Susie Beals Baker/ My Story

I am hoping that by being the first to share my story I will encourage other women to come forward.  I know that the survivor Dr. Ketcham was caught molesting is waiting to post until others speak up.  She wants to be absolutely sure that others will believe her and not condemn her even though we have Dr. Ketcham’s written confession in our possession.  The date on it clearly shows that she was only 14.  That breaks my heart.  It also breaks my heart that the mission leaders at that time required her, a child, to sign a written “confession” as well.  We have a copy of that as well.

My memories have come back in the form of nightmares and “fragmented” memories that have taken me several years of counseling to put together all the pieces.  I believe I was drugged with some kind of temporary amnesia inducing drug(date rape type drug) because all my memories include getting an injection of some sort from Dr. Ketcham.  I have been told that those kinds of drugs were readily available in the hospital pharmacy.  I do not feel comfortable sharing the details of my memories but I hope others will believe me anyway.  The memories I do have all have one thing in common; being alone with Dr. Ketcham for a short period of time and receiving an injection of some type.

I hope that others will be believed when they come forward even if all they say is ” I to was molested by Dr. Ketcham, but don’t feel comfortable sharing the details publicly. ” Please remember, this is not an easy subject to talk about, especially if you are one of the survivors and feel that you have not been believed until now.  For those of you who do not know Dr. Ketcham, he is an extremely intelligent and cunning man who if anyone could pull off something like this without being discovered, he could.  Another point to remember;molestation can take place in a few minutes, it doesn’t have to be hours alone with a perpetrator for a crime to occur.

Susannah Baker

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About Bangladesh MKs Speak

We are a group of American former missionary kids (MKs) who lived in Bangladesh while Donn Ketcham worked as a missionary doctor there with the mission agency Association of Baptists for World Evangelism (ABWE) out of Harrisburg, Pennsylvania.
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57 Responses to Susie Beals Baker/ My Story

  1. Diana Durrill says:

    Susannah,

    You are a brave woman. Thank you for courageously sharing your story. Brace yourself for personal attack but know that an army of loving support surrounds you, most importantly the army of God. There is no doubt that this is spiritual warfare on a grand scale and the Enemy and his demons are at work. God will prevail for He has already won the victory.

    We love you and encourage you in Him. We are here for you.

    Diana Durrill

  2. Tamara Barrick Rice says:

    Thank you for being the first to share your story, Susannah. May God grant you peace and justice. You are believed and loved.

  3. thankful says:

    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
    This blog has finally convinced me to see a counselor. I have had flashes of disturbing nightmarish memory for decades of something that happened 30 years ago. Those few minutes have impacted my life and my husband and my overprotected children and my relationships with people and God.
    I shut down the memory as quickly as I can. But it comes back to me nearly every day. And I’ve never told anyone but my husband until this week. And, I have not spoken to him directly about it in nearly 20 years. Any mention of anything near to the topic of molestation causes anxiety and fear.
    DK was my doctor as a young teenager. He was a friend to my family. I stayed in their home. And yet, I have almost no memory of it.
    I would now like to know if there is a list of young women he molested and if the mission has contacted them. Drugged victims have recurring flashes of dream-like memory – that is what I was just told yesterday.
    I have been told by four different people (2 counselors) over the years that my life issues resembled those of someone who had been molested. End of conversation, end of counseling for me. I have been faithful to God, active in ministry, and yet struggling under an unresolved burden. And although i now mentor and advise others, I would have carried it to my grave but for this.
    I suspect every man of a certain age to be a molester. I have almost never left my children with my parents or in-laws. All this for one brief encounter that although what surrounds it is foggy, I remember what was done in a moment and exactly what was said to me. I just don’t see a face. I cannot begin to fathom what it has been like for those who have more solid memories. I need answers now and I need to be free.
    Another thing I do know, being a teenage girl in Bangladesh was traumatic enough and left plenty of scars. Men staring at you, surrounding you, trying to touch you. Some of us have spent years and years trying to bury and move on.
    I finally found courage just to ask a sister and a friend this week if they had been molested 20 to 30 years ago. That many years and we haven’t spoken of it. And this is between sisters and best friends- the easiest people to talk to.
    But now we are on common ground and it is not so unimaginable to ask each other these questions. We are struggling with the fact that he was our doctor, did exams on us behind closed doors. Some of us have been completely overwhelmed and are struggling with the possibility that what we had feared may have happened to us may actually have happened.
    Thank you. And my husband thanks you as well.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Your story made me cry. It matches my story so closely, even though I left out a lot of the story, for fear of not being believed, like remembering an incident but not the face clearly, that it is almost freaky. I am sad for you that you are also one of his victims but thankful that you finally know the truth. The verse that has been in my mind since all of this started is John8:32 “And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”. I will be praying for you. Thank you for being willing to share such a personal, painful discovery.

      I am sad to say that I wrote a long letter to ABWE 1&1/2 years ago telling them once again about my story and begging them to send out a letter to all the MK’s from the Bangladesh field who had been there when Dr. Ketcham was there, telling them about the discovery that he was a serial pedophile and that if they had any memories, they were not alone. For reasons I can only guess at, they declined to do that. The secrecy stayed in place. Because of that, they do not have a complete list yet of all the victims but they know of at least 5 for sure. I am contemplating posting that correspondence to show that this blog was my last resort, not my first. I tried to follow the biblical model of going to your brother first, but ABWE obviously did not believe me when I told them that if they didn’t tell the truth, I would. I decided that 1&12years(actually much longer, but that is another post) was long enough to wait. Susannah

      • Marie says:

        Matt 18:15, states that you should “go and tell him his fault between you and him alone, if he shall hear you, you have gained a brother. But if he will not hear you, then take with you 1 or 2 more that in the mouth of 2 or 3 witnesses every word may be established.” Did you do that? Did you talk personally to Dr. K? Then you have NOT followed a Biblical principal and what you are guilty of is slander.

        You truly think that yours or others report are credible after 20+ years and all you have to base it on is foggy memories, that can’t visualize a face?
        If you are truly following Biblical principals, then you also need to apply what the Bible has to say about forgiveness.

