donn Ketcham attended were informed by ABWE personnel of his past misconduct. Those churches took steps to prevent his access to children, and, in one case, requested he avoid contact with a former victim in attendance. Our attorney has recently contacted the Michigan Bureau of Health Professions; we were encouraged to file a report due to recent changes in attitude concerning allegations of abuse from several years ago, and we are doing so.

    2. How is ABWE reaching out to the MKs?

    ABWE has maintained a ministry of compassion and spiritual care to all ABWE MKs throughout the world. Dr. Loftis has repeatedly expressed in various public meetings with adult MKs that we welcome any reports of mistreatment which will be handled confidentially. It was during such a forum with MKs in 2002, in response to his invitation, that we first learned of additional child abuse victims of Donn Ketcham and provided immediate counseling for those who desired it.
    Follow-up assistance to some has been ongoing.

    To date, all MKs who have notified us they were personally abused by Donn Ketcham have been informed of our willingness to assist in their healing process. This has included professional counseling, legal assistance, spiritual counseling, and emotional support. Due to the previously expressed concerns of these victims and their families regarding public exposure, we have sought to maintain confidentiality in our communications.

    While circumstances vary, we recognize that not every victim of abuse feels safe enough or at a point of life readiness to address these issues on someone else’s time frame. Guided by advice of experienced abuse counselors, we have never insisted on a specific time frame but initially offered help, and continue to maintain our willingness to help them through their own healing process when they are ready.

    The care and well being of the abuse victims of Donn Ketcham remain our highest concern. In addition, we continue our attempts to privately contact other MKs who, though not personally abused, have been nonetheless affected by what took place. Not all those contacted have been willing to receive our offer to listen and help but we will continue our sincere offer of assistance.

    3. Was 1989 the first time ABWE knew that Donn Ketcham was guilty of sexual misconduct?

    Yes, 1989 was the first time ABWE became aware of Donn’s sexual misconduct.

    There were two prior incidents involving inappropriate behavior with adult women. In each case, sexual misconduct was denied and the inappropriate behavior, which was not acceptable, did result in corrective counseling. The behavior that had been reported to the administration was not considered to be in violation of our moral failure policy by administrators, counselors, and pastors at the time. Corrective steps were taken and Donn was cleared to return to the field by his counselor and pastor.

    Donn Ketcham’s confession to sexual misconduct with other adults came when he was confronted with the sexual abuse of a minor in 1989.

    Prior to 1989 there was no indication that Donn Ketcham had acted inappropriately with children. And until 2002, we had no reason to believe the 1989 case was not a single incident. All cases of sexual misconduct in violation of our moral failure policy have consistently resulted in the termination of ABWE missionary personnel.

    4. Was the victim forced to sign a confession?

    No she was not. According to the counselor who accompanied her to the field with our administrator to confront Donn Ketcham in 1989, she was not forced to sign a confession but rather assisted to organize her testimony and put it on paper to help her through the emotionally traumatic experience of facing her abuser. The use of the word “confession” was and is unfortunate and misleading to those who see it today.

    In addition, she was encouraged to do this to assure that in the event she was emotionally unable to confront him personally, her signed testimony would be strong enough evidence to bring Donn Ketcham to the point of admission of guilt. This in fact was successful and Donn Ketcham’s actions were exposed and he was removed from the field immediately.

    • isaiah618 says:

      ABWE,
      You still aren’t telling the truth. I am so shocked all over again that I have no other words.
      Susannah Beals Baker

      • Rev Michael Eleveld says:

        I was Donn Ketcham’s pastor at Newhall Baptist Church from 1987 thru 1990. During this time frame I was never told of any “sexual misconduct” so I consequently could not “clear” Donn to return to service. And as stated before, in 1989 we were not told that his sin involved pedophilia. We were led to believe his sin was that of adultery. I have called the man who served as our Deacon Chair at the time and he clearly recalls that we were told Donn’s sin was that of adultery. We dealt with him as though he was guilty and repentant of the sin of adultery. I sent my own young daughters to him for medical care after he returned from the field…something I would never, never! have done if I had known he had committed acts of pedophilia. I resent the implications of ABWE that we are somehow complicit in this apparent cover up. The good people of Newhall Baptist had no knowledge of the full extent of Donn’s sins. I am deeply upset that I was not given the information necessary to shepherd and protect my flock as I had promised Jesus I would do.

  136. Rebecca says:

    To those who have described “breast exams” and other bizarre medical practices toward children:

    I am a journalist and write specifically about crime. Under Indiana law, which is similar to most, ANY contact with a child under the age of 13 (from 13-15 it is sexual misconduct) that is for the sexual gratification of EITHER the child or the perpetrator is considered a criminal act of child molesting. So while a child may not be aware at the time (and most are not in the more common, less physically intrusive but equally emotionally damaging) that the conduct exists for a sexual reason, it is still a crime.

    Meaning: If DK was performing such “exams” for his own personal gratifications, than that too is a crime and should be brought to the attention of the authorities/leaders.

    I know that is a hard truth, but the law now recognizes that just because children are “innocent” of the nature of the conduct, their abusers are not and the children should be protected.

    Again, you are all in my prayers and I remain touched by your courage and grace.

    • Linda (Walsh) Zylstra says:

      Rebecca – Does being aroused while touching them during the examination qualify as “seeking sexual gratification” because I have heard from at least 3 of his victims that this was the case. I would think so!

      • Rebecca says:

        Linda:
        I am afraid that it does. If he was sexually aroused or stimulated, or even if that was his intent, that makes the content abusive and criminal. If the victim also experienced a natural, biological and physical reaction to an unnatural act, and that subsequent response was undesired and unwelcome and caused by the action of DK, than that too makes the conduct abusive and criminal.

        For the sake of relevant discussion, Michigan laws describe it differently but the concepts are the same. The links below contain graphic language, so those who proceed, proceed knowing that:
        Here are the state of Michigan’s definitions of child abuse:
        http://legislature.mi.gov/doc.aspx?mcl-750-136b

        Here are the state of Michigan’s definitions of sexual abuse:
        http://legislature.mi.gov/doc.aspx?mcl-750-145c

  137. Charles Archibald says:

    I am an MK who lived in Bangladesh from ‘72-’90 and have a great deal of love and respect for my extended family who have made posts on this blog. Susie, what you have done has taken a tremendous amount of courage and I applaud you for it.

    For my “cousins” whom I love dearly, please forgive my past ignorance, and know that I am here for you. I have two sons and two daughters and every post that I read makes me think “what if this were one of my daughters?” And then the realization hits that this happened to some of my best friends by someone I greatly respected! This fact thoroughly outrages me. I can only scratch the surface of imagining what these dear people have gone through. Knowing now that they have been going through this nightmare for decades brings tears to my eyes.

    Regarding Phil’s post on 3/23/11 9:45am, this needs to be investigated thoroughly and immediately. I have traveled with Phil in Bangladesh and I know how people trust him and open up to him. He knows the culture and the people extremely well and he should be heard.

    I hold the ABWE mission organization in high regards; however, what was done was wrong and should have been made public back in ’89, and Phil’s concerns in ’03 should have been given top priority. Please listen closely to the victims’ families so that not only can they start to heal by some small measure of justice being served, but also so that proactive measures can be implemented to prevent this from happening again in the country and field that I love or any other field where there are faithful missionaries striving to lead others to our Savior.

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Charles, thank you! You and Mark and Eric all coming forward with support means the world to all of us who grew up with one particular victim of the abuse. THANK YOU.

    • Phil Walsh says:

      I love you, my brother. You’re the first person I know of to speak those words! They mean the world to me.

  138. I just wanted to share this Psalm. I am reading a book dealing with emotions and am in the section on grief recovery. One of the verses says something to the effect: The Lord is close to the broken-hearted. I looked up Psalm 37 online and here it is from the Net Bible:

    Psalm 37
    37:1 By David.
    Do not fret when wicked men seem to succeed!
    Do not envy evildoers!
    37:2 For they will quickly dry up like grass,
    and wither away like plants.
    37:3 Trust in the LORD and do what is right!
    Settle in the land and maintain your integrity!
    37:4 Then you will take delight in the LORD,
    and he will answer your prayers.
    37:5 Commit your future to the LORD!
    Trust in him, and he will act on your behalf.
    37:6 He will vindicate you in broad daylight,
    and publicly defend your just cause.
    37:7 Wait patiently for the LORD!
    Wait confidently for him!
    Do not fret over the apparent success of a sinner,
    a man who carries out wicked schemes!
    37:8 Do not be angry and frustrated!
    Do not fret! That only leads to trouble!
    37:9 Wicked men 15 will be wiped out,
    but those who rely on the LORD are the ones who will possess the land.
    37:10 Evil men will soon disappear;
    you will stare at the spot where they once were, but they will be gone.
    37:11 But the oppressed will possess the land
    and enjoy great prosperity.
    37:12 Evil men plot against the godly
    and viciously attack them.
    37:13 The Lord laughs in disgust at them,
    for he knows that their day is coming.
    37:14 Evil men draw their swords
    and prepare their bows,
    to bring down the oppressed and needy,
    and to slaughter those who are godly.
    37:15 Their swords will pierce their own hearts,
    and their bows will be broken.
    37:16 The little bit that a godly man owns is better than
    the wealth of many evil men,
    37:17 for evil men will lose their power,
    but the LORD sustains the godly.
    37:18 The LORD watches over the innocent day by day
    and they possess a permanent inheritance.
    37:19 They will not be ashamed when hard times come;
    when famine comes they will have enough to eat.
    37:20 But evil men will die;
    the LORD’s enemies will be incinerated –
    they will go up in smoke.
    37:21 Evil men borrow, but do not repay their debt,
    but the godly show compassion and are generous.
    37:22 Surely those favored by the LORD will possess the land,
    but those rejected by him will be wiped out.
    37:23 The LORD grants success to the one
    whose behavior he finds commendable.
    37:24 Even if he trips, he will not fall headlong,
    for the LORD holds his hand.
    37:25 I was once young, now I am old.
    I have never seen a godly man abandoned,
    or his children forced to search for food.
    37:26 All day long he shows compassion and lends to others,
    and his children are blessed.
    37:27 Turn away from evil! Do what is right!
    Then you will enjoy lasting security.
    37:28 For the LORD promotes justice,
    and never abandons his faithful followers.
    They are permanently secure,
    but the children of evil men are wiped out.
    37:29 The godly will possess the land
    and will dwell in it permanently.
    37:30 The godly speak wise words
    and promote justice.
    37:31 The law of their God controls their thinking;
    their feet do not slip.
    37:32 Evil men set an ambush for the godly
    and try to kill them.
    37:33 But the LORD does not surrender the godly,
    or allow them to be condemned in a court of law.
    37:34 Rely on the LORD! Obey his commands!
    Then he will permit you to possess the land;
    you will see the demise of evil men.
    37:35 I have seen ruthless evil men
    growing in influence, like a green tree grows in its native soil.
    37:36 But then one passes by, and suddenly they have disappeared!
    I looked for them, but they could not be found.
    37:37 Take note of the one who has integrity! Observe the godly!
    For the one who promotes peace has a future.
    37:38 Sinful rebels are totally destroyed;
    evil men have no future.
    37:39 But the LORD delivers the godly;
    he protects them in times of trouble.
    37:40 The LORD helps them and rescues them;
    he rescues them from evil men and delivers them,
    for they seek his protection.

    I found this incredibly encouraging and hope that it encourages others here as well.

  139. Watching and supporting says:

    I’m not an MK, PK or any kind of K. Just an ordinary Joe who knows some of you by name from long ago and it’s doubtful you would remember me. It’s gut wrenching to read your stories and makes my blood boil seeing how your supposed leadership has failed so miserably. I’ve experienced the betrayal of leadership myself and I think the worst part of it was watching them carry on the charade of being those godly people who could fail so badly and yet never be called to account because of their esteemed position. abwe stands to lose a great deal from your revelations and as well they should. How anyone in their right mind could respect, trust or work with an organization that has allowed this to go on, is beyond me. They need to come completely clean and those around who were directly involved need to step down immediately in disgrace out of whatever respect they have for what they’ve claimed to believe.

    Sad to say, I’m guessing they’ve covered themselves in attorneys and are holding endless meetings on how to get out of this mess. No matter what they say or do, their integrity has been destroyed, long ago. Not by what happened to the precious kids under their care but by their response. You can forgive a person or persons, but you have to deal with their actions. Something as horrific as this is well beyond the scope of treating employees poorly, money laundering or poor management.

    My question to the victims in specific and to all who have been touched by this is do you know what will bring any sense of peace and resolution? What could abwe possibly do or say beyond coming clean that will mean anything, or is that enough? The idea of resolving anything with dk himself is ridiculous. The very fact that he still carries on a medical practice speaks volumes about his heart. You can’t put a candy addict in the candy store and expect any other outcome but more of the same.

    I have the utmost respect and admiration of your courage and struggle to pursue the truth and to move on with your lives. There are I’m sure, some very powerful personalities within your christian circles that would desperately like this to go away. You’ve opened a pandora’s box that could reveal countless ugly realities. Reputations, career’s, ministries etc… are all at stake. I wish you wisdom, strength and courage in your fight. More people than you know, such as myself, are watching and supporting you. May God bless your lives and make Himself very real and very present to you.

    • How is the ABWE board handling this? Are they leaving this to the mission to solve? says:

      How long before we hear from the ABWE Board members? Your name is on the line too. Are you going to clean house?

  140. Sue James says:

    Dr. DeCook:
    I always went with my girls when they had exams with any doctor. The last exam was different and I was so uncomfortable. We had a nurse in the room also. But DK went on and on about a breast exam and explained to me that he liked to explain to them what he was doing and why. I know what an exam is like and this one was so long
    After he left I whispered to the nurse asking her if she thought it was a little overdone and right. She said she didn’t notice. I did and I was uncomfortable. I will never forget it.

    • Daniel DeCook says:

      I will weigh in as a general surgeon (same training as Donn’s) who does a fair amount of breast surgery:
      –It’s rarely productive to do an extended breast exam on any teenager, especially at the cusp of puberty. Occasional lumps are noted (usually by the patient herself), are usually benign ordinary fibrous tissue, or occasionally a fibroadenoma.
      –There is equally little point in teaching a girl to examine her own breasts at that age–BSE in the parlance–as there’s little chance of any useful information coming to light.
      –Adolescents are usually more comfortable with a parent present, not lesso. And a nurse chaperone is always recommended if the doctor is a man.
      You were entirely right to feel creeped out by what you saw/perceived.

  141. Mark Goddard says:

    When I first saw this blog I was concerned about the wisdom of discussing these terrible wrongs in such a public forum. I thought I already knew the story and didn’t have anything to add. As I continued to follow the comments it became clear than there was more to the story than the few details I was told as a high schooler and that the hurts are deeper than I ever imagined. As the days went on I have been encouraged to see a lot of old friends speak out in support. I can’t stay silent any longer and must lend my voice to the list of those calling for the truth to win out over secrecy and for the healing of all the victims. I pray that those in leadership of ABWE and the Christian community as a whole will step forward and do the right thing and that those hurt by this terrible sin will find a measure of healing through the love and support of all the friends who have posted here. If there is anything I can do to help any of you, please let me know.

  142. Diana Durrill says:

    In response to ABWE’s most current statements on their site, I must state that I take issue with the administration of ABWE for these reasons:

    1. You gave full impression at the time of the ’89 incident that you would be informing all the proper authorities. Donn’s letter states that “full disclosure has been made to the appropriate persons here in the states.” You are now confirming on your website that he lied. Your own letter, written by Russ Ebersole, does not give any indication that you reported the incident to the proper authorities. However, you own legal defense, Mr. Don Davis, claims in his correspondence with Susannah Beals Baker the following:

    “We did attempt to make a report of child molestation, and have since done so again, but authorities said it was outside their jurisdiction. He was reported to the medical board (by at least two individuals), though I have no evidence that the mission made this report. I personally verified that it was made. His employer was aware, and responded to one reporter that they had systems in place to protect patients. They also said their options were limited because the authorities would take no official action. This is third hand, but I understand the medical board’s response was similar, that they could not take action where no official charge had been made by the authorities.”

    Your legal defense lied to Susannah on November 6, 2009.

    2. Every parent of an adolescent girl reading your statement today would challenge you on this: Do you think speaking with one official, who coincidentally happens to be his co-worker, is sufficient representation of the state of Michigan? Especially when you know other children have come forward, why would you stop with one person? Why would you not ask for documentation from the state of Michigan that it was indeed “out of their jurisdiction”. That puts responsibility on the state of Michigan and releases you of further responsibility. The common sense of that alone makes me doubt it is even true.

    3. If you did indeed contact the pastors of the two churches you mention then they should be held responsible, too. It does not make us feel better to know you told them….it makes us feel worse that there are others included in the “cover up”.

    4. If Michael Loftis was only offering help to those who showed up to events such as ME conferences, he was offering help to a limited audience. I ask you, why would those of us who had been hurt by those in the administration spend A LOT of money to attend those types of events to spend a few days with people who have betrayed us in the past or to come in close contact with someone who reminds us of a terrible part of our history with the mission Why would we do that?

    5. If ABWE was made aware of more victims whose stories seemed “credible” because of the “substantial commonalities”, why would you not approach every MK from the Bangladesh field? That would be the only way your “investigation” would be thorough. We are a large field, but we are not so large that you could not have contacted each of us to say that there were more victims (without naming names) and ask if any of us have something we’d like to share or report. That would be the responsible thing to do.

    6. In my experience, the following paragraph is a bold faced lie:

    “The care and well being of the abuse victims of Donn Ketcham remain our highest concern. In addition, we continue our attempts to privately contact other MKs who, though not personally abused, have been nonetheless affected by what took place. Not all those contacted have been willing to receive our offer to listen and help but we will continue our sincere offer of assistance.”

    ** You have not shown that “highest concern” to me, Diana Durrill, daughter of missionaries to Bangladesh. I have received no email, no phone call. You have contacted my father to ask for the victim’s phone number. You had every opportunity to ask him for my contact information and did not do so. I have also asked many of my friends who have stated their names on the blog and none of them have received an email or phone call from you. I don’t believe for one minute that you have my best interest at heart when you have made no attempt to reach me or my husband.

    7. I believe, and had heard from my Bangladesh “aunts and uncles”, that this statement is a lie:

    “Yes, 1989 was the first time ABWE became aware of Donn’s sexual misconduct.”

    I knew while I was still in Bangladesh that a beloved aunt of mine was sent home for inappropriate conduct with Donn Ketcham. I was told by people who were there when the confrontation regarding that relationship took place. I have heard even tonight from the adults who were present that they were told at the time (approximately 2 years prior to the victim’s “confession” in ’89) that there was inappropriate conduct between Donn and the single nurse and that she was sent home, and he was re-stationed. THEN we returned to the mission field. You know the rest of the story…

    8. I take issue with your moral failure policy if it would permit ANY kind of inappropriate conduct between two grown adults, one of which was married, to slide. One is bad enough, but two is inexcusable. I find it almost funny that you use it to defend yourselves. It really isn’t funny. It was inappropriate enough for Donn to receive “corrective measures” and counsel from a “counselor and pastor.” Do you not think you just shot yourselves in the foot with this paragraph?

    9. “All cases of sexual misconduct in violation of our moral failure policy have consistently resulted in the termination of ABWE missionary personnel.” If this is true, then your moral failure policy needs to be re-visited and it is about 6,000 years out of date. (Exodus 20)

    10. In regard to your highly offensive point number 4 – I don’t really have to say much. Just read this post. It sums it up (however I cannot help but add my two cents afterward).

    http://www.facebook.com/notes/tamara-barrick-rice/abwe-defends-having-sexual-abuse-victim-a-minor-sign-confession/10150129897322500

    You are only kidding yourselves. I would bet that your voicemails and inboxes are full from your very own missionaries as they read your point #4. There are missionaries all over the world who are surely scrambling to find a new board because your defense of that confession is inexcusable and flat out offensive to any human being with cognitive abilities. If your intent was simply for the victim to state it did truly happen, it should have been phrased, “Dr. Donn Ketcham did this…(fill-in-the-blank)…to me.” You cannot convince me or the rest of the world that this is anything but a confession of wrongdoing:

    “I, ________, have confessed to my pastor and his wife, Dr. Russ Ebersole, and Dr. Russ Lloyd that I have participated in a physical relationship with Dr. Don Ketcham that transgressed God’s Word and that was not pleasing to Him.”

    And I quote: “I have confessed….I have participated…I have transgressed….” Those are not the words of a person who is confronting a perpetrator. Those are the words of a confession.

    “Dr. Ketcham and I would meet alone in the hospital….we engaged in….”

    These are not the words of someone confronting. These are the words of someone acknowledging consensual wrongdoing.

    “I have not wanted to hurt anyone in doing this or in confessing to it, but I know what I did was very wrong, and I am very sorry for it.”

    There is not one word in this phrase that is not wholly about confession.

    “I have asked God’s forgiveness, and I know He has forgiven me. I pray that He will help me and others through this time,- and that I will become the person God wants me to be.”

    Tell me, what about this phrase is about confronting Donn with what he did?

    I am outraged at your point #4. So is the world. So should every missionary on your fields. If you did not shoot your own selves in the foot with the part about TWO slightly inappropriate immoral relationships, you surely did so now. This is ludicrous. Shameful. We demand you go back to the drawing board and try again to explain this confession (which, by the way, I challenge you to take one hundred fourteen year olds and ask them to write a confession of this nature on their own…you would not find 1 in 100 that would sound like this one. Why? Because YOU wrote it, asked her to read it and agree with it, and sign on the dotted line.)

    Your credibility is shot and you fired the bullet.

    • Anne Smith says:

      Diana,
      I would have to say that I agree with you fully on this and back you up 100%. I also can attest that ABWE has not ever tried to contact me and they have every means at the tips of their fingers to do so. Thank you for replying to the letter. You beat me to it. Well said! I’ve got your back!

  143. melanie long sanford says:

    i am thankful for this blog and for the truth that’s finally in the light. despite the horrific subject matter, the courage it has taken to start it and the many insightful posts have encouraged me. i was a bangladesh mk at the tail-end of this generation. so many names on here are so familiar. names of people i’ve looked up to. susannah, though i have never met you personally, THANK YOU. ever since i first became aware of this blog i have followed very closely, continually praying and waiting for a response from abwe. i haven’t posted anything because i continued to feel that there was no way i could express myself as eloquently as many people on here. but i realize now the importance of writing my name to show support, belief, and love.

    i am angered by abwe’s latest ‘answers to common questions’. it’s a serious leap backward as many parts of their answers are lies. i’m confused and cynical. i don’t understand why if they are going to work this hard and scramble this much, abwe wouldn’t put that energy into an outpouring of love, investigation, and repentance. i’m just completely *awbawk* (for you non-bengalis, stymied) at the lies and otherwise silence. i don’t get it.

    again, for all the victims–my mk sisters–i am so very sorry for your hurt, your loss. i have been praying since i learned the truth. and i will continue.

  144. Susannah Weldy says:

    Please don’t pass by looking away from the wounded, afraid of damaging your own reputation. (Remember a man robbed and left for dead… passed by more than once by spiritual leaders of his time.) Let’s bend down picking up the pieces of these broken hearts and shattered lives. Risk being seen by the enemy as we cradle the wounded tenderly in our arms.

    The world is watching. Jesus left us with clear instruction.

    Everyone will know that you are my disciples- if you love one another. (John 13:35)

    Greater love has no one than this. That he lay down his life for his friends. (John 15:13)

    These women are more than friends. They are our sisters.

  145. Sharon Miller Chambers says:

    Another sad part about this is that ABWE needs to go back closer to 40 yrs in contacting young girls that were exposed. That is how long it was going on.

  146. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    I am writing to say that after I sent off a few emails to Nancy Hepworth, the child safety officer at ABWE, she contacted me.

    Here’s what I think all of us who are MKs should know about that conversation, though we are all free, of course, to do and to speak to the person we feel we should.

    She asked me if she could take notes on our conversation. What she may not know, is that I took notes too. (Taking notes is not a crime.)

    Here are my concerns:

    1. Nancy admitted she had not read “all of” the blog. I ask you, what child safety officer at ABWE is not making a monitoring of this blog their full-time duty … taking notes on it … writing down names … connecting dots. I found her statement alarming.

    2. She said her only job is to take down reports and document them. In other words, complaining to her about ABWE mishandling things from 1989 is probably not going to get you anywhere. She seems frustrated with the situation at ABWE (my interpretation, NOT HER WORDS, ABWE) and I do not think she has much control over their response to any of it.

    3. I told her that as a former member of the Bangladesh field council and an employee of ABWE, she could not be considered an objective third-party listener or taker of reports in any way–even though she’s never met Donn Ketcham. She agreed that people must speak about abuse with someone they trust and that it would be difficult for any Bangladesh MK to trust her right now. (For this, I applaud her. Friends, she truly understands this.)

    4. She said that Russ and Donn being friends was news to her. (This statement speaks for itself.)

    5. I did not make any “report” to her, despite things I know, and I told her the reasons why. (See #3.)

    All of which to say. Friends, I made an attempt. As my husband pointed out to me, I’d been crying out for action from ABWE all week, how could I not answer Nancy’s phone call. So I did.

    So while I can tell you she seems like a kind, gentle woman who loves God and is grieved by sexual abuse, she also does not seem able to handle the scope of this terrible problem–not because she doesn’t care, but because I believe her hands are tied (again, not her statement, but my interpretation of the collection and tone of her statements, to be clear).

    Make your own decisions, but I encourage you to continue to urge ABWE to allow an independent third party to investigate, and as Michael Loftis’ email seems to not be working right, keep after Tony Beckett, the director of church relations. He seems to have SOME authority there, and his email address seems to still be working. tony@abwe.org

    • Diana Durrill says:

      So, it might be safe to assume that reports are being made but they are simply being alphabetized and filed away?

      Hmmmmm…..sounds familiar.

  147. Papi says:

    Jara bangla boojtay para tomra shobhay amar kota shoono: (amar phonetics eckebaray shoondoor noy….kento doya koray amar kota poro)
    Dr. ketchum’r hattay Ay shob porebar’re betay hoyachay. Kinto amaar monay taktay hobay jay jeshu tar jono morachay. Amar kan ay kota shoonay shohoj noy. Amar o beshi beta achay tar pap’r karonay. Kintoo Tar mon matro Issur janay. amray keno boli jay issur oboshoy takay koma korbay na karen tar mon teek noy. Atay meta kota!
    Shobhaiy amar kota shoono. Amra shobhay jeshu’r upor beshash kori. Amra shobay bhai ebong bon. Amar mon kadtay karon eto golmal hoyachay dr. ketchum’r pap’r karon. Kento Preteeb’r shomosto lok ay blog’r kota porta para ebong amadar golmal shoona. Keno? Ay pap hoyachay pray beesh bochor agay. boro doorghotona hoyachay eckjon pap’r hatay. Kentu shoono, Amra Shobay PAPI! . jodi amra bhai ebong bon mara mari kori ke labh? Arokom pap choto noy. kentu amad’r issur pap’r chay boro.

    Dr. ketchum doctor’re heshabay kaj kore. Ami shoonechi eckjon bolchay jay jodi shay misti prochonodo koro (ebong misti holo pap) “keno shay misti dockanay kaj koray?””
    Amar proshno achay – aey beesh bochor’r modtay shay Americay kaj korechay. Tar chakri ay deshay. Kentu tar medical record eckono poreshkar. eck karap ghotona oh hoy ne karon ae deshar neyom bangadesh’r neyom’r chay beshey boro. Hotay paray jay Ay beesh bochor’r modtay aro mayad’r oopor karap keecho hoyechay, kento ami jani na. Ami shoonachi jay tar geerjay takay shostay deechay. Ami beshash kori jay oneck beta ebong pap hoyechay dr. ketchum’r pap’r karonay. Amar mon’r eckono beta lagay . Kinto amar Ragh shesh. Keno shesh? Tar Pap Beshi Boro! Koma shohoj noy. Kinto issur takay koma korachay beesh bochor aga. Amad’r ISSUR Pap’r chay boro. Amad’r shoba’r monay taktay hobay ae kota:
    Romans 12:21 “mondar kachay hera jayo na, boron bhalo deya mondarkay joy koro.”

