Forcing the “confession of adultery” from a 14-year-old victim is nothing if not spiritual abuse. Note that a trained Christian counselor hired by ABWE forced this upon her.
A wise participant in this blog once gave us this quote and we give it to you again now:
“Let’s be clear again: Not all strong Christian leaders are abusive, nor are all spiritual systems abusive. It’s also possible that healthy leaders and spiritual systems can sometimes, unintentionally, treat people in hurtful ways. There is no such thing as a perfect family or church where people don’t ever get hurt. But the difference between an abusive system and a non-abusive system is that while hurtful behaviors might happen in both, it is not permissible to talk about problems, hurts, and abuses in the abusive system. Hence, there is no healing and restoration after the wound has occurred, and the victim is made to feel at fault for questioning or pointing out the problem.”
– Jeff Van Vonderen & David Johnson, The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse
Please feel free to discuss spiritual abuse of sexual abuse victims and the forced confession of the 14-year-old here.