      • [Susie wrote] I am sad to say that I wrote a long letter to ABWE 1&1/2 years ago telling them once again about my story and begging them to send out a letter to all the MK’s from the Bangladesh field who had been there when Dr. Ketcham was there, telling them about the discovery that he was a serial pedophile and that if they had any memories, they were not alone. For reasons I can only guess at, they declined to do that.[end quote]
        I am one of the MKs that was on the Bangladesh field the same time as the Ketchams – and lived next door to them – yet, I have never been asked by ABWE whether anything happened to me. Several years ago (can’t remember when – maybe it was after the 2002 MK Reunion), my mom did ask me if anything had happened, so perhaps she was asked by ABWE, though it’s more likely she asked out of her own concern. That was also when I heard about the abuse that was discovered in 1989 and the name of one of the victims. This blog is the first time I’ve heard about the widespread abuse and there being more victims. It is also my discovering of how ABWE handled the situation back in ’89 (or perhaps mis-handled it would be more appropriate wordage). My heart breaks for you. I believe you. I support you. May God continue to encourage and strengthen you.

      • Laurie says:

        Susannah,
        You are actually not bound by Matt 18 as Marie suggests. Marie, you should be ashamed of yourself. What Dr. K did broke the law–here in the US (his citizenship is here) as well as abroad. He broke his vows to “first do no harm” as well. If you know your Bible as well as you claim to, you would be commending Susannah for trying to get ABWE to do the right thing. Susannah owed NO ONE a call except the police.

        When the righteous fail to do the right thing, the wicked will prosper.

        ABWE should have alerted the police in the US, not just soft-pedaled child rape as “immoral conduct.” ABWE has admitted their failure. Susannah should have your loving prayerful support as a sister in Christ, not your condemnation.

  4. Anne Smith says:

    Susannah, and Thankful,
    Thank you for sharing your stories. As my pastor’s wife reminded me of the verse this morning “Fear thou not for I am with thee, be not dismayed for I am thy God. I will strengthen thee I will help thee I will uphold thee with my right hand of righteousness.” Isiah 41:10 And Also remember…”Greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world”. I, like many others on this blog and those who have not commented are praying for you. There is power in numbers in prayer! Praying continually for all the victims.
    Brian and Anne (James) Smith

  5. Cindy Adolph Smith says:

    Susannah and thankful
    Thank you for sharing, I know it’s not easy. I’ve always liked Isaiah 49:15-16 when I’m struggling “can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yea they may forget, yet will I not forget thee. Behold I have graven thee on the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me” It reminds me how much God loves me and that I am always in His hand, even when He is chiseling away at me-I can’t fall out before I am being engraved IN His hand. We are in a sinful world, man does evil, God is always good and goes through the valleys with us. One day we will be forever with our heavenly Father-no more sin, tears, no hurts!!!!

  6. Mike and Diana Durrill says:

    Thankful,
    We are praying for you…that God would grant you the courage you need to face this demon. We believe you and we confirm that there others are who are feeling the exact same way you are today. May God shine His light into the darkest recesses of your memory so the truth can be known. We pray for your family as they work through this with you. We pray for their full support and unconditional love. We love you so much! Know that the same army that surrounds Susannah and the other victims surrounds you. Like young David, you can face your giant in the name of the Lord and see victory.

  7. thankful says:

    Thank you for your loving words.
    I do want to say something, though.
    I have never felt like this incident was my fault. But I also blocked it from my mind until it became an issue in premarital counseling. I knew I was the victim of a pervert, I just didn’t know who. And didn’t want to know who because I did know it was someone I knew and trusted. That was frightening enough. What if I accused and was wrong? What if no one believed me? What if people thought it was excusable? Then I would be humiliated. And so, silence.
    But, if even for this one thing – truly blip in comparison to what these other girls suffered- I had been dismissed, hushed, made to feel it was somehow my fault THAT scar would burn still today.
    When I heard that a victim of unfathomable abuse was made to sign a confession of guilt, I was outraged. No, that is not the word. Intense anger is what comes to mind. The rage of Jesus at the money changers, and more. In fact, I say THAT alone was heinous abuse of a child. Medieval torture, really. Disgusting! Revolting! That people who would stand valiantly in defense of even the finest point of doctrine would exact such cruelty.
    Legalism, hypocrisy, religious abuse. “Woe to you, you brood of vipers!”
    “Do not be deceived. God is not mocked!”
    Someone told me once that almost every family that served in Bangladesh
    had at least one family member whose life was a mess. At the time, it was meant to be a statement of how Satan often attacks families who serve him so sacrificially.
    I hope this whole horrific mess makes everyone take a second look at their prodigal child. Maybe for some of them there was a more tangible reason. It makes perfect sense to me. “But for the grace of God” and His miraculous protection, “there go I.”

  8. Carepear says:

    You are so wrong. You don’t know him. He has lived a life worthy of the gospel.

    • No, indeed it is not. says:

      I’m sorry no one has had the courage to share the truth with you before this. I know it must hurt to learn it this way and that you are in denial. I am sorry that the hurt will only grow worse for you as depth of his sin is exposed.

    • Tamara Barrick Rice says:

      Carepear, please see my response to you on the other end of the blog. It’s actually quite clear that it is you who do not know him. Again, please go to what you wrote on the other side and see what I’ve said. And I challenge you, if you do claim to know him as you do, to defend him with your real name. If you believe so much in his lack of guilt and his full repentance and restoration then be a character witness. Use your real name and let us know who you are and how you know him and explain why a man who confesses on a signed sheet of paper to pedophilia wants to practice family medicine if he’s truly repentant of his sin.

  9. praying says:

    I am so sorry for what you experienced. I pray God would be glorified in this. Sexual abuse is spiritual abuse. We are taught to pray to God for protection. So then where is He when this happens to us as a child? He is there, He sees, He knows and He cares deeply. He is both a God of love and a God of justice, demonstrated by His provision of Christ’s sacrifice for our sins.

    Matt. 18: 5-11

    Whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me.

    Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea. Woe to the world because of offenses! For offenses must come, but woe to that man by whom the offense comes!

    If your hand or foot causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life lame or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet, to be cast into the everlasting fire. And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you. It is better for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire.

    Take heed that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I say to you that in heaven their angels always see the face of My Father who is in heaven. For the Son of Man has come to save that which was lost.

    ~ Jesus, Matthew 18:5-11

    The sexual abuse of a child is not a child sinning, I am not saying that, but those who suffer sexual abuse struggle with questions about God’s love and care for them, and are set up for struggles in a number of areas of their lives due to the trauma of what they have experienced. And in that way, sin can gain a stronghold in their lives for which the perpetrator is responsible. God cares very much about this.

    I pray for healing for those who have suffered, that you would be confident in His love and care for you, and that God would give you wisdom in bringing this to light for the protection of children today.