    Translation -

    [For those of you who understand Bangla, please listen to what I have to say: (My phonetics are not very good, but please read what I have to say)
    All these families have been hurt by Dr. Ketcham. But I have to remember that Jesus died for him. It’s not easy for me to hear these things. I also have a lot of pain because of his sin. But only God knows his heart. Why do we say that God definitely will not forgive him because his heart isn’t right? That is a lie! Everyone listen to me. We all believe in Jesus. We are all brothers and sisters. My heart cries that there is such a mess because of Dr. Ketcham’s sin. But everyone in the world can read the words on this blog and can hear our problems. Why? This sin happened almost 20 years ago. Because of sin there has been a big incident. But listen. We are all SINNERS! If we brothers and sisters fight, what is the benefit? This is not a small sin, but our God is bigger than our sin.

    Dr. Ketcham works as a doctor. I heard that one person said, “If he likes sweets” (and sweets are sin), “Why does he work in a candy store?” I have a question – He worked in America for the past 20 years. His work is in this country. But his medical record is still clean. Not one bad thing has happened because the laws of this country are more severe than the laws of Bangladesh. It’s possible that other women have had bad things happen to them in the past 20 years, but I don’t know. I have heard that his church has disciplined him. I believe that there is a lot of pain and sin has occurred because of Dr. Ketcham. My heart still hurts. But my anger is gone. Why is it gone? His sin is huge! Forgiveness isn’t easy. But God forgave him 20 years ago. Our GOD is bigger than sin. We all have to remember these words:
    Romans 12:21 “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”]

    • Dave DeCook says:

      Dear Papi,

      I can only assume you are one of my beloved uncles from Bangladesh who has served so long and so well. I must gently suggest that your appeal for forgiveness as an end to this blog is misguided. Forgiveness is the act of the victim to give up his right of revenge, releasing the perpetrator from the debt. This is difficult, or maybe impossible, to do when the extent of the crime is unknown. For instance, pretend that I came to you with this report: Someone who hates you has stolen your ID along with your bank account numbers, your credit card account numbers and the passwords to all your stock portfolios. He has altered things in those accounts and has stolen various sums from them. Now, first things first, I want you to forgive him for everything he has done.

      Would you find it easier or harder to forgive if the extent of his crimes were kept hidden? We could say “all sins are the same,” so it doesn’t matter, but I bet it would help if you knew what forgiveness was going to cost you.

      Jesus said, “Father forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” The perpetrator might never grasp the magnitude of his sins, but the forgiver must. I know I certainly never will grasp the magnitude of my own sins. But what enables God to forgive me is that He knows the extent of my sins precisely and prepared Christ to bear the full consequences. It wouldn’t make much sense if He had said, “Father, forgive them, for we know not what they are doing.”

      Whether Don Ketcham ever repents or not, these victims deserve to know as much about the crimes committed against them (and the cover-up) as possible. This will enable forgiveness. ABWE is in a position to do this, but they want to keep things hidden.

      Respectfully,
      Dave DeCook

  148. Lynn West says:

    Dear Susie and all those mentioned above,

    I am wracked with sorrow over what so many young girls went through in Bangladesh so many years ago because of one man’s bad choices. Yes, I do believe what Donn did was a choice not a “sickness”. I am sorry I did not know about this blog until last night, if so, I would have written sooner. After hours of reading the many notes from MK’s I know and love I was tired and felt I needed to talk to the Father, and give Him time to talk to me, about this matter before adding my two cents.
    This was and continues to be a terrible memory for all that were there in Bangladesh (whether it was in 1989 or prior to that). As I write this, the memories flood back like they were yesterday….with it, the tears of sorrow for the 14 year old and her dear family that went through this horrific experience. I must say that it is because of her bravery that this abuse of young girls and women came to a halt. I applaud that bravery. What we didn’t know at the time was that years back other young girls were also abused. Susie, I am so very sorry for you years of silence. I am so glad that you could come forward, and with great strength, speak out about this incredible injustice.
    At the time this happened I was very close to the family involved. I must admit I could not understand how God could allow this to happen. It was at that time that I picked up a book by Max Lucado, “In The Eye of the Storm”.
    This is a quote from chapter 11,

    “There is a window in your heart through which you can see God. Once upon a time that window was clear. Your view of God was crisp. You could see God as vividly as you could see a gentle valley or hillside. The glass was clean, and the pane unbroken.
    You knew God. You knew how He worked. You knew what he wanted you to do. No surprises. Nothing unexpected. You knew that God had a will, and you continually discovered what it was.
    Then, suddenly, the window cracked. A pebble broke the window. A pebble of pain.
    Perhaps the stone struck when you were a child and a parent left home-forever. Maybe the rock hit in adolescence when your heart was broken. Maybe you made it into adulthood before the window was cracked. But then the pebble came.
    Whatever the pebble’s form, the results was the same–a shattered window. The pebble missiled into the pane and shattered it. The crash echoed down the halls of your hear. Cracks shot out from the point of impact, creating a spider web of fragmented pieces.
    And suddenly God was not so easy to see. The view that had been so crisp has changed. You turned to see God, and his figure was distorted. It was hard to see him through the pain. It was hard to see him through the fragments of hurt.
    You were puzzled. God wouldn’t allow something like this to happen, would he? Tragedy and travesty weren’t on the agenda of the One you had seen, were they? Had you been fooled? Had you been Blind?
    The moment the pebble struck, the glass became a reference point for you. From then on, there was life before the pain and life after the pain. Before your pain, the view was clear; God seemed so near. After your pain, well, he was harder to see. He seemed a bit distant…harder to perceive. Your pain distorted the view-not eclipsed it, but distorted it.”

    Looking back, I felt this illustration depicted what had gone on for me and so much more for those involved. The ripple effect of Donn’s choices were far reaching. How I wished that we could all move back in time and somehow changed the events for all that were abused. Since we cannot go back, it is time for everyone to acknowledge that this happened and that things were not handled correctly. We all need to encourage those that have been mistreated unjustly and wrap our arms around them with prayer and understanding. Listening to their feelings and acknowledging these things to be true. It is through this, and God’s power, that they will heal.
    Even though this was so many years ago, the scars are still visible for you and the others. I pray that through others knowing, and the support from friends, that the scar will begin to heal, at least some. Please know that I support you in your efforts.

    In love,
    Lynn Ruffner West
    MK Teacher and friend (1981-1993)
    Special Education Teacher at present

  149. Dick and Linda Stagg says:

    Susannah:
    Susannah:

    Aunt Linda and I want to let you (and the other girls who were molested and abused) know how much we love you and want you one day to be as whole and nightmare free as you can be this side of heaven. We know it must have taken tremendous courage for you to open up this public blog and share your pain. Above all we want you to be loved and comforted—knowing that you are the innocent victim. Yet you and the others have carried the heavy burden of the sins committed against you by someone you should have been able to trust. You are in our hearts always and in our prayers daily. – Uncle Dick

  150. A Believer says:

    I haven’t posted before now, even though I’ve been reading this blog for several days. I’m not an MK and do not know any of these girls, but I grew up in one of D Ketcham’s supporting churches and heard him preach many times. I thought the world of him and was saddened when he left the mission field. But after reading the documents and these stories, I am sick, sick, sick. There is no doubt in my mind of their truth. I have prayed and shed many tears in the past few days for these precious girls who were so horribly abused by this selfish and egotistical man. They could have been my girls, because I had girls the same age at that time. When I read ABWE’s “Answers to Common Questions That Have Been Asked”, I was dumbfounded! How could they POSSIBLY think that was not a confession they had the 14 year old girl sign? Please continue to make them accountable for their actions and to admit the whole truth. To these girls I repeat what has already been said: You are not to blame, you did nothing wrong, you were the victims of an evil man who thought only of himself.

  151. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    There is a need for some medical people to weigh in here. MIssionary docs, short termers, or US docs, feel free to comment. I will only comment on matters I feel are clearly out of standard and not debatable. Different docs have different opinions on lots of things. That is why we need more than me to comment here.

    First, Sue James comment on breast exams, March 27: ” I always went with my girls when they had exams with any doctor. The last exam was different and I was so uncomfortable. We had a nurse in the room also. But DK went on and on about a breast exam and explained to me that he liked to explain to them what he was doing and why. I know what an exam is like and this one was so long.” My comment: Breast exams on teens, esp young teens are only done if there are symptom of a problem. Routine breast exams on teens, esp young teens are generally not done because nobody has breast cancer at that age. Teaching a young teen breast self exam generally not done for same reason. Other doctors, please comment! Agree or not? I talked to a nurse from the BD field who was there from 70′s thru 80′s. She said the breast exams on some of the teens were very prolonged, and embarrassed her, but what nurse will challenge the doctor? I feel your concerns about breast exam, esp prolonged exams, on young teens is well founded. Doctors, weigh in on this.

    Next medical item: Tamara Barrick Rice’s cat scratch fever, posted March 26: “What I do remember was that DK came to our home to examine me. He asked that I remove ALL of my clothing (underwear included) so that he might check each and all lymph nodes. He instructed my mother to lay a sheet over me as I lay naked on the bed. Though the memory is a bit buzzy, as I was so sick, I seem to remember that he asked my mom to leave so I’d be less embarrassed. But I cannot confirm that, as neither of us fully remember. What I DO remember is that while he did not do anything I can specifically point to as sexual in nature, it was the most thorough examining of my lymph nodes (all of them) I’ve ever had, and it was very, very humiliating to endure as a young teenage girl.” Tamara goes on to say her oncologist exams all her nodes regularly, and it is nothing like that exam was. My comment: It is ABSOLUTELY UNNECESSARY for a 15 year old to remove all her clothes and to be completely naked, to examine all her lymph nodes. This can be easily done with bra and panties on. And a doctor would NEVER examine a naked teen aged girl with out her mother or a nurse or some other woman present, in case anybody wonders. Other doctors, please weigh in, am I right or wrong?
    Dr. Joe DeCook

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Uncle Joe. I don’t know that we’ve ever met, but of course I know your name, and I freely and willingly call you “uncle.” Your full support of my suspicion in this matter is such a relief. THANK YOU for weighing in. Thank you so much. It means the world.

    • I'm not a doc, but... says:

      Something ABWE must do is set up a method for medical personnel to report misconduct without fear of reprisal at all their medical missions. It’s called quality assurance or quality improvement. It used to be that nurses wouldn’t question a doctor, but if they are given the opportunity, they do and will!

      • Diana Durrill says:

        I totally agree…but remember, there was not a safe place anywhere from the mission field of Bangladesh all the way to the very top where one could report such a concern. Some tried. They were forced to resign as a result of making such a report.

        Unless there is a complete change in the administration from the top down, no one will still feel like they can “safely” make a report. And still, I wonder if people will feel safe if that staff change is made. Many will always wonder. It will take years of showing the missionaries that their reports are not only heard, but taken seriously, to prove that they are going to do right.

  152. MK and later missionary says:

    ABWE swept other issues such as domestic violence under the rug in another country so I find it very credible that they took more care for the donor relations than victims.

    I am now a psychologist and my heart aches for all the victims, their extended families, spouses and children. This pain is very real.

    Almost worse than the abuse, is the abuse by the system of not being believed.

  153. Joe Massey says:

    Mary and I, who served in Chittagong during the 70s, want to express our solidarity with all the ladies who were violated. We hope and pray that each of you will find some closure through these efforts whether or not DK responds or is brought to justice.

    Rise and be healed in the name of Jesus,
    let faith arise in your heart.
    Rise and be healed in the name of Jesus,
    He will make you every witwhole.

    Every ABWE missionary, past and present, needs to stand up for these gals who have suffered so much.

    Joe Massey

  154. Daniel DeCook says:

    Having read Susie’s blog and its respondents intensively for the first few days I was aware of it, I found I was unable to sleep for the deep anger I felt, and had to take a break from it for a few days. But I felt I must respond again, and composed a few thoughts for my ABWE responsible parties. I’m not sure they will read them (perhaps their inbox in pretty full), so I share them here. I might first say I am so encouraged to see the lively Spirit of God in the replies of so many of those I grew up with. Susannah, Michele, Dan G, by bro Dave, Diane, Julie, Phil, Lynda, Ricky, Charles, even those older ones like Deb and Linda (sorry…)–I am so honored to have been one of you. I tear as I read your blog posts.

    to: ABWE; the President, Mr Loftis; and the ABWE Board:

    I was driving my 14 yr old daughter home from ballet rehearsals the other nite. She was chattering with her three girl-buds, about boys they like, fashion stuff they thought was awful, the song on the radio (they were definitely twisting the dial and choosing the channel)—all age appropriate behavior for their age. Probably the radio had been tuned to Focus on the Family. It may even have been an interview with an author about daughters and dads, and how important that relationship is for a young girl to turn into a flowering young woman in God’s garden; how she learns from him how to be treated appropriately by a man, how she learns from her dad how it is that God values and loves her, as he patterns it.

    And it struck me, that perhaps that is why I am so incensed when I read thru the recent blog on the internet that has drawn so much attention amongst the ABWE family recently. And why I feel compelled to write.

    You could argue that I don’t have a dog in this fight, that I am not among the aggrieved, that this is actually a business between God and Donn and you and the victims (thank God you never identified them as the “alleged victims”), that my noting this struggle and commenting on it is actually inappropriate and perhaps akin to gossip-mongering or voyeurism.

    And I would say, in 2002, I would have agreed with you. In fact, when I attended the MK reunion in 2002, the first time I was even a little aware such an awful mess existed, I was aware at almost the same time that it was being worked on, that it was being “fixed”. Good people were involved, trustworthy people. Wounded women (some still girls, really) were being allowed to vent; prayers for healing and forgiveness were being prayed, and assurances were given that safeguards were being instituted to be sure that this would never again happen (whatever “this” was–it was never really disclosed.) Trust issues were invoked (you need to trust us–we ARE dealing with “it”); privacy issues were invoked (this is too private to really talk about, too embarrassing, it might hurt the victims). Counseling offers were made (and accepted) by at least some of the girls/women to “help them get past this event.” All this seemed plausible, believable, and quite likely mostly true. In good conscience, then, I thought, I mostly forgot about it. After all, I was only indirectly involved, as a member of the mission family of BD MK’s.

    And yet, as this blog has spoken, it seems clear that wrongs weren’t righted, at least not all wrongs; and most significantly, perhaps it was the wrongest wrongs that were not righted. And, it seems, it is a righting of these wrongs that is the common thread of the crying out in these many peoples’ comments.

    That Donn was serially immoral (and perhaps should have been dismissed from the field several decades earlier) is beyond question. That he was persistently, serially, sexually inappropriate with minor children (we have a phrase for that today–”criminal sexual conduct”–perhaps it didn’t exist in common use then) now also seems unquestionable. That he may have been abetted by the use of a chemical dysphorient such as Ketamine, at least in some of the occasions, seems increasingly probable (adding to the criminality of his actions.) That he was then so emboldened that he carried on a long term, sexual (with or without penetration it was sexual, even if Bill Clinton publically has argued that sex without penetration ain’t really sex), utterly inappropriate relationship with a 14 yr old girl is documented by your own (ABWE) records to that fact.

    The unknown to me, apparently the great unknown to nearly everyone else with a peripheral but compelling interest in “this” event, the unkown-ness of which is so infuriating to those who did know the details, was the utterly inadequate and inappropriate way ABWE officially handled this last event (and by extension, possibly the inadequate way it handled all the related events.)

    That a fourteen year old girls was interviewed, and compelled to recount, then sign as a confession, a list of her liasons with a 54 yr old man, and the various sexual activities they engaged in, is nearly incomprehensible. That the same man was allowed to sign a confession describing how tormented he was by the sickness within, portraying himself very nearly as a victim, is in fact very naive. That he described himself as “no longer guilty, but still in sorrow and awaiting God’s peace,” when it is now clear that he was lying lying lying about other past events, highlights the depth of that naivete. That Dr. Ebersole described him with some sentimentality as a “beloved brother (that has) fallen”, (as if perhaps the young girl was a Philistine archer who had brought him down on Mt Gilboa,) shows an appalling lack of perspective over what was dangerous criminal behavior (as well as sin,) and should have been reported explicitly and acted on immediately. While the “great burden” that Donn and his dear wife carried are referenced, there is not a word, not a breath, about the victim. (“prayers on their behalf during this very difficult time in their lives”? Really?! Their difficult time?! Really?!) That this is the story ABWE stuck with, and passed on to the churches (as well as others in the more immediate, and more extended ABWE family), for the next 13 yrs, is unthinkable, appalling even. And it is this, I think that is at the crux of this crying out of the victims to ABWE.

    We are well past Dr. Donn confessing to each victim, asking forgiveness, making restitution. I doubt even he knows the truth any longer, so long has he been telling lies to you, to his beloved wife, to any colleagues who confronted him, even to himself. I don’t see him owning up to the truth anywhere this side of eternity.

    But ABWE is in a position to make amends, for its witting or unwitting complicity in this crime, for its failing in its due diligence, in its fiduciary duty to those wronged MK’s/girls/women whom Donn preyed upon. They failed to fully contront Donn. They failed to name a sin explicitly (albeit a very ugly sin), allowing him to cower behind a sham of “I disqualified myself a la I Tim 3:16.” They failed to make a public discredit of him. They failed to give those vicitims the dignity of believing them. They may have failed adequately to protect others from his predatory ways. All this you can attempt to make right.

    Listen, a child died that day, that day that she signed a confession, as Donn moved on into his next phase of “no more guilt, awaiting the peace and the lifting of the sorrow.” Oh, her body survived (and by all accounts, moved on thru adolescence and young adulthood in some form of shock, making mistakes and bringing further sorrow and death on herself–certainly that has been the pattern with some of his other victims). But really, her soul died that day; and her blood cries out from the ground for redress. The broken hearts, the souls, of those other victims cry out as well.

    Listen, when the tormented, the widow and the orphan (and, I would judge, the inadequately protected, sexually molested minor) cries out to God, “Za’kheh”, He promises He will certainly hear them. And insofar as it regarded Israel, His people (whom He rightly expected to obey him), He promised, “My anger will be aroused, and I will kill you with the sword; your wives will become widows and your children fatherless” if you are the causative agent of that crying out.

    I believe this is an unredressed offense for ABWE to amend, an unconfessed sin, even; and an evil not fully repented of. I believe God cannot and will not be able to bless ABWE as He would like to, and in particular its goals and efforts in Bangladesh, until this great evil is more completely dealt with. At this moment, God has allowed a public utility (of all things, the Bangladesh National Railroad) to begin cleaving the Memorial Christian Hospital area in half. It is perhaps ironically symbolic of the way this affair with Donn Ketcham has cleaved in half the lives of these victims, the way it has cleaved in half the missionary family involved, the way it may even have cleaved in half the unity and purpose of the Bengali believers (who are surely aware of Donn’s hidden and open sins.) They cannot be forgotten either, and they are as surely looking to see what ABWE’s response is.

    The victims are looking for that response; the extended ABWE family is looking for that response; even the watching secular world (well beyond WoodTV8) is looking for that response (it is quite clear in today’s world among the unregenerate that there are still some things for which there is zero tolerance, and this is one of those.)

    And God is surely looking for that response.

    A posted aopolgy is really only good enough for the peripherally involved. A personal letter apology is probably sufficient for the extended ABWE family and the churches who were more or less bamboozled by the vague and misleading language both you and Donn used in addressing his actions previously.

    But for those victims directly of the Dr’s predatory sexual behavior, only a personal (in person) apology to those wounded seems appropriate. Perhaps a high ranking board member or two and the president or vice-president of ABWE. I wouldn’t waste any time lining up those flights and getting on a plane to at least 8 different locations in this country.

    The apology should acknowledge their loss of innocence, the death of that child heart they probably possessed before Donn raped them of it, the permanent and abiding loss they are likely to feel their whole life.

    The apology should include ABWE’s responsibility for Donn directly, as his employer/supervisor during the time he was a missionary, with an enormous expression of remorse for ABWE’s handling of him.

    It should also include acknowledgement of the harm they may have suffered as a result of having been little-believed when these things were brought up at different times, for the way in which that lack of belief and lack of vocal, forceful public support from ABWE has impeded their desire and efforts to heal their wounds.

    And that apology should specifically reference the great harm ABWE has probably caused that final 14 yr old victim, in allowing her to spend her adolescence and young adult life believing she was cause of the fall of a great missionary man. This latter, is, I think, the most eggregious of ABWE’s faults in this matter.

    And finally, this apology should include an offer of restitution, by any practical means necessary. I don’t think this is necessarily money (and i don’t believe there is very much to go around, in any case,) but certainly involves the offer of reasonable free counseling, for nearly any reaonable length of time necessary.

    I believe then, and only then, will God allow this great cloud to go away from ABWE, and from the lives of these victims; and allow the ministry to proceed unhindered.

    The ball is in your court. The opportunity is yours. I pray you sieze it.

    Respectully,

    Daniel J DeCook, MD
    Holland, MI

    Job 16:18ff:

    “My face is red with weeping, deep shadows ring my eyes;
    yet my hands have been free of violence, and my prayer is pure:

    “Oh earth, do not cover my blood;
    may my cry never be laid to rest!
    “Even now my Witness is in heaven;
    my Advocate is on high.
    “My Intercessor is my Friend
    as my eyes pour out tears to God;
    on behalf of a man He pleads with God
    as a man pleads for his friend.”

    • Diane Walsh Ford says:

      Dan, thank you so much for your response. It made me cry reading it. What you said is exactly true and we will wait to see what ABWE decides to do about this mess.

      • Lynn West says:

        Dan, Thank you for writing this. I have a 16 year old daughter and shutter when I think back to the time this all happened in “89. I remember the victim and her family being in shock. They were encouraged to forgive. They were the picture of forgiving. Yet as the pain began to sink in there was no one on the field to really help them through this. We had never been through such a thing before…..at least not while I was there. While Donn went home to build a life, they were left to sort theirs out. At the time none of us understood the magnitude.
        God help us! I am so sorry!

    • Ditto from an MK says:

      Well said.
      I must add my plea to ABWE. You tried to respond to common questions on your public forum. However your answers, as sincere as you tried to be (I give you the benefit of a doubt because I want to believe you were trying to do right) you failed and brought embarrassment on your organization. At the very least, due to ignorance, at most, the desire to save face. Therefore I humbly request you no longer post a public comment like that without running it by the main parties involved (victims and their families who are their voice when they don’t have the strength). However, it seems such conversations directly will not go well due to the lack of trust and your poor track record with them so far…, such conversations will not go well. It seems to me a third party is needed. You (ABWE) failed in-house so please stop coming up with solutions in-house because so far they are inadequate and further embarras the mission and the testimony of Christians as a whole. if you don’t want it to be G.R.A.C.E. then suggest another. But I suggest go with who the victims trust.

      For the sake of my fellow MK family, for the sake of the name of Christ, please humble yourself and consider a third party. PLEASE.

      Respectably submitted,
      A fellow believer and MK (sorry, I cannot use my name. If I could, I would)

    • Anne Smith says:

      Dan, well said. They do owe them this and so much more. I believe if they were to give them free counseling that the victims may be able to choose who they counsel with, however. I would say that they cannot trust ABWE any more to have to be put under their counselors. They must be able to decide who they prefer. As far as the apologies…yes, yes,yes. Long over due! I am a sister of the 14 yr old girl that is talked of here. I have seen her go through counseling and trying to get help. She has to feel in control of this and I am sure the other victims feel the same way too. Thanks for sending this to ABWE. Once again the ball is in their court. Lets see what they do this time!

    • Dr. Richard H. Sterkenburg says:

      Apologize is not the word and totally inadequate. We don’t apologize to God for our sin and receive redemption. We confess our sin. What is needed is a request for forgiveness! I prepare my own material for my adult Sunday School class. This is how I addressed the subject.
      A proper request for forgiveness
      It must identify the occasion, the offense and the Biblical basis for the error in judgement
      It must require a response from the party offended
      Where necessary it must make the person “whole”
      When concrete that must be restored if possible
      If intangible such as slander, lies, et. al. there is a serious problem of how to make one “whole”
      The formula for forgiveness
      The Lord has convinced me that I sinned when I _______________ will you forgive me when I _________?
      By stating “The Lord has convinced me” identifies a biblical principle violated
      By stating “I sinned when” I identifies the situation
      By requesting “Will you forgive me” awaits a response

      Sin needs no apology it needs forgiveness. It’s not an apology but a request for forgiveness — before God first and offended parties.

      RHS

      • Thoughts on Forgiveness from within the ABWE Family says:

        In Reply to Dr. Richard H. Sterkenburg’s Comments on Forgiveness:

        I feel like I have been taught a bit of a different idea when it comes to forgiveness. I was always taught that forgiveness is not something that is given in response to a confession, an apology, or anything else done by the offender. I was always taught that forgiveness is something we give immediately after some wrong is done to us. We do this for our benefit to protect ourselves. By immediately forgiving all offenses, bitterness is not allowed to grow inside of us. It is kind of like a rotten apple in a barrel which when allowed to stay in the barrel rots the entire barrel. Without trying to sound to simple, the apple is the bitterness and the barrel is our heart. This puts the person who has been offended in charge of his/her own heart. I do not have to wait for someone to confess or ask for forgiveness before I clear it in my heart and mind. The person who needs to ask for forgiveness or confess a wrong has his/her own problem with which to deal. It is not my problem to deal with their heart. This is the idea of forgiveness in my mind. It may be theologically flawed in some ways but it has always worked for me. And, I do have an example of this in the way Jesus forgave the men who put Him on the cross before they ever confessed it or asked for forgiveness. HOWEVER, the idea of forgiveness in my mind is very different from the idea of JUSTICE. It seems in the case that we are referring to on this blog that a lack of justice is the problem. Forgiveness, in my opinion, should have started right after the sin was committed or became known. It seems to me the problem here was that justice was not at the time of the crime or even now realized or obtained. According to Webster justice is “the maintenance or administration of what is just, especially by the impartial adjustment of conflicting claims or the assignment of merited rewards or punishments.” Just because something is forgiven does not mean that it is excused or forgotten. Justice should have taken this horrible man before the law either in the States or in Bangladesh where he should have had to pay the consequences for his crime. This was not just a matter of sin against God, it was a criminal act against society. Justice was never realized, and for this I think the problem has grown into this horrible mess we have now. God created man with a sense of justice. We must see justice occur. Our minds and hearts are not settled when we do not see justice realized in a situation. That is why movies which do not end with the bad guy getting it in the end are so disturbing and unsettling to our minds. To sleep well or have peace of mind, we need to see the bad guy get what he deserves in the end. This is not because we are wicked, unforgiving sinners, but because we are created in God’s image with the need to see justice take place. Without our God given need for justice, society breaks down and things do not run correctly. We are all now witness to a terrible case of mishandled justice. A man who should have been brought very low was allowed to walk around as if he had done no wrong, while his abused victims were never allowed to see justice take place. Their God created sense of justice has been turned upside down. Things can not work like this. JUSTICE and FORGIVENESS must both take place in order for this horrible situation to come to an end. What we need to figure out is what justice needs to take place and do it. I don’t think that forgiveness is the problem. I think that these wounded ladies and their families can forgive all they want, but until justice takes place their lives will never have a peace because God created us with an innate sense and need for justice. What justice can take place at this late date? We need to find the answer to this one question and DO IT!

      • An ABWE MK says:

        Um, I have a problem with this. What if the person asks me to forgive them and I don’t want to? Or I’m not ready? It changes the tables. They’ve “done their part” and if I don’t forgive, now I’m the sinner and they’re the victim? WRONG! It is another way to victimize a person. It is another way to force your will on someone. And good little christian boys and girls as we were raised will of course grant forgiveness because that’s what God wants, right?

        I suppose it is a way we interpret words, but I would rather have an apology than someone ask me to do something. I am forced into a response with a request for forgiveness. With an apology I can listen and go my way, taking my time to think, to evaluate the sincerity of the apology. Forgiveness then, if it comes, is my choice and not forced on me by another.