  10. I just heard about your group last night, and have been reading your blog entries today. It takes an enormous amount of courage to break through the dark shroud of secrecy and begin telling your stories. There will be some in your mission community who will not believe you, but I suspect many will; and definitely those of us who experienced abuse in other mission organizations believe you. And we would like to stand with you in whatever way you will find helpful.

    Warmly,
    Beverly Shellrude Thompson
    President, MKSafetyNet
    http://www.mksafetynet.net

  11. Tracy McLarson says:

    Forgive my ignorance, I just want to make sure I got your stories right.

    You were given medicine by a doctor, and you don’t remember something that happened 20 years ago.

    Uhm….you must have been molested.

    This is ridiculous, I’ve never met Dr. Ketchum but I have spent several years in Law. I saw this on WoodTV 8 and though I might check it out. I didn’t realize this is nothing more then a very weak attempt at deprivation of charter.

    You have no evidence, no police report, and foggy memories. You hide (yes, that’s what you’re doing) behind the veil of “painful” memories that you can’t seem to “recall” because of the “drug” that he “allegedly” injected you with.

    To top it off – you hope people will just “believe” you because you’re a women who was “abused” and can’t or won’t talk about it. Burden of proof? Who needs it, just believe me….

    See – this is what I would call a circus. I know with 100% certainty that this will not get prosecuted, however if it did, I would have loved to represent Dr. Ketchum. Because I would have cross sued the “victims” after I won the acquittal and bought my church a new sanctuary where God’s love can be shown.

    I do feel for you people, someday you’ll be called out on all this. Until then may God show you the Grace you can’t seem to show others.

    • John says:

      To Tracy. You are missing much of the blog. Click “Introduction to the website” up near the top right of this page. Then read the 100 or so comments from people that were there at the time.

      • praying says:

        Tracy,

        A police report, evidence and justice in America are hard for a child to find when abuse happened on the other side of the world. Sadly, the lack of these things does not mean sexual abuse did not happen. It is incredibly difficult for an abused American child to obtain these when abuse happens HERE. If you have experience in law, I’m sure you have encountered this.

        You’re right, this won’t be prosecuted. But it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen or that others shouldn’t know so. Families were still bringing their children to Dr. Ketcham. This matters.

      • Truth seeker says:

        Tracy
        You are actually right about this blog. They have repeatedly deleted/not posted contradicting opinions. They don’t want truth. They want revenge.

    • mombrown4 says:

      to Tracy–
      Wow, where have you been living for the past decade or more?? It is COMMON knowledge that adults who have been molested as children can repress those memories for many, many years! Oh, I am being squeezed with a burning anger at your comments. I have had two very good friends, who I have been through this exact experience. It has to be the most traumatic thing I have ever seen anyone experience, and I used to be an emergency room nurse. Molestation of a child crushes everything in them–their identity, their trust, their emotional health, their ability to have normal relationships, and I could go on and on. It is also common knowledge that when the brain is exposed to too much pain, either physical or emotional, it can literally shut down the pain receptors because it is overwhelmed. How could anyone experience more pain than what we are hearing about here? Why would the brain NOT react by shutting down the memories? You need to do some research, totally apart from this specific situation, and get yourself educated so you do not stomp on the already exposed nerve endings that these dear people are just beginning to feel.

  12. Tracy Needs to Read Dr. Ketcham's Signed Confession of Guilt says:

    Seriously, Tracy. Go back to the home page and read the man’s signed confession from 1989, then go to abwe.org and find how they admitted today they knew he was a pedophile. Or did you miss that part? You are ridiculous to come on here and mock victims, when NO ONE at ABWE is saying that these are lies ANYMORE. Do you know why? Because it’s all true. Did you not catch that part that says ABWE believes these ADDITIONAL accusations of molestation “are credible” too? You say you don’t know him. Good! Everyone who does and who is willing to name themselves on this blog will tell you the man is a serial pedophile! Consider yourself lucky. Go back and watch the news clip again, and this time pay attention.

  13. thankful says:

    You can verify the truth of this on abwe.org.

  14. Justice says:

    I have one question for you. If you were drugged how come it is that you can remember all of these details? After reading up and researching about this situation I cannot help but be hesitant to believe these claims. My question is if so many were hurt by this “evil man” then why is it that they took so long to speak up? Why is it that when they do speak up they do not have the dignity to do it in person, rather than an internet blog? Don’t get me wrong if this is something that is true and can be legitimately proven then by all means he should be punished. He has been my families physician for as long as I have been on this earth. He delivered me. You can say that I have a bias because of this, but I have never seen or heard anything from this man that would raise an eyebrow. He always seemed like such a genuinely caring man with nothing but good intentions. In all honesty, if i were to get sick right at this moment I would not hesitate to have him treat me. I have such confidence in the individual that he is.
    I will continue to pray for both parties in this situation. Lord help the TRUTH come out.

    • Cathy Creswell says:

      Justice, I understand your desire for both sides to be heard. What you are doing is called ‘blaming the victim’. It is a form of denial, a defense mechanism we all have when we are confronted by evidence/accusation of something that is horrible. I think I can answer your questions. I have nothing against you personally, but I do have something very much against denial and victim blaming.
      “I have one question for you. If you were drugged how come it is that you can remember all of these details? ” Answer: the drugs he used were meant to be short acting. He wanted the effect to be temporary. How could he explain to a nurse, a mother or father that their daughter is drowsy after a routine exam? He did not want to face questions of drowsiness, so he used a drug that would resolve quickly. He wanted the girls to be sedated just long enough to do what he wanted to do to them, then leave no trace. Their consciousness faded in and out, like coming out of anesthesia.
      “My question is if so many were hurt by this “evil man” then why is it that they took so long to speak up? ” Answer: They were young, trusting and drugged. Their memories are there but clouded by a drug that is widely known to cause short term memory problems. They had no life experience to give them knowledge of what was happening to them. Young victims are AFRAID to speak out against authority.
      “Why is it that when they do speak up they do not have the dignity to do it in person, rather than an internet blog?” Answer: The very sad fact is that sex abuse in ministry and missions has a pattern. The youth are abused and silenced with threats, or in this case drugs and hazy memories. Also, they were silenced by a conspiracy to keep this sin quiet by the mission board. The board WAS alerted, informed, questioned, pleaded with and begged to help and respond. They dragged their feet for years, despite evidence and pleas for help. This has been true of other missions as well. The shame of the sinful crime against these children gets hushed up by a horrified board.
      I hope that you come to the truth, no matter how painful, or disappointing it may be. God help all of us to come to the truth.

  15. Tracy McLarson says:

    Follow Up:

    After reading your responses to my post, I can only say the following, with the understanding that I’m not trying to cause trouble, but since you choose to take a very public approach to this situation it seems fair that people who disagree or have doubt should be able to address that with you in the same arena;

    Q. “Did you not catch that part that says ABWE believes these ADDITIONAL accusations of molestation “are credible” too?”

    A. Yes, as a matter of fact I did indeed read that – kind of. But they don’t quite go as far as you do. They say “While we HAVE NOT been able to CONFIRM these stories through our own investigations, the substantial commonalities lead us to believe they are credible.” Again, their investigation could not confirm the stories they were presented with, instead the stories were apparently similar enough for them to deem “they could be true”. (A very poor position on the part of ABWE, they couldn’t have ridden the fence more if they tired with that response.) A lot of things could be true – burden of proof however, even by their own standards, apparently where not met to the point they could call them fact.

    I realize that the tempting thing to do in this situation is to jump on the bandwagon and lynch the guy. But years of actual law practice tell me that anyone can make accusations, and accusations don’t always equal the truth. In this particular case, it’s all heresay. And that’s all it will ever be, given this won’t go to court to be proven. Dr. Ketchem did not confess to molesting anyone from what I can tell (he admitted a lot of other things, but I didn’t see “molestation” listed), nor did the paper provided in the “victims” confession include an age.

    I personally think you went about this in an entirely incorrect way. Airing this publicly with no “burden of proof” having been met nor any formal “conviction” of any type makes this the worst form of gossip there is.

    Furthermore, it’s unfair to say that Dr. Ketchum is molesting kids now, because there simply is no factual proof he ever molested anyone in the first place currently available.

    As for your thoughts on how it’s difficult to get convictions on molestation HERE in the US, you’re completely wrong on that account. It’s the easiest conviction the prosecution can get. A jury will convict people with a “better safe than sorry” attitude just about anywhere in the US.

    Sadly I’ve represented and won a few cases in which the now grown-up child recants his original testimony because he was force fed what to say by a disgruntled parent, police office, or prosecutor for adult gains. Sadly – even though these clients were eventually released, they are forever scared by the case in both public and private settings. They’ve lost time they can’t get back because of a “judge them quick” attitude. Although I realize that this isn’t the case here, it’s relevant to my point that US kids do not have a tough time getting “predators” locked up, rather it’s quite the opposite.

    This situation however, doesn’t even have a court transcript. It in no way rises to the level of criminally factual. Unfortunately, despite your rather public display of vigilante law – I must remind you Dr. Ketchum has never been convicted of a crime against a child in this or any other country, he’s never even been formally charged. To say or imply otherwise is treading on some very very thin ice.

    If any of this is true, if he did in fact molest some children – then the blame should be placed squarely on the organization and the parents. You may not like that truth, but apparently you had adults not acting like adults and because of that justice was diverted. A civil suit should have been filed against ABWE much like the victims of sex abuse did to the Catholic Church – thereby revealing who the predators are. A public blog in my opinion seems very much like something dreamed up by ABC for an episode of Desperate Housewives.

    Please understand I am not in anyway applauding or defending child abuse, I’m simply reminding you that if I ran a background check on Dr. Ketchum it would come back clean. Furthermore to say that you’re bringing this to public light to prevent him from future molestation leads me to wonder if that’s true why you waited so long. Why now, when he’s almost retired and 80? I understand you claim you had to have time to find and “rally the troops” (which apparently still hasn’t quite worked), but why not go to the courts or the press right away? What did you think anything good would be accomplished by continuing to battle with ABWE? What could they have done at this point? If you really felt Dr. Ketchum was molesting kids as a practicing physician then why would you wait on ABWE to do something?

    Perhaps you have some other motive in mind, that theory quite frankly makes more sense to me then your angelic claim of protecting others. If that was your goal, I can’t imagine someone worrying as much as you would wait 22 years.

    • pblawman says:

      How do you define hearsay? If I say that someone told me that Dr. Ketcham performed some sort of act, that would be hearsay. But for actual (or alleged) victims to say the same thing is not hearsay at all. It is testimony. That statement may be challenged, rebutted, or even discredited, but by no means is it hearsay, and I would think after 22 years practicing you would know that.

    • Cynical says:

      I am sorry for anyone you represent who has experienced sexual abuse. You clearly have no, or very little comprehension of the dynamics of this type of abuse or the way it affects it’s victims.

      Do you seriously think that if a person has a clean record it means they didn’t do it? How can you be so naive?

      The American justice system is not set up to ensure justice. Surely you know this! Many perpetrators are rightfully convicted. True, some are wrongfully convicted. But, MANY perpetrators are NOT convicted. Think OJ. The national jury (everyday American) is still out. He escaped criminal conviction but was not exonerated in the civil suit. Surely you as a lawyer know that civil suits are the only recourse the victims in the Catholic church have! It doesn’t take away from the reality that they were criminally abused.

      Additionally, I have no way (nor does anyone) to know the percentage, but I suspect that those who go public about being abused are only a tiny portion of those who have been abused. Going public is something few sex victims have strength for and for the very reason that you give here. They are attacked, accused, called liars. The violence of the offense against their souls is horrific enough. Seeing the perpetrator defended adds to the injury. Being called a liar for speaking the truth adds a weight that no one should have to bear.

      The web can be a wonderful thing and this blog is evidence. Because of this blog women are able to meet and share together and perhaps heal a little more because of the support they receive here, the ability to tell their story, the ability to learn they are not alone.

  16. Just Wondering says:

    I don’t directly have a dog in this fight. Our family friend is a victim. I have a daughter that is about the age that Dr. K likes to target, so perhaps that evokes some emotion in addition to the facts that have already come to light. Note I said facts. I do not contribute here in order to “jump on a bandwagon” as some have suggested, but rather to question why someone who is completely unrelated would choose to come here and attack the victims and defend the criminal.

    Specifically, Tracy McLarson holds himself out as an attorney who has directly dealt with these types of cases. I like facts too, so I have done a little digging. I cannot find any licensed attorney with that name. I have resources that, while they are not totally exhaustive, are pretty thorough. Some of his verbiage does not jive with that of an attorney, while it is close.

    Why would someone with nothing to gain, come on a site like this and attack victims? Nothing else better to do? Please move on, there are plenty of blogs about other topics that would love to have random contributions. This site is for support.

    Tracy, please read the posted documents. If you want to ignore the posts, fine, but there are documents listed here that shed light onto what happened so many years ago. These are not new documents, but exist from years past.