    • isaiah618 says:

      In reply to Dr. Dan DeCook(one of the mks I grew up with in Bangladesh)
      Thank you so much, Dan, for being willing to stand up for the victims and make such strong statements. Every man who writes in to defend us feels like a knight in shining armor to me who has picked up his sword and shield and said”STOP! You will not hurt her any longer!” It makes me cry. So thank you to all the men out there who have written in to defend us. I am equally grateful to the women, but in a different way.
      Susannah Beals Baker

  155. Steve DeCook says:

    Hi Susannah,
    Thank you for your courage to launch this forum. I am so sorry to learn of the abuse that you and so many others suffered at the hands of Donn Ketcham, and have continued to suffer in silence as a result of ABWE’s deception and negligence.
    After my first pass through the blog Thursday night, my head was clouded with thoughts on Friday morning when I realized the noise I heard in the background was Eli (6 yr old) happily singing to himself “Father I adore you, lay my life before you, how I love you.” It is not everday that he wakes up singing Sunday School songs, and I knew that God was reminding me that He is able to bind up the wounds and care for those who are hurting – in ways I can’t even ask or imagine.
    It was enlightening to see on the New Tribes Mission website that they are working changes into their organization under the guidance of GRACE. I pray that ABWE will see that they are not capable of achieving a satisfactory outcome on their own, and that they will seek an appropriate outside party to come in and work with them.
    I want to say thanks to all who are contributing with encouragement, kindness, wise words, and a steadfast commitment to confront evil and root it out. It must be done! As I read the additional entries each day, it feels Biblical (can’t think of a better way to put that) – as though we were watching the book of Job being written out in real time before our eyes. And that gives me great hope – as I know how that book ends.
    Regardless what Uncle Donn and ABWE each decide to to with the issues confronting them – you bring honor to God by your commitment to stand up for what is right and to not be silenced. May God renew your strength and hope each day.
    Steve DeCook

  156. Amy says:

    I have hesitated to write anything here. I am not a MK, have never been to Bangladesh. My connection to this is through a college friendship with both Deb and Tam. But I am compelled to voice my most passionate support of these brave women who have gone contrary to every impulse to go with the easy route of silence to bring a guilty man into account.

    My interest in this lies in the fact that I am the mother of 6 children. I have 3 girls and 3 boys. A year and a half ago we discovered that my father-in-law, aged 71 at the time, was abusing all three of my girls and had been for years. He is currently serving a life sentence in a state prison for the things he did to my girls during a 3 days visit to their home.

    This man claimed (and continues to claim) that he is a Christian. He had been a member of a solid bible teaching church for over 25 years. Yet in spite of his claims he blames my girls, saying that my daughters, at the time ages 6, 9 and 11, seduced him. He still does not acknowledge that he is a pedophile, even though we have discovered that his abuse of female family members dates back to at least 1960. And the abuse he visited upon my daughters usually happened with a house full of adults. At the time that he was discovered there were 5 adults in the house. It takes precious few seconds to victimize a child.

    All this to say, I do not know Dr. Ketcham (thankfully). I do know that men who indulge this sin fit a pattern. I would be shocked if he has not steadily abused children over the last 20 years (his advanced age is not a factor, trust me). The ABWE must stop using of the passive language that was present in their initial statement and recognize that although mistakes were made that they share a huge share of culpability in releasing a pedophile into unwitting churches and a medical practice. I am praying, along with the rest of you, that they will enthusiastically invite a third part examination of this blunder.

    I have wept for you sisters in Christ whom I have never met. I am sorry for your pain. It was wrong. It was unjust. It should never have happened. May God’s grace and mercy fall on you in amazing ways.

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Thanks, Amy. Love you, and still grieving over hearing about your family’s pain.

  157. Robert L Goddard, Jr. MD says:

    Dear Bangladesh Family,

    Janice and I are writing on this blog to make known our love and support for those who are victims of this sin and for their families and friends. We are praying for all of them and asking God to heal their wounds.

    We call on those in positions of authority in ABWE to courageously acknowledge the whole truth and take decisive action to vindicate the victims and to protect the vulnerable. ABWE’s most recent statements (3/23 and 3/26) do not match the testimony of the documents, of the victims and their families nor that of DK’s former pastor at Newhall Baptist Church. We heartily agree with what Dr. Dan DeCook posted on 3/28 regarding the nature of the wrongs done and the actions ABWE needs to take.

    All of us in the Bangladesh family have suffered the effects of this sin in our lives and in our missionary careers. We were appalled to find out that this great evil touched MKs we met during our first short term in Bangladesh and then reached to those who were dear friends during our later full-time service as ABWE missionaries in Bangladesh. We wish we could do more than to tell you that we care and that we are praying, but we are thankful that there is One who can do more than we can ask or imagine.

    Held In HIS Wounded Hands,
    Dr. Bob and Janice Goddard

    Greg Ferguson’s song “Peacemaker” says so much…
    [ Lyrics from: http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/g/greg_ferguson/peace_maker.html ] Peacemaker, Fear Taker, Soul Soother, Storm Smoother
    Light Shiner, Lost Finder, Cloud Lifter, Deliverer,
    Heart Toucher, Truth Lover,
    Who other could be Fear Taker, Peacemaker to me,

    Mind Clearer, Sigh Healer, Hand Holder, Consoler,
    Wound Binder, Tear Dryer, Strength Giver, Provider,
    Heart Healer, Kind Father,
    Who other could be, My Savior, Peacemaker to me,

    Let Your Peace Rule in my heart,
    Let Your kindness fill my thoughts,
    Let Your strength secure my soul,
    Let Your peace take hold in me,
    Let Your Wisdom guide my will,
    Your compassion fill this place,
    Let my anxious thoughts be still,
    Let Your peace rule in my Heart…

  158. JAEB says:

    I’m an MK whose parents were with ABWE for over 35 years. While I didn’t grow up in Bangladesh, I feel like any MK is part of my family.

    I’m so sad and sick by all that I have read on this blog for the last few days. To my MK “sisters” who were abused, I stand in full support of you. You are beautiful women, children of a mighty God, courageous, lovely! I pray that healing can begin on some level for you now.

    I have been so angry at the ways that ABWE “handled” these crimes. While all that I’ve heard has been disappointing and tragic, I am MOST upset by the knowledge that these dear families were told to keep silent about that matter. WHAT??? I just cannot even imagine. That was ABUSE! To ask families that were suffering so greatly over a pedophile’s destruction to be quiet?? I weep over the image that moms and dads, sisters and brothers were kept from doing what would have helped the most, what family is all about. TRAGIC!!

    I too am waiting for more response from ABWE in this matter. Please, do not sweep more stories, pain and lies under the carpet.

  159. Mike Durrill (brother in law of victim) says:

    The silence is deafening from both Donn Ketcham and ABWE.

    It does not take hours and days of meetings with lawyers and board members to simply humble yourselves and repent of your wickedness. “if my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” – 2 Chronicles 7:14 ESV

    Humility is the first step in seeking forgiveness. Donn and ABWE (Michael Loftis), here are the simple steps you must take when you decide to humble yourselves and seek the forgiveness of these women, families, ministries, as well as the state of Michigan. These principles are found in the little book of Philemon where Paul ( a third party) seeks to help Onesimus be restored to Philemon.

    1.) Look sincerely at this situation from the victim’s point of view.
    2.) Take full responsibility for your actions and lack of action.
    3.) Humbly and fully state your repentance.
    4.) Humbly and fully demonstrate your repentance.
    5.) Humbly and fully defer to the victim’s leadership on a resolution.
    6.)Humbly and sincerely offer to make full restitution, WHATEVER that may be.

    We have yet to hear from Donn Ketcham. However, ABWE (Michal Loftis), what we have heard from you has not been humble, repentant, nor has it been even remotely biblical. You know it. We know it. God knows it.

    You have a responsibility before God and His people to seek forgiveness.

    “So Moses and Aaron went in to Pharaoh and said to him, “Thus says the LORD, the God of the Hebrews, ‘How long will you refuse to humble yourself before me? Let my people go, that they may serve me.” – Exodus 10:3 ESV

    Mike Durrill
    Pastor, Valley Community Baptist Church
    Louisville, Colorado

  160. Sharon Waala Ronan (MK and missionary and missionary parent) says:

    I want to offer support for all the victims (survivors I prefer) and their extended families as they continue to deal with this after decades. If the mission had taken this seriously at the beginning, healing would be much further along.

  161. Tara - MK Praying for you.. Disgusted at the ABWE cover-up :( says:

    I have been following your blog since Friday (when read the email ABWE sent out). Thank you for being so brave. It’s hard enough to stand in a world that is so lost, but sometimes the hardest place to stand is against other Christians. How harsh and unkind we can be to one another.

    It sounds like so many of us have lost sleep this weekend.. Struggling with Anger, and confusion. Struggling with trust in an organization. Your story has touched our entire family. For many years, we were apart of the ABWE family as well, but stationed in the Philippines. ABWE was kind of an identity for MKs. Now as an adult.. I look back and see the blessings.. and unfortunately the imperfections. It’s strange, because in the last few days I have been going back over my life in the mission field like a fast slide show. Thinking.. You start wondering, if they covered up something like this.. then what else was there. What other lies were told? I feel so unsettled now about my growing up in ABWE. A lie this big…a cover-up this big.. can only lead to one cover-up after another. For the fear of being found out..would catapult anyone into a furry of lies to protect oneself or in this case a Mission protecting itself. (Sounds like Politics)

    My family was close with many that you have named. And it saddens my heart.

    ABWE has covered sin. They have admitted as much. The Bible is so clear about this very topic. I know years ago my father on different occasions attempted to communicate concerns and such with the mission board regarding things on the field. And he was shut down and told to shut up. Don’t ruffle feathers. Leave the sin covering to the Top.

    I truly pray and hope that through even the worst of what has happened and what is to come, that God will be glorified.

    I realize we may never truly know how many life’s have been affected by the sin of one man, and the cover-up of a Mission- I shutter to think. But God knows. Please know that so many are standing with you and praying for you and for the others.

  162. I'm Just Sayin' says:

    Luncheon guest speaker for The Prime Timers Ministry at Grandville Baptist Church in Grandville, MI for this month of March? – Dr. Donn Ketchum. I’m gonna give them the benefit of the doubt and guess that they just haven’t gotten the memo yet.

  163. Steve Tower says:

    Dear Bangladesh MK’s and followers of this blog:

    I have not posted to this blog yet because I was trying to get up to speed with all that has been posted and finding that impossible with my schedule lately. I’m also trying to process the enormity of the pain, deception, and hurt from all that has occurred over these past 22 years so as to give proper voice to this post. However, my son reminded me, lovingly, that in a situation such as this, the words of an enemy often hurt far less than the silence of friends. There has already been an abundance of hurt and I don’t want to contribute to any more. Our family came to Bangladesh in 1988 to serve and minister to MK’s and their families and this tragedy coupled with the clumsy way it was handled and mishandled during these past 22 years begs to be made right. As much as is humanly possible, it must be made right. Until I can more completely respond to all that has and is being posted, please know, dear MK’s and family members and loved ones, that our family supports your courage as you strive for healing and for truth to triumph. God clearly wants each of you to flourish as do I. This is both my plea and my prayer. As difficult as it is to see exactly how this can occur in light of all that has happened, we pray that God’s name may received glory “on earth just as in heaven” and that all can experience healing. We serve a great God who can do abundantly more than we ask or think!

    Steve Tower

  164. Aunt Shirley W says:

    I’m weeping today. I’m weeping because of the pain and hurt in the words I have read. I’m weeping for the victims and their families and friends whose pain has not been treated with true compassion or justice. I’m weeping because I thought I knew what happened, but I didn’t. I’m weeping because… “if only…”. I’m weeping because of broken relationships. I’m weeping for our Bangladesh ABWE family and national believers. I’m weeping for ABWE. Surely God is weeping too.

    O God, I don’t know all that happened, but you do. I pray that you will bring comfort and peace and resolution and joy to all who are suffering hurt and pain. I pray that you will bring conviction to all who have sinned so that they respond with a truly repentant spirit . I pray for you to do a miracle and restore relationships that seem almost impossible to restore right now. O Lord, I pray that you will glorify your name. Show the world that you are a God who performs miracles. I love you, and I love your hurting people and I pray for them.
    In the name of Jesus and for his glory, Amen.

  165. Shirlie Moore says:

    Perhaps I should wait until I could make a more measured, well-thought out response. But, Susannah, Jim and I want you to know NOW how devastated we were as we sat together last night and read this blog (finishing this morning.) Words…usually I have them in over-abundance. Today…. Our memories embraced times we have shared with you and your family over the years. Never would we have imagined when you were with us in the Philippines that you had, or would, face such horrifying experiences. We physically ache to learn of the burden you have carried all of these years. Susannah, we are so very, very sorry. Our sorrow reaches each little girl, now become women, who shared in such an awful bond of silence.

    Our whole lives have been spent loving and serving with ABWE. Now we pray that this festering, sickening cancer will be completely excised. We are so grateful that God gave you the courage to expose this ugliness. Your beautiful spirit is evident throughout.

    I have read all of the comments, the questions and their answers and the supporting documents. I wanted to quit, but I owed you and all of those touched in any way by this, to listen to every word. I was so grieved to read the “confession” by a child whose name I do not know. I want her to know that we see a “confession”, by any other name or for any other stated purpose, still a “confession”. Confession came from the victim rather than the perpetrator. Wretched! Dear little girl, now young woman, may God grant true repentance to the one/ones who so wronged you and grant you healing. Susannah, BLESS you – from two who have always felt it the highest honor and position of trust to be an ABWE uncle and aunt.

  166. Jim West says:

    Jim West

    I am a retired missionary of forty-four years experience – twenty-two of which were with ABWE. My heart goes out to all the women who were molested by DK while still children in BD. My prayer is that God will bring healing to these who have suffered for so long from not only the pain of being robbed of their innocence, but from the frustration and hurt that have resulted from seeing justice poorly served on their perpetrator by their own mission agency, whose duty it was to protect them.

    I am saddened to know that the administration that guided the Mission during that tragic episode seems to have resorted to lies, half-truths, and deceit in seeking to “protect” ABWE. So often, such failures are motivated by the thought that full disclosure would lead to loss of respect and to loss of income for the organization. From my own experience, I know that ABWE is not alone in covering up distasteful history. Now that it has been discovered, the integrity of ABWE is now more threatened than it ever would have been.

    It seems that the attempts that have been made to address this problem have been half-hearted and woefully late. When these things occur in the secular world to the embarrassment of government and corporations, the questions that are usually asked are the following: (1) who knew? (2) when did they know? and (3) what did they do? These questions might be enlightening in this situation as well.

    When the dismissal of DK occurred, which members of the administration and Board were knowledgeable and agreeably involved in how it was handled? Did anyone object to the decision which was made to cover up the real reasons for his dismissal? The names of those individuals should be revealed. We only hear about Russ Ebersole, but are we to believe that he acted on his own? That would seem doubtful, given the team concept of administration that ABWE follows.

    The “new” administration, i.e., under Dr. Loftis’ and his team’s leadership, had the facts on this situation exactly when? Was it before they were made aware that this blog was being launched?
    Who of this current administration decided to leave “sleeping dogs lie”? Who counseled that the truth should be told even when it might be embarrassing to some?

    Some of the previous administration are now with the Lord. The blot will be on their names, despite the fact that in every other way they performed admirably. Some, however, yet remain from that period as leaders in the Home Office and on the Board. What course should they follow?

    It seems that the best approach to dealing with the damage done to innocent children, and to undoubtedly other children who have been abused back in the States, and to everyone who now knows of the serious failure in leadership, and to the failure to take responsible legal action might be to “clear the deck.” All those who have had any part in making the original decision to cover up the crime and lie even to DK’s home-church pastor, and any who have more recently agreed to be a part of that cover-up would serve the Mission well by accepting blame and stepping down from their posts, and that should include Board Members who colluded with the decision. Such a move would go a long way to saying to the public that ABWE intends to remain accountable to the churches and to the missionaries and their families. It might cause a blip on the screen of ABWE’s operation to have a caretaker administration for a brief period, but it would go a long way to healing the wounded parties and re-establishing ABWE’s credibility. In the world it’s called a “shake-up,” and sometimes it can be a very healthy exercise, even though it is temporarily painful.

    All of us who have served with ABWE or who are currently serving have great appreciation for the role of the organization in our lives and ministries. We highly regard the many in our Home Office who have sacrificially served us and made our ministries easier and more successful. We must, however, hold each other to the same high standard.

    Proverbs 28:13 “He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.”

    • Re: Jim West says:

      Michael G. Loftis: Would you like to field these questions?

    • Maranatha says:

      Jim West has expressed exactly what I have been thinking while reading this blog – and much more succinctly than I could have! My family and I currently serve with ABWE and are deeply, deeply disturbed by what we have read on this blog. We will be watching closely to see how the current administration handles this situation. We already feel as though we have been tainted in some way seeing as we bear the ABWE name. Jim’s questions need to be answered! A “shake up” sounds like an excellent idea! May those who were involved in the cover up respond with courage and transparency. God will grant mercy. May those who are in leadership now (and who probably already knew about this!?!?!?) take every measure possible to set the record straight on DK. May God grant that this revelation of truth set the victims completely free!!!! And may God bring to light anything else that is being hidden right now – for the sake of His name.

      Maranatha!!!!!!!

  167. Dan Golin says:

    I will attempt to organize my thoughts and respond, as requested, from a pediatrician’s standpoint on the topic of inappropriate physical exams.

    I never have my female patients undress for a physical. It is very feasible to give a reasonably thorough physical working around clothing. I do not do routine breast or genital exams on the older female patients. Some practitioners might argue for a more thorough approach, but at the very least it is unthinkable to propose this without a chaperone fully present in the room.

    I can remember only one invasive pelvic exam on a teen in my entire career, and that was the case of the missing tampon after a jetskiing incident one of our fine Michigan summers. (Hope this is not too graphic)

    My wife Nancy and I lay awake last night asking each other how so many people who knew at least part of the story from 1989 could remain silent for so long. I can only reason that it was because DK’s confession of child abuse was spun into something less tangible and more mysterious, and the responsibility for that falls squarely with those who confronted him. ABWE needs to submit to a third party investigation.

    Dr. Dan D., my brother and colleague, I am so proud of you for encapsulating our thoughts and expressing them so well. Pastor Dave D., my brother and classmate, that goes for you too. All of you MK’s who have taken a stand–thank you, blessings, I believe that God will be honored in speaking the truth to the world, as ugly as it may be.

  168. Doug Walsh says:

    As one of the original MKs in Bangladesh who has many memories, the majority of which are very good, I am deeply saddened by what I am certain is the truth. I, too, wanted to comment earlier, but have been mulling through a number of thoughts and emotions and as others have expressed questioning the value of anything I might add that helps the real victims. The short answer, I think, is just to be counted and to stand up for and with you (abuse victims) and to thank you for your courage to speak out. The Lord has been helping me to learn to be more compassionate the past couple of weeks regarding the truth of abuse. My wife, Deb, has lovingly helped me to understand that I could not understand. I know that seems counterintuitive, but I realize now that unless one has gone through some life-changing experience, we cannot really speak for or understand the pain that is being expressed by so many. Yes, we can acknowledge the events that happened and we see the results, but we cannot really understand the depths of pain that has been inflicted on those who had their innocence robbed from them at such young, impressionable ages. I must confess that I had thought that those who had been abused just needed to forgive Don Ketcham and to turn the burden over to the Lord for Him to carry. That would in no way exonerate DK, but would free the victims to move on with their lives. I realize that that is too simplistic an answer even if it is a part of the healing process. It falls far short. I believe that anything short of complete transparency and accounting by all those who were involved in this “mishandled” nightmare would rob God of a major victory for all of us. I’m thankful for progress and what the Lord has already done, but I believe that this could be so much more when it is all said and done.
    I also want to add my recollections and interpretation of our unique “family” arrangement. I have been blessed and thankful for the comments already posted by fellow MKers-many sharing similar thoughts so this is nothing new. My memories go back to Hebron, Chittagong and, of course, Malumghat. We (MKs) had been raised in BD as part of an extended ABWE “family” and as such we had been instructed and taught to be respectful and address “family” adults as “Uncle” or “Aunt” and had complete trust in them as members of our “family”. I recall many happy experiences while growing up there with other MKs and their families including a lot of time spent with the Ketchams. I also recall now a few experiences that are troubling. As an adult, knowing what I know now, I would call them red flags. I am also aware that I knew too much too soon. It would seem logical that in our protected environment we would have had little knowledge of and exposure to the “birds and the bees”, but that was not so. Our “safe” environment was not that for many of our “sisters”, including my own. The revulsion and sadness that too many are experiencing and expressing is evidence of betrayed trust by one who preyed on them while so vulnerable. I can’t imagine how anyone can so callously take advantage of little ones who deserved just the opposite. I have been blessed by the Lord to have several daughters and granddaughters. Looking into their trusting faces, I am reminded of the awesome responsibility, we, fathers have. God has entrusted us to not only provide for them and raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, but to be the earthly representation of our Heavenly Father. I know that I have failed in many respects, but thank God He has not and will not ever betray our trust.
    One other aspect I think many of us are struggling with is in trying to understand how any one person can be capable of good and evil to this degree? I know “but for the grace of God” any one of us are capable of many things, but it is still difficult to process. Jeremiah 17:9 says the “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” I think that when evaluating everything that was done, the decisions that were made, and what should be done, we need to keep God’s perspective in mind and not that of man’s. Isaiah 64:6 tells us what God thinks of “our” righteousness: “For all of us have become like one who is unclean, And all our righteous deeds are like a filthy garment…”
    I want you to know-all of you who are and have suffered all these years-we are supporting you 100% and will be praying for your healing and the answers that will ultimately give God the glory and not to any individual or man-made institution. I know there are many who have served faithfully and have honored the Lord and I am thankful for you. God has richly blessed His word and the ministry of many, but one wonders what lessons have been learned by those “we” have sought to liberate from darkness and to have the “truth” that sets them free?

  169. Wondering says:

    I have read the posts and comments on this blog and my heart goes out to the women who suffered indescribable pain from one man’s selfish addiction. When I was young, I also was the victim of a member of the church who choose to make a foolish decision and forever scar my life. But I am so thankful that God allowed me to see that despite the terrible events of my past, I could move forward, solely looking to Him even when “justice” for me was no where and never has been something I have seen. I know that the only true justice that will ever matter is when the person who committed that sin will stand before Christ and be held accountable. There is no earthly justice that could ever compare.

    But I do have some questions and please do not take them to be disrespectful to the situation at all! I can see that everyone involved with this incident, including ABWE, would have liked the situation to have been handled more appropriately. I cannot make excuses for either side because I was not part of the events.

    I have seen God’s work be done by ABWE around the world. I hope that despite the many “emotional” responses by some who are allowing anger to alter the entire work of ABWE, we do not forgot that God has used ABWE in so many people’s lives to further the gospel. I have read ABWE’s responses to the incidents and from what I read, is seems they are trying to make-up for any past wrongs.

    I do not understand exactly what the victims in this situation are looking for. I see that people keep referencing GRACE being involved and I do not know what their role would be. Again, absolutely no disrespect, I am really trying to understand. Seeing as though the people originally involved in this incident are probably not with ABWE any longer (I know Dr. Kempton, previous president of ABWE, is now with the Lord) are you looking for someone to be fired? Or with GRACE involved, are you looking for a monetary settlement? I do see that ABWE has already adopted a child protection policy prior to this Blog being started, so something similar to this tragedy will never happen again.

    Again, I am not trying to make excuses for anyone. Coming from someone who has also suffered many years ago, I do not understand what can be gained so far after the incident, that ABWE isn’t already doing. I could not go back to the church I was abused in when I was young and expect the new leadership to bring justice. I do pray that it is not the intention of those that have commented on this blog to destroy ABWE and the lives ABWE are effecting today. At this point, the incidents are between the abuser and God. Of course, in a perfect world, all abused children would have earthly justice, but again, I rest in God’s justice alone.

    Thank you for reading!

  170. Jim says:

    As former ABWE’rs we like many have spent the last several days reading the stories and thoughts of some incredibly brave women. As the father of five daughters I have been outraged at what DK did but sickened to the core of my soul with the enormity of ABWE’s part in all of this. It has been nearly impossible since we have begun following this blog to not spend each day and night thinking about the sin, hurt and deception.

    I want to commend Phil Walsh for bravely sharing what so many of us experienced with ABWE leadership. His recounting of events brought back memories we thought we’d forgotten. How clearly I remember my wife and I in 1990 sitting with mission leadership on furlough as we tried to address a concern. My wife was a nursing mother with a new baby and as the discussion intensified her hurt and emotions came out with tears. I will never forget the two men openly making fun of her for crying and “being too emotional”. It was at that point that any respect I had for them died. At the conclusion we were forced to resign and we didn’t know why. By that time, we were both devastated by the lack of concern for our well being. I guess that puts us in the expendable category.

    Several times on the field issues arose and each time they were swept under the big carpet of covering up bad decisions and often sin. I was told more than once that I was the one with the problem for seeking help from headquarters about the immoral conduct of a colleague.

    Phil, there are many of us that started our exciting missionary careers with ABWE who sadly soon found out that we could not continue because of the favoritism, arrogance and covering of sin by many in leadership. As a pastor I have sadly seen this same scenario repeated in some churches, fellowships and Bible colleges.

    It such a joy to get to be called your “aunts and uncles.” My heart is broken that so many in leadership did not have the courage, integrity and character to stand and do the right thing, as you have all so powerfully illustrated.

    While I fear that there may be more that is not yet known I do know that when men are elevated because of titles or names, it becomes easy to ignore biblical principles and cover sin for the sake of the organization. When that happens there is no prospering.