    • pblawman says:

      I just posted a reply to Tracy with a direct question on a very simple (first year of evidence, tested on every bar exam and expected to be known by any litigator) question about the definition of hearsay. Tracy did not even spell the legal term correctly. I’m a little suspicious.

  17. praying says:

    Tracy,

    I am not a part of the group who created this blog…just a reader, so please know my thoughts are not necessarily theirs.

    I agree that further investigation into the evidence available in this matter would be helpful. Somehow I don’t think it is has all been made available on this blog, nor should it necessarily be fully aired here. Having the GRACE organization investigate the matter would be helpful (although it will not yield a legal finding), as it seems doubtful law enforcement would touch it given the alleged crimes did not happen in the US. Christians tend to not file civil suits against their brothers and sisters in Christ, especially a mission agency, so that is likely why they have tried to work through this with the ABWE rather than pursue legal means. Perhaps in the absence of other legal options, they could consider filing a civil suit against Dr. Ketcham. It may the only way to ever legally sort through the evidence. But it seems in reading this blog what they really desire is an acknowledgement from Dr. Ketcham of the wrong done and an apology, not necessarily a legal finding.

    Our legal perspective is influenced by our experience. I believe you that there have been cases of false reports and testimony resulting in wrongful convictions. I have worked on the other end, where cases are coming into the system, and have seen time and again children who have been sexually abused where the high standard of evidence needed to convict is not available (physical evidence in particular), and a child’s word is not considered to be enough to prosecute, even if their behavior and other evidence indicate a very strong probability that it happened. Many cases never even enter a courtroom. It is not an easy road for victims to find justice, children in particular. So our experience and perspective differ.

    Personally, I take no comfort and place no trust in background checks. It means nothing to me that Dr. Ketcham has a clean background check….but I also feel that way about everyone. I have seen too many cases slip through the cracks. Parents need to be vigilant in their protection of their own children, not only when a convicted offender is present. Unfortunately, parents are often too trusting, and do not know what to do when a situation of abuse arises.

    I am thankful these women spoke out, and I understand it can take a long time to work up the courage to speak out, but I do wish they had done so sooner. My friends were taking their children to Dr. Ketcham. So while I recognize the writers may find healing in this process and change was needed at ABWE, that is where this hits home for me.

    I don’t think its a bad thing to challenge the avenue taken or to question objectives. You have raised the idea of a civil suit…perhaps that is warranted here if truth is to be fully exposed. I hope and pray the writers of this blog are able to find healing and that the truth of what has happened in the past would be clear.

  18. Dave DeCook says:

    Tracy, thanks for using your real name. And thanks for the lesson on the law in America. You shared some good information there. Those of us who have seen the justice system of other countries, Bangladesh being a case in point, give thanks for the amazing system of justice here. Presumption of innocence and protection of the innocent is central in our system because we know that the government will never be able to punish all the bad guys, but at least we can make sure the government does not do wrong by accidentally punishing a good guy. This value requires a very high standard of proof in the courts.

    You are probably right that if you were to defend Dr. Ketcham in a US court of law against the material put on this blog you would sweep the field. I don’t blame you for thinking this, because you are a lawyer and that is your game. But on the whole that is not what this is about. Hence you have difficulty discerning the motive here.

    Tracy, this is a family, a very big one. It is trying to figure itself out right now. This family has some very high ideals and finds them scraping up against some cruel bits of reality just now.

    This family was born in the love and forgiveness of God. All of us came to a place in our lives where we realized we were living “without hope and without God in the world.” We were lost in the darkness of sin and couldn’t get out. God sent His Son, Jesus, “to seek and to save that which was lost.” We have each felt the personal love of God drawing us to Himself and have come to see Jesus’ death on the cross as the real and personal fulfillment of the prophecy “The Lord hath laid on Him the iniquity of us all.”

    This not only changed the destiny of each one of us (“whoever believes on Him will not perish”), but it changed our hearts as well. Having experienced the greatest love possible (“while we were God’s enemies”) now “the love of Christ compels us.” This love of God at work in a person’s heart enables one to do crazy things like leave a comfortable and happy life in the USA to tell people in Bangladesh what Jesus has done to save them. Crazy things like forgiving someone who molested you as a child. Or molested your sister. Or molested your daughter. I challenge you, Tracy, to find a blog for victims of pedophiles anywhere that has more forgiveness, love and reconciliation than this one.

    And speaking of Bangladesh, this family is drawn very tightly together by shared privation, shared loneliness, shared language and cultural barriers, shared brothers and sisters among the Bangladeshis that expanded the family, shared joys and triumphs and sorrows. Why do I have so many aunts and uncles and why am I so fond of them? Why are my fellow MKs like blood-brothers to me? One word, Tracy: Trust.

    “I learned to trust at my mother’s breast,” said David in Psalm 22. The ability to trust is a key indicator for success in life. We move from “trust” to “verify” to “trust some more.” The sweetness of all our relationships can be measured by the level of trust. The effectiveness of a team often hinges on trust. Now, what would you do if a member of your platoon was caught poisoning another member’s canteen, making that soldier sick, and four other members of your platoon had the same symptoms? Would you investigate?

    The heart of this family is being torn at because we don’t know if we can trust the home office to tell the truth. We don’t know how far we should trust each other. Are people being adequately screened for destructive or deceitful tendencies? In how many areas must our trust seek a new level?

    I know there has been some talk here of legal action. Thanks for chiming in. Please forgive us for our ignorance on those issues. We only want to do what is right in terms of reporting, etc. This is mainly a family issue. This is a family that Donn Ketcham joined voluntarily, he could have left voluntarily, he knew the family rules and he made the most of his membership in the family. We all have to figure out what to do with that. It’s our family. It’s going to take some time, but by and large, we won’t be needing any lawyers.

    And I’ll thank you to never question the motives of my sister, “isaiah618,” ever again.

    • kay says:

      very well said. praying for us all.