  171. Dear ABWE,
    As a former Bangladesh MK I was hoping you would throw caution to the wind, and there would be an outpouring of grief over past events and wrongs and an incredible expression of love for the victims. I find myself deeply disappointed.
    Your responses have been so carefully crafted to avoid any admission of wrong doing as to rob them of all feeling. In view of this, I can only assume that the protection of your “buddies” at the home office is still your top priority.
    This, and another event in the past, has left me with a host of questions. What is your definition of a”zero tolerance” policy? What within your structural setup keeps you objective? Is there a 3rd party that checks whether disciplinary measures or legal issues are applied correctly and fairly to all? Do you have professional medical, psychological, law enforcement personnel, etc. WITHOUT CLOSE TIES to the mission and their personnel that you refer to? How do you ensure that no one is “playing favorites”?
    Again, I realize that there are reasons for caution but I do wish so much that you had taken a chance and stepped out in faith and love – I truly believe that you would have been overwhelmingly surprised with how generous MK’s can be with forgiveness!!!
    cc: ABWE Headquarters

  172. Dear ABWE,
    As a former Bangladesh MK I was hoping you would throw caution to the wind, and there would be a personal outpouring of grief over past events and wrongs and an incredible expression of love for the victims. I find myself deeply disappointed.
    Your responses have been so carefully crafted as to rob them of all feeling.
    This, and another event in the past, has left me with a host of questions. What is your definition of a “zero tolerance” policy? What within your structural setup keeps you objective? Is there a 3rd party that checks whether disciplinary measures or legal issues are applied correctly and fairly to all? Do you have professional medical, psychological, law enforcement personnel, etc. WITHOUT CLOSE TIES to the mission and their personnel that you defer to? How do you ensure that no one is “playing favorites”?
    Again, I realize that there may be reasons for caution but I do wish so much that you had taken a chance and stepped out in faith and love – I truly believe that you would have been overwhelmingly surprised with how generous MK’s can be with forgiveness!!!
    cc: ABWE Headquarters

    • Our Transparent God says:

      If ABWE is Truly a ‘Family’ Where is Daddy n Mommy hugging and kissing and loving and comforting the children (Even if in Words) whose hearts have been cut into pieces!! There is no FEAR in True LOVE~~~

  173. Aunt Barb and Uncle Bob Adolph says:

    I have been trying to organize my thoughts enough to make a reply to this blog. I confess, I think it’s the most difficult thing I’ve ever tried to do. The analogy of this situation to the Trans Asian Railway destroying some of our homes, MK school, etc. on our beloved compound is unsettling!! This situation is even more devastating! Lives have been destroyed and are still in desperate situations. We have been in E.Pakistan (now Bangladesh) since 1964. We have loved ABWE and our mission family passionately. It’s the only family our 4 children have known. We have especially loved you MK’s and I believe you have loved us. We have known about some of these situations through the years. I cannot explain why we as parents were so naive. Why we didn’t insist on knowing if justice had been carried out after things came to light? I know it was a generation thing for us to keep quiet; not to hurt someone’s reputation; not to harm the ministry. We didn’t want anyone thinking bad of our daughters. If you didn’t say anything, it would go away. We were so close. We had weathered many storms together-horrible literal ones, wars, deaths of colleagues, famine, threats on our lives, robberies, attacks of all sorts, evacuations. separation from loved ones, deaths of loved ones back in U.S.–on and on. This drew us closer together. In fact Bangladesh missionaries have the reputation of being almost “obnoxious” when we are at M.E., weddings, or any kind of get together. We gravitate to each other. It was a real struglle at Marty’s funeral…some wanting to attend so badly to show love to the family, yes even to Donn, but not wanting to see him or show any approval of Donn by their presence. That’s been the problem with his being invited to BD get togethers, weddings, etc. Maybe that’s why we tried to ignore this ugly thing going on in our midst! I don’t know. What a mess! I’m trying to understand it. Of course, we didn’t know how many were affected. DK had a way of pulling off his abuse almost in front of your eyes, which somehow took away some of his guilt perhaps-after all, you saw what he was doing and didn’t say anything . Example: examining the girls in presence of the mother like Sue James mentioned. That also happened with our oldest daughter. He was already preparing to give her physical when I came into the exam room-no nurse present. I also remember the breast exam, he says”it’s never too young to learn to self-exam for lumps, etc.”-I think she was 15 or 16. There were other things, too. She was part of the 2002 group. I just want to ask forgiveness from you girls for not pursuing, investigating, or whatever was necessary. We knew there was a problem with his relationship with some of the missionary women. We didn’t know the details of any of this or who among the MKs had been abused. I think when these “inappropriate behaviors” were exposed we all assumed that whatever needed to be done, had been done. It is a shame that they never came to each family and ask what was known. It’s ironic that one reason we chose to join ABWE was it’s policies regarding MK’s-make own decision about sending away for boarding, keeping them on field, etc. We have often praised them for the way they value and help the MK’s, sometimes sending college kids back to the field at mission expense when they needed the parents; taking place of absent parents when MK needed counseling and encouraging. Russ Ebersole was a great encourager and help. Dr. Kempton was reaching out to an MK even as he spent his last days on earth. The devil is so clever to choose the good things and destroy them. And of course he had to choose an outstanding Dr. with a tremendous brain, knowledge of scripture, and with a name that all GARBC and many others revered. We’ve written ABWE to please do whatever is needed-whatever YOU feel will correct the wrong that they’ve done. Dan DeCook and many others gave some excellent suggestions. It must be done and soon. So much damage has already been done. We love and admire all of you beautiful MK’s who have been abused. Please forgive us for not being more sensitive. We are praying for all of you. I’m so proud of you adult MK’s most of whom I’ve known most of your lives and have taught many of you. It has been a blessing to read what you have written. Your maturity and spiritual insight puts me to shame. God bless you all and your dear parents. We love you.

    • Linda (Walsh) Zylstra says:

      Uncle Bob & Aunt Barb – I CAN imagine how difficult it must have been to write this and I want to thank you for doing so. You’ve expressed well how mixed up this whole mess has been with the bits and pieces of information here and there (and maybe even questioning whether there was truth to any of this), the naiveté or ignorance on the part of many, not knowing whether to speak up or keep quiet on behalf of your child (thinking that you were protecting them), hoping and trusting that things would be handled in the right way, not wanting to create waves or derail God’s work, etc. etc… Well, given what we know now, I’m certain that we ALL would have done things differently! I just wanted to say that it means a lot to have the “Aunts” and “Uncles” that we love and respect speak out. It feels like a weight has been lifted off our shoulders and is being shared by all of you because you believe what is being said, are supporting and praying for us, and are “going to bat” for us. Thank you!

      • Daniel DeCook says:

        let me echo my brother–you were wonderful to us, sharing so much of your time and yourselves with all of us, thru AWANA and numerous school activities like music and track meets and parties (and yes, silly songs about “My Funny Aunt Barb…”)

        Thank you for lending your strong voice and support here. Now, stop torturing yourself.

        danny-bai

    • Dave DeCook says:

      Dear Aunt Barb and Uncle Bob,

      You were the fairy dust in my fairy-tale MK experience. The silly songs in AWANA, the bike hikes, the next-door neighborliness. You preserved my innocence and naiveté (which some of the kids I work with at church today are sadly lacking). You were not head-in-the-sand Pollyannas. You had your feet on the ground. I hope you will not torture yourselves with all the “If only….” scenarios. This man was given a pass by the higher-ups and we can be pretty sure why. He had a big name.

      If it is alright with you, when we get to heaven I am going to keep calling you Aunt Barb and Uncle Bob.

      Dave DeCook

      • missions volunteer says:

        Exactly — the name probably gave DK a “pass.” Afterall, he was the son of one of the early leaders of the GARBC and has a residence hall at BBC-PA named for him.

        I am reminded — “Be sure your sin will find you out.”

  174. Jim & Pam Leffew says:

    Our hearts go out to the young women who had their innocence stolen from them as MK’s.

    I currently work in a prison in Monroe, WA where I was just recently assigned a job as a Counselor in the sex offender unit. I have 65 inmates on my caseload. It is very disturbing to have to read everyday about every little detail of their criminal history and the victims they molested.

    These girls are victims and SHOULD NOT be treated as the guilty party.
    I can only hope and pray that ABWE will do what is right and stop covering up.

    I have no sympathy for sex offenders. They are sexual predators, child molesters, and should be called to account for their actions. I agree with the comment that ABWE can still share with the authorities the documents and things they know. Do not let this travesty go unpunished. There is much talk about Grace, but a great Sin was committed against these young ladies.

    We applaud all the young ladies for the courage to stand and reveal such a painful experience. Our love and prayers are with you and your families.

  175. LISA STEKENBURG says:

    I am not an MK but my best friend is an MK from Bangladesh, and I count her sisters as my friends also. To them, and all the other beautiful and courageous women who have come forward, I want you to know I am praying for each and everyone of you. You are all “precious in His sight.”

  176. Jim & Pam Leffew says:

    Our hearts go out to the young women who had their innocence stolen from them as MK’s.

    I currently work at the Monroe Correctional Complex in Monroe, WA where I was just recently assigned a job as a Counselor in the sex offender unit. I have 65 inmates on my caseload. It is very disturbing to have to read every day about every little detail of their criminal history and the victims they molested.

    I have no sympathy whatsoever for sex offenders. They are sexual predators, child molesters, and should be called to account for their actions. I agree with the comment that ABWE can still share with the authorities all documents they have and what they know. Do not let this travesty go unpunished. We hear a lot about Grace and Forgiveness, but a great, grievious Sin has been committed against these young ladies. I can only hope and pray that ABWE will do what is right and stop covering up.

    These young ladies are Victims and not the guilty party. It WAS NOT their fault.

    The effects of sexual victimization can be severely traumatic.

    What to do for a Victim of Sexual Assault

    Sexual assault affects not only the victim, but the loved ones and family of the survivor, as well as the community. Family members and friends many times not only have to help their loved one manage the aftereffects of the assault but also have to deal with their own feelings about the victimization of someone they care about.

    To be of assistance to a survivor one should:
    * Listen without judging;
    * Let them know the assault(s) was not their fault;
    * Let them know they did what was necessary to prevent further harm;
    * Reassure the survivor that he or she is cared for and loved;
    * Encourage the sexual assault victim to seek medical attention;
    * Encourage the survivor to talk about the assault(s) with an advocate, mental health professional or someone they trust; and
    * Let them know they do not have to manage this crisis alone.

    Pam and I applaud these young ladies for the courage to stand up and speak out. Our love, prayers, and support are with you. Blessings on you.

  177. Answers raise Questions says:

    The memo, “ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS THAT HAVE BEEN ASKED,” itself raises questions. I’ll just mention one raised by answer #1 about reporting.

    Paragraph 1 says ABWE should have filed a report with MBHP. Paragraph 2 says that upon hearing of wider abuse in 2002, ABWE didn’t need to file a report because “nothing would be done with the report.” Paragraph 3 says (ignore the first two sentences as relating only to two churches and so broadly worded as to be capable of a whole range of meanings) ABWE’s lawyer recently (after this blog?) told them ABWE should file a report with MBHP and they’re now taking his advice. (“We should have filed a report but we didn’t need to file a report so we’re now filing a report.”) Even so, one wonders what “changes in attitude” between 2002 and today could change whether a child molesting doctor could or could not be disciplined by the Michigan Board of Health Professions.

    Don Davis made a similar claim in his e-mail of 11/6/09 that a report to MBHP would be pointless: “This is third hand, but I understand the medical board’s response was similar, that they could not take action where no official charge had been made by the authorities.” I’m sure this was sincerely believed, but it’s not accurate. Doctors (just like dentists, nurses, lawyers, etc.) in Michigan and other states and countries are regularly censured and have their licenses suspended or revoked for violating the medical laws of the state that issues their license, or for being found not of “good moral character”. In fact, the states and foreign countries that permit the practice of medicine by licensees of foreign states and countries are depending on the licensing state to police their licensees to a significant degree. For example, as in other states, a formal written complaint called an “Allegation” may be filed with the Michigan Board of Health Professions for a violation of the Michigan Public Health Code committed by any medical doctor, nurse, psychologist, etc. licensed by the MBHP (for a consumer guide see http://www.michigan.gov/documents/citiguide_34342_7.pdf). There is a regular publication that lists disciplinary actions against doctors, and one can find many doctors disciplined on moral character grounds. (Similar newsletters exist for other professions including lawyers.) Today, such allegations and resulting discipline are also made available to the public via the Michigan Board of Public Health website where employers, hospitals, and parents can do a search.

    Where crimes took place would not matter for serious violations of the Code or lack of good moral character. Allegations can be made on behalf of a minor, and the name of the one alleging is kept confidential unless they’re called to testify, but names are not normally disclosed in cases of sexually molested minors. Since Dr. Ketcham had already “confessed,” denying a filed Allegation would risk criminal perjury as such proceedings are usually conducted under oath. Therefore, it’s doubtful he would have opposed a filed Allegation. He would also no longer have been able to say he was “repentant,” if in fact he was not ready to accept the full consequences of his actions including admitting the claims made in the Allegation, resulting in a possible suspension of his license to practice medicine (or at least making information public that would make him virtually impossible to employ).

    Surely a physician who sexually molests over a period of time a minor who is also his patient has violated the Michigan Public Health Code. Surely a physician who has also lied to numerous people about several instances of sexual intercourse with subordinate nurses over a period of years could have been found not to have “good moral character” as a physician. Filing an Allegation by responsible persons in the States would seem to have been an easy and reasonable response to Dr. Ketcham’s outrageous conduct and an act of compassion toward the children of Michigan. This would have been a more just result than another 22 years of continued family practice. It would have sent a strong message to families still on the field that people back in the States are fighting for some semblance of justice for you. A message for young victims that Dr. Ketcham was the exception–authority figures in your lives do care for you, and, yes, you can trust them. When more widespread abuse came to light in 2002, the filing of a complaint would seem almost morally required. The claims against Dr. Ketcham (especially involving drugs), if true, are among the most serious crimes that can be committed by a medical doctor.

    It was good to read that ABWE seems to be acknowledging that they should have filed a report with the MBHP in 1989 and/or in 2002. They have said they are doing that now, which is also good (let’s not miss that). What is not so good are their implications that until now there was really nothing to be gained by filing a report with MBHP. Inconsistent or “qualified apologies” too often prevent true, heart-felt reconciliation in the midst of a conflict. Even so, forgiveness is a difficult act of the will that works a release within the victim, not the wrongdoers. It occurs with or without reconciliation and with or without restitution. It surrenders the wrong and the wrongdoers to God, and accepts the injury inflicted. It is supernatural and God-like. I have sensed this supernatural spirit of forgiveness in many, many posts I have read here.

    I admire you women who have endured so much. I do not know your pain, but I have seen strength, reserve, and courage in your writing. God has used you and this blog to spark countless conversations among Christian workers around the globe and countless critical talks between privately horrified parents and their unsuspecting innocent children. We just had one with our kids and I know they are slightly safer now. For that I thank you.

  178. Our hearts go out to the young women who had their innocence stolen from them as MK’s.

    I currently work at the Monroe Correctional Complex in Monroe, WA where I was just recently assigned a job as a Counselor in the sex offender unit. I have 65 inmates on my caseload. It is very disturbing to have to read every day about every little detail of their criminal history and the victims they molested.

    I have no sympathy whatsoever for sex offenders. They are sexual predators, child molesters, and should be called to account for their actions. I agree with the comment that ABWE can still share with the authorities all documents they have and what they know. Do not let this travesty go unpunished.

    We hear a lot about Grace and Forgiveness, but a great, grievous Sin has been committed against these young ladies. I can only hope and pray that ABWE will do what is right and stop covering up.

    These young ladies are Victims and not the guilty party. It WAS NOT their fault.

    The effects of sexual victimization can be severely traumatic.

    What to do for a Victim of Sexual Assault
    Sexual assault affects not only the victim, but the loved ones and family of the survivor, as well as the community. Family members and friends many times not only have to help their loved one manage the aftereffects of the assault but also have to deal with their own feelings about the victimization of someone they care about.

    To be of assistance to a survivor one should:
    * Listen without judging;
    * Let them know the assault(s) was not their fault;
    * Let them know they did what was necessary to prevent further harm;
    * Reassure the survivor that he or she is cared for and loved;
    * Encourage the sexual assault victim to seek medical attention;
    * Encourage the survivor to talk about the assault(s) with an advocate, mental health professional or someone they trust; and
    * Let them know they do not have to manage this crisis alone.

    We applaud these young ladies for the courage to stand up and speak out. Our love, prayers, and support are with you. Blessings on you.

  179. Praying says:

    Praying for you!

  180. BD MK In-Law says:

    I am a Bangladesh ”MK In-Law”—being married to one of the MK girls who grew up on the field during the time that DK was there and we are active supporters of ABWE missionaries. I have discussed the blog with my wife, of course, but didn’t really intend to become part of the conversation because I am somewhat of a stranger to the situation. However, I read through all of the postings and documents last night and today and—maybe it just isn’t in my DNA to keep my mouth shut!
    First, no matter how many times you are told that you have nothing to be ashamed of (and you don’t) and that it wasn’t your fault (and it wasn’t), it has to be incredibly hard to come forward and discuss, openly and by name, something so personal and that makes you so vulnerable. I too applaud your courage.
    Second, while I have been very impressed with the tone set on this blog, even when there have been to my mind uncalled for attacks, I would encourage you to continue to take the “high road.” I can only imagine how hard that must be with such an emotionally charged issue and the loving tone throughout most posts does you credit.
    Third, there are a few comments that “stick in my craw.” There are statements that ABWE admin was ignorant and naïve about pedophilia back in 1989 and that they had no reason to know there had been more than one instance of child molestation. This is totally unacceptable. These leaders were charged with a duty to know. When confronted with this situation, they had a duty to educate themselves; seek counsel from experts; and make informed decisions about how to deal with the situation, how to help the victim (and find out if there were more) and how to avoid there being new victims later. Are they seriously saying that the information was not available in 1989? That there was no information to be had about the rates of recidivism among pedophiles, about the commonality of their having numerous victims, about the control they exert over victims, about the devastating effects some victims experience? Really?!
    In 1988-89 I had the misfortune of learning that a young teen girl that I love very much had been molested. It was a very difficult time and a tough thing to deal with. I was not in any position of trust or authority or under any duty to know but without doing any serious research or consulting with experts, I learned enough to be concerned about her sister and to make inquiry about whether she had suffered the same things. I don’t say they should have known everything about pedophiles, but the basics that they imply ignorance of, yes.
    There are certainly areas where I think lack of knowledge is understandable and maybe even to be expected. Even after having had at least some exposure to pedophilia, I have been shocked to read that abuse can take place in a moment and possibly even in the presence of other trusted adults. I can only imagine the pain parents of these girls must feel when they learn this and recognize how futile it was, no matter how careful they were, to try to protect their children in such a closed community. If two minutes alone with a predator is enough, in such an environment as I understand the BD compound to have been, preventing such short contact would have been impossible.
    As much as I hate to say it, based on what I have read here and what ABWE has said to-date, I can only conclude that they had to have remained willfully ignorant and that they did not consider other MKs as they would their own sons and daughters. I can tell you with absolute certainty that if I had a child molested (in 1989 or any other time) and my other children had been exposed to the same person and risks, I would most definitely have made sure my other kids hadn’t also been victims and found out whether they also needed help and special love. I can assure you that I would not have said “Oh, I have no evidence that there was more than one victim” and gone on my way! For one thing, conclusive evidence that there has been one victim is pretty darned convincing that there are likely to have been more with pedophilia. I realize that the father/child metaphor breaks down at some point—but should it?
    I sincerely believe that Dr. Loftis has a tender heart for MKs (Hey! He is one!) and that the leadership and staff at ABWE are Godly, well-intentioned servants. In my assessment, however, they need to be very careful not to adopt or defend the mistakes of the last generation of leadership. I have been a supporter of ABWE for many years and I hope to remain one but I have spent a lot of years reading (and writing!) “CYA” and, in reading the ABWE responses to-date, that is what I see developing. While the initial response did express regret and love, there and increasingly in the follow-up FAQ, I also see people using carefully guarded, sterile, unfeeling words to protect an organization and I see people defending the leaders who preceded them. (And let’s face it, some of the same people are still around or their friends or relatives are and, whether it is the intent or not, there is at the very least the appearance of impropriety.) To the leadership at ABWE, I would say: “Don’t adopt and defend the errors of others to the point of making them your own!”
    What I don’t clearly see is love for these MK ladies. Where is the passion to see wrongs righted? Where is the concern for lives devastated? Where is the outrage, even directed at yourselves, at injuries inflicted on vulnerable daughters? I bet every ABWE leader reading this has made reference to the “ABWE family” hundreds of times. Do you mean it? Are you loving these MKs as your own daughters? If your little girls (even if they were 40!) were hurting, would you call meetings, consult with lawyers and carefully parse words or would you hug them, love them and do everything in your power to stop the hurting? Please think what you do!

  181. Mike Durrill (brother in law of victim) says:

    As we continue to wait, I can’t help but hear the deafening silence of Donn Ketcham and ABWE. It speaks volumes. Time continues to go by as you wade through board meetings, attorney meetings, etc. Repentance comes from the heart, not from a carefully crafted “response” to “allegations” that you seem to be convinced will shut down the work of God unless you help Him out by figuring out how to cover them up.

    There is one overarching theme besides honesty that must be present when a person or organization is biblically seeking forgiveness:

    Humility.

    “If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.” – II Chron. 7:14

    I encourage you to humbly seek the forgiveness of those you have wronged. In his short letter to Philemon, the Apostle Paul gives us guidelines on how to do this. He humbly, as an APOSTLE, demonstrates to both Onesimus and Philemon how to reconcile relationships.

    1.) Humbly put yourself in the shoes of those you have so deeply offended. Choose to see this from their point of view.
    2.) Humbly take complete responsibility for all your offenses.
    3.) Humbly state your repentance through any and all means available.
    4.) Humbly demonstrate your repentance through any and all means available.
    5.) Humbly defer to the victim’s leadership on the matter (i.e. Third Party Investigation).
    6.) Humbly make complete restitution whatever that may be.

    Only then are the victims able to confidently, generously, and biblically grant you the forgiveness that you desperately need.

    Mike Durrill
    Pastor, Valley Community Baptist Church
    Louisville, Colorado

  182. Perplexed says:

    tick…tock…tick…tock…ABWE…still waiting!

  183. Diana Durrill says:

    Aunt Barb & Uncle Bob -
    Love, love, and more love sent your way today. You both are dear to me in so many ways. We will get through this and we will be better for it in the end. (Romans 8:28) There will always be scars, but there can still be healing.

    All of this can be compared to taking our malaria pills, huh? Those teeny-tiny pills were so bitter and distasteful, but it had to be done. Otherwise disease runs rampant. The previous administration decided to run the risk that the disease would not hit the compound. They did not give out that tiny, bitter pill with the first accusation arrived of inappropriate conduct (in any form). Now these girls been sick for so, so long. Heartaches, pain, nightmares….all because a tiny, bitter bill was not administered properly for prevention’s sake.

    Well, I had malaria once…and let me tell you that the treatment/cure is much harder than the method of prevention. No matter how horrible that daily pill tasted, it was still easier than the medicine I had to take to get rid of the disease.

    ABWE finds themselves scrambling to find a cure. Unfortunately, any treatment but the one known to be successful will be insufficient and is destined for failure. We must go to the Greatest Physician and to the Word of God to find His treatment plan for true healing to take place. It will not be a fun process of curing. It will taste bitter…it will hurt…it might be expensive…it definitely will not be quick and easy. But the disease that has festered for so long in untreated hearts and lives can be healed by Him. We believe it.

    I sincerely hope the current administration of ABWE decides to leave the method of treatment in the Great Physicians hands and that they trust Him to do what is right and best.

  184. Susannah Goddard Weldy says:

    To ABWE leadership:
    I challenge you to think about the following quotes. Think about how you have been handling the sin of DK through the generations. Think about the truth (not the half truth- the WHOLE truth- if you don’t know the whole truth, it is your duty to find it out). The truth is OUT THERE. The truth will be known. The truth will WIN.
    “The least initial deviation from the truth is multiplied later a thousandfold.” -Aristotle (Have you had to keep lying, to hide the truth all these years? Two, three, four or more wrongs- will never make it right!)
    “We tell lies when we are afraid…afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.” – Tad Williams
    This sin was partially exposed years ago, but instead of bringing it into the light- where sin dies- it was allowed to grow in the dark- where it thrives. Now it’s a MONSTER. The destruction of lives, of innocence lost, of ministries failing to thrive continues. It must be stopped. Only the truth will stop it.
    Do the right thing. Find the truth. Expose it.
    Only then will these women be free to live again.

  185. another MK says:

    I continue to be bothered by the involvment of Dr. Russ Lloyd in this. That he appears to have stood by and allowed this innocent girl to sign a statement of guilt is appalling. He is supposed to be a psychologist and so of all people, he should have stopped this, knowing the long term damage that signing such a paper would cause this girl.
    Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers day and night. May God bless you and may the truth finally come out.

    • If you only knew the level of Russ Lloyd's involvement says:

      Dr. Russ Lloyd is equally responsible for the cover up of this crime as any of the ABWE administration. He has been entrenched in this mess from day one, literally. He has been involved to the present day. His board members for the ministry he has should be notified and warned.

      • another MK says:

        Based on the actions of Dr. Russ Lloyd in this situation and in others (I know how he has crossed boundaries with others in his “position” as “psychologist for ABWE”) I think that complaints ought to be filed and his license be potentially revoked. I would not want anyone to ever be counselled by someone so incompetent.

    • Sharon Miller Chambers says:

      I too can not believe a professional in his field would have allowed this to be done without the parents present. The wording alone is more disturbing than I can grasp. Anyone with any training in this area would know how important it would be to put ALL the blame on the 54 year old man and not on a 14 (12 when it started) year old child.

  186. Sharon Miller Chambers says:

    One of the main things I have said to my friend, who was so deeply hurt by ketcham, is to pray each time before reading the blog. To find support and take back the control and strength that were robbed from her. Bringing the sin of Ketcham out into the open releases it’s power of you. Look closely at how many who lived there and knew both her, the other abused girls and ketcham are supporting the girls. It is unforunate that the board didn’t go to all the families at the time they FIRST knew of any sinful activity. It would have given the families opportunity to support and disclose all that they knew and felt uncomfortable with. In 1989 there were several books, material and professionals speaking out about child abuse. I study it and found endless material by great Christian authors. Even out local radio station WCSG had programs that would speak about it. Not one ever said to cover it up. Not one said it would just go away. Not one said the abuser could recover on his own or that he should ever be put in situations to tempt himself. My question to ABWE is that enlight of all the people that have come forward recently through this blog, when did you go see Ketcham to confront him? Last week, this week????

  187. Watching and waiting with you says:

    I’m sure that many of you have but if you haven’t, please make sure you are sending correspondence to ABWE. I know this forum is being followed closely but they also need to hear directly from all of us giving our support and concern. Direct communication with them is important. Their email box needs to be flooded adding to the pressure voiced here. I expressed my thoughts directly to Tony’s email address and while not expecting anything, he did respond and at least acknowledge. Action speaks louder than words and while he voices his intent to move forward, added pressure needs to be applied consistently until the right actions are taken.

  188. Robert L Goddard, Jr. MD says:

    Robert Goddard, MD
    Former short-term medical student at MCH 1974-75
    Former short-term surgical resident at MCH 1978-79
    Former full-time ABWE missionary appointed 1980, served as physician-surgeon at MCH from 1983-1990 (Language study in Dhaka Dec 1983-Oct 1985)
    General Surgeon, FACS, USA, practiced 1990-2000 in general surgery
    Emergency Medicine, 2000-present.

    This is a medical doctor response to the request of Dr. Joe DeCook.
    1) Breast exams in young teens:
    Any minor (male or female) is examined only in the presence of the responsible adult or authorized agent on approval (consent) of the legal guardian. For a teen girl with a male guardian, a female nurse’s presence is required. This exam is usually done fully clothed. The patient is placed in a gown only if essential for the exam. Even then only that portion of the skin pertinent to the exam are exposed. The bra is only removed if the history reveals pertinent breast pathology. Care is taken to cover the patient except for the area to be examined and that is done as expeditiously as possible.
    Lung and heart exams are done through the shirt or gown.
    In 35 years of medical practice I cannot recall a case where these precautions ever led to a wrong or inadequate diagnosis.
    2) Lymph node exam:
    As with breast exam, utmost care is taken especially with teen girls (With all the different issues of sexuality, I believe these guidelines are now applicable to males as well. The composition of people present may be based on age of the patient.) At no point should the patient be left naked even with a sheet. I feel the patient is reassured by having a known female present, in addition to the female nurse, which is mandatory for this exam. (Teenage boys may decide on which side of the curtain others should stand. All areas of lymph nodes can be adequately examined with the breast and genitalia covered.
    3) The bra or underwear need only be removed to evaluate lesions of the skin of the breast or of the genitalia. This requires intentional chaperoning even if a female guardian or friend is present. (Current laws are different for the history portion of the H&P).
    4) I totally concur with the statement by Dr. Dan DeCook and Dr. Dan Golin about pelvic and rectal exams. Wherever possible I try to refer such an exam to a female primary care physician, nurse practitioner, or the established OB/GYN physician of the patient. I only offer to do the exam if the immediate care depends on the exam. My experiences are similar to Dan Golin’s.
    5) Use of Ketamine:
    “That he may have been abetted by the use of a chemical dysphorient such as Ketamine, at least in some of the occasions, seems increasingly probable (adding to the criminality of his actions.)”

    If such abuse of medication was utilized during the commission of criminal sexual
    activity, this would only add to the heinous nature of the sin. This is a clear violation of all professional and moral doctor-patient principles.

    • In my 45 years of medical practice, I cannot remember ever examining a naked teenage girl. The rare breast exam I did was for trauma to that area, and the few pelvic exams were either for trauma to that area or for suspected sexually transmitted diseases. When those exams were done, there was always a female nurse present, and usually the girl’s mother as well. Most physical exams were done with the girl fully clothed. I have done a few exams which necessitated the girl disrobe down to bra and panties, but she was always covered with a sheet which was very judiciously moved so as to maintain optimal coverage of her body at all times. All lymph nodes can be adequately examined without having the person disrobe.

      Dick Stagg, Medical Doctor at Memorial Christian Hospital from 1973 to 1988.

  189. Bart Glupker says:

    1 Peter 1:3-7
    “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade – kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time.”
    Peter goes on to talk about the various trials that they were suffering and how his desire for them was that their faith would be proven genuine and result in praise, glory and honor when Christ is revealed.

    Although it has been many years since I have seen many of you, my heart still aches for the hurt and sorrow that you are (and have been) experiencing. To those in the family I got to know because of an MK connect many years ago, please know that I will be praying for you all as you go through this “trial”, and be encouraged – our HOPE is in the LORD! May HE sustain you through it all.

  190. Sharon Waala Ronan (MK and missionary and missionary parent) says:

    I am an MK, missionary and parent of MKS. My heart is broken by what I have read here and I am distreseed that ABWE did so much additional harm by not dealing with this correctly when the survivors became known.

    It is almost as damaging as the abuse itself, to have let it go unreported to Michigan authorities, and to have the survivor write a “confession” is unbelievable. If a psychologist was involved in that confession, it makes me wonder about the credentials of the psychologist as normally, it would be a statement of the crimes committed against someone, not a confession of guilt.

  191. Jim says:

    As former ABWE’rs we like many have spent the last several days reading the stories and thoughts of some incredibly brave women. As the father of five daughters I have been outraged at what DK did but sickened to the core of my soul with the enormity of ABWE’s part in all of this. It has been nearly impossible since we have begun following this blog to not spend each day and night thinking about the sin, hurt and deception.

    I want to commend Phil Walsh for bravely sharing what so many of us experienced with ABWE leadership. His recounting of events brought back memories we thought we’d forgotten. How clearly I remember my wife and I sitting with mission leadership on furlough as we tried to address a concern. My wife was a nursing mother with a new baby and as the discussion intensified her hurt and emotions came out with tears. I will never forget the two men openly making fun of her for crying and “being too emotional”. It was at that point that any respect I had for them died. At the conclusion we were forced to resign and we didn’t know why. By that time, we were both devastated by the lack of concern for our well being. I guess that puts us in the expendable category.

    Several times on the field issues arose and each time they were swept under the big carpet of covering up bad decisions and often sin. I was told more than once that I was the one with the problem for seeking help from headquarters about the immoral conduct of a colleague.

    Phil, there are many of us that started our exciting missionary careers with ABWE who sadly soon found out that we could not continue because of the favoritism, arrogance and covering of sin by many in leadership. As a pastor I have sadly seen this same scenario repeated in some churches, fellowships and Bible colleges.

    It such a joy to get to be called your “aunts and uncles.” My heart is broken that so many in leadership did not have the courage, integrity and character to stand and do the right thing, as you have all so powerfully illustrated.

    While I fear that there may be more that is not yet known I do know that when men are elevated because of titles or names, it becomes easy to ignore biblical principles and cover sin for the sake of the organization. When that happens there is no prospering.

  192. Diana Durrill says:

    I received my first communication from ABWE today. I sent them a few emails and this is the response I received:
    ***********************************
    I do read every email sent to me including these you have just sent and rarely are my responses cut and paste.

    Hopefully I will have something to share very soon.

    I will admit that the response to the answers we posted was not what I had hoped for or expected. As I read through the blog and the emails I received, significant questions were emerging. One night last week I re read them all and noted the questions that kept coming up. The document was a sincere effort to provide answers. It is obvious that it missed badly. It was not a defense of Donn Ketcham but was intended to be an answering of questions. That was all. I truly am sorry anyone would think it was in anyway a defense of Donn Ketchum because I am not a defender of him, his actions or of the missteps that have occurred in handling this over the entire time from the first reports in the 70’s to now.

    Over the past weeks I have repeatedly typed these words and mean them sincerely as my prayer, that my heart desire is to be used of God to help bring healing to those who have been so affected by the sins and the failures.

    Tony Beckett
    *****************************
    Did you notice this line: “…I am not a defender of him, his actions or the missteps that have occurred in handling this over the entire time from the first reports in the 70′s to now.”

    Bangladesh aunts and uncles – please read that again and let it sink in. For those of you who have children who were abused that are older than my sister…there were reports of misconduct that date back to the 70′s. That is a BIG DEAL. Oh the heartache that could’ve been prevented! Oh, the lives that could have been saved from destruction!

    I beg you….pastors, missionaries, mk’s from around the world….make them hear your voice TODAY. This is the vice president telling us that the cover up has been going on for 40 years! Shout it from the rooftops: THIS IS WRONG and they must come clean. An independent, third party must investigate even beyond this case. A thorough investigation of all of their history must be performed. Spread the word but please also write them today:

    Tony@abwe.org
    mloftis@abwe.org

    • Tara (MK) says:

      The very fact that they admit to all this going on from the 70′s until now? Really? Unbelievable and sickening. Do they not realize that covering up the sin makes them guilty as well? How sad..

      So they admit the cover-up.. now what? Where does the accountability come in?

      Perhaps a “public” apology and a stepping down of all those involved in covering this up? It’s not enough for them to admit the cover up! How can healing come for any of the victims and families if there is not a change from the inside out with ABWE?! How can any peace of mind come to any present missionaries that ABWE will not do this again?

      So much damage has been done. It certainly is necessary that everyone bombard ABWE with our sincere outrage. I really hope and pray that ABWE will do what is right not what is comfortable.

    • Shirlie Moore says:

      Last night we sent the following e-mail to Tony at ABWE. We so sadly post it here to assure you of the length and depth of concern and loving support that surrounds you…

      As actively retired missionaries after 42 years with ABWE in the Philippines, Singapore, Cambodia and Nepal, and on our way to The Gambia soon for a temporary assignment, we are ‘wordless’ to express our dismay at the answers publicly provided to the watching world. Answer #3 is misleading and inaccurate at best and #4 is completely unacceptable.

      A confession, obviously not crafted by a 14 year old girl, called by any other name, or for whatever purpose, is still a confession. Any explanation to the contrary merely heightens mistrust which is building at an alarming rate, not only to those most harmed, but to the ABWE family at large. Question # 4 and ABWE’s response, when placed beside the actual document, is appalling to the point of disbelief.

      We are immeasurably sad, ashamed, and disallusioned, not only for the mishandling many years ago, but even more so for the failure to properly respond at this time. May God grant you the wisdom and courage to do what is right.

      Jim and Shirlie Moore

      • Daniel DeCook says:

        thank you, thank you, thank you for highlighting this again. Diana Durrill so adequately dissected and dismissed that first attempted public response to this blog when it was first posted. (“Answers to common questions that have been posted”) In fact, it was such a lame document that one can immediately conclude why no one person put their authorship into public display. The woodshed is really the only place to keep sending someone back to until they can get it right.

    • Jane says:

      Just a thought, isn’t it possible when he refers to the 70′s that it might be referring to the questions raised before the 89′ event that involved the Dr. and adult women?
      Were there specific instances before the abuse reported in 89′ where he was reported to the mission for abuse to a child?

      • Diana Durrill says:

        Jane –
        Does it matter? Wouldn’t accusations with women (note the plural) be enough to remove any man from the field? They are no longer “above reproach”. Can you tell me why that matters? ABWE says on their website that they knew of nothing before ’89 but just today we learned from Tony Beckett that there are reports that date back to the 70′s and from Jess Eaton that he knew of several things prior to 1974. If that had been dealt with biblically Dr. Ketcham would not have had access to the young women who were abused on the field.

        The point is…ABWE has lied and now men from their own HQ are saying so.

  193. Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

    Are our medical records still on file at MCH? Does anyone know?

  194. Uncle Jess and Aunt Joyce Eaton says:

    Uncle Jess and Aunt Joyce Eaton (lived in Bangladesh from 1967-1981):

    Ever since the blog site first appeared we have been agonizing for you ladies, our precious MK daughters, your parents and all who have been horribly affected by the despicable actions of the doctor/neighbor and co-worker. You dear MKs have been and still are family to us. As God knows our hearts, we have been crying out to Him on your behalf – for, when one member of the family suffers, we too suffer. Those of you who lived on the Malumghat (hospital site) compound during our stay there for 14 years know that we were co-workers, neighbors, team members, friends and family to each other while our own two daughters were also at risk. So, now that you are crying out for justice to be served and for family to surround you with the true love we knew in the past, we want to join our voices with yours, our adult sisters. We fully identify with the aunts and uncles who have preceded us with their entries and who served on the field with us (Bob and Barb Adolph, Joe and Joyce DeCook, Dick and Linda Stagg and George and Shirley Weber). In addition, with those of George and Deb Collins and the James family, who followed us to Bangladesh after we left to teach missions at BBC of PA in 1981. We fully resonate with the deep feelings Aunt Barb and Uncle Bob Adolph have just expressed, likewise sharing in their sorrow and likewise, plead for your understanding and forgiveness for those times when we should have been more observant and diligent to catch the ways of the predator. However, your aunts and uncles were wary of the doctor’s defrauding ways with adult women, especially the single ladies. We know of several times the doctor was confronted about his flirtatious ways. Midway through our 14 years I personally addressed this issue with Donn while he was recovering from his heart attack in the USA (1974). But, alas, we only suspected “inappropriate behavior” for a Christian gentleman at that time. Then, 13 years after the doctor’s dismissal – in 2002, we were present with ABWE’s president and his wife at Messiah College when we began to hear the voices of our deeply troubled MK sisters. Please forgive us for not persisting in tracking the follow-through of our reports once they were handed over to the mission leadership in July, 2002. As we have daily followed the entries to the blog site our grief has intensified for our suffering Malumghat family. In the last few days I have been urging our ABWE leadership to call in an independent mediator. We are crying unto God that He will bring about justice soon. Please hear our hearts as we long for healing in your hearts and lives. We stand with you ladies. One final word, we commend the warrior brothers who have stepped up on behalf of their sisters (such as: Dan, Dave and Steve DeCook, Dan Golin and Phil Walsh– from our era at Malumghat). Likewise, we are very proud of the warrior sisters of all ages who have courageously stood to love and support their aggrieved sisters.

    • S.O.S. says:

      It is easy to jump ship when the Titanic is sinking.

      Why say something now? Why not sooner?

      Some things cannot be so easily overlooked by a sugar sweet letter that comes VERY late in the game. It will take action on your part to show these mk’s and their parents your sincerity. You have been too intricately involved with both administrations and have had knowledge of this specific situation for too long. Thank you for the attempt, but now it is time to put feet to your words. We watch and wait.

      And, please – do not try to represent Dr. Michael Loftis. His absence is noticed. He must speak for himself. His voice is not heard through you or Mr. Tony Beckett. How do we really know he is sorry at all? We have heard nothing….nothing from him.

    • Anne Smith says:

      Jess and Joyce,
      I have to say that I cannot accept your apology here because I do not feel that you are sincere! You have known about this for many years and you yourselves are just as guilty. I venture to say if it was one of your daughters that you would have found it hard to hide.
      You were just as guilty taking our sister away that day like all the rest of them. Even though you were not present on the field. What we had to live with following those events. What MY sister had to live with following those events. How could you? What the other ladies had to live with. I am sorry, no not really, but when I read your comment I wanted to be sick. It will take a lot of time to really know that someone is sincere in there apologies. Of course it will, It happened 20+ years ago. Something like this doesn’t just go away!

      I hope and pray that you and the rest of the group that has kept it so queit for all this time will come together and finally give up and realize this is a bigger mess than you can handle and let there be a third party investigation. Let it be GRACE. That is who the victims trust. And trust is a big issue right now in the investigation!

      Praying as I have since this all came out.
      Anne Smith

      • They don't need sermons...They've had plenty...They need LOVE. says:

        Dan DeCook –
        Let the victims and their families tell the story. They know more than most. Don’t jump to conclusions about their words being anger and frustration…you have not walked in their shoes or know the stories they know. They surely know more and have definitely restrained themselves from sharing even more incriminating information. When they call someone out for insincerity, be among the last to accuse them of being “angry”.

    • Dave DeCook says:

      Dear Uncle Jess,

      I can speak in support of your integrity and sincerity from our time together at Malumghat in the 70s. There is no way anyone can hold you responsible for letting Don Ketcham slide through the 70s. I am sure that if we took a poll during that time, the MKs would have made you their unanimous choice for “most likely to confront” and “most likely to be feared.” At the same time I knew you had a heart of love. How will I ever forget the time my brother and I were entertaining ourselves in the front row of evening church? We were mimicking my dad’s hand motions while he preached and finding it wonderfully amusing. After a while my dad looked at us and said, “And I see two little boys who are going to GET IT after church tonight.” From the back row boomed the unmistakable voice of Uncle Jess, “AMEN, BROTHER!” We probably thought that if my dad didn’t do it, Uncle Jess would see to it himself. Thank you for your stand for holiness and truth.

      One is not guilty of abetting a child-molester unless he is known as one and that didn’t happen until 1989. So, let’s have everyone hold their stones until a third party investigation can tell us who knew what and when.

      Dave DeCook (70s MK)

  195. Dan Golin says:

    I must respond to Aunt Barb and Uncle Bob’s post earlier. I am moved to tears at the thought that you might have been brought to doubting our MK love for you. Anything good in us is by God’s grace, but ministered through the channel of so many loving and nurturing aunts and uncles in our young lives. You all are not the perpetrators here, and WE WILL ALWAYS CHERISH YOU.

  196. Linnea Goddard Diggle says:

    I was 10 years old in Bangladesh in 1989. About 99% of what happened and is posted on this blog was unknown to me until the last several days. I intended to stay completely out of it, reasoning that since I was never violated, it would be best to remain uninvolved. But, my love for those who have been suffering compels me to make this post to show my support. I pray for truth to prevail, justice to be done, and supernatural comfort and healing to be experienced.

    Psalm 25
    1 In you, LORD my God,
    I put my trust.
    2 I trust in you;
    do not let me be put to shame,
    nor let my enemies triumph over me.
    3 No one who hopes in you
    will ever be put to shame,
    but shame will come on those
    who are treacherous without cause.
    4 Show me your ways, LORD,
    teach me your paths.
    5 Guide me in your truth and teach me,
    for you are God my Savior,
    and my hope is in you all day long.

  197. Wondering says:

    I am trying to post this again under a different email because I am not sure if that is the reason my comment did not post yesterday.

    I have read the posts and comments on this blog and my heart goes out to the women who suffered indescribable pain from one man’s selfish addiction. When I was young, I also was the victim of a member of the church who choose to make a foolish decision and forever scar my life. But I am so thankful that God allowed me to see that despite the terrible events of my past, I could move forward, solely looking to Him even when “justice” for me was no where and never has been something I have seen. I know that the only true justice that will ever matter is when the person who committed that sin will stand before Christ and be held accountable. There is no earthly justice that could ever compare.

    But I do have some questions and please do not take them to be disrespectful to the situation at all! I can see that everyone involved with this incident, including ABWE, would have liked the situation to have been handled more appropriately. I cannot make excuses for either side because I was not part of the events.

    I have seen God’s work be done by ABWE around the world. I hope that despite the many “emotional” responses by some who are allowing anger to alter the entire work of ABWE, we do not forgot that God has used ABWE in so many people’s lives to further the gospel. I have read ABWE’s responses to the incidents and from what I read, is seems they are attempting to make-up for any past wrongs, even though we always wish there could be more.

    I do not understand exactly what the victims in this situation are looking for. Again, absolutely no disrespect, I am really trying to understand. Seeing as though the people originally involved in this incident are probably not with ABWE any longer (I know Dr. Kempton, previous president of ABWE, is now with the Lord) are you looking for someone to be fired? Or with GRACE involved, are you looking for a monetary settlement? I do see that ABWE has already adopted a child protection policy prior to this Blog being started, so something similar to this tragedy will never happen again. Or are you looking for the current President of ABWE to personally apologize to the victims involved for not handling the situation properly in 2002? I do agree that it would be beneficial to meet with the current administration and the victims so that the information about this entire incident is “put on the table” and everyone is on the same page with the facts.

    Again, I am not trying to make excuses for anyone. Coming from someone who has also suffered many years ago, I do not understand what can be gained so far after the incident happened. I could not go back to the church I was abused in when I was young and expect the new leadership to bring justice. I do pray that it is not the intention of those that have commented on this blog to destroy ABWE and the lives ABWE are effecting today. At this point, it seems the incidents are between the abuser and God. Of course, in a perfect world, all abused children would have earthly justice, but again, I rest in God’s justice alone.

    Thank you for reading!

    • isaiah618 says:

      Dear Wondering,
      I disagree with most of your post but do not want to throw angry words at someone who has also been abused. I would urge you to find a certified trauma therapist, even though your abuse also occured long ago, as most abuse victims have many issues related to the abuse that they need to work through in therapy, whether they have forgiven or not. A short answer to what we want right now from the ABWE administration is to submit to a third party investigation by GRACE. May you find healing in every area of your life.
      Susannah

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Dear Wondering:

      While if what you say is true, I’m sorry for your past, I must admit that every time I see a post like yours I can’t help but ask myself if it is someone from ABWE’s administration getting on here to ask what it is exactly that is wanted in this endeavor, so that they can do just the minimum that is required.

      I cannot speak for Susannah. She has already spoken for herself.

      But I can tell you that really, until the truth is fully revealed in this matter (how many lives were literally touched by this sin, how many people at ABWE knew it was going on and when, etc.) I don’t think any of the MKs involved will actually know “what they want.”

      And they do not need to explain their desire for truth to anyone. Maybe the truth will set us free.

      So for anyone else who would come on here and suggest that forgiveness is the only way to make peace, I say: Perhaps you give up too easily.

      Why should we not want forgiveness and truth? Why should we not want truth and repentance? Why should we not want repentance and justice? Why should we not want all of these things? These are the things that God loves. Why should we not continue to seek all of them?

      Are you worried about ABWE? ABWE got themselves into this mess, and they can get themselves out. It does not fall to any MK who was touched by Donn Ketcham to protect ABWE. ABWE did not protect them.

      God is bigger than ABWE’s ego. The gospel will still be preached far and wide with or without them. There are plenty of good mission boards out there who take morality, responsibility and legalities very seriously.

      • Maranatha says:

        Read this verse today and thought of everyone:

        Psalm 45:4
        In your majesty ride forth victoriously
        in the cause of truth, humility and justice;
        let your right hand achieve awesome deeds.

        TRUTH, HUMILITY, and JUSTICE! God loves them all. That is what is needed. On everyone’s part. May God grant everyone the grace to humble themselves, tell the truth, and may justice bring peace to the victim’s!

        I am getting the feeling that this is going to be much bigger than Susie ever intended. God has a way of doing that!!!

    • Truth says:

      Do you work for ABWE, Ms. or Mr. Wondering? Because I don’t understand why an outsider would need the answers to those questions.

      Do any of these women really need to explain what they want out of this to YOU just so you can “understand”? If anyone would understand the simple need for some truth and closure, I would think it would be a fellow victim. Do you think these women really owe you an explanation of what they want out of this?

      Do they owe that to anyone besides their Lord right now? Let’s take wanting TRUTH as a starting point and then once we actually ATTAIN that … THEN we can start figuring out what else might be needed in this situation.

    • C. J. says:

      Dear Wondering,

      I know you are trying to be gentle in your message and that is appreciated. However, what you do not realize is that pedophilia is not just a sin it is a CRIME and needs to be dealt with accordingly. This really should not be handled by “the church” at all but the justice system as this CRIME is punishable by imprisonment followed by a permanent mark in your record that you have committed a CRIME against innocent, helpless children. Do you realize that this type of individual commits this type of crime repeatedly, all the time, in a flash of a moment like an animal and permanently damages the victim for the rest of their life? If you had ever been assaulted by a pedophile you would understand. And if you had a little girl I hope you would want to keep her from this type of irreversible harm. God does not smile on this in anyway. ABWE was notified of several instances that were fresh and new (including my assault by an ABWE missionary while he was on furlough) and the president, Dr. Wendell Kempton said he couldn’t do anything, “because it would hurt ‘his’ ministry”. (I left the name out because of investigation reasons). My question is, “who’s ministry is he talking about”. If you are a pedophile, you are clearly serving Satan and the Bible says, “no one can serve two masters.”. There may be individuals that have done good for the kingdom of heaven that happened to be paid by ABWE but to say it was ABWE as an organization is a grave mistake. Way too many obvious coverups over the years by ABWE hierarchy prove very clearly that the administration of ABWE is in collusion with pedophilia and should be prosecuted for it. ABWE is corrupt as an organization in the worst of ways I just feel sorry for those that did serve the true God in the right way and chose to be part of an organization that is involved in organized crime—pedophilia! The truth is coming out and this is the year for exposure. I am so sorry these people made the clear decision to agree with Satan to be his tools in fulfilling his assignment of evil on the innocent victims in the form of sexual abuse. The price they will pay is unfathomable! Denial of their CRIMEs only makes payday that much worse. Our prayers should be that they would GENUINELY REPENT after confession and STOP committing the CRIMEs. They need to come out of agreement with Satan and cancel their assignment with the blood of Jesus because they are still in agreement with Satan and continuing to commit these CRIMINAL acts daily. These facts are harsh but they are true and must be faced. Pray for repentance!

      C.J.

      • isaiah 618 says:

        The year before my family went to Bangladesh as missionaries, I had a Sunday school teacher who encouraged us to memorize Scripture. One of the first chapters I memorized was Psalm 1. It sticks with me to this day.
        (Were these men serving God? or their own self interests? God didn’t need them to protect a pedophile for the “sake of the Gospel”. The Gospel speaks for itself. )

        Psalm 1

        Blessed is the one
        who does not walk in step with the wicked
        or stand in the way that sinners take
        or sit in the company of mockers,
        but whose delight is in the law of the LORD,
        and who meditates on his law day and night.
        that person is like a tree planted by streams of water,
        which yields its fruit in season
        and whose leaf does not wither—
        whatever they do prospers.
        Not so the wicked!
        They are like chaff
        that the wind blows away.
        Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
        nor sinners in the assembly of the righteous.
        For the LORD watches over the way of the righteous,
        but the way of the wicked leads to destruction.

        In God’s book, you can’t ride the fence. You’re either with Him (and assured the victory) or against Him (and there’s Hell to pay).

        The choice belongs to each of us.

        Choose today whom you will serve…

        -Susannah Goddard Weldy

  198. Diana Durrill says:

    To ABWE -
    Tony Beckett and Jess Eaton have both confirmed that at least two on your team knew before 1989…making the claims on your website null and void. What are you going to say to us now? Please tell us what we already know to be truth: You lied.

    I see only one way out now…submit to a third party investigation and step down from your positions.

    Diana Durrill

  199. A very worried Pre-Fielder says:

    To the little girls of BD,

    I know fellow missionaries and MKs have been coming out to encourage and support you and I want to let you know that we are too. So far I have not seen any pre-fielders chime in here. This could be because they are scared, they are watching and waiting to see if they need to find a new agency to serve with. I know I am!

    I have been watching, reading and praying about the situation. Like BD MK in-law (March 29, 2011 at 5:35 am) I didn’t really intend to become part of the conversation because I am not part of your family. (Being a PF-er makes me somewhat of a stranger to the situation). However I do not think it is in my DNA to keep my mouth shut!

    For us the deciding factor of which mission organization to serve with came down to the family. ABWE’s emphasis on the family and their willingness to support families is why we chose them.

    Please understand I had no disillusions that ABWE was the perfect organization (I did not think I had them on a pedestal but sadly, I elevated that building on miracle mountain higher than it really was.)

    Before coming in, we had been warned that the administration often promises more than they deliver and that the organization at times plays favorites. This we could deal with and although we did not like it, we knew that no one (or organization) is perfect.

    BD Family please understand that I am not trying to take anything away from the atrocities that occurred in Bangladesh from 1970 forward. This blog is about the pain and coverup that has ensued for over 40 years while a wolf has been allowed to mingle among the flock. For (at least) 40 years DK has created damage to more lives than we will ever know. To those little girls I am sorry, I am sorry you were not protected or fought for. I am sorry that ABWE was more worried about their reputation and pocketbooks.

    You brave MK’s I thank you for bringing to light DK and I believe that the Lord is going to use your strength (and this blog) to bring healing far beyond what you ever could have hoped.

    I think that this blog has also revealed that Bangladesh is not the only field that has had cover ups.

    As we have learned more about our future field (not Bangladesh) there has been this avoidance about “some major event” that happened over 20 years ago. We have no clue what “IT” is, or “WHAT” transpired. Despite the best efforts of those on the field to get information and understand what transpired, the administration continues to remain silent. “It” seemed like a small issue before – or was implied to be so, but how can we know? How do we not know if there is another DK lingering waiting for our children?

    As has been stated before this is ABWE’s chance to clean the closet- and get EVERY skeleton out of there. No matter how it makes them LOOK. Or what they think the donors and supporting churches will THINK.

    Tara MK (March 29, 2011 at 10:21 pm) hit this right on the head. There has to be a change from the inside for ABWE! This is the ONLY thing that will bring any healing for those who have suffered for so long. It will also be the ONLY thing that will provide peace of mind to any present (AND FUTURE) missionaries that ABWE will correct their mistakes and that they will address the hard issues.
    ABWE has been wrong and they have their chance to come clean. ABWE now is your chance to clean out that closet.

    I can only speak for myself, but I would much rather serve under an organization has a horribly tainted reputation to the outside world, but righted their wrongs, than to serve under some an organization that is so intent on appearing squeaky clean that they do not care how many people they throw under the bus.

    From what I understand over the years ABWE has told many to “take one for the team.” Well ABWE here is your chance. How much does this team, these people, those children and integrity mean to you? Are they really more important than your reputation and your pocketbook?

    ABWE now is your chance! Anything you withhold at this point with regards to ANY other “incidents” in ANY other fields (both open and closed) will be considered intentionally covered up. In the same way DK admitted to “A” affair but chose not to disclose the molestation, abuse and other affairs that occurred you are essentially signing a similar statement. You will be choosing to only admit to what you have BEEN caught doing, not EVERYTHING you have done.

    Please ABWE, please!!!! Show that you do value your missionaries and Mk’s more than your reputation or pocketbook and allow GRACE to do a full and complete examination of ALL of the entire association and look in all the closets and under all the rugs.

  200. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    Objective medical information: First thank you to the doctors who have posted medical exam information. It is essential that the victims, and others, see what standard and acceptable medical practice is, so they can discern the severe aberrations which occurred regularly in teen age girl exams at the Hospital in Bangladesh. I am looking at 6 different teens charts from the Hospital in the 1970′s. Ages vary from 13 to 17. All were routine physical exams. All are noted “instructed in self breast exam.” That necessarily implies that a breast exam was done. The 5 doctors (so far) posting here have indicated that breast exams in teens like this are not done on a routine physical, unless there is breast disease. Obviously breast self exam is also not taught, as one has to do the exam to teach it. Girls do not get breast cancer at that age—or hardly ever until after 30 years of age. The Malumghat Hospital standard was way outside of normal standard. Additionally, I had 2 mothers tell me they were present (good) when the doctor did, first, the breast exam on their daughters, and, then, the teaching of breast self exam, explaining all the while how necessary it was. The five doctors posting here have stated plainly they did not/do not do routine breast exams on girls of this age. Who of you (or your daughter) has had a breast exam, and been taught breast self exam, in the states before you were 18?

    A number of the (then) teens stated they were required to be totally naked for the routine physical exams. They said how they hated it. No wonder. The 5 doctors posting here have stated plainly the care they take not to have a woman, esp a teen, naked at any time for routine exams. Again, the Malumghat standard of care for teen physicals was way different from what is generally accepted and practiced.

    We invite doctors or nurses with relevant observations on these notes on routine physical exams, please post them. We value your discussion. And we want the women victims to know that if they felt their privacy was severely violated, there are plenty of us doctors who agree.
    Dr. Joe DeCook

  201. Jim Long says:

    Our hearts are heavy today and so sorry for each one of you who have suffered all these years. We pray that each of you and your families (and extended Bangladesh family) would be comforted by the all-powerful God during this very difficult time – we thank you for standing up and speaking truth. We continue to pray with love. Uncle Jim and Aunt Marilou

    • Wounded says:

      I wish that I could take comfort in such vague references to prayer and healing from those who work for the current administration at ABWE.

      Do not think that by simply adding your name here you have stood up for what is right and will have shown solidarity with your Bangladesh family. To do that, you must make your support of your “nieces” clear. Take a cue from George Collins who put his job on the line by doing so.

      • concerned says:

        I believe by thanking the victims for speaking out, they are standing up for you. Let’s not attack everyone from the administration that bravely posts here. Those were kind and loving words and don’t deserve a hostile answer.

      • Also Concerned says:

        I second Concerned’s words. I have to say I have been a bit disappointed in the angry responses toward those currently with ABWE and in BD who have posted here trying to offer prayers and support. I can only imagine that they are hurting over the horrendous crimes they did not know about and that now affects them through association with ABWE and their work in BD, as well as grieving for the victims.