    • Mark Rawson says:

      Dave,
      The picture that you paint is a beautiful, tender look at the inside where no outsider can generally see. And you give the perfect gospel message just like the consummate professional that you are. It occurs to me though that the grieving family no longer has the ability to keep this issue in the family. You see, the family feud has erupted into the streets, and the neighborhood. The children are running to and fro yelling “Our Uncle is a pervert! And the establishment is covering it up!” Do you really believe that this will be kept “in the family”? Quite honestly, it does not matter any more how tight your family is or who you think you can trust. This information is now public knowledge and you will never be able to take it back. Your family will never be the same. It stopped being a “family matter” on March 11, 2011 when Susie Beals Baker filed a lawsuit in the court of public opinion charging her “Uncle Donn” of being a child molester and the ABWE HQ of conspiring to cover it up. Very serious charges in any court of law. And then the inevitable “he said, she said” follows ad nauseum. If the children of a family were to run up and down my street proclaiming their Uncle to be a child molester, you can bet that I would reserve the right to question what they were saying. As I said, your post was professional and polite, but then you, in essence, told Tracy to shut up and not question motives. A poor choice, sir, for people who have taken their case to the court of public opinion. Believe it or not, questioning is what happens in court. Tracy is correct in saying that it would have been better to just file a lawsuit privately than to take it here. In fact, “why not rather be wronged? The fact that there are lawsuits among you proves that you are already defeated.” (See there. Anyone can quote scripture) But what’s done is done. Now everyone involved will have to live with the results, whatever they may be. There will be people who follow this story all over the world, not just in ABWE-land. Donn Ketcham’s name has been degraded, whether or not sufficiently enough I guess is up to these ladies. But I do suggest that they start providing REAL evidence for the charges that go beyond what has been documented and I also suggest that they, you, them, whoever provide real answers to those questions instead of telling them to be quiet.

      To paraphrase your own words, in the court of public opinion, I’ll thank you not to dictate who or what can be questioned by whom. That’s how the court works.

      Not that it matters, but I hold nothing against this group for all of this. Maybe we are just having a Paul and Peter at Antioch moment.

      • Dave DeCook says:

        Dear Mark Rawson,

        I don’t know if it was deliberate or not, but you clearly took the approach of the ABWE administration that the work of God is not to be slowed or sullied by a public airing of grievances. This is one of the main teachings that is used to enforce the “code of silence” at ABWE. If you love God and your missionary aunts and uncles and the lost Bangladeshis we are trying to reach, then you will keep quiet. The passage you reference, I Corinthians 6, does exhort us to “take one for the team.” However, I detect six misunderstandings right on the surface of your post.

        You do not seem to understand that this is exactly what these victims have done for the last twenty or thirty years, showing a rare degree of loyalty and restraint. The victims, it appears to me, did their job. They “took one for the team.” They stayed silent in their grief and pain.

        You also don’t seem to understand the effects of this crime. Sexual abuse is not like getting ripped off for $500. The damage is so deep that the longer one stays silent, the farther the poison spreads, the more damage is done.

        You also don’t seem to understand that we don’t care what the “world out there” thinks of this blog (beyond the simple goal of identifying Donn Ketcham as a pedophile, which ABWE failed to do). The idea was not to try the case in the court of public opinion, with you sitting in the jury box. If you read the purpose statement it is a forum for MKs. What this means for you: no jury duty! You can go home.

        You also don’t seem to understand that “take one for the team” does not apply to those outside the circle of offense. The Scripture that applies in my case is Proverbs 24:11 “Rescue those being led away to death.” The scene is the powerful taking advantage of the weak. I can shout out “take one for the team!” I can remain silent. I can commit myself to rescue. I choose rescue.

        You also don’t seem to understand that I don’t truly think I can stop anyone from questioning my sister’s motives and I am not trying to change the rules of the game in public debate. I am simply putting my name next to hers and saying I know her and can vouch for her. I am sending her (and the other victims who might be afraid to tell their stories) a signal that she does not need to be intimidated or put on the defensive. This questioning of motives is a bullying tactic that keeps many victims quiet. It is very easily done in cases of sexual abuse because it is more about power than truth.

        You also don’t seem to understand that this public relations disaster is ABWE’s fault, not ours.

  19. Tracy McLarson says:

    Response:

    I personally do not practice law in the state of Michigan, and it does not in any way bother me you can not validate my ability to practice. You, unfortunately do not validate me.

    Most lawyers – like anyone else, are a result of their own paradigm. I myself went into to law to protect others from what at times can be the over prosecution of the state. This came to be because I watched as a child men being over zealously harassed based on the color of their skin, while no “self respected” lawyer would dare represent them by choice, let alone fairly. I learned early on that I would willingly take up the case for those who seemed to have no friend, and by God’s grace I was he opened the path to accomplish that goal.

    While I understand this entire situation could be classified a “family” matter, it troubles me you would choose the internet and the news as a means to bring some type of healing. This approach makes no sense to me. It seems like if you wanted to put pressure on ABWE to bring this to light, it should have been done in the civil court. No one can brush of a civil suit once it is filed, ABWE would have to deal with the claims in open court. I understand what the Bible says in Corinthians chapter 6, I believe, about suing your brothers. But to me the point was that by doing so it brought shame to entire Christian Community and brought on judgment by people who were not believers. It seems the route you choose yielded the same results.

    Believe it or not I have better things to do then troll blogs, however I have friends in Michigan who forwarded me a link from WoodTV 8, and as I looked for factual information presented against Dr. Ketchum, I simply couldn’t find any. Again, it’s my paradigm that allows me the grace to put myself on the other side of the table, and it’s God’s grace that gives me the strength to voice concern for unfair accusations made by what to me could be considered unfounded facts.

    Everyone needs a voice, including the Dr. Ketchum’s of the world. I can’t find him commenting on these accusation anywhere, and that’s his right. However because it seems someone mentioned that people wanted an apology I guess I’ll ask if you or anyone associated has made any attempt to call him or contact him recently? To go to the brother first?

    I can see no winners here – it’s a very sad situation all the way around. I personally believe complete healing and peace will not come until we are all united in the Heavens with our wonderful creator, until then – I would hope we would do all possible to get along with each other on earth, and not trade an eye for an eye.

    I understand your desire to not have lawyers chime in, but I’m also a fellow Christian. My ability to chime in is only made possible by the very public way you presented this. I will be praying for both sides, and that the Lord will be glorified through this situation.

    • isaiah618 says:

      Thank you, Tracy, for your comments. I agree with you that this story does seem “unbelievable” but unfortunately, it’s true. Hopefully(if you continue to follow the blog or case) you will believe us someday.
      Susannah

  20. Tracy McLarson says:

    By God’s grace, I’ll continue to follow the case.

    Regardless of our different points of view, I know God will provide everyone involved the grace to do what Jesus did and to follow Him.

  21. Dave DeCook says:

    Susannah and Thankful,

    I don’t know if this testimony is part of your story, but it could be. It could also be totally off-subject, so take it for what it is.

    I have a definite memory of an event from the mid-70s when my family was in house #3 (I think I got the right house number). I would have been 12 or 13 at the time. One of the girls about my age (I don’t remember which of the 5 for sure) suddenly showed up at our house and she was not in the company of my sister Amy. This was a little strange and with hospitality not being my strong point, I felt a little awkward. Shortly an older sibbling came looking and calling for this person, “It’s your turn to see Uncle Donn.” We could hear them searching and it was like this one was hiding or taking refuge. She said to me, “I would rather go to your dad than Uncle Donn.” I was taken aback by the attitude of personal disgust, which ran counter to any of my experiences with him. “Why do you go to him, then?” I asked. “Because our family has always gone to him.” The idea was that Uncle Donn did their annual physicals. That made sense to me. Then they found her and took her away.

    I think the reason I remember this odd little exchange is because my spirit was uneasy and troubled about it. Maybe it just never fit in the folder called “Things you have to do even if you don’t like it.”

    • Cathy Creswell says:

      I am not a member of ‘the family’. However, as an ex-missionary I can understand many of your life experiences. I am truly proud of you for sticking up for your sister. You are a brave man of God, and she is lucky to have you by her side.

    • Maranatha says:

      Did Uncle Donn do all the girls’ physicals? What were the other doctors doing? Did it ever seem odd to anyone that he got the girls and they got the boys (if indeed this was the case)?

      And, just curious, is Dr. Viggo Olsen still alive? Wasn’t he there this whole time? Has he contacted anyone?

      • Maranatha says:

        …just realized my comment may have come across as an accusation against the other doctors. It’s not. It’s very apparent that everyone was hoodwinked…

  22. CathyC says:

    I know Rohypnol was easily available in pharmacies in West Africa back in 1990. I also assume it was available in liquid/injectable form. The street name for it is ‘roofies’ due to the mispelling/mispronunciation of its name. It was the first known ‘date rape drug’ here in the USA. It is not inconceivable that the doctor in question had it available to him. It makes me shudder. I am so angry for his victims. May he pay for his crimes and may his victims stop their inner destruction and torment.

  23. patricia says:

    I cannot (please note, cannot is one word) understand this saying, “court of public opinion”?
    LOOK AT ABWE HOMEPAGE ADDRESSING THIS BLOG. THEY WROTE AND I QUOTE,
    “Further, we acknowledge that it was wrong to withhold naming his crime, pedophilia. Not naming that crime enabled further injustice to the victims and also may have put other children at risk.”
    HELLO? HELLO? DING, DING, DING!!!
    * GOOD OLD UNCLE DONN IS A CHILD MOLESTER! NO OPINION, ONLY FACTS! Now grow up and recognize that your super hero is a damaged, broken man! Pray for the yahoo, he needs it! Pray for ABWE, they need it!
    *If you are still in denial about Dr. Donn Ketchum, as a pedophile, after having read the address from ABWE apologizing for not properly naming (covering up) Dr Donn Ketchum, as a pedophile and putting other children at risk, please seek professional help.

  24. An ABWE MK says:

    Susannah,
    I am in awe of your courage. I couldn’t do it, put myself out in public like you are doing. I don’t know if you are aware of this site. http://fandaeagles.com/ If not, you should check it out. I’m sure Kari could be of support to you in what you have undertaken with this site. Also, it seems that posts are going to multiply past ability to read them. Perhaps you can find out how they set up their site as I’m sure this one will soon be too overwhelming.

    To those of you who have questioned why people would wait so long to say anything? One reason is shame. A person can be told over and over, and rationally KNOW it is true that they are not culpable. Still, the shame remains.

    That is why I feel such awe that Susannah dared put herself in the public eye like this.

    Susannah, I hope that you have somewhere to go for support when you start feeling a little too bruised and beaten by the negative backlash that is bound to come, indeed has already come against you.

    To all those who could benefit beyond this blog:

    GRACE http://www.netgrace.org/
    MK safety net http://www.mksafetynet.net/
    There is the fanda site http://fandaeagles.com/

    Fanda is specifically New Tribes, but I gained a lot by reading (and some participating) there.

    Here is a good book — It is by Diane Langberg, who is with GRACE
    On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the Door to Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
    Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. ISBN 0-8423-4362-8

  25. Sharon Waala Ronan says:

    I am an MK, missionary and missionary parent. I offer support to the survivors of sexual abuse, their extended families and those hurt directly by the “cover-up”.

    ABWE did a great deal of damage in the cover-up — for survivors of sexual abuse, the cover-up damage seems as or more hurtful than the abuse itself.

    It’s time to call in third party investigators like some other missions have had to do and bring some accountability.

  26. Melinda says:

    Praying for you all. God is still in control!!

  27. Mark Rawson says:

    My sincerest apology for crashing your public family squabble. I truly did not realize that I was not invited. I will heed your advice and go home now. I will leave with my opinion and take it with me to my church, my work and my friends because, well, they do care what I think. Don’t bother replying, per your suggestion, I won’t be back.

  28. Cheryl P says:

    I am so numb after having been led to this blog. I am not an MK, but we have two sons that grew up in Bangladesh. We were field council members with Susie’s parents. We were field council members with Donn and Kitty. We were one big family…and when one hurt, we all hurt. I find that true today. When one hurts we all hurt. The victims and the one who abused has incredible pain I’m sure. Susie, you and the others have NO reason to lie. I believe you and I am so terribly sorry and saddened for you all. I pray that Donn gets the help he needs. It is sad to think that ABWE was more concerned about their image than about meeting the needs of their “children”. I would like to think that in the future ABWE will be more concerned about peoples’ welfare rather than their own prominence. I would like to think that Donn has gotten victory over his illness/sin. Even if he has, it is you girls that are just now dealing with your past and you must do those things that bring you a measure of healing. You should not feel ashamed. It was not your fault and I know it was not your parent’s fault that those things happened to you. A very sacred trust was broken by a fellow co-worker…they had no way of knowing. My prayer for you girls is that in time you will be able to forgive as that is what will allow you to function in a way that you probably can’t understand now. I know what it’s like to be betrayed. I know the pain, the anger, the shame and most importantly I know the freedom that forgiveness brings. I also know it doesn’t happen overnight. This “auntie” has followed her “nieces and nephews” over the years as much as possible…even when you don’t know it. 🙂 Dave, you have a wonderful maturity in what you have written. I think all would agree that this is not about “winning”. There are no winners here. It is not about revenge as I see it. It is, as I see it, all about the victims and getting them the help they need to live out their lives with a sense of renewed faith and justice. I can only now stare into space engulfed by a profound sadness. May God wrap His arms around you and give you peace.

    • Tammy Goff says:

      Dear Susannah,

      Just came across this tonight. We’ll be praying for healing for you! It takes a lot of courage to come forward with this kind of information.