        I understand that you may feel it is inadequate- but maybe that is all they can articulate at this point.

  202. Trinity Baptist Grand Rapids MI says:

    We can no longer remain silent, I want you wonderful people to know that I have read every post, and while I know only a few of you my heart weeps for all of you. Its time that Churches joined your efforts. I call on all our churches with great love and humility to demand answers and transparency from ABWE. For our churches to remain silent and to do nothing is a response laced with nothing less then the poison of apathy.

    I have written ABWE many letters and have received no response except for a link to their 4 questions answered. Am I to believe that these are the 4 questions that we wanted answered. All of my question still remain unanswered to this day. As I read this blog the silence of ABWE is deafening. ABWE I’m sorry but what you are doing speaks so loudly we cannot hear what you are saying.

    I post this humble letter only as an effort of accountability. I beg my fellow pastors to join these dear people for the truth. For if we do not, How shall we stand in our pulpits and proclaim the importance of truth. How will be pray to our Father when we turn a blind eye to our sisters. I fear that until the churches and their leadership begin to speak. The silence will only continue. I will pray for all of you including ABWE. May God be Glorified in all our lives. I write this with humility knowing that their is so much in my own life that I could do to bring more Glory to my Father. If nothing else you good people have stirred my soul to be broken before the Lord

    Dear Tony,

    Thank you for responding to some questions on your website. I just have a couple more and I will leave you alone. If you would please reply to these by April 1, 2011 it would be of great help for us as our Missions Committee will be meeting mid-April.

    1. Will there be a third party (Independent investigation) of ABWE’s ministry to make sure that there are not other accusations regarding existing national Pastors or traditional missionaries that are still serving under the ABWE ministry?

    2. Will ABWE continue with its current leadership or will they seek new leadership from the top down to correct and maintain a spirit of accountability, transparency, and trust?

    3. If the answer to the two above questions is “No”: will ABWE allow a smooth transfer of our missionaries to transition out of ABWE to a mission agency of “like faith and practice” so that our missionaries’ ministries are not interrupted in any major way?

    Thank you, your prompt response will be greatly appreciated as it will help our church make future decisions. You continue to be in our prayers. Our hope is that we can continue with ABWE, however, with all honesty, we do not see this as a possibility unless the first two questions are addressed.

    May God grant you wisdom,

    Pastor Brett A. Boomsma
    Trinity Baptist Church

    • Pastor, thank you for your comments and questions to ABWE on behalf of these ladies. My wife Pam, and I, served with ABWE in the Philippines from 1981-2003. Over those years we did see favoritism within the mission and experienced it ourselves.

      These ladies are the victims and not the guilty party. I hope many other Pastors and churches will come on board and demand a third party (Independent investigation) of ABWE’s ministry to make sure that there are not other accusations regarding existing national Pastors or traditional missionaries that are still serving under the ABWE ministry? Their trust and respect has been lost.

      Sex offenders are master manipulators. I have known Loftis since college. We resigned the mission early in his administration. This cover up of child molestation is appalling to Pam and I and the wrongs need to be righted. It is time for a “shake up” in the organization. I hope they will they seek new leadership from the top down to correct the sin and cover up and that hopefully will lead to a restoration of a spirit of accountability, transparency, and trust?

      I also have written to several people in leadership and so far the responses are not good enough. Thanks Jim for your message. I will forward it on to the committee that is doing the follow up. Or, Thanks, Jim. We are going through a very difficult time, as you can imagine. Please keep praying for us.

      These responses are not enough. It is way past time to deal with the sin that has been committed against these precious ladies and their families.

    • Thank you Grand Rapids Baptist says:

      Pastor Boomsma
      Last evening I read a story in our local (Grand Valley) Advance newspaper about the accusations made against this phyisician, and the response from ABWE. The article stated that Dr. Ketcham is still seeing patients locally, but the response from ABWE stated that they felt the concerns voiced by several women were credible–so I came to this website to get a broader perspective of the issue. I am not a MK; I am not a Baptist.

      ABWE, please take note–this issue has gone way beyond your internal organization. As it should.

      Pastor Boomsma, thank you for your repsonse and recommendations to ABWE. The issue of accountability is one that all of us need to pay attention to. Certainly DK has huge accountability; and from an observer’s perspective ABWE has an even higher level of accountability. To promote a culture of silence 20 years ago was wrong on so many levels. To continue to backpedal, weave and dodge the issue is incomprehensible.

      Churches that have provided support to ABWE now have full knowledge of the culture that has continued to exist within the ABWE organization. There are no excuses; it is time for supporting churches to step forward and demand transparency. It’s an accountabilty issue for these churches now as well. Otherwise, you have just become part of the problem. An independent investigation should be exactly what ABWE would want to have happen, so that they can fully know all of the hidden issues, and organizational blind spots. I’m not sure how an organizaiton can express concern for children that were abused, and not take this step. Supporting churches, please voice your concern to ABWE.

      Pastor Boomsma-I applaud your courage in posting on this blog, and have much respect for the people that have shared their painful stories. Even though I’m not directly connected, we know that public forums like this can, well, change the world–right?

  203. concerned and praying says:

    Perhaps we have gone too far away from the example God provides in the New Testament for sending missionaries. We are not told to create mission agencies, but rather we see the early local church sending those who are called to missions. Perhaps this is because the church is a more direct avenue for caring support, accountability and corrective discipline.

    Like government, bureaucracies tend to grow and seek to protect themselves. There seems to be no other reason for ABWE’s early actions. Were they seeking truth? Justice? Protecting the little and helpless ones so dear to God’s heart? Seeking to spread the gospel by letting loose a lion who they knew to devour innocent victims and in so doing crumble children’s faith in a loving God? None of this is consistent with promoting the gospel.

    Imagine if the sending church had been responsible for the fully informed discipline of Dr. Ketcham. The disciplinary outcome and protective measures would likely have been much better, and Dr. Ketcham would likely not have continued to be revered and given a platform for further abuse and to mock the justice, truth and goodness of God with his pulpit appearances. I believe the sending church’s pastor would have sought to protect the little ones in his congregation from abuse…he was their shepherd, and to encourage Dr. Ketcham to fully and truly repent, he was also Dr. Ketcham’s shepherd.

    The good work being attributed to ABWE is good work which should also be attributed to God’s servants working for Him around the world. God has blessed His missionaries’ work in spite of sin and cover up being in the camp of ABWE for many years. The reach of the gospel is due to the power of God, and He will continue to work out His plan until Christ’s return. We need not fear calling sin sin and seeking justice and truth. God is a God of justice and truth, and is able to complete His work. Perhaps a beautiful outcome of this situation (along with others) would be a strengthening of the role of the sending church in missions.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      Your point is well made. Let’s hope churches all across America find it in themselves to set up their own “mission agency” in house. That leaves the accountability as God intended…fully and completely within the local church.

  204. jeny Martin says:

    Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

    Most of you I’ve never met, though some of your names are familiar to me because I grew up in an ABWE supporting church. We are united here in this virtual place to add our voices, to show love and support and respect for these beloved women and to unanimously ask, no demand that ABWE come clean and let the Truth be known. Your compassionate, strong words have made me weep in sadness for those hurting and for joy that this is finally seeing the light of day.

    I believe that there is a dark stronghold here that is suppressing the truth. It has been mentioned at least once I believe, that we are occupied in a spiritual battle. Why else would it be so difficult for an organization to want to do the right thing? But I do know that ABWE is not alone. Great sin has run rampant in the Church, hidden and covered up, excused and wrongfully protected by using scripture out of context.
    This must stop! And I pray that it begins here.
    I Peter says that judgement is coming and it will begin in the church:
    “For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God?” I Peter 4:17
    These crimes have been hidden for far too long and at the expense of far too many innocent lives; now I ask, “Is judgement coming?”
    In Matthew 17:21 after the disciples had asked Jesus why they couldn’t cast out the demon, He replied, ” . . . this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.”
    Let’s break down this stronghold by prayer and fasting! I would like to encourage a day of prayer and fasting among all of us here on this blog who care about this situation. Prepare your hearts with me, today confessing and repenting of any known and unknown sins, that we may be worthy vessels. Then please fast and pray with me, interceding on behalf of these women and their families and praying for justice. Pray that ABWE will allow a third party investigation and that they will implement the necessary changes that will show that they are repentant and serious. That they will let the whole truth be known. Pray for these brave women and their families. Pray for those who are struggling even now to tell their story.
    There is power in numbers! Please let us join together and make Wednesday a day of prayer and fasting.

  205. isaiah618 says:

    Tara and Diana you are Right.
    It is time for all involved in this cover up to Resign from there position in ABWE.
    Michael Loftis it is time to be a leader, RESIGN and take the others involved with you.
    (Tony Beckett, Russ Lloyd, and Don Davis) it is time to go…Bye

    MODERATOR’S EDIT: This note was not from Susannah, the writer is unknown at this time, and this post will eventually be removed after people have had a chance to see updated information that it was not from her. — Tam.

    • Mel Beals says:

      Because of the isaiah 618 identifier it appears this was from Susannah. I checked — it was not. It would be well if the right name is added so there are no misunderstandings.

      • isaiah618 says:

        It was not me either, Mel. I’ll do some checking. We now have a team of moderators to lift the burden. Until then, I’ll try to edit the note to reflect that it was not her. Thanks for clarifying.

        - Tamara Barrick Rice

  206. The Point ... says:

    Really tired of people coming on here and asking what the point of all of this is. “What is it you want? Do you want money? Do you want someone to be fired?” These questions make me crazy.

    A grievous sin was committed again and again and again and again, girl after girl after girl …

    Let the MKs get some answers, PLEASE. Let them figure out how deep and how wide this gap between right and wrong really was in regard to both ABWE and Donn Ketcham before you start asking them what it is they want.

    Is truth really such a tall order, that it should be questioned so by people who claim to believe in it?

    • watching closely says:

      What do the victims want? They want the truth! They want the guilty parties to confess and repent. They want to tell their stories and be believed. They want ABWE to say, “We are guilty of DK’s sin also because we stood by and did nothing, then tried to cover up our doing nothing.”

      In Michigan, if parents know their children are being abused and do nothing they can lose the children and their parental rights. They are accused of “failure to protect.” ABWE is guilty of failing to protect innocent children!

  207. ABWE's Model of Integrity says:

    I can no longer find who said it. But the comparison was too accurate to be glossed over and must be repeated.

    Donn Ketcham was caught in 1989, because a little girl would not be quiet. ABWE got caught in 2011 because another little girl, all grown up, and all the other grown up girls around her, would not be quiet. And just like Donn Ketcham in 1989, ABWE came to us confessing with half-truths (#1 on their answer page) and bad excuses (#4).

    ABWE, stop taking your cues from a pedophile. Seek a higher model of integrity. And thank you, to whoever it was in these hundreds of comments who originally pointed out the creepy similarities!

  208. Tami Joy says:

    Susannah, I am SO encouraged by what I have been reading tonight. God is doing a WORK!! You and my other dear hurting sisters are on my heart each day. Praying for renewed strength each hour.
    I just wanted to make an offer to all of my beloved cousins (BD MKs). I know quite a few of you are already a part of this, but several years ago I started a Facebook group for Bangladesh ABWE MKs. It is called “Bangladesh MKs – Mgt & Ctg”. I would like to let everyone know that if they would like to have a “just us” discussion please feel free to use the group discussion page. It is a closed group so anything said there will just be between us MKs. If you are not a part yet, please just make a request to join and I will get you in asap. I started the page as a way to help us all reconnect and be able to encourage one another. What better time than now to use it for such a purpose!?

  209. Tami Joy says:

    I forgot to post previously. I am Tami (Weber) Cernetic.

  210. Jack and Margaret Archibald says:

    We are extremely impressed by the many outstanding, eloquent responses especially of you now-grown MK’s. We feel inept to respond adequately. The truth in the past was shrouded in ambiguity making amends impossible. No more. Now we know. We have spent the past 5 nights agonizing over this and trying to write and to respond.

    Our hearts ache with sadness at the shame and loss of innocence some of you MK’s were subjected to, the extremely severe pain your families have endured, and your feeling of betrayal by those of us who appeared to stand by silently. And now the outcries of the many additional MK’s have shaken us to the core!

    Susannah Goddard Weldy, thank you for what you wrote, although it made our hearts sink and tears flow again! You gave a story: “We were little girls splashing in the warm ocean, enjoying the hot sun on our backs as we giggled and ran after each other. Never more than one step apart, we were having the time of our lives. Without warning, a HUGE wave crashed upon us. The undertow pulled us under… OUR FRIENDS STOOD BY AND WATCHED IN SILENCE! I lost my best friend that day. I miss her.”

    We were struck with the awful realization that we were those friends you dear MK’s could think were just standing by watching in silence. But we were not JUST standing there. We were sobbing. We were struggling to go help but there were CHAINS holding us back and we felt useless, inept, and frustrated. What were those chains? You know them. You have named them. We wanted to scream but the chain of “SILENCE” (don’t talk about it) tightened around our throats and mouths. The chain of “NOT YOUR BUSINESS” handcuffed us, and the chain of “FEARS” (of being guilty of gossip and of damaging the name of Christ) was the final gag.

    Susannah, your simple, powerful parable enabled us to see how the hurting MK’s and family members must have felt betrayed by the rest of us thinking we were not only non-supportive but some even imagined us supportive of the perpetrator. How repulsive.

    Dear MK daughters, we are thankful you have communicated and exposed the truth. We value you, admire your courage, and commend your efforts. We expect ABWE to take the steps you have clearly and thoughtfully laid out for them. We will write to them on your behalf.

    Thank you, “The Pain in our BD MK hearts” You gave an excellent description of “third culture.” It IS a marvelous thing but there must be more watchfulness in the “camp.” You have sounded the alarm. Many, many MK’s have wonderful memories. That special legacy must be allowed to continue, but with that, adults must be better equipped how to be alert and attentive. What is happening now, I hope, will bring about that result for all the next generation of precious children.

    We feel terrible about what happened to you. We love you for who you are and will continue to pray for you. Uncle Jack and Aunt Margaret Archibald

    • isaiah618 says:

      Aunt Margaret and Uncle Jack,
      Thank you for your letter here. I know this weighed heavily on you. It brought tears to my eyes. You have to know what it meant to those of us who were touched by this man at any point at any time in any way and are processing a lot right now, to know that you care so deeply. So thank you for the gift of your support and concern and love. And I’m so grateful that letters here from all the MKs, like Susannah Goddard Weldy’s which you mentioned, that have moved hearts to action by putting eloquent words to the pain.
      –Tamara

  211. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    To the women who have been victims: What WAS the medical protocol for physical exams on teenagers at Malumghat Hospital from 1970 to at least 1980. I was assigned as a doctor to the hospital during that time, and I am now telling you things I knew nothing about until this week. Why? I was not assigned to do routine physical exams on the teenagers.

    I have in front of me copies of 6 physical exams done on girls between 13 and 17 years old, between 1970 and 1980. All six note “instructed in breast self exam.” This means a breast exam was done as well. You teach a breast self-exam by doing a breast exam. You have on this blogsite the testimony of 5 doctors, an obgyn, pediatrician, family practitioner, 2 general surgeons. All of them state that they did not or would not do a breast exam on a teenager under 18 unless it was a premarital exam or there was some kind of breast problem. Breast cancer is not seen in teens, rarely before 30 years of age. Yet all of these girls have a breast exam noted. The standard of care at Malumghat for teen physicals was very different from what we know here in the states.

    Secondly, a number of teens have noted that they had to be stark naked for their routine physicals. How they hated those physicals! Understandably. The 5 doctors on this blog have noted that a routine physical exam on a teen can be easily done without the teen being totally naked. In fact , we are particularly careful to keep the woman as covered as possible. Routine physical exams at that age do not call for pelvic exams.

    To the women who have been victims of these very questionable standards for routine physical exams at Malumghat Hospital: Do you feel your privacy and your intimate personhood were violated in these exams? Plenty of us doctors will agree with you. It is not your imagination.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      Yes….we are all realizing that we were sexually abused, too. We did feel uncomfortable, but what were we to think? We were trusting in our physician and he knew best. Only when we became grown adults and experienced genuine medical care here in the US did we realized that what he did was out of the norm. And for some of us….it took having adolescent daughters for it to “ring a bell” in our memories and alert us that something just wasn’t right all those years ago. The number of victims with varying levels of violation is increasing daily.

    • Diane Eleveld RN says:

      Dr DeCook,
      I am unsure it your letter was defending DK by saying he was following proper procedure or if it was criticizing him, meaning those reports were Donn’s, so I’m saying this very objectively…
      Charting what is done for a patient must be very precise and thorough, always imagining that you are on a witness stand defending your care for them with what you have written.
      If it were charted ‘instructed in self breast exam”, that would mean only that the patient was told how to do it. The health care provider would be leaving himself wide open if he did not state an exam was done and chart the results of the exam.
      Maybe things were more lax in BD, but I would not take that statement to mean an exam was done.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Diane Eleveld, first thank you so much for your concern and your diving in here. You are appreciated and a valued voice.

      I do want to tell you though that Uncle Joe has been nothing but supportive to the MKs seeking truth, and behind the scenes has been helping me (for one … maybe others too) figure out what was and was not appropriate. He is a man of logic but also compassion, and we’re grateful for his voice here as a former Malumghat physician and uncle.

      - Tamara

      - Tamara

    • Medical Type says:

      I have worked at a small hospital lab since leaving Grand Rapids in 1985. I grew up going to a pediatrician and I had no pelvic exams until I was engaged, I was never naked, I don’t recall any breast exams and my mother was always present.

      When I came to this small hospital there was a physician whose reputation had deteriorated because of his pain prescription practices and for us in the hospital because we felt his personal touches were lingering and invaded our space. There was a complaint brought to the State police about him from his patients and they sent a female police officer for a routine physical. The prosecuting attorney brought a case against this physician because of the testimony of the officer and her testimony was reported in the local paper.

      Of all the questions about the character of this doctor, the testimony that was the most damning was in regard to the breast exam. It was extended and embarrassing to this ADULT FEMALE POLICE OFFICER. This trial did not result in prison time, but he was censured by the medical board with his license revoked for a period of time. He came back and practiced with only a few patients for a brief time and then left this community. I hope not to commit crimes in another location.

      Ladies, if you feel in your heart that you were violated, that something was fishy, let me assure you that your intuition is correct.

  212. R.G. says:

    Drs. Loftis and Beckett,

    Undoubtedly these past few weeks have brought agony to many people, including you. However, the hurt and betrayal many of us have experienced in the recent weeks is nothing compared to what the victims of DK have endured over the past four to five decades. Their pain is something I can’t fully grasp, but my heart aches for each and every one of them. My heart also aches for our beloved aunts and uncles who feel ashamed at their lack of boldness in fully approaching this matter. What a daunting task for any adult missionary or MK to burden the fight against ABWE, a large organization who has perpetually down played the criminal actions of one of its members. Yet I am thankful for those who have been brave enough to see this through and also for those who stand along side those whose hurt we can’t fathom. I trust in time you, too, will see how the courage of these women and supporters far outweighs the cowardice of ABWE’s administration.

    As a female Bangladesh MK, I would like to know why those of us who were on the field at the same time as DK were never asked whether or not we were affected by his actions. (Please do not say that you did not have my contact information; after all, I receive plenty of monetary donation requests from ABWE.) I understand it is easy to take a passive role and to assume that if no one else spoke, than no one else must have been victimized. Yet your role as the governing body mandates that it was — and still is! — your responsibility to ensure that no one else has been affected by the grotesque sin of DK. Since neither of you were part of the administration during the late 1980′s and early 1990′s, perhaps the best person to address this is Russ Ebersole or Russ Lloyd. Are either available and willing to help answer this? And if not, why not?

    Your recent posts indicate that you realize sin was committed on your part. We can rejoice together that God’s grace is bigger than our sin; and I am anxious to see how He is going to bring glory to Himself through this. However, I believe prior to that, there is still more pain to be had.

    Being a physician, one way I often understand life is through medical analogies. (A bit strange, I know, but bear with me.) I imagine ABWE’s first hearing of DK’s sin as the start of a abscess. Initially, it was “just” a sore that ABWE tried to dismiss. Yet over time, it grew and became infected. More time passed and the other symptoms that accompany an infection were ignored. It was painful, yet who cared. There were other things that needed to be done and there was no time to take care of this “nuisance.” Time after time the sore was neglected. The abscess festered so long that others started to notice the stench, and still nothing was done. Now here we are, with an enormous infection — an infection that could have been prevented had help been sought after early in the beginning — that has led to necrosis. And now the only way to treat this is to do an incision & drainage. Nothing else will work. And so Dr. Loftis and Dr. Beckett, I ask you to humbly hand the scalpel to GRACE. Let them make the painful, but necessary, incision to drain the thick, nasty pus that has been building up. This isn’t about restoring a reputation, it’s about regaining health. Do your part to help relieve some of the pain and suffering and to start the healing process. And as you do so, place all pride aside and boldly step up to the call of 2 Timothy 2:15. “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.”

    In eager anticipation of seeing truth rightly handled,
    Rachel Golin

  213. Aunt Barb and Uncle Bob Adolph says:

    Thanks, J&M Archibald-most of what we were trying to say!!! Rachel G.-a great analogy. I’ve written Tony B. but I’d like to say publicly, ABWE needs to do whatever they can to satisfy the MK’s-”the mess will never be completely cleared up until eternity”-. In the meantime, I believe and pray that ABWE can be salvaged and continue to have a great impact-a greater impact-but it will take time. Unfortunately this came up suddenly for many. However, it should not “take time” to get started on this process. We must pray! pray! pray! God’s will be done.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      It did not come up suddenly to those at the top. They have been asked repeatedly through the years (yes, this includes Michael Loftis) to do what is right. Within the last 12 months they knew full well that a storm was brewing and they did nothing but “batten down the hatches”.

      It cannot totally be healed this side of heaven…there will always be scars…but it can be much better. ABWE can be salvaged only by a change up from the top down. That is my opinion and the opinion of many others on here.

  214. Aunt Barb and Uncle Bob Adolph says:

    Thank you, Trinity, for stepping out. You have been such faithful supporters in so many ways, for so many years. May God give wisdom and grace. Ironically, it was DK who recommended to Trinity that they support us instead of him back in ’63 when we were on deputation because we were needed on the field to help set up the hospital lab and teach the MK’s and he already had his support. He did a great thing for us!

  215. Concerned MK says:

    While looking through ABWE’s website, I couldn’t help but notice that in their prayer request section, not a word of this is mentioned. I guess they don’t feel this matter is important enough to bring before the Lord.

    • Insincerity says:

      I know! That has been noticed for sure. BTW – there have been well over 50,000 hits on this site. I bet on there have been oodles of extra hits in theirs as well. Why would they not want to communicate that this is of utmost importance to them? That this is something they NEED God’s help with so PLEASE PRAY. I don’t get it. Another thing I don’t get – why leave the “Answers to Common Questions” up when they know and admit that it missed the mark so badly? Why not take it down? I’m stumped.

  216. Phil Walsh says:

    I am dedicating this song to the most beautiful women in the world, the ones who have suffered so much because of senseless acts of evil. You are strong and courageous. And through your righteous anger you have brought light to a very dark place. I am so proud of you!

    Beautiful (Mercy Me)

    Days will come when you don’t have the strength
    And all you hear is you’re not worth anything
    Wondering if you ever could be loved
    And if they truly saw your heart
    They’d see too much

    You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful
    You are made for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful
    You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
    You’re beautiful

    Praying that you have the heart to fight
    Cuz you are more than what is hurting you tonight
    For all the lies you’ve held inside so long
    But they are nothing in the shadow of the cross

    You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful
    You are made for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful
    You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
    You’re beautiful

    Before you ever took a breath
    Long before the world began
    Of all the wonders He possessed
    There was one more precious
    Of all the earth and skies above
    You’re the one He madly loves
    Enough to die!

    You’re beautiful, You’re beautiful
    In His eyes

    You’re beautiful!
    You are made for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful!
    You are treasured, you are sacred, you are His
    You’re beautiful!
    You are made for so much more than all of this
    You’re beautiful!
    You are treasured
    You are sacred
    You are His

    • Sharon Miller Chambers says:

      What a great song for this situation. I heard it on WCSG today while I was sitting in my car praying for all of this. I immediately thought of your post.

    • watching closely says:

      I heard this song, just today, coming home from work. Immediately my thoughts turned to you, to all of you who were scarred by DK’s sins of commission and by ABWE’s sin of turning a blind eye to the truth, a sin of omission. As I drove, I wished somehow I could send you this song. God heard my thoughts and here it is. I hope you take a moment to listen to the song. It is your song.

  217. A concerned MK who really IS on your side says:

    Do I grieve for the MK’s and their families?  YES I do (I’m an MK too)
    Am I beyond words to describe my thoughts towards pedophiles?  YES
    Do I think ABWE should submit to a third party investigation? YES!  And I support choosing G.R.A.C.E. partly because that apparently is who the victims trust
    Am I grieved by the repeated mishandling of this situation by ABWE? YES!
    Am I thrilled with the outpouring of support and compassion towards the victims and families? YES!
    I am I glad there is such a large cohesive Balngladesh “family” as a support system? YES!
    Do I believe the victim stories? YES! Even the “hazy” ones. 
    Am I proud of the courage victims display by telling their stories? YES!
    Do I understand what they are going through? NO. I was molested as a child by someone in a “power and authority”  position but my experience was in no way near the magnitude that was experienced here. My point is that I acknowledge my limited understanding / experience of your pain
    Do I bath this in prayer? YES!  I know many of you personally so my prayers are often specifically naming you in my prayers 
    I could go on but hopefully I made my point… I am a supportive person of the owners and intent of this blog. 

    Given all that I am compelled to speak up on one thing that has been nagging at me. On one hand there is great frustration and feelings of insult at the inadequate responses so far from ABWE… But on the other hand there are expectations that ABWE act immediately and swiftly. They did that on a couple occasions and didn’t have their facts right and was a further disappointment. Yet I see demands that they act and respond quicker. But if they do they are sure to blunder it again. I speak to comments such as “tick tock tick tock..” or request to have solutions in place in the next few days (by 4/1 on one request. I ask that people give a little room for them. They said they are working on it. Let’s let them have some time
    I think there are a lot of assumptions being made about motives. There is a lot of speculations about ABWE’s heart and motives. I just feel that they are not going to please you no matter what they do. I think they need time to respond more properly. Granted, there are decades of problems. Granted this blog has forced things to light, you accomplished a lot, this blog is seeing more success than seen over a couple decades. But this wake up call has caught them off guard and they can fix it in a week or two. I AGREE the best thing is to make their next step a third party investigation. But I don’t think a “bully” tactic is the best way to go. BY ALL MEANS Continue to request they submit to a third party investigation and write them letters and don’t let up. But I plead for the few of you who are doing so with a tone of what I perceive to be impatient hatred to rethink your tone and how you come across. Please see examples of your parents, “aunts,” and” uncles”. They have countless times on this blog spoken with great conviction and with strong words but in a tone that I think would be pleasing to God. The world is watching and I fear the few angry, bully toned posts will discredit and overshadow the many strong firm toned posts. I believe the majority of posts are appropriately and firmly stated but  10% of posts frankly bring dishonor to the name of God. And it is not the content or intent that is dishonoring, rather it is the tone in which I am embarrassed to be associated as one of you… An MK who has been wronged themselves. 

    I know this will probably infuriate some, being confronted is not easy. I just hope you listen with a humble heart. I support the “turning over the money changers tables in the temple” and i think this blog has done this. I am just saddened by the tone of the few posts that I think takes it too far. Of course I realize who am I to judge if your anger is righteous or not?  I am making an observation. If after reading this you are mistaken about my support please reread the beginning of this post. I think the best way to seek justice for our sisters who were wronged is to not shoot ourselves in our own foot with a poor tone as we go about it.

    • Anne Smith says:

      To “A concerned Mk Who Is Really on Your Side”,
      I do not agree with you. ABWE has had 40 years to think about what they are going to do. They should have taken care of it when the first incident happened. Here we go sugar coating it again! They should have been ready for this knowing the possibilities that it would happen. There are enough of them on the board and in the home office that know what has taken place for years. They have no reason to go back to the files and read. They are just wasting time. They know what they should do and are just buying time. Why? As it was stated before tick…tock…tick…tock. We all are waiting! The longer we wait the worse they look!