  29. Duane and Linda Cross says:

    Susannna, since I read this blog I have asked God for special grace!
    Blessings and love your old teachers way back in 75 76
    Uncle Duane and Aunt Linda Cross

  30. Sharon says:

    Dear Susannah!
    I am so proud of you for stepping up to the plate and sharing your story! I know first hand the experience of being molested by an “uncle” and not being believed. I’ve been in counseling for 20 years and it still hurts mainly because I am not believed by the mission board who is aware of the situation. I pray that the Great Physician will bring healing to your life, and restore the years that the locusts have eaten. God will reward you for opening yourself up and being so vulnerable! Love you! An old roomie!

  31. Stephen Adolph says:

    Our family has been abused by Donn Ketcham and his terrible ways. This has had a dark and terrible impact in our Personal Family and Mission Family lives.

    ABWE has made to many mistakes in this battle for me to be comfortable with them dealing with Donn Ketcham and each precious victim any more. No more tries. They need to use an Outside team to investigate this more closely to give those hurt and torn apart a chance at the truth.

    ABWE Please use an outside source for an investigation. I have not researched who would be the appropriate choice BUT MY TRUST goes To Susie Baker (Beals) ABWE MK to Bangladesh and if that is GRACE she has my vote. I side with her and the victims.

    Each time I get a chance to get on the blog and read some more I am taken back at more and more atrocities. The parents of the 14 year old and their family have always had a special place in my heart – always know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. The burden placed on you was so much. There is so much pain but the Lord is still there for all of us to hold on to. There are so many of us that give our support and Love and will help in any way. Please know that outside of Donn Ketcham and his crimes. WE BD MK’s are the closest any large family could be.

    My thought on Physicals done to MK’s overseas. Uncle (Dr.) Joe and others wrote about an appropriate way for a normal physical to be done with modesty. Why doesn’t the Mission Boards give out a sheet that gives an outline for new and old missionaries on what to expect during a normal physical exam. That way the guess work is out for what is appropriate or not. And then abuse signs and symptoms. ?? I don’t want to go???

    Susie as well as all the other victims we are all here for you …. We are the ones that count at least.

  32. MK from BD says:

    I posted this on the wrong section of the blog, so forgive me if you’ve already read this!

    Thank you everyone for your honesty and for the work that has gone into this blog. I was in BD when “Uncle” Don was there. I was sent to him for “counseling” when it was evident I was troubled and depressed; I had my annual “physical” with him as well; I also worked in the hospital with him. Don was a charismatic person and I was flattered by any attention he might show me. I don’t remember anything bad happening during the “counseling” sessions (I don’t remember anything particularly good either…), but I remember my confusion and extreme uncomfortableness when I had my physical with him, particular a pelvic exam. I had never had a pelvic exam before, so how was I to know that it was not routine for a non-sexual teenager? As a matter of fact, I didn’t even think about how odd that was until I read Joe DeCook’s remarks in this blog and realized this was not “normal.” Nor was it normal to be completely naked during an exam. I just knew that I was ashamed, self-conscious, a little bit afraid and uncomfortable and dreaded when I had an appointment coming up. I just thought it was me – I was too much of a prude. It is a relief, although sorrow, to realize that I was NOT alone and that far worse was done by Don.

    The other little-acknowledged trauma many of us MK girls experienced was the constant harassment, aggression and intimidation from Bengali men. I was groped countless times; whistled at and cat-called, had to pretend I didn’t understand Bengali when they would talk about my breasts or suggested having sex with me; I learned to ignore the sexual gestures; was hit when I pushed someone away from me; once I was knocked down and kicked when I tried to defend myself. It never stopped. I don’t know that anything can be “done” about this on-going low-level of abuse, but it needs to be acknowledged. Girls need to know how to defend themselves, they need to know that THEY are not at fault. I learned to be ashamed of my body for it seemed to bring ridicule. My body became my enemy and it has taken years of counseling to work through these issues. I suppose I wasn’t more traumatized by Don’s inappropriate actions because I had already lived through years of low-level abuse.

  33. Jayne Hewitt says:

    I respect every survivor who has spoken out on this site and I pray that more will. Both the women and the men who have attested to the truth are extremely brave.

    It seems that ABWE was more worried about a scandal getting out than they were about eliminating the problem. Perhaps they did not want to deal with the fallout? I do not know. All I know is that ABWE and its male leaders became the oppressors of those entrusted to their care (entire families suffered).

    The only way to eliminate such immorality from spreading among the ranks, is to address it honestly, no matter what it costs us and no matter how ugly it is. This type of immorality should mean immediate dismissal from the mission field without regard to position. All varieties of this sin flourish quietly in Christian ranks because we are very soft on this type of sin.

    ABWE did not see this as the wake-up call that it was. They had a perfect chance to clean house and make things right – not just in Bangladesh, but across the world. They could have been the light on the hill! They could have set the standard and said “Never again!” Instead they did the lawyerly dance.

    ****This is what happens when men regard their reputations before God’s.****

    So many Christian men seem extremely uncomfortable when dealing with this type of immorality. It may be staring them in the face, but they don’t want to “pull back the veil” and reveal the heart of darkness that lies in every man. Silence and sweeping it under the rug is often standard operating procedure. And the wives and children hang their heads in shame, as if it was their fault. I was extremly repulsed by ABWE’s implication that it could have been his wife’s fault because she might have been “holding out”. So if she hadn’t been taking care of DK, his immorality would have been her fault or at least more excusable? I was appalled that the leaders thought so highly of DK that they thought the 14 year old had delusions of grandeur. This is such twisted thinking. It is from the pit of hell!

    Why is it that so many men excuse men in this area? Is not God bigger than this sin also? Let’s stop fearing and ignoring it and get help.

    Let those men who have kept themselves pure stand in defense of those who deserve their protection! Let them say, “No more excuses!”

    I keep thinking of the nurses whose churches and families sent them to Bangladesh pure and had them returned in shame. With the very first incident, DK should have returned also! What were you thinking ABWE? The world is watching us. Are we setting the standard high?

    ABWE needs a new code of conduct! Be proactive, not reactive. First train entire families to see the signs and define sexual misconduct clearly. Secondly, make it easy to file complaints (who do I call & protect the name of the victim). Thirdly, respond immediately to the report, thoroughly research the complaint, put the accuser and accused on restricted duty where no more harm can be done. Lastly, train the more vulnerable (women and all children, not just girls) in practical ways to deal with/defend themselves against what they will face in countries where the purity of women and children is challenged every day.

    Where there is no vision the people perish!!!!

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