    • Diana Durrill says:

      To concerned MK who is on our side…I repeat:
      It did not come up suddenly to those at the top. They have been asked repeatedly through the years (yes, this includes Michael Loftis) to do what is right. **Within the last 12 months they knew full well that a storm was brewing and they did nothing but “batten down the hatches”.**

      • Kristen says:

        If I can add to Anne’s and Diana’s response to “concerned MK who is on our side” – It is not unreasonable to expect ABWE to act swiftly and immediately. All they need to do is tell the truth. When my daughter is caught in a lie, it takes but a moment for her to decide what she’s going to do. She either immediately confesses and tells the truth, or she delays, trying to find another way out. The truth is ALWAYS the easiest thing to remember, and would be the quickest response possible.

      • agree says:

        I think although the current administration has had time, I would hope they would take time and carefully go through everything they know in the situation before responding with action. It would seem that some of the previous responses maybe happened out of a lack of understanding all that had occurred under the previous administration.

  218. isaiah618 says:

    Just wanting to announce a small change:

    We are now taking a team approach to the moderation of this blog. You will notice from time to time that Phil Walsh will comment or that I will comment (Tamara Barrick Rice). We will add our names to our comments, so you know who is saying what.

    Just wanted to make sure the change is understood. It is simply too much for one person, and we stand united. So we will take moderation of this blog to a team level. If there happen to be any glitches in the system, please be patient with us as we try to fix them.

  219. Dave DeCook says:

    In the “Answers to Common Questions” on ABWE’s website, it seems answer #4 (“Was this a forced confession?”) draws the most dismay and outrage. If I put myself in Russ Ebersole’s shoes and read between the lines a little, it becomes more understandable (not more acceptable).

    Russ was faced with horrible accusations against a famous, charming, popular doctor whose name is inextricably linked to that of the mission. But he could not doubt the girl’s testimony. However, there were no other witnesses, so it would be a case of “her word against mine.” What to do? We have to make the most of the girl’s testimony. What format allows the least questioning of her sincerity? Of course, her broken confession to the Lord, which they had already heard and was very compelling and named Donn Ketcham! Nobody could doubt that.

    Russ’s goal was was the immediate termination of Ketcham from the field and from ABWE with as little fuss as possible. Ketcham’s goal was not to be tagged as a child-molester. They both met their goals in a “plea-bargain.” Maybe there was not a quid pro quo, but just an understanding (how else to explain the 22 years of “all quiet on the western front?”). Ketcham left without a fuss and ABWE called it “sexual misconduct.”

    “This, in fact, was successful” has a note of triumph in it. By no means were they assured it could be resolved so easily. What a relief that it was! It is easy to picture mission executives rejoicing for being able to dodge a very big bullet.

    We will never know if that is how it went down until the Bema Seat or an independent investigation brings the truth out before that. If that, or something like it, happened, then I say that the “confessor” was used one last time to get mission work done.

    • Diana Durrill says:

      Dave – I am having a hard time understanding what you are saying. I get that you are saying it was wrong. But are you at all trying to say you “understand” Russ’ reasoning? I am disappointed in his lack of spiritual discernment if he found any way at all to justify having a child sign a document of that nature.

      Why not make a report that says, “The victim reported these things…”?
      Why have it written in the first person and then have her sign it?
      I find myself unable to find ANY ability to “understand”.

      • Dave DeCook says:

        Diana,

        My point in trying on Russ Ebersoles shoes was to imagine how the deal might have gone down and seemed reasonable at the time. I think it explains why they used the “confession” format (which many have questioned) and I think it shows their concern was focused on DK and that whatever they did with your sister was convenient and effective. In other words, your sister was USED.

        Dave DeCook

    • Barbara says:

      ABWE leaders – Priority One in the 1980s appears to have been damage control and after reading the “Answers to Common Questions” I cannot help but wonder if those priorities remain the same.

      It has been said that the only thing we learn from history is that we don’t learn from history. Just look at the long list of politicians who lost very promising careers when they tried to cover up “indiscretions” so that… they wouldn’t lose their very promising careers. The future health – perhaps the very existence – of the mission may be better served in taking a cue from these individuals.

      I am, quite frankly, horrified at the answer #4 “Was this a forced confession?” Do you really believe that anyone who has read this confession for themselves will find it anything other than that? To say that she was “assisted to organize her testimony and put it on paper” … isn’t this just a loosely-veiled attempt to spin what must have been a gut-wrenching, soul-traumatizing, heart-shattering ordeal for a 14 year old forced to disclose the details of her most private nightmares to you?

      Dear, brave women who are finding your voices – I am terribly proud of you, horribly grieved for you and praying that you will continue to find healing and peace in the journey.

      Barbara Beikert Wyer
      Former ABWE MK, Philippines 1963-1973

      cc: ABWE

      • sad, but hopeful says:

        That was my exact response when reading answer #4. Thank you for putting it perfectly down in words.

  220. Jimmie Nusca says:

    My heart is heavy as I write but I have to comment. J and ST on Sunday morning told me about your blog so I came home and with her help logged in. I am not really a computer person. I was overwhelmed with grief and sorrow as I read of your suffering and pain. I sit here now the tears are running down my cheeks as I picture you as kids playing down in Hollywood Bowl. May our lovely Lord in his goodness minister to your every need. I am praying for you. Much love, A .Jimmie

  221. MK from the 80's says:

    Thank you so much to Uncle Joe, Uncle Dick, Uncle Bob and all MKs who are now doctors who have given input and also to Diane (Walsh) Ford who had the guts to just go ahead and rip the bandaid off. Your input has helped so many of us finally get ahold of what was done to us. Some of us have never really understood why we have certain issues. And when we would begin to wonder…well, it seemed like nothing compared to what he did to our friend(s). Now we are all processing this and you have been a huge help both on the blog and off record.
    I think it might be important to note here that a few of us did not ever have the “protocol” teen breast exams that our peers — on the field with us at the same time — had. But we were small-breasted. Someone told me once regarding these exams that small-breasted meant we were “safe” — at least from that.
    I just thought this might be helpful information as you look at charts.
    Thank you.

  222. Sharon Miller Chambers says:

    I know there are vicitms that can’t post yet as they try and processes all that is being said. To the ones questioning about no one seeing Ketchams face…well some do recall his face and what he did.
    Dr. Joe DeCook..don’t you think Ketcham used the physicals to start on the girls? He could then see how far he could go and which ones to continue to abuse. He became more crafty and confident.
    To all the Walsh family….I love you and admire each post that you all make. Since I was a young child at 1st Baptist in Allegan, God has kept us close.
    To the DeCook family..I respect and admire your input as well. My connection to your family goes back to 1st Baptist as well.
    One thing I would like to say is that while Ketcham was responsible for abuse of innocent beautiful young girls, the work of saving lives (spiritually and physically) by the rest of the team throughout the years was not in vain. Many peoples lives were tranformed. I praise God for the work that was done there. I continue to pray for healing for wrongs done there as well.
    I will not ever be able to grasp child abuse nor the sickening feeling I get when hearing about it. It is more devasting than most can ever imagine for the victims and their families.

  223. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    A lot has been said on here about tone and righteous anger and what is good and what is helpful or not helpful in the words we use.

    I just have to say, however, that most of the people judging the tone and the words of others have not had to deal with years and years and years of slammed doors from ABWE, of silence from ABWE, of silence from people they loved and hoped would come to their defense, of not knowing when the phone rings at an odd hour if it might be someone with news that their loved one–one of these precious victims who suffered terribly–has succeeded in ending her life.

    It has been said once before, but truly, truly you have not walked in their shoes. To some of you this is all news as of last week. You have not dealt with it and tried to get resolution from ABWE for decades.

    You may not have a family member whose life has been completely altered because of Donn Ketcham.

    So please think about these things before you call others out on being a little too angry for your comfort zone. It is not inherently sinful to be angry, just because you aren’t comfortable with it. Maybe that’s the problem: you have a zone of comfort. These other families do not have that luxury, as they’ve been living with these truths for DECADES.

    • Anne Smith says:

      Tam,
      Thank you! well said. They do not have a clue what we have gone through. I don’t even think that they could even imagine what we have had to go through as a family let alone our sister. If I could begin to tell you most of you would feel even more regret for trying to “Stick up” for ABWE.
      Thanks again!
      Anne

  224. Thankful says:

    “Yes the truth is gone, and anyone who renounces evil is attacked. The Lord looked and was displeased to find there was no justice. He was amazed to see that no one intervened to help the oppressed. So he himself stepped in to save them with his strong arm, and his justice sustained him.” Isaiah 59:15-16

    Very few who are writing on this blog know the full story/stories. I know some of what some of the victims and their families have gone through to be heard over the years and that it has been discouraging, disillusioning and defeating. Please remember, it took this blog to finally be heard by anyone. Some of you are defending people who knew (yes, even the current administration) and did not act. Susannah and friends have accomplished more of an “investigation” in two weeks than ABWE has done in 22 years (plus a decade or so).

    Some of us are just realizing that what was done to us by our doctor was wrong. Evil. Some of us were too young when this stuff was going on to realize HOW wrong until we had our own kids. But others of us, older at the time, have had a vague feeling for years that actual damage was done. So subtly, but so regularly that it left deep scars in those we love and even in ourselves.

    One series of exams my 8 year old sister had to endure left such a mark on me I wrote about it three times that week in my journal. Even as a young teen I could not help but think it was a total violation of her. It has disturbed me for 30 years. There were many more exams, but I think we later dismissed a lot because it seemed so insignificant in comparison to what others had experienced.

    But over the years, my sister has struggled with anxiety and depression. (Putting on a beautiful and graceful face in spite of it all.) And then, in her 30’s she reached a point of despair.

    I cannot describe to you what I felt when I heard of what my beloved sister had tried to do. I was so far away and I wanted to be by her side. I wanted to listen to her, to understand what was so bad that killing herself was so appealing.

    My immediate thought was that there had been more. More than just what had bothered me years ago. But I couldn’t say anything, not on the phone. Later, when we were together, there were a few times I almost asked her (because of my own memories), but I would find I didn’t have the words. And I didn’t want to pick at a scab that seemed to be healing.

    In the last two weeks, this stuff has finally come out in tears, anger, disbelief, grief.
    And I know my sister is not the only one who reached that point of despair. When you read the posts of our hurting families, please remember that we ALMOST LOST THEM. Praise God, He rescued them!

    Please remember that it is NOT just DK who inflicted the deep, deep wounds. Silencing the wounded just turns the pain inside. There is still so much that has not been told.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Yes. Yes, Thankful. What you have said is true and God’s Word must be repeated:
      “Yes the truth is gone, and anyone who renounces evil is attacked.
      The Lord looked and was displeased to find there was no justice.
      He was amazed to see that no one intervened to help the oppressed.
      So he himself stepped in to save them with his strong arm, and his justice sustained him.”
      Isaiah 59:15-16

      - Tamara

    • Anne Smith says:

      To reiterate to Thankful:
      I don’t know about your family and all that you had to endure with your sister but it sounds so much like what we have had to go through. Wanting to help her but feared that it might bring up more terrible memories and make her try to commit suicide one more time. The things I/we had to do to protect her from her own self. Painful to even think about it. I knew my sister so well growing up. We were like salt and pepper. Ketchup and mustard. Ice cream and cake. You get my point. I knew her so well that I knew from the first thing in the morning that she would try to attempt suicide. I hated that I knew that but God gave me that so that I could protect her. She knew I knew. She wanted me to stay away from her. Finally, I went to college. Things changed. I got married. She went away for a couple of years and we became distant. I was hurt. My best friend, my sister. GONE! And still after we would get the calls that she was in the hospital once again. This is only a glimpse of what we have/had gone through. And I understand your feelings and I sympathies with you and hurt with you. I am sorry that you had to go through it as well. Yes, she was so far away and there was nothing I could do to help her. I wanted all this to be over. And I still do.

      There IS still so much that has not been told yet. But is it our place to say? No! At least not yet! Or maybe never. That is why we need a third party investigation.

      Anne Smith

  225. concerned and praying says:

    Dear ones close to me have also been victims of sexual abuse, for which there will likely be no justice this side of eternity. I pray this for you, as I do for my loved ones, recognizing God is already moving in a beautiful way on your behalf…

    Psalm 10[a] (from biblegateway.com)

    1 Why, LORD, do you stand far off?
    Why do you hide yourself in times of trouble?
    2 In his arrogance the wicked man hunts down the weak,
    who are caught in the schemes he devises.
    3 He boasts about the cravings of his heart;
    he blesses the greedy and reviles the LORD.
    4 In his pride the wicked man does not seek him;
    in all his thoughts there is no room for God.
    5 His ways are always prosperous;
    your laws are rejected by[b] him;
    he sneers at all his enemies.
    6 He says to himself, “Nothing will ever shake me.”
    He swears, “No one will ever do me harm.”

    7 His mouth is full of lies and threats;
    trouble and evil are under his tongue.
    8 He lies in wait near the villages;
    from ambush he murders the innocent.
    His eyes watch in secret for his victims;
    9 like a lion in cover he lies in wait.
    He lies in wait to catch the helpless;
    he catches the helpless and drags them off in his net.
    10 His victims are crushed, they collapse;
    they fall under his strength.
    11 He says to himself, “God will never notice;
    he covers his face and never sees.”

    12 Arise, LORD! Lift up your hand, O God.
    Do not forget the helpless.
    13 Why does the wicked man revile God?
    Why does he say to himself,
    “He won’t call me to account”?
    14 But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted;
    you consider their grief and take it in hand.
    The victims commit themselves to you;
    you are the helper of the fatherless.
    15 Break the arm of the wicked man;
    call the evildoer to account for his wickedness
    that would not otherwise be found out.

    16 The LORD is King for ever and ever;
    the nations will perish from his land.
    17 You, LORD, hear the desire of the afflicted;
    you encourage them, and you listen to their cry,
    18 defending the fatherless and the oppressed,
    so that mere earthly mortals
    will never again strike terror.

    I long for the day when Christ reigns on earth and evil no longer has power here! I pray you and your sisters will find justice and healing.

  226. Mark Perrine says:

    Dear Susie-

    This has all been a big shock to me over the last 12 hours. I never really knew you since I was (a bit) younger and in Chittagong from 1971-1982 – but now as the dad of two young girls (8 and 11) cannot fathom how your mom and dad handled it. Nor can I fathom how you dealt with this growing up.

    I always looked up to Uncle Donn and admired him before I knew about all this. I really do hope that he personally asks for forgiveness from you and is truly repentant and hope he can be restored somehow. God can do it.

    Dave D- I find it so sad to hear what a great influence he was on you yet how he was living a double life. I can only imagine your grief. But your faith is solid like a rock and you have continued to influence me to be a better man by your words (and Dan’s, too).

    Susie- you and the others will be in our prayers. There is a bond we all have in our growing up years even if we lived 60 miles apart or were different ages.

    On behalf of my wife Darlene and I –we love you and will keep you close in our thoughts and prayers.

    Mark & Darlene Perrine

  227. An ABWE MK says:

    To the starters of this blog:

    Two things are bothering me.
    1. Did you first speak to Don Davis before posting the communication with him that he had requested you keep private?
    2. What were the efforts towards receiving an adequate response from ABWE before beginning this blog?

    • isaiah618 says:

      I did not start this blog, however I fully support it and its purpose. To address your questions:

      1. Was Don Davis contacted for permission to publish the documents?
      That’s between Don Davis and Susannah, and Don is a lawyer who can take care of himself if he feels he’s been violated.

      2. What were the efforts made with ABWE before starting the blog?
      I realize it’s very hard to read all 400-plus comments at this point, but if you did you would discover the answers and the testimonies in this regard. Take the time to do it.

      And in summary: It is my opinion that you are asking the wrong questions and are asking them of the wrong people.

      – Tamara

      • An ABWE MK says:

        Slow reader I guess, but I’ve now arrived at your response after 10 hours of reading what I had not previously read. (seems I still have a couple hours yet in front of me)

        In that reading I see that ABWE(various in and out of office) has not done what they should have done. In my defense, (*and I think I should be allowed to defend myself) I still wish an easy-to-find clear statement was made about what was done to try to get a response from ABWE before starting this blog. It is hard to spend 10 hours (plus all night long two nights ago) of reading and sifting to gather the story.

        Please note that defending myself does not mean I am your antagonist. It only means I feel attacked.

        I am not a BD MK and I’ve never been sexually abused. I guess that makes me an “outsider” whose words aren’t worthy to be spoken. Outsider. Ouch. Did none of you MKs ever experience being outside the group and the hurt of being told you don’t belong? I have thought that was typical MK experience.

        Back to point – I’m not a BD MK and have not been sexually abused. Nevertheless, fall-out from this has drifted onto even me. I’ve heard sin always hurts more than just the sinner. Seems it hurts even more than the sinner, those directly sinned against and the ones around them. It ripples all through the pond, and based on a few of the posts here (e.g. non-MK, non-Baptist), even beyond

        I don’t know Ketchum, but heard the name. What GARB or ABWE person hasn’t? I remember hearing he left because of adultery. It isn’t Ketchum. I haven’t had trust for “spiritual giant” types for a long time. It’s not ABWE. I’m no enemy, but I’ve also not been a devoted fan. It’s individuals. It’s learning that even with all my distrust, I have still trusted too generously. I have believed their words to me. If I believe the words I am reading here, (this is NOT doubting that truth is being spoken here, I think it is being spoken here) it means that I’ve been lied to. And believed the lie. And didn’t recognize it was a lie. Again.

        Regarding asking Don Davis for his permission: for me it is common courtesy, a moral trust thing. If I had agreed to keep a letter private I would be betraying my own standard to break that agreement without first speaking to the person. I might still share it, even if they don’t give their permission, but I would have at least talked to them first. But…, those are my personal standards. If I promise something and don’t keep that promise I have betrayed their trust. That’s why it bothered me. Trust.

      • isaiah618 says:

        Point well taken about a post that summarizes a few basic questions.

        We may see if that can happen at some point. However, it would be difficult to put the information one can gain by reading close to 500 comments, mostly from Bangladesh missionaries and MKs, into one post. For those who care about these people because they are friends and family, it’s worth the read, and a single-post, easy-access explanation just wouldn’t quite cover it. But we will give it a shot when time allows.
        –Tam

      • An ABWE MK says:

        I refer you to the fanda site
        http://fandaeagles.com/

        - When I went there in September – and again just now, it is easy to find the purpose and why. –Just now, I received your response to me in my email and had to come here and scroll up until I found the pertinent post.

        I don’t know who formatted the site. I assume it requires expertise of some sort. Maybe whoever did theirs can help, or direct you, or someone here knows how to do such a thing.

        Hopefully helpful

      • isaiah618 says:

        To “An ABWE MK” You are absolutely right! I formatted the site and I know as much about computers as I know about jellyfish on the moon.(Sorry, bad attempt at humor. I’m exhausted) I simply started the site with the passion in my heart to tell the truth. Now that we are expanding the team working on the blog, others are going to help organize it. Thanks for your suggestion!
        Susannah Baker

      • An ABWE MK says:

        Jellyfish on the moon, that’s an intriguing picture. Made me chuckle. :)

  228. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    Dear Mrs Eleveld, I am so sorry that my post of 3:30 at 8:28 am was not clear. I am certainly not defending Dr Ketcham. To the contrary. I tried to make clear how far from an acceptable standard of care his actions were. I have 5 experienced doctors on this blog saying a breast exam on a teen 13 to 17 is just not done on routine yearly physical exams. Nor is requiring them to be naked appropriate. Yet this was the what the girls experienced, as both they and some of their mothers have told us –(but how can your trusted doctor be doing wrong??) The mothers and the nurse confirmed to me that some of the exams took an embarrasingly long time to do, especially when combined with the teaching of breast-self-exam (which the 5 doctors also would not do in this age). Since Dr. Ketcham did the routine teen physicals (from before I got there), this was his protocol. I was simply trying to confirm to the victims that if they felt victimized by this kind of doctoring, we five doctors would agree with them. It was not their fault, and not their imagination that they had been taken advantage of. Dr. Joe DeCook

    • Diane Eleveld RN says:

      Dr DeCook,
      I am sorry. Somehow out of your post, I thought you were saying Donn was following hospital protocol. Sorry, I misunderstood.

  229. Mel Beals says:

    Hopefully, now is the right time to add my voice to the chorus of those who are recongnizing your incredable courage and williness to speak up and speak out as victims to your extremely painful experiences. I make no claim to know the depth of your pain and sorrow. Only those of you who were sexually abused can speak to this kind of pain. As a father of an abused victim there is a vicarious pain that is also a real pain. I suffer that pain for my daughter and for all of you who are her abused “sisters”. I look at the destruction caused to so many and stand grief stricken at how much evil one man can bring into the lives of others. Like a cancer, DK’s evil, sinful life has not only affected individuals but a strong (not perfect) mission organization as well.

    I have another but closely related point to make on what appears to be the blog’s goal to destroy ABWE. Please bear with me and listen to the “Parable of the Carbuncle”. (Okay, you won’t find it in the Bible and it doesn’t really qualify to be a parable since it is a real life story) Once upon a time many years ago I had a cabuncle on/in my hand. Over a short period of time it festered, grew, was extremely painful and finally reached critical “mass”. (You have probably guessed I’m not a doctor.) I went to the doctor’s office, he took one look and pronounced — we better deal with this now or you could loose the use of that hand. His next words are implanted in my mind and were grossly understated — “this is going to hurt”. First he lanced the “head” of the infected mass and then took up his surgical scissors and proceeded to cut raw flesh inside the carbuncle until each pocket of pus was opened and draining. I wasn’t quite on my knees begging for mercy but I was very, very close. The process was SUPER PAINFUL!!! But it was also very necessary. It was absolutely essential for healing. In a few days (with antibiotics) the hand was well and back in use.

    The point: The whole DK issue has been a carbuncle in the “hand” of ABWE. It has been there for years festering and causing severe pain to the victims. The blog is the surgical scissors that has publically opened up the pockets of past inadequate policies and very poor decisions and follow through. The draining process is going on and it isn’t pretty or pleasant. (For anyone, I hope) But as in the parable — this surgical procedure is not an end in itself. Healing, wholeness and restored function is the intended and sought after goal. Stay with me for 3 final points:
    1. The pain of “exposure” was necessary — the first step toward healing.
    2. When the goal of healing is achieved the pain also gradually becomes a distant memory.
    3. Like a typical sermon — I am now at the most important and last point — the hand was infected and painful but the rest of the body was healthy and functioning. That, of course, would not have remained so if the infection had remained, spread its poison through out the body.

    There is no need to deny the carbuncle poison of DK’s sin/crime has been in the “body” of ABWE. But we must not loose sight of the truth — the DK issue does not define the whole of ABWE. Then, as now, there are good and Godly missionaries, home staff and administratiors. To condemn the entire organization because there has been one extremely important issue that needed “treatment” would be a travesty of justice.

    The carbuncle has been opened — the goal must now be total healing not destruction of the body. (That includes healing for each DK victim as well) If what started as a worthy goal is allowed to be turned into an instrument of unrighteous destruction everyone will be turned into loosers or should I say victims. Who will sit on his throne of evil and rebellion and laugh? I think we can all guess.

    The rough draft of all the above was in my head and partially written when my wife called my attention to the blog’s call for the resignation of Dr. Loftis. Let me ask a question. We know Dr. Loftis extended a call to each Bangladesh victim to call or come in and meet heart to heart any time, any place. Has anyone done this? Without doing so how can you possibly think you know his thoughts and feeling toward you? If a call is issued from whatever source, are you ready and willing to come, share, listen and open your heart to reconciliation that doesn’t mean sweeping anything under the rug? I prayerfully hope so.

    Now I plead with you. Please respond to any “open doors” before you take this whole thing over the cliff and lose the very thing you set out to accomplish. I list those as; DK brought to whatever degree of justice is still possible, bad policies and decisions exposed and admission of failure on the part of those who truly failed.

    You started well and have already accomplished some significantly good things. I hope you see that it is essential to also finish well.

    We really do love you more than you can ever know and hold all of you as a special treasure in our hearts. ( All spelling errors are due to my wife not correcting me — had to go take care of her 94 year old mother.)

    Double PAIN

  230. Darlene Fidler says:

    We also were missionaries in BD 1974 to 1982 as well as sent by Newhall Baptist Church just as DK’s. We have been totally shocked by all of this. Newhall Baptist, as Pastor Mike stated above did not know about the child victims. Why AWBE did you not inform the home church or us as former missionaries about this? Perhaps our life would be much different now. Our daughter, who was not quite 12 years old when we left BD, moved from GR area in 1990, a very troubled young lady. She has since changed her name, etc, etc. If she was a victim, perhaps if we had been informed in 1989 when she was still living here, we could have gotten her some help – maybe now we will never know, as she has not communicated with us for years now. ABWE you need GRACE to help these now adult women who are hurting so badly.
    Kit and family you are victims too of this.

    • Rev Michael Eleveld says:

      Dear Dave and Darlene,
      Our hearts break for the loss you have suffered with Michelle. Only heaven knows the things that troubled this imaginative, funny, wonderful, girl. Thank you for all you have meant to us in years past. May God raise up believers all around Michelle wherever she is and be used of the Lord to lead her home. We love you.
      Pastor Mike and Diane Eleveld

    • Mike & Diana Durrill says:

      Mrs. Fidler –
      The Durrill family commits to praying for your sweet girl. We ache for you. We, too, have gone for great lengths of time without communication. I am happy to say that it is no longer that way. God can work miracles…we’ve seen it. We pray for her and for you. I’m so, so sorry for your pain.
      Diana Durrill

      • Diane Eleveld says:

        Darlene, since I’ve learned of this last week, I’ve been trying to find Michelle. Suddenly her acting out made so much sense. It must have been even more difficult for her to attend the same church Donn attended, and hear all the accolades sent his way (before he was dismissed). He was the spiritual hero of Newhall.
        If indeed she was one of his victims, she must have felt so isolated in her grief. I’m so sorry, Darlene for all you and your family have been through. We love you all.
        And Michelle, if you read this blog, please contact us or your folks. We all want to help.

    • Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

      Aunt Dar,
      I’m so sorry. I am praying she will see this blog.

    • Cheryl P says:

      Darlene, I must admit that Michelle came to my mind within the last few hours…before I even read this post. One can only wonder why she took the road she has taken. Praying for your comfort.

  231. Kari says:

    What an amazing website, guys. I’m in awe of all of you who spoke up here. To those commenters who still hold to your ignorance, and I mean that in the kindest way, you should know that abuse victims almost always minimize their abuse, not embellish it.

    Woe to any here who would want to further revictimize you using the name of Christ. As to those who beg you not to ‘betray’ the mission by bringing to light what what the father loves, Truth, please pick up your bibles and read the parable of the 99 and the 1. The Christ I follow made it crystal clear that protecting the ninety-nine at the expense of one is NOT of him. Do not allow yourself to believe that because of the (perceived)good ABWE is doing these marginalized MKs should hold their silence. It is a lie. I say perceived because I know very little of how ABWE operates but as a former mk of NTM I do know a little something of missions. And I know that what happened to you here at ABWE, NTM, CMA, SIM and others, the abuse and resulting coverup and the revictimization years later can not be of Christ. Instead it is about protecting the mission from shame and loss of donations and financial support, at the sake of all these lost sheep.

    ABWE, you would have gained more by giving than by hoarding. By breaking your hearts for these women and pouring out love and support to them. Instead you hoarded to hold on to your supporters and donors, and it is fascinating to watch how God in his timing brings about justice and truth. It must be a slap in the face to see evidence here that these MKs, the ‘living sacrifices’ of mission boards, have more wisdom and spiritual insight than your board members, and are being used of God as true missionaries to bring the good news to all those abused. God is for us, and he would not have us be silent.

  232. k. w.b says:

    I’ m glad to see that some of the Newhall people are writing. I remember when Dr. Ketchum got up in front of the church and said that he was unfaithful to his wife and asked for forgivness…..He led everyone to believe that it was adultry. That’s what his wife thought too, I’m sure. No one blames you Pastor Eleveld, he lied to everyone.. You were an awsome pastor and you led your flock wonderfully!!!! I will pray for all of the victims…

  233. Praying for you all says:

    Beloved suffering MK’s, I am praying for you all. May the everlasting arms of our Heavenly Father give you strength, comfort, and healing.

    In case you have not yet seen it, ABWE has posted the following. I pray that it begins a significant step in the right direction.

    http://www.abwe.org/news/article/abwe-board-and-administration-confession

  234. Mike Durrill (brother in law of victim) says:

    Dear Mel,

    Although I appreciate your post, I totally and adamantly disagree with your assessment that it appears that the blog’s goal is to destroy ABWE.

    If ABWE backs themselves off “the cliff” it is nobody’s fault but their own.

    It sounds like you are casting the blame of ABWE’s demise upon the victims of Donn Ketcham instead of an inept administration whose trust was in men rather than God. Please tell me that is not what you are implying.

    IF ABWE had done what was right in the 1970′s, and IF ABWE had done right in 1989, and IF ABWE had done right in 2002, and IF ABWE had done right regarding this situation a couple of year’s ago, and IF ABWE had done right a week ago instead of posting their utterly ridiculous responses, this would have never gotten to this point.

    We completely understand that their are WONDERFUL missionaries underneath the ABWE mission board. We also completely understand that their are WONDERFUL people working at the “Miracle on the Mountain.” And, no doubt, they are being completely and utterly blind-sided by this awful information. The FACTS that prove that ABWE has continued to cover this sin for a period of 40 years MUST make them wonder what else has been covered. It is quite obvious to all that the current leadership has refused to take the scalpel to the carbuncle because it would have been too painful. Unfortunately, now the infection has spread up the arm so far that I believe amputation is necessary. Yes, the rest of the body will be affected, but it will survive. For the sake of the victims, current ABWE missionaries, and the future of ABWE, it is time for the current leadership to go. (see Pastor Brett Boomsma’s post from Trinity Baptist)

    Love has not been shown and has yet to be shown by the ABWE administration to the victims or their families. If you go back and read the victims and their families posts, you will find they are crying out for LOVE. “We know that we have passed out of death into life, because we love the brothers. Whoever does not love abides in death.” – 1 John 3:14 ESV

    Why in the world would my wife, or any victim for that matter, want to get counsel from an administration who has covered up sin and allowed a pedophile to roam free????? Does that feel like a safe place for a victim to talk about these things? To even suggest such a thing is beyond me. Also, just so you are aware, neither she nor her sisters, were even at the ME conference to hear the “call” from Michael Loftis.

    Regarding your question: “If a call is issued from whatever source, are you ready and willing to come, share, listen and open your heart to reconciliation that doesn’t mean sweeping anything under the rug?”

    I imagine this will be the content of the immanent video presentation from Michael Loftis. The two responses ABWE has had thus far have been lies to the world. Until they tell the truth to the world then I would have to say, No, reconciliation cannot take place. We are ready and willing to forgive when the offender(s) are ready and willing to repent. Forgiveness cannot be truly given or received until TRUE repentance is made. The victims will know when the repentance is real, just as God does with those he saves.

    Our prayer is that the ABWE organization survives and thrives under a new administration that will commit to transparency before God, their missionaries, and the churches they serve.

    Your friend in Christ,

    Mike Durrill
    Pastor, Valley Community Baptist Church

    • Mel Beals says:

      As in all written communication there are misunderstandings and your reading of my blog is an example. Not necessarily your fault — just the limitation of one way at a time communication. Now we have ABWE’s confession on the blog and this is what all of us were waiting for. How we respond in return is really the point I was trying to make. ( I was not aware of this post until just a few minutes ago so I had no idea when this point of reconciliataion would come.)

      • Mike & Diana Durrill says:

        Praise God for ABWE’s admission. We are thrilled beyond words with their honesty. This is a great start towards complete reconciliation. Your point about one way communication is well taken… :)

  235. ABWE Board and Administration Confession says:

    ABWE Board and Administration Confession

    Dear Hurting MK’s:

    To our beloved MKs and your families who have suffered decades of sorrow and pain not only at the hands of Donn Ketcham but also from our mishandling of the abuse, we, the Board of ABWE and ABWE Administration ask for your forgiveness.

    The Board and Administration of ABWE have spent hours reading your stories and comments, listening to the personal testimonies of some who have had first-hand knowledge of the field through the years, and searching for anything that could shed light on the actions taken by ABWE. The information is clear, and we are heartsick at what we have seen and heard.

    So to each of you, dear ones, who through no fault of your own continue to live with the pain of the consequences, we ask for your forgiveness. Though we cannot ask forgiveness for the sins of others, we do humbly and sincerely ask for your forgiveness for our sins.

    Concerns regarding Donn Ketcham’s repeated inappropriate behavior with the opposite sex on the field could have resulted in his termination as early as 1975, but continued indiscretions should have resulted in dismissal no later than 1985. Regrettably, we did not terminate him as a missionary but rather gave repeated opportunities for counseling and remediation which allowed him time and opportunity to sin against you. Please, please forgive us.

    A precious 14-year-old child should never have been asked to sign a confession. She was the one who had been abused and sinned against. This was indeed a grievous wrong. Would you please forgive our sin against you?

    No matter what the law required at the time, no matter what the outcome would have been, no matter whether it would have resulted in prosecution or loss of his medical license or not, Donn Ketcham’s pedophilia was not reported to either the law or the medical boards of any state. This was wrong. It was failure of the most serious kind. There should have been an immediate filing of reports and an on-going attempt to pursue giving the truth to appropriate authorities from 1989 to the present. This failure is simply inexcusable. It seems too much to ask, but we must ask… will you forgive us?

    Knowing Donn Ketcham’s propensity to lie, we were foolish to allow him to make his confession to his sending pastor without a representative from ABWE being present. We also did not name his crime of pedophilia in our letter to supporting churches. This enabled Donn Ketcham to reveal only what he chose to reveal. Consequently, he was able to hide the ultimate crime of pedophilia from his sending church. This was so wrong. Please, forgive us.

    Once the pedophilia became known in 1989, no comprehensive investigation was done to determine if there were additional victims. This was inexcusable. After learning of additional victims in 2002, an investigation was begun but never completed. This was wrong. Please forgive us for this failure.

    It is obvious that our leadership was greatly concerned for sparing Donn Ketcham’s family any additional public disgrace, but such concern came at the high cost of ignoring the needs of the innocent MKs and others who had suffered at his hands. While it may be considered gracious by some to have handled it discreetly, it was not gracious or compassionate towards those who were sinned against by him. It was wrong, so very wrong. We failed you. We hurt you. We are ashamed. It seems incomprehensible to even suggest that you forgive us in light of all we know now; but we must ask, if you could find it in your hearts, to please, please forgive us.

    Dear ABWE MKs and families, please do not think that we now believe the matter is settled simply because we have taken ownership of our wrongs against you. This matter is not settled. It is only a first step in the right direction. There are more steps to be taken. While we will never be able to make it all right, we are committed to redressing the wrongs and making right what we can. We desire to see your faces and hear your voices. We desire to voice our apologies to you face to face and are willing to meet with any of you, anytime, in a safe setting acceptable to you.

    We want to be both public and private in our apologies to each of you. That is why we are sharing this first on the blog, publicly. But we also want to be personal, specific and individual in our apologies, and so we hope with all our hearts that you will give us the opportunity to ask for your forgiveness face to face.

    Dear ABWE MKs, we long to be reconciled to you. We want to do what we can to move forward together toward healing and growth. To this end we will pray and labor.

    With contrite spirit and with love,
    The Board and Administration of ABWE

    • Sharon Miller Chambers says:

      May the Holy Spirit fill each heart as they read this. This blog has accomplished what so many thought would not happen. The first layer is being peeled back. May God continue to work in the hearts of his children. Like ABWE said this is the first step. Only the victims know what it will take to continue the process. I can only pray that this is the beginning of a healing process that God is in control of. I am still humbling praying before the Lord for everyone involved.

    • isaiah618 says:

      This is good news. I like the part that says “this matter is not settled” because that gives me hope that there is still more healing that can take place, and I believe ABWE knows that now. This is a good day. To all those who wrote to ABWE on behalf of the MKs and their families, thank you, thank you, thank you. And to all those inside ABWE who fought for this confession, thank you too. You have done a mighty deed. An enormous step in the right direction. THANK YOU!

      – Tamara Barrick Rice

      • Deborah Barrick Beddoe says:

        I echo all of my sister’s thanks. This confession sets aside the “lawyering” and gets to the heart. Thank you for telling the world. And thank you, Susannah, for getting us to finally talk about the elephant in the living room.
        -Deb

    • Steve Tower says:

      I am thankful for this response, an answer to prayer! Let the forgiveness and healing begin as these sincere expressions are rapidly followed by actions! May God’s name receive the glory!

  236. Mike & Diana Durrill says:

    Praise the Lord for a confession that clearly and specifically names and confesses wrongdoing! I am overrun with tears. This has been a 22 year long process! The past two weeks have been brutal with today being the worst for me personally. The pain and hurt I have experienced today is nothing compared to the pain my sister and my family have felt for 22 years. God bring healing. God grants forgiving spirits faster than you can imagine. There is a long way to go…but the best part of the journey can now begin. – Diana Durrill (with Mike in full support and agreement)

    • Rev Michael Eleveld says:

      Great Response Mike and Dianna! We are praying for you, every victim known, and not known, ABWE, and for the Grace of God through His people to be manifested to His Glory!

    • Also Concerned says:

      Praise God for this! Bless you Diana and all the many others who have fought so hard for truth. I pray for continued openness, forgiveness, and restoration. And for actions to follow words.

  237. March 30, 2011
    Dear Hurting MK’s:

    To our beloved MKs and your families who have suffered decades of sorrow and pain not only at the hands of Donn Ketcham but also from our mishandling of the abuse, we, the Board of ABWE and ABWE Administration ask for your forgiveness.

    The Board and Administration of ABWE have spent hours reading your stories and comments, listening to the personal testimonies of some who have had first-hand knowledge of the field through the years, and searching for anything that could shed light on the actions taken by ABWE. The information is clear, and we are heartsick at what we have seen and heard.

    So to each of you, dear ones, who through no fault of your own continue to live with the pain of the consequences, we ask for your forgiveness. Though we cannot ask forgiveness for the sins of others, we do humbly and sincerely ask for your forgiveness for our sins.

    Concerns regarding Donn Ketcham’s repeated inappropriate behavior with the opposite sex on the field could have resulted in his termination as early as 1975, but continued indiscretions should have resulted in dismissal no later than 1985. Regrettably, we did not terminate him as a missionary but rather gave repeated opportunities for counseling and remediation which allowed him time and opportunity to sin against you. Please, please forgive us.

    A precious 14-year-old child should never have been asked to sign a confession. She was the one who had been abused and sinned against. This was indeed a grievous wrong. Would you please forgive our sin against you?

    No matter what the law required at the time, no matter what the outcome would have been, no matter whether it would have resulted in prosecution or loss of his medical license or not, Donn Ketcham’s pedophilia was not reported to either the law or the medical boards of any state. This was wrong. It was failure of the most serious kind. There should have been an immediate filing of reports and an on-going attempt to pursue giving the truth to appropriate authorities from 1989 to the present. This failure is simply inexcusable. It seems too much to ask, but we must ask… will you forgive us?

    Knowing Donn Ketcham’s propensity to lie, we were foolish to allow him to make his confession to his sending pastor without a representative from ABWE being present. We also did not name his crime of pedophilia in our letter to supporting churches. This enabled Donn Ketcham to reveal only what he chose to reveal. Consequently, he was able to hide the ultimate crime of pedophilia from his sending church. This was so wrong. Please, forgive us.

    Once the pedophilia became known in 1989, no comprehensive investigation was done to determine if there were additional victims. This was inexcusable. After learning of additional victims in 2002, an investigation was begun but never completed. This was wrong. Please forgive us for this failure.

    It is obvious that our leadership was greatly concerned for sparing Donn Ketcham’s
    family any additional public disgrace, but such concern came at the high cost of ignoring the needs of the innocent MKs and others who had suffered at his hands. While it may be considered gracious by some to have handled it discreetly, it was not gracious or compassionate towards those who were sinned against by him. It was wrong, so very wrong. We failed you. We hurt you. We are ashamed. It seems incomprehensible to even suggest that you forgive us in light of all we know now; but we must ask, if you could find it in your hearts, to please, please forgive us.

    Dear ABWE MKs and families, please do not think that we now believe the matter is settled simply because we have taken ownership of our wrongs against you. This matter is not settled. It is only a first step in the right direction. There are more steps to be taken. While we will never be able to make it all right, we are committed to redressing the wrongs and making right what we can. We desire to see your faces and hear your voices. We desire to voice our apologies to you face to face and are willing to meet with any of you, anytime, in a safe setting acceptable to you.

    We want to be both public and private in our apologies to each of you. That is why we are sharing this first on the blog, publicly. But we also want to be personal, specific and individual in our apologies, and so we hope with all our hearts that you will give us the opportunity to ask for your forgiveness face to face.

    Dear ABWE MKs, we long to be reconciled to you. We want to do what we can to move forward together toward healing and growth. To this end we will pray and labor.
    With contrite spirit and with love,

    The Board and Administration of ABWE

  238. Brian and Anne Smith says:

    I really don’t know what to say tonight as I sit here in tears, as Diana has stated, and read the confession from them. My heart is relieved and I feel that another step in the healing process has taken place. Thank you from my husband and I for stepping up to the plate and admitting to us and our family. I sit and think of the victims (my sisters) and have to think that they are more relieved than I am even at this. I love them very much and I am so proud of them. Why them and not me? I don’t know! My heart hurts for them. But I thank you for coming out publicly and privately and Admitting your wrong. Thank you!

  239. Barbara Beikert Wyer says:

    >>> And to all those inside ABWE who fought for this confession, thank you too. You have done a mighty deed.

    Yes – thank you.
    I wait with hope for healing action to follow these words.

  240. Rebecca says:

    What a marvelous testimony to the power of the Holy Spirit. To all of the courageous women who pushed and pushed through this blog, you have done a tremendous ministry and work for the health of ABWE. God will continue to use it for your healing, theirs and all of us who have had the privilege and honor of standing with you in prayer and emails these past few days.

    May God continue to bless you all!

  241. Pam Green says:

    Praise God from Whom all Blessing Flow. Thank you ABWE for coming forth and providing a much needed apology. To Mike, Diana, and all the MK’s who have shown us what it means to confront, and understand that “the truth will truly set you free.” What a Godly example you have been to all of us as we have read, cried, and prayed for the beginning of healing. We love you and continue to pray for many more steps in the healing process.

  242. Eunice Worden says:

    I have been watching this blog for many days. Having been in Christian work for 50 years this blog has helped to restore my faith in Christian workers. This was clearly demonstrated by ABWE’s apology and open contriteness. I have known some of those involved and also the Ketcham family. I trust many will be helped and restored. This should cause all of us to realize that honesty is still the best policy and what He honors. May God continue to bless and we know that His Grace is sufficient. Looking forward to greater blessings in the days ahead.

  243. Thank you, press on! says:

    Thank you, moderators, MK’s, family members, and the BD aunts and uncles who stand with your girls and their families. Thank you missionaries and church members. Thank you for persistence and I will pray for endured strength as you move forward and as ABWE is taking the first steps to do right. I feel like I can sleep tonight. I am so glad you are starting to see things move in the right direction.

  244. Joe and Joyce DeCook says:

    Sharon Miller Chambers says:
    March 30, 2011 at 4:49 pm

    Dr. Joe DeCook..don’t you think Ketcham used the physicals to start on the girls? He could then see how far he could go and which ones to continue to abuse. He became more crafty and confident.
    Answer: No, Sharon, some moms think he started earlier than that, and I tend to agree.When you are the trusted doctor on the field, you get to see all ages for all kinds of reasons and illnesses, in all states of dress and undress. Dr. Joe DeCook

  245. Tara Greenacre Ficher (MK) says:

    I am cautiously relieved and thankful for ABWE taking the first step to acknowledging their fault in all of this. I think we can only hope and pray that ABWE will continue to do what is right for the victims and their families, as well as making sure something like this NEVER happens again.

    Although forgiveness is key.. may we never forget. May we always guard our hearts, and our families.

    Praying for all of you and for the start of true healing.

  246. Mike & Diana Durrill says:

    I have been made aware tonight that I have deeply offended a newly found MK sister. By calling out her father publicly she has been hurt, understandably so. I seek her forgiveness and desire to honor her wishes. She has asked me to remove my posts about her dad and I am happy to do so. Jess Eaton and I have a lot of talking to do and I look forward to giving him a call in the morning. I hope, that if not tomorrow, shortly thereafter I can return to the blog and post that I was sorely mistaken about his character. His daughter has shared information with me that, while not new to me, demands I go back and hear his side of the story again. I was also able to share with her some of the reasons why I said what I said in my post to her father. I hope she can understand where I am coming from and grant me the time I need to dialogue with her dad.

    I commit to her, and to all who read this blog, that if I was mistaken about my comments to Jess Eaton, I will publicly ask his forgiveness. And I commit to sharing with all of you that if there were legitimate offenses made toward my family, I will, in the end, share that restoration and forgiveness have taken place. I am sure that both members of my family and Jess Eaton desire for complete forgiveness to be the final outcome.

    Diana Durrill

    • isaiah618 says:

      Per Diana Durrill’s request, I have removed all comments (and follow up comments) from today pertaining to Jess Eaton. Their conversation regarding the issues that were discussed here today will continue in private. The moderators apologize for posts from other parties that were removed because they mentioned this conversation.
      Thanks.
      – Tamara

      • Proud BBC graduate says:

        Tamara,

        If you are able to remove posts, may I suggest that you remove or correct the post that states that there is a dorm at BBC-PA named after DK?!!!!! That is a serious accusation and either malicious or ignorant misinformation.

    • Brian and Anne Smith says:

      I too was made aware this morning that I have deeply offended one of our Mk’s. To that I want to publicly apologize to her and her father (Jess Eaton) for lashing out at you. I too understand how she was hurt and ask for her forgiveness. I will be getting in contact with Uncle Jess and discussing this in detail with him and will then ask for his forgiveness.
      As my sister said, “We desire complete forgiveness to be the final outcome” in all areas. I am ready to forgive and will to ask for forgiveness if i need to. We need complete restoration. Sometimes that means we need to be humble and ask for forgiveness ourselves. I am very sorry if I have offended anyone here on this blog and if I have I ask that you personally contact me at smithfamily1998@sbcglobal.net. Leave me a message to reply or a phone number and I will contact you.
      Ready for healing and restoration and to be able to move on with life!

      Anne (James) Smith

      • To: Proud BBC graduate says:
        March 31, 2011 at 6:55 am
        Tamara,

        If you are able to remove posts, may I suggest that you remove or correct the post that states that there is a dorm at BBC-PA named after DK?!!!!! That is a serious accusation and either malicious or ignorant misinformation.

        Actually – there is a dorm at BBC: Ketcham Dorm. I don’t think that it is named for DK but I believe it is named after his father. From what I understand, DK’s father was a well-known GARB member. I also attended BBC and know for a fact there is a Ketcham dorm as I dated a guy who lived there.

      • Proud BBC graduate says:

        I hope you note in my former post that I never claimed there was no Ketcham dorm at BBC. What I did say is that it is absolutely NOT named after DK, as was stated by the original poster. I don’t know what relation Robert T. Ketcham had or did not have to DK. Nor do I really care. I only wrote to state that since this blog is pushing for truth (which I totally support), then untruths (intentional or otherwise) should be pointed out (as many have been quick to do in other areas). A quick look at the website of BBC will show that the dorm is named after Robert Ketcham. I cut and pasted this part below.

        History of Ketcham
        Dr. Robert Ketcham actively served the Lord both as president of the General Association of Regular Baptist Churches, and an active trustee of Baptist Bible Seminary. Dr. Ketcham is remembered as a favorite BBS chapel speaker. Ketcham Hall is named in his honor.

        Please note I am NOT looking for an argument, just for the truth.

  247. Kenneth Petersen, MD says:

    After reading the blog postings, my first thought was, “What more could I say that would be helpful”. There is safety in being quiet—or in being anonymous. There is risk in writing—risk of being misunderstood, risk of motives being questioned, and risk of causing harm when wanting to help.

    Who I am not: I am not an expert who has all the answers. I am not a personal acquaintance of any of those involved in the Bangladesh situation from the 70’s & 80’s.
    I am not a woman (see later reference to this). I am not an MK (however I am a PK who regularly gave up my bed and slept on the sofa as a child when missionaries stayed in our home).

    Who I am: I’m a career OB/GYN who has cared for, supported, and advocated for women both in my USA practice and in third world countries where I have served. I am a husband of a faithful, loving wife (43 years!). I am the father of two wonderful daughters (and two sons-in-law) and now have the privilege of being a grandfather of four young granddaughters and one grandson. I am a born-again Christian (part of the body of Christ with you!). I am one of the Baptists who have been mentioned in blog-posts. And I am also part of ABWE . Since 1998 I have had the privilege of serving under ABWE’s Assistant Missionary Program (AMP). I have taken time from my practice and used my retirement money to make 21 trips to Togo and Bangladesh to assist career missionaries through encouragement ministries, to provide OB/GYN care to nationals (and missionary colleagues), and to help fulfill the mandate we all have from Christ—the Great Commission.

    I truly love missions, I love missionaries, I love MK’s, and I love God. My motives in writing are to show love and support those who have been victims and to hopefully help bring healing. Bringing healing is what my whole career has been about. If anything I say seems to suggest anything else, it is not my intent and I beg your forgiveness.

    There appears to be two motives of the Bangladesh victims and others who are writing—justice as well as healing. I am not going to address the justice part—not that I don’t believe it is important or indicated. I honestly don’t have answers on how that can best be accomplished and will leave that question to others. If I have any expertise from 40 years of medical practice, it has been in helping with the healing process in women who have shared with me their hurts—physical, marital, emotional, and spiritual.

    Over the years I have often been told by women, “you can’t understand because you’re a male”—examples are pain of childbirth, dysmenorrhea (menstrual cramps), menorrhagia (heavy periods), or menopausal symptoms. Each time I admitted that no I really couldn’t; however by listening, caring, and providing compassionate care I was able to meet the needs of my patients. In this traumatic situation those of us who were not there and did endure the devastating pain and humiliation can truly understand the ongoing problems of the victims. In my medical practice, dealing with a patient who has ongoing pain is one of the most difficult problems I face. I tell my patients that hopefully, I can find the etiology of the pain and then find an answer to eliminate or at least alleviate it. Sometime I can find the etiology however am unable alleviate the pain. Other times I can’t even find the etiology, however can still attempt to alleviate the suffering. Sometimes medicine helps, sometimes physical therapy helps, sometimes alternative medical therapies help, and sometimes surgery helps. The most frustrating times and disappointing times for my patients (and me) are when nothing seems to help. When surgical procedures are undertaken for pain relief there may be tedious dissection to separate pathological tissue from normal tissue. While wanting to be complete in removing the pathologic tissue, in no instance would I want to destroy living, normal organs of the body in the process of removing the diseased tissue.

    Without defending “ABWE” for past or current actions, I do want to caution those who make sweeping accusations or broad generalizations. ABWE is not one small group of administrators with an advisory board; ABWE is an “Association” of Baptists for World Evangelism”. This “Association” includes over 1000 dedicated, Godly missionaries faithfully serving God around the world—many (including myself) whom have never met Dr. Ketcham. This “Association” includes me as well as a number of you. In my personal experiences with current leadership, I found compassion and help while going through three serious medical situations in my life and I am truly sorry that you have not experienced that. Without excusing what did happen, or should have happened from administrative personnel related to the abuse and aftermath, I am confident that today there is love at the home office as well as in the extended missionary family for everyone who is being affected by this tragedy. Hopefully the public confession of March 21 will help you to see that.

    Whatever is done to seek and obtain justice will not alone bring healing. A support group (including the MK blog) can provide information, show compassion and love, and hopefully help an individual along a path of healing. On the other hand, for physical, emotional, and spiritual healing ultimately this comes from within and can only happen with the loving care of our Great Physician who not only understands but desires complete healing of His children. I have had times where my integrity and very worth has been questioned. These are times that I cried out to my Heavenly Father to help me to love and forgive, while not becoming bitter or harboring hatred or a spirit of vengeance. In some long stretches of night I have received comfort by reviewing the attributes of God and then comparing my attitudes and responses to people with those of my Father. I encourage you to lean on the promises of Psalm 18—“God is my (your) strength, my rock, my fortress, my deliverer, my refuge, my salvation, my rescuer, my rewarder, my support, my light, my shield, my navigator, my enabler, my trainer, my sustainer, my armor, my help, my avenger, MY GOD, MY SAVIOR!”

    There are a couple of resources I would strongly encourage. One is Hope Again (especially the chapter, “When life is not fair”) by Chuck Swindall. The other is a powerful true story of forgiveness by Sokreaksa S. Himm, The Tears of My Soul, The Story of a Boy Who Survived the Killing Fields. Sokreaksa was left for dead in a mass grave with his murdered family in Cambodia. His life passion was to hunt down those who killed his family and kill them. As God reached down and saved his soul and over time healed his emotional wounds, Sokreaksa’s passion changed to a desire to return to Cambodia and find the murderers—not to kill them, but to bring gifts and personally tell them that he had forgiven them. He was able to do this—even though the murderers showed little or no remorse. This set Sokreaksa free from his burden and provided lasting peace and joy in his life.

    I pray earnestly that that my words have not been misunderstood. God is a God of justice and I desire that justice be served where appropriate. The one comfort (and also challenge) that we each have is knowing that ultimately each of us will give account to God for our relationship to Him and secondly for our relationship to others (love vs. hate, care vs. harm, truth vs. deceit, purity vs. immorality, etc.) Ultimately justice will prevail. Even though I don’t know most of you personally, as a fellow believer, I am your brother in the faith. I love each of you and pray that you will be made whole—for the glory of God.

  248. Cheryl P says:

    So much could be said as to how I’ve felt for the past day and a half after reading of this nightmare that has gone on for decades. I have been overwhelmed at the pain you girls (now women) have endured and the battle you have engaged in so that FINALLY some justice and healing can begin. The letter posted recently on ABWE’s web page…for the whole world to read… is a wonderful thing and an answer to prayer. It is the beginning. There is so much more to be done on behalf of you brave victims and your families and it is my prayer that this letter will encourage you to know that your fight for truth to be revealed has been worth it. When I close my eyes I see each one of your faces as little girls….so full of life and fun…so willing to chase after 2 little boys that had waaay too much energy during FC meetings. I cannot begin to tell you the pain I feel for what you have been through. It literally takes my breath away. I have spent the entire day on the couch feeling totally numb. I could not bring myself to read today’s posts until midnight tonight. I’m glad that I can now go to bed knowing that you have at least been acknowledged by the home office. Please know how much I care about each one of you. I send my love and prayers.

  249. Stephen Adolph says:

    I have been so busy and overwhelmed at work while trying to keep up with all the written comments on this blog. I have been able to email Susie privately to encourage her but haven’t done so openly. So much has been quiet for so long… My heart goes out to each one abused by Dr. Ketcham.
    Susie, thank you for having the strength and courage to bring up such a difficult subject that is rarely brought to light. You and everyone else that has been abused and humiliated at such a young age by such horrible crimes will be in my thoughts and prayers.
    Phil, This may not be the place for this but you and your family are in my prayers too. I will write more later.
    I just wanted to make sure everyone knows I am in full support of all my hurting MK sisters. You are in my prayers. I also want my sisters and family to know I love them dearly. Thank you for coming forward and sharing your stories so we in some way can help you keep going and share in your grief and pain. Wow what a BIG BD family we have here. Then you think God’s Family is Soooo Much Bigger!
    More to come.
    In Christ’s Love and Prayers,
    Stephen Adolph

  250. Mary LeCouteur says:

    I was among the first to receive notice of this blog 16 days ago and am ashamed that it has taken me this long to put forth an entry. I want to affirm my deep love for this 14 year old MK, who was so tragically robbed of her childhood innocence, and her siblings & family, as well as, all the other MK’s, who have ever been apart of this Bangladesh field – some of whom I have met personally, and many others I have not. I want to thank